When should I be proud of my weight loss?

angelmeanttofly

Today was a good day and a not so good day all in one. I went shopping and to my surprise I have dropped a size. YAY lol so I came home and had to call my friends to tell them how proud of myself I was. Well then I went out to my brothers and all that pride was swept away with one comment my cousin made. I took my hoody off to show my sister in law my new tank top and he said put that back on I can't look at that! And him, my bother and his friend laughed. I felt so little and embarrassed and I feel like I now have nothing to be proud of. Will I always feel this way? Do I have to wait till I am as skinny a the other girls in my family before they stop calling me down?

majordlite

It sounds as if your cousin is an immature jerk. You should be proud of ANY progress you've made and the hard work that you've put into getting there. I'm sorry you were made to feel bad, and I hope you know you can come here any time to get positive reinforcement and support. ((hugs))

runnercheryl

A question for you: Why are you letting other people dictate when you can be proud?

eig6

You should be proud of losing a size, no matter what your cousin said. Losing weight is hard and every inch, every ounce even counts. Be proud of yourself and forget the rest.

Mommy2Avaj

Honey, I'm proud as hell over the 8 lbs I've lost. I don't care if anyone else is. I'm working to improve my health and self esteem, so it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I celebrate every ounce that comes off!

EndlessSacrifice

You should be proud of absolutely any progress you make. An inch, a pound, a dropped size. Anything. Don't ever let someone take that happiness away from you.

notnormallyacaloriecounter

i have family like that, and they don't say it to be hurtful, they just say things like that because it's their sense of humor. i went down 2 pant sizes and i'm ECSTATIC. my brother still makes fat jokes (even though i am sexy as hell) because that's always been our family dynamic i guess. be proud when you feel proud, and let other people know how awesome you are, and they can either cheer you on, or sit in the stands with a big gulp and a giant tub of nachos and watch you go. (which sounds kind of amazing right now, the nachos that is.)

gainingalife

your cousin sounds like an *kitten*, you should be incredibly proud of the progress you've made and the motivation which you obviously possess to have even started on your weight loss journey. congratulations!

abhiforlife

Every day.

rahmyers

I'm proud of you! and I don't even know you!

bmgnedra

One time when I was younger and had lost some weight, about 15 lbs, I was glad for it, but really I had so much to lose it seemed like barely a dent. My aunt told me to go to the grocery store and look at 15 lbs of hamburger. And we know fat has more volume so maybe that would even be better to look at... but anyway... 18 lbs is a lot. 1 lb is a lot. Until this go around it had been years since I had gotten on a scale and seen the numbers go down. You should totally be proud of yourself. Right now. And avoid people who don't support you or who want to tear you down.

Best of luck and blessings on your journey to better health!

TurnLeftNow

You can be proud now! Right now. You are making a change and you are continuing on a healthier lifestyle. You are being healthy and you are making excellent progress. That is something to be proud of!

Javibi

Weight loss or no weight loss always be proud of who you are god made you ! sorround your self with possitive people and possitive things will begin to happen

Emilit_uk

You have CHOSEN to start this journey to lose weight and become healthier, and that alone is something to be proud of. Celebrate every step of the way. There are people in life that will try to bring you down, it's just in their nature, the trick is to not care about what they think.

Remember this, every time someone makes a mean comment, that they are doing so because they are most likely unhappy with their own lives. Happy people spread happiness and positivity, bitter, ignorant people make cruel comments and try to bring others down.

So next time someone says something mean, just think to yourself, 'I don't care what you think of me, because I aspire to be happy, not bitter and cruel'

Congratulation on your acheivements so far, your doing amazing, keep it up!

Raeca89

Everyone is SO right! YOU should be the ultimate voice when it comes to your weight loss journey. I know that it can be hard when people around you are not supportive. You have lost a great amount of weight and more importantly than that, your head is in the right place. You're in it for the health. You have lost nearly down over 7% from where you were before! Look in the mirror. YOU should see your progress and notice subtle differences. If you, as the person who sees yourself everyday is noticing a difference, you can just bet that others are seeing that change too, even if they don't tell you that they see it.
If I were in your shoes, I would really pull some of those commentators aside and express to them how important it is to you that if they can't be happy for you, at least don't criticize you because it hurts. They should respect you enough to be more aware of what they say in the future. Also, if you're looking for that social support, trying distancing yourself from people who don't get what you're going through and get closer to those who DO understand, either because they're going through it now or have gone through it in the past.
All in all, you have made AMAZING progress and every pound you lose is a clear visual reinforcement of how hard you've worked. 18 pounds is GREAT and keep it up!

angelmeanttofly

Thank you all for the support and kind words. I guess I do just need to grow a back bone and learn to laugh things off. I should remember how I felt this morning and start caring what I think of myself and not what other people think. I'm not going to let the haha they had be an excuse to go back to old behavior, it took a lot of self control and motivation from mfp friends to get just this far and I am going to keep going for me. Hope you all have a great day.

