Why so much hate....

catshark209
catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
edited December 20 in Chit-Chat
towards women that are thinner? Or women that don't want to be a size 14?
I mean, seriously, what is the whole issue with this? I am truly curious. There is thread after thread bashing smaller women, calling us "anorexic", "sticks", etc.

We're all here to better our health and lives, and to see such horrid threads is really sickening and hurtful.
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  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    What all the hate towards haters?
    :tongue:
  • AlyRoseNYC
    AlyRoseNYC Posts: 1,075 Member
    IDK but I hate being a size 12 and can't wait to get back into my size 1's. *shrugs*

    For reference, I am 4'11"
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    What anyone else thinks I should be happy with is irrelevant. I've been a size 14. Being a size 2/4 is better. That is from MY personal experience. Anyone who hates me for that can bite it.
  • 1985Andy
    1985Andy Posts: 161 Member
    I must be avoiding those types of topics as I've not seen any. I have however, seen several topics of people complaining about the those topics.

    Ooooh errr... :/
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    I'm not complaining. I'm simply asking a question as to why. I'd like to know their motivation and reasons.
  • Brandicaloriecountess
    Brandicaloriecountess Posts: 2,126 Member
    I must be avoiding those types of topics as I've not seen any. I have however, seen several topics of people complaining about the those topics.

    Ooooh errr... :/

    Pretty much.
  • Psychoanalytic
    Psychoanalytic Posts: 261
    I'm not complaining. I'm simply asking a question as to why. I'd like to know their motivation and reasons.

    Simply put, because people are going to complain about anything and everything, given the opportunity...no matter what the subject is.

    Edit: And by complain, I mean complain, harass, bash, call out, etc.
  • Sharyn913
    Sharyn913 Posts: 777 Member
    There will always be a woman who comes along who is sexier, smarter, funnier, etc. Most women are insecure (I'm not saying "all" so put your claws away) and when someone comes along with an attribute we may lack in or feel we don't measure up with, putting the other woman down and pointing out some kind of flaw may help us feel better about ourselves. Women always feel the need to compete with one another. I'm just generalizing, not speaking for all. Just my $.02.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I posted something similar earlier today. I think people who are not truly secure in their own skin will bash others in an attempt to make themselves feel better. just my opinion....
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    People like to hate things that make them feel self-conscious or insecure.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    People like to hate things that make them feel self-conscious or insecure.


    ding ding ding!
  • Jacole18
    Jacole18 Posts: 716 Member
    I don't know why people bash or insult anyone of any size! I think we are all beautiful in our own way...big or small! :)
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    I don't get it either. Being somebody who wants to be a size 10 or 8 (tentative goal), I have never told somebody that their goal size was "too small." People look good at different weights. I have a friend who is naturally 84 lbs, and she looks great. I'm built differently from her (I have wider hips, broader shoulders and about 4 inches taller than her), so I already know I wouldn't look good at that weight. Nor would she look good at my goal weight.

    ETA: OP, I think you look damn fine!
  • Meg_78
    Meg_78 Posts: 998 Member
    People like to hate things that make them feel self-conscious or insecure.

    ^^^^Yes this, I agree..

    Not ALL PEOPLE, but many sadly.
  • Maude_Lewbowski
    Maude_Lewbowski Posts: 395 Member
    I posted something similar earlier today. I think people who are not truly secure in their own skin will bash others in an attempt to make themselves feel better. just my opinion....

    Yup!
  • _Refried_
    _Refried_ Posts: 194
    I must be avoiding those types of topics as I've not seen any. I have however, seen several topics of people complaining about the those topics.

    Ooooh errr... :/
    Agreed!
  • amysj303
    amysj303 Posts: 5,086 Member
    I hadn't noticed any hate...
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    It ain't just against the ladies.

