Easy for you eat healthy! You don't have kids!

DestroyTheOpposition

So today my friend was asking my advice on eating healthier. She said, "I've only had reduced fat this and no fat these and I'm still hungry! How did you make yourself LIKE healthy food!?" I said, "well, eventually you'll realize that it's worth it to spend your calories on healthy food, rather than processed. I didn't make myself like food-I tried a lot of things from searching online and through my grocery store. Eventually, processed and restaurant foods stopped tasting so good and I became full off of less calories and better for me foods. Now i CRAVE vegetables and fruits"

THEN SHE SAID,

"WELL ITS EASY FOR YOU. YOU DON'T HAVE KIDS. It's not realistic for me to eat like this, I have birthday parties to go to."

That is a cop out. I have kids... 4 as a matter of fact. 3 that are under the age of 3. (and another on the way) I don't eat the best but better than most I have seen.... but as a parent, YOU set the example. You dictate what is eaten. Using her kids is a lazy excuse for not taking better care of herself?! She doesn't really want to take care of herself... if she were ready then there would be no excuses. She would just get it done.

That hurt my feelings because, I want to eventually have kids...and, I feel like she was kinding throwing that in as a cop out!

BUT! I'm open to YOUR opinions-parents or not?!

dlyeates

Total cop out!!! I have kids and I was at a birthday party last Saturday. I even stayed and there was cake.....and it was offered to me. I knew that I didn't want to work out on one of my off days and didn't have the calories for it so I did a totally radical thing.....I SAID NO!!!!

Is it harder sometimes because I want to finish the food off the kid's plates? Yes!!! Do I want to eat some of the mac and cheese they are having? Of course (and sometimes I do and just account for it in my calories.

But at some point everyone, kids or not, needs to acknowledge that this is your journey and no one made you overweight or made you eat like crap or made you overeat.....you did that to yourself!!! And I've had to learn, being a mother, that I need to make myself a priority and get healthy not only for me but as an example for my kid!!!

And even if it's harder, it's not impossible and it's still an excuse!!!

Natihilator

She should be setting an example for her kids. That's why I decided to get healthy...

Just my opinion.

I agree. If anything, she has more of a responsibility, and less of an excuse to have healthy eating habits to pass on to her children.

aftergypsies

I see plenty of people on food blogs that have kids and they eat healthy. Lame excuse is lame lol

388gigi

That's absolute bullsh*t

She should be feeding her KIDS the healthy stuff too.

The reason society is turning obese is because of the processed, sugary, salty foods that are "easy" and "fast".

I think it's pretty fkn easy AND fast to boil some vegies and grill some fish.

Geeeez people like that ANNOY me so much.!! She probably doesn't have time to fit in exercise either....(pffft)

Usually these people are sitting in front of the TV for 4 hours a day eating chips and soft drink (soda).

Sorry, that's harsh, but probably true!

Karenzky

i have 4 kids , imagine every year 4 kids will have their birthday parties, cake, ice cream ,pizza, that's torture i know, but i decided not to give in with that thoughts , because i still want to see my kids celebrate their birthday in the next 20 years and more.

the hardest part is how to start, it really takes a lot of will power not to gave in to the cravings but thinking how would you look, how would you fit in the dress you love is enough to say no to that cravings.

its hard being fat, i don't even look at the mirror anymore, i was trying to apply for a job, they did not even interview me, just by looking at me they already rejected me, and that hurts, so i decided to do something for myself and that is to lose weight

i know its still a long journey for me, but i know i can do it! we can do it!

moxleymama6

I'm sorry...I have 6 kids & yes, it is hard. But not impossible!! I have a " just for me" cabinet in the kitchen with my whey protien, raw revolution bars, etc. Likewise, the kids have their stuff that I don't touch. I workout at home with Jillian, weights, walk/jogging, etc. It can be done! Also, there can always be excuses if you let them inhibit you.

cmeade20

That's absolute bullsh*t

She should be feeding her KIDS the healthy stuff too.

The reason society is turning obese is because of the processed, sugary, salty foods that are "easy" and "fast".

I think it's pretty fkn easy AND fast to boil some vegies and grill some fish.

Geeeez people like that ANNOY me so much.!! She probably doesn't have time to fit in exercise either....(pffft)

Usually these people are sitting in front of the TV for 4 hours a day eating chips and soft drink (soda).

Sorry, that's harsh, but probably true!

LOL you sound like me

enyo123

Mom of 3 here. Your friend is making excuses. If anything, children are MORE of a reason to eat better because you're providing an example. Birthday parties are a cop out. Just because you eat one piece of cake at an event doesn't mean that you have to doom yourself to a life of eating crap.

