The Thin Treatment

snowgrrl83

I have been nearly overweight, I've been underweight and I've been mostly of normal weight all my life.... but the one thing I notice, is that when I'm at a low weight, nearly underweight, or slightly underweight, that people, strangers, particularly men, treat me differently. They treat me well, when I'm thin...

When I'm thinner, people smile at me, say hello, I make friends much easily, women idealize me and men want to talk to me and help me in any way they can.

Has anyone else experienced this? What are the benefits that thin people get in our society that "regular folks" don't get?

rainbowbow

I'm sorry but I'd have to disagree. Men like women. All women. All kinds of women. Big women, Thin women, Small breasted women, large breasted women, african american women, asian women, caucasian women, WOMEN.

And I will tell you- I have heard this SO many times- the most attractive thing about ANY woman is confidence. A woman who exudes confidence is extremely sexy and desireable.

Perhaps when you are "thinner" you are more confident and have a more extroverted personality? Maybe thats why women are jealous and men find you irresistable.

Women on here who go from mordibly obese to slightly overweight and make great strides in their body's appearance are extremely attractive. Whether they are "thin" or not, they know how hard they've worked to get there and it shows.

Just my thoughts!

AnninStPaul

I'm sorry but I'd have to disagree. Men like women. All women. All kinds of women. Big women, Thin women, Small breasted women, large breasted women, african american women, asian women, caucasian women, WOMEN.

And I will tell you- I have heard this SO many times- the most attractive thing about ANY woman is confidence. A woman who exudes confidence is extremely sexy and desireable.

Perhaps when you are "thinner" you are more confident and have a more extroverted personality? Maybe thats why women are jealous and men find you irresistable.

Women on here who go from mordibly obese to slightly overweight and make great strides in their body's appearance are extremely attractive. Whether they are "thin" or not, they know how hard they've worked to get there and it shows.

Just my thoughts!

^^THIS. You are likely looking happier/smiling more, which will result in people smiling back!

leopard_barbie

I'm sorry but I'd have to disagree. Men like women. All women. All kinds of women. Big women, Thin women, Small breasted women, large breasted women, african american women, asian women, caucasian women, WOMEN.

And I will tell you- I have heard this SO many times- the most attractive thing about ANY woman is confidence. A woman who exudes confidence is extremely sexy and desireable.

Perhaps when you are "thinner" you are more confident and have a more extroverted personality? Maybe thats why women are jealous and men find you irresistable.

Women on here who go from mordibly obese to slightly overweight and make great strides in their body's appearance are extremely attractive. Whether they are "thin" or not, they know how hard they've worked to get there and it shows.

Just my thoughts!

^^THIS. You are likely looking happier/smiling more, which will result in people smiling back!

Also agree with these guys! When I lost weight (down from 170-180) I was a lot more confident in myself and people liked me more because I was more fun! There are women I idealize and think are beautiful who weigh more than I do, I don't care how skinny other people are anywhere near as much as I care about how skinny I am.

snowgrrl83

I don't think that my "confidence" levels played in on this one.
I'd say that I was probably more confident at a higher weight than I was at a lower weight.

So what gives?
Does society really treat thin people differently?

jallen1955

Yep...thin people, pretty people, tall people and young people....all get treated differently than the rest of us.

Guess the worst combination would be to be fat, ugly, short and old.

danapouncey

I agree OP!

The statement 'men like women whatever' is false. I notice how when I was thinner I got a lot better treatment FROM MEN. men were more likely to wait and hold doors open, go out of their way to help me, have a chat with me etc, wolf whistle etc BUT WOMEN were awful. I'd get dirty looks all the time, it would really upset me to be honest.

Now it's neutral. Like Im not even there. I can't decide which I like best.

It's nothing to do with confidence because I didn't even notice I was fat at first.

Brandicaloriecountess

I think people treat me differently now, especially men. I have an example, I used to shop at a small store near my old home and one cashier pretty much ignored me when I was fat, he never said much or smiled. I went a few months ago for the first time in over a year and he was very talkative and flirty.

EmCarroll1990

If we're going to be real here, then yes you're right OP. If we're going to be all PC, then no. Obviously a thinner frame is generally more attractive than one that is overweight. It's simple, and people can choose to deny or accept that, but the reality is that it's true.

snowgrrl83

It drives me crazy how people treat me differently.
I'm the SAME PERSON inside!!!!... but the social benefits of being thin are simply to great (not to mention the health benefits, etc.)