    A really sad thing some of you are going to find out. MFP is an amazing site for support and encouragement as you struggle to reach your goals. Once you hit those goals however there's a target on your head and no shortage of people who want to tear you down. It comes from a small and petty group of people who feel no shame in making themselves feel better about where they're at by attacking those who have worked hard to achieve what they're after.
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    Not everyone wants to be the same size (or shape), but the general message is that only one size (or shape, or look) is acceptable.
  • va_va_voom
    va_va_voom Posts: 467 Member
    I'm nowhere near the size I want to be right now, but I don't hate on anyone who is in better shape than I am. They did the hard work to get/stay there. Me? I'm a work in progress. :)

    I think a lot of women who put down other women do it out of a place of insecurity or jealousy. Years ago, I worked in a daycare and one of the moms who had a kid there was a Hooter's waitress. She was petite and in great shape and totally rocked the uniform. The looks and stuff that some of my co-workers would say about her when she would come in was ridiculous. She was a really nice woman and she was working her butt off as a single mom to support her kid. I couldn't really find anything NOT to admire about her, actually.
  • Mercenary1914
    Mercenary1914 Posts: 1,087 Member
    haters.gif
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    People like to hate things that make them feel self-conscious or insecure.

    I feel insecure next to bigger women sometimes, because they don't get called "sir" like I do!! I feel even more boyish next to them. But I don't hate them for that. Nor would I ever bash them.
  • BriskisGrl
    BriskisGrl Posts: 461
    here we go again :laugh: :laugh:
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    I'm a size 10-14. Depends on the pants. I strive to be in single digit pants. And to pull off a bikini with grace. But, I've had 2 kids & obesity runs in the family. I'm trying to stop that Marathon. I do not want to be this size, most guys are like OMG YOUR SEXY I LOVE YOUR CURVES, but guess what, I like my curves too, but not when I want to be healthy. Or I get that dumb chub rub ( See 1200 Calories!? for "Chub Rub" description)
    I don't like my love handles, or my baby belly shelf. Meh...
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    I posted something similar earlier today. I think people who are not truly secure in their own skin will bash others in an attempt to make themselves feel better. just my opinion....


    Exactly! It's like bullying.
  • zaithyr
    zaithyr Posts: 482 Member
    No hatin here! I don't like being criticized for being big, I definitely wouldn't criticize someone else for being small. Kind of hypocritical when people do that!
  • brandiemhgc
    brandiemhgc Posts: 20
    Who cares what others think or post. If you don't like it, don't read it. Not everyone we encounter will be happy and no matter where you go, there will always be complainers. Sometimes people need to vent. I have had bad experiences with eating in front of someone thin. I have actually heard, well, like she needs to eat that. What they don't know is I suffer from a multitude of chronic illnesses. I was on some medications that put weight on me by the day. No joke. And I know that thin people have the same problem, like "she should eat more". It goes both ways. If you healthy and, If you are happy with what size you are that is all that matters. For those of us who aren't, we are here for a common goal. To change that. We need to love the skin we are in. AND stop judging others. Smile and be healthy.
  • ChristiH4000
    ChristiH4000 Posts: 531 Member
    I don't hate anyone for being a size 2, but it hurts when you tell me that I'm "gross" at a size 12. We're all just different, different heights, weights, sizes, shapes, and preferences but we're all beautiful and worthy of the love from people who accept us as we are because even at a size 6 model of perfection, we have flaws...maybe just not visible ones.
  • _HeathBar_
    _HeathBar_ Posts: 902 Member
    It ain't just against the ladies.

    A really sad thing some of you are going to find out. MFP is an amazing site for support and encouragement as you struggle to reach your goals. Once you hit those goals however there's a target on your head and no shortage of people who want to tear you down. It comes from a small and petty group of people who feel no shame in making themselves feel better about where they're at by attacking those who have worked hard to achieve what they're after.

    :flowerforyou:
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    People like to hate things that make them feel self-conscious or insecure.

    I feel insecure next to bigger women sometimes, because they don't get called "sir" like I do!! I feel even more boyish next to them. But I don't hate them for that. Nor would I ever bash them.
    Not all people, obviously. It's very childish, petty and spiteful.
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