Just like having children is an excuse for not exercising. If it's important, you make the time.

imchicbad

Yeah blame the kids for your being fat! lol.....you know what I hear when people like her say stupid-rude things like that..I hear "wah-wah-wahwahwah-wahwah-wah-wahahwah" (like the charlie brown teacher) get real. And I have3 kids- 2 eat junk like garbage disposals but are rail thin- because thier young, active all the time. I dont eat thier junk food, lol

MerBear30

Fat Head - go watch it. You will realize we all have a choice on what we shove into our mouths ...
That being said. Kids love fruits and veggies! Don't know what your friend could be talking about. Having kids doesn't mean you need to eat junk. Good habits by parents lead to good habits in children (with a few treats thrown in there of course).

monica4354

Total cop out excuse and a weak one at that.

I have a kid. You go to the birthday parties and you skip the cake or you have one bite from your kid's plate. Don't hang around the food table. Grab a glass of water and make yourself one plate with good choices and don't go back for seconds. Go run around with the kids.

My child doesn't always want to eat the healthiest stuff. I get to control what is brought in to the house. I only buy whole wheat bread, the chicken nuggets we buy are real chicken and baked, we always have fruits and veggies and they're served at every meal, organic when we can. I confess he gets several jelly beans a day because he's potty training and they're his reward for using the potty.

enyo123

Is it harder sometimes because I want to finish the food off the kid's plates? Yes!!! Do I want to eat some of the mac and cheese they are having? Of course (and sometimes I do and just account for it in my calories.

*gags* I have never gotten the finishing food off of my kid's plate. He's two. He backwashes in drinks, will sometimes use hands instead of utensils, etc. Plus, he often indicates that he is done by deciding that it's a good time to share his food with the puppies.

It's just icky to me to eat off of my kid's plate. Of course, I also get irritated if the husband uses my fork. So maybe I'm just weird.

Spanaval

What a load of crap! The kids aren't doing the grocery shopping. Nobody is forcing her to eat birthday party foods, and even if she did attend one daily, she can still eat in moderation and stay within her calorie goals.

korsicash

LOL I cook for my kid separate from me! EXCUSES!

Twilightsunflower

my daughter eats the good food we eat..she might get more snacks that i dont have like fruit gummies but that is about it... be an exapmle to your kids dont hide behind them!!

sthrnchick

I am a single mom...and my kid eats everything I eat right along side me....I think a healthier lifestyle...vs. rice cakes and celery wins every day! I am eating great food...lean protein...good veggies....and whole grains...I think it is a wonderful thing to teach my son in the long run...and having him never complain...its a win win situation!

Jacwhite22

I eat ice cream with my kids. They enjoy it.

twinmom430

I am a mother of 3 year old twins....I used it as an excuse not to eat healthy too....I said i didn't have the time to cook, exercise etc. Well in January I had a whole new way of thinking of things, I needed to set an example, how did I expect my kids to eat healthy while I was devouring cheeseburgers and ice cream.
I work 12 hours a day, and still find time to make a healthy dinner and walk 2 miles at night. I always said I didn't have the time, but if you plan properly you can. Birthday parties etc aren't a problem for me, on special days/holidays i'll splurge as long as it's within my calories goals for the day. Everything is about pre-planning for me now. And almost 5 months later I've lost 42 lbs...and can proudly say I am setting a good example for my daughters.

Laurakbg

My spidey-senses detect a typical excuse here. Don't worry about it.

^^^ agreed!! and I have 3 kids.

BaconMD

She should be setting an example for her kids. That's why I decided to get healthy...

Just my opinion.

Yeah, I used to work with a woman who's kids loved snacking on veggies and for whom a soda was a once a week treat. I wish I had grown up that way so that I knew what healthy eating was. Now that I've learned, I will teach my kids by example what a healthy lifestyle is and how awesome it feels.

I grew up in a house where we had one night a week for pop and chips or candy or whatever, and it did me no good. As soon as I got a job, I stopped eating with the family my last year at home, and lived on crap food - mostly pizza pockets, jos Louis, ah caramel, flakies, chips, licorice, hot rods, and chocolate bars... Ten years later, my weight is off the scale at 331+ pounds, and I can hardly breathe walking a flight of 13 steps in my house... Now I am trying to undo that damage.

antijen

I'm a mom of 4 kids, which is one of the reasons I choose to eat healthily.

Last Saturday we had 2 back to back birthday parties to go to. I had a small piece of cake at the first and said "no thanks" at the second. They know what my goals are and didn't bat an eyelash. No offense taken by any (that I'm aware of).