TheVimFuego

I agree, be proud now.

Be proud that you want to change yourself and that you are committed to doing it.

Be proud that you are not an insensitive jerk.

Finally22

Your cousin sounds like a stupid insensitive jerk - imagine his face next time at the gym and work even harder!!!!

CeeRawr89

Today was a good day and a not so good day all in one. I went shopping and to my surprise I have dropped a size. YAY lol so I came home and had to call my friends to tell them how proud of myself I was. Well then I went out to my brothers and all that pride was swept away with one comment my cousin made. I took my hoody off to show my sister in law my new tank top and he said put that back on I can't look at that! And him, my bother and his friend laughed. I felt so little and embarrassed and I feel like I now have nothing to be proud of. Will I always feel this way? Do I have to wait till I am as skinny a the other girls in my family before they stop calling me down?

I would have retorted something along the lines of "Well, at least I can lose weight, unlike you who cannot lose your sour attitude"

Why are people such jerks?

Good job on getting down a size!

sazzyp1973

You should be proud at your first pound! It is the start of a journey. Ignore other people and be happy for you that not only that you have lost but that you have taken the steps to change your lifestyle. Good for you, you are doing brilliantly so far and congrats on the lower dress size!

hailzp

Be proud of every single .1lb. **** them.

sasssurf

i have family like that, and they don't say it to be hurtful, they just say things like that because it's their sense of humor. i went down 2 pant sizes and i'm ECSTATIC. my brother still makes fat jokes (even though i am sexy as hell) because that's always been our family dynamic i guess. be proud when you feel proud, and let other people know how awesome you are, and they can either cheer you on, or sit in the stands with a big gulp and a giant tub of nachos and watch you go. (which sounds kind of amazing right now, the nachos that is.)

__________________________

I agree with above. Changing ones shape is outside and equal or more work o. The onside me thinks. I am unwell at moment with flashbacks of child abuse endured. My inside in fairly broken, trying to lose the weight I've been gaining being sedentary. Being proud and acknowledging your own fantasticness is hard. Family is hard. Asking, hoping for acknowledgement and kindness may not work as you are changing and they may not. I wondering if saying something equal to what they say to you may shut up that kind of unnecessary comment. Take care. I too am super sensitive. I'm proud of you.

Christi_Kitty

NO! NONO! I would smack that jerk! You're beautiful, and any guy who would say that to someone is a selfish *kitten*, obviously he needs to feed his idiotic ego, and it has nothing to do with you! Every pound you lose is wonderful, and you know you're doing well, so who cares what some moron thinks. Some people are conniving, no matter how skinny or pretty you may have been, he would have most likely said it either way. You dropped a dress size hun, and that is something to be soooooo amazingly proud of! Keep sticking with it!

GemmaRowlands

You should be proud the second you choose to change your life, and do something about it. Even before the scales have moved, the decision you've made to better yourself is not an easy one, and not one that people should be taking lightly at all.

I am very proud of myself, and don't mind saying that I literally shove it down the throats of my friends now. But I think they're all proud of me too so it isn't too bad!

LynC33

Hun, every pound or couple of hundred grms you lose, is a loss that is taking you closer to your goal weight. Be proud of this journey and dont take immature comments to heart, they are being totally stupid and possibly jealous.

PShep17

What an idiot! Always be proud of your loss keep it up

AstyPasty

You've lost 18 pounds!!

Wow, that's amazing, be proud, very proud NOW!

In fact you should be proud for every single pound you lose, even the very first one. You are doing brilliantly and you just need to give a self satisfied smile back at your cousin or any other person who says anything derogatory about your weight loss. They are idiots who don't know how to compliment someone on achieving something very difficult!

Lonewolf1507

Congratulation on your 18 lbs and as others have said you are the one to decide when to be proud.

One question though is your Jack*** cousin of athletic build or the type who drinks with his mates and growing larger?

If the later when you reach your goal you can put the boot on your foot and kick his self esteem in the butt (note I said the Butt) :-)

Andy

george29223

thats just guy talk family talk . family does that all the time they mean nothing about it

kateguy1981

thats horrible usually the people who put you down are the ones that are insecure about themselves don't let other people influence you usually they have their own agenda. Obviously he wanted to crack a "funny" to your brother and friend and forgot that the but of his joke may have feelings. Be proud of yourself xx

speediejane

any weight loss you should be proud of