Its funny, because, subconciously, I know that people don't do it on purpose. I find myself acting towards this stereotype as well (not conciously, of course).

FrostyFour

I saw a thread a while back of women complaining about guys honking at them and whistling as they went down the street when she bent over, or just because.

That has NEVER happened to me.

If it does, I'm probably going to be shocked and confused. But flattered.

frosty73

Personally, I tend to be suspicious of people that are "too perfect". I like real people and I don't trust people who look like Barbie dolls all the time. But yes, men in general did treat me better when I was thinner.

Derpina7

I agree OP!

The statement 'men like women whatever' is false. I notice how when I was thinner I got a lot better treatment FROM MEN. men were more likely to wait and hold doors open, go out of their way to help me, have a chat with me etc, wolf whistle etc BUT WOMEN were awful. I'd get dirty looks all the time, it would really upset me to be honest.

Now it's neutral. Like Im not even there. I can't decide which I like best.

It's nothing to do with confidence because I didn't even notice I was fat at first.

I agree with ya, I feel/felt the same way. I was thin and shy and got better treatment from guys *le sigh* haha.

Saaski

I know two people who can vouch for the 'Thin Treatment' and, in my opinion, really proves how completely inappropriate it is. The first, a girl I know, Dora, has several health conditions, and during a treatment was taking medications that were huge appetite suppressants. She was at a good, healthy (and fit--she's a dancer) weight and then dropped a good 20 pounds. She complained to me a lot about hating how sickly thin her arms and legs looked, and the increase of unwanted attention and comments from people. When the treatment ended and she was able to get some healthy weight back, said attention stopped.

Second person, a relative. A very pretty, full-figured girl. Perfect apple shape. Already had admirers because she was happy and confident and a lot of fun to be around, on top of being beautiful. Got...really sick. Dropped sixty pounds in four months. And the people who hadn't seen her during were all over, "you look so good!" At being dangerously ill, unable to eat, and in a wheelchair.

Society treats thin people differently? Without a doubt.

jessilee119

Are women different? I’ve seen guys that weren’t the cutest or in the best shape be treated like they were scum by girls in school. Then if they buff up or “grow into their looks” those same girls were all of the sudden treating them nicer and being flirty.

My husband says it’s a survival instinct. We’re going to be attracted to the person that we feel we will have the best chance to procreate with because life must go on…he might have a point and I believe everyone’s entitled to have a preference with who they’re attracted to-but I don’t like hearing someone being treated like trash either.

EvilPink

I think there is a valid argument for both sides. If you look at a photo in a magazine and there's a pic of a thin girl and an overweight girl or a chubby guy next to a 6 pakc; which are you going to focus on? For the majority of the population, it's going to be the thin girl and the 6 pack guy. In society, when you're out and about walking around - you're nothing but a moving photograph. The prettiest picture is going to get the focus. So, as your photograph gets prettier to the societal eye - it's going to get more focus. Plain and simple. Now, of course, this doesn't take into account anything outside of strictly looks. Once you actually talk to said hot moving photograph - the stupidity may make you turn and run, lol. But there are people out there who are so shallow that they do in fact only want to look at, associate, or be in a relationship with attractive people no matter what other qualities they may have or lack.

But, on the other side; I can completely understand and agree that insecurities play a huge role too. When you're closed off, it easily transmits, whether you realize it or not, and makes you completely unapproachable even if someone finds your photo to be the prettiest. Who wants to associate with a miserable person?

Jugie12

The more weight I lose, the more attention/better treatment I get from men, especially my boyfriend. Oddly enough, the more weight I lose, the more women glare and 'throw daggers'.

Win some, lose some. I just wanna get fit and be ME!:bigsmile:

morgansmom02

I get it. I have noticed it now that I lost weight. I think people want to talk to me because i look happier.

cuatromommy

In my opinion this is a no brainer.

incfighters

I agree. I was bothered that people just seemed soo much nicer when I lost weight. Same people I'd pass by every day, same customers that come in...all of a sudden people want to go out of their way more for me. And I haven't changed my personality whatsoever. It kinda pissed me off because I've been overweight my whole life...and there was such an obvious difference.

leopard_barbie

I saw a thread a while back of women complaining about guys honking at them and whistling as they went down the street when she bent over, or just because.

That has NEVER happened to me.

If it does, I'm probably going to be shocked and confused. But flattered.

When it starts happening after being overweight for a long time it kind of feels like they're making fun of you haha.