It is just that hard.

unsound

Sounds like your friend is a little overwhelmed thinking about the changes she'd have to make -- not just eating THIS food instead of THAT one but actually changing her habits and attitudes. It's tough, and kids make it tougher (I have two). But still, if she eventually comes around to trying it a little, she'll probably find it's not as bad as she thinks.

ishallnotwant

I have 5 kids. They've always eaten all the same stuff as me. They love fruits and veggies, and I make homecooked meals for them. Soda is only for special occasions and we rarely have candy/goodies in the house-when we do it is usually made from scratch-homemade granola bars, homemade muffins, stuff like that. Tonight I made each family member a jumbo dark chocolate cupcake with homemade dark chocolate frosting to celebrate our wedding anniversary, it was all from scratch and it is a special occasion so i'm ok with that (and by making us each a cupcake I didn't have to worry about tons of leftover cake)-but you won't find boxes of cake mix, cookies, goodies, etc. in my pantry.

My kids were raised exercising with me, getting active and learning about being healthy. I really don't think it was a challenge at all, it is part of my responsibility as a parent to help them learn how to care for their bodies correctly and it has been really enjoyable-kids love that kind of stuff! It's an investment in their future. I may be a bit different than many others on here though in that my version of healthy foods also involves full fat things, butter, real mayo, natural peanut butter etc.-sometimes I even fry our brekkie eggs and potatoes in bacon grease after I fry up our bacon (*gasp*) You seriously won't find a jar of fake, low-cal pb or turkey bacon or anything like that in our house. At least once every two weeks we have homemade mashed potatoes with meat and a rich gravy, veggie, and a salad. I'm all for good ole' down home country cooking. We just balance it all out with a lot of grilled and baked foods and stuff like that. I like to know what is in my food. I like to make as much of it as I can homemade, and I like to grow as many of our veggies as possible.

I am terribly sorry for the cutting remark your friend made to you about not having children. Just think though, with all of the healthy stuff you are learning, when you do have children you'll be a great role model for them!

Cliffslosinit

I'm a single Dad raising 2 kids.
I also have the oldest with his GF and the Grandbaby.
I'm doing just fine.
It's all about portion control.
We all eat everything, fruits, veggies, etc.



P.S.
I do the shopping and cooking.

SPNLuver83

I have kids and I eat healthy. How do I do it? I make them eat healthy too *gasp!* I know, crazy but it works, and they don't mind!!

O, at at parties I either say "no thanks" or I eat a little of it. It's not rocket science lol.

usernamejoe

Ah yes, birthday parties every day of the year. Knowing/having 365 kids must be tough :P . I wouldn't worry about it

Echo this above

LindaLouLu

I have four kids, so that really isn't a good excuse. I make dinner and they have the option of eating it or going to bed hungry. But you better believe that I am not going to eat something separate from my kids. That is silly. We do birthdays too... Even if you have a slice of cake you aren't going to gain weight, it is when you eat all of the cake, pizza and chips, ect.

^^This.

I've got 3 myself and a husband. 85% of our meals are home made, not exactly always super healthy, but if I have the chance to do it, I shred or finely chop veggies to add to the meal (I have picky eaters). They have the option to eat what I fix or just simply not eat. It's as simple as that. My youngest is nearly a vegan. If he has the choice to skip the meat and eat the fruits and veggies and nuts, he opts for the healthy stuff. I got him cake for his birthday this year and he ate half a slice and then demanded carrots and broccoli instead. The others took a couple bites of the cake, declared it TOO sweet and asked if they could please have some blueberry muffins instead. We gave the cake to our neighbors who like to pig out on junk food. They said it was gone before morning.
I think your friend is full of it and herself. If the kids have healthy options, they will CHOOSE healthy options. I don't know her. I don't know her children. But I DO know it's really that simple & it seems that she would rather blame you for your success than try to have her own.
Don't sweat if your future children will eat healthy or if you will never be able to attend a birthday party (I fill up on healthy stuff prior to attending & have a very conservative piece of cake or a small scoop of ice cream). So long as you plan and it fits in your calories or even if it mildly pushes you over, it's no big deal.
Sounds like your friend needs a bit of a reality check and to grow up.
Just my opinion.

bradphil87

You can think of a million reasons not to do something. But you can never come up with one reason you CAN'T do something.

hbunting86

*SIGH*

That stock phrase used as a get out clause really REALLY irritates me.

So you have kids - doesn't that mean you have MORE of a motivation?! Do you want your child to be part of generation X?!

Also, since when did kids parties become the adults free-cake-for-all buffet? Ummm no. A party is a party, ergo: a treat rather than excuse to stuff ones face full of junk.

I had an argument with someone recently about their horror that there 'aren't enough' parent and toddler spaces in the supermarket car park. I pointed out there aren't enough disabled bays and got bashed for it. Urgh I get sick of other people making their children either an excuse or someone elses problem.

(rant over sorry!)