Dating someone different... did it change your type?

NCTravellingGirl

I thought I had a type but as I've aged have learned that it's really about chemistry. There have been so many times I thought I'd like someone based on a type only to realize it just wasn't a good fit, whether due to timing or situation, who knows? I prefer to just see what it feels like for each individual and not make decisions on the front end. With that philosophy, I've dated guys with HS diplomas to Masters Degrees, guys from 5'7" up to 6'4", chest hair or not (haha), etc... that perhaps didn't fit my original ideal but brought something special that opened my eyes.

My ONLY absolute deal breaker is if he's a scUM fan...(That's University of Michigan for those not into college/ sports)... that I can't tolerate and can't imagine I'd change that type, haha.... couldn't have a house divided... GO BUCKEYES!!

NYChick84

Hey....I just got out of an extremely HORRIBLE relationship with my BF who is from Alabama......I'm a NYC girl......Born and raised the Italian-American way.

My ex loves nascar, hunting, fishing, mud riding, 4x4's, dirt roads, moon shine, whiskey.....

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE .....I'm only saying this because I care, watch to see if he drinks...and HOW MUCH he drinks. My ex is clearly an alcoholic yet won't admit it. His friends and family even says he's an alcoholic. He was also a drug addict.....I never knew til I did a background check on him. Also, see if he has somewhat of an edcuation. My ex dropped out of HS.....you see where I'm getting with this??

I LOVE country boys too and want to so desperately move back down South...because that's where my heart is. I don't like living in NYC, but I have no business being down south because all of my family lives up here.

Please take my mistakes and learn from them. I'm not saying that ALL country boys are like this. But it's almost the norm down there (also depending on the location and type of crowds you hang out with) You can even read my wall page....I was desperately 100% in love with this man only to find out he was a monster. He changed me and my ways of thinking....so don't change or lose yourself for anyone.....be who you are...keep that close to you.....

Thanks for generalizing every "country boy" into alcoholism. Wow...just WOW

Notice...I didn't say ALL country men are alcoholics.....I said it's more of the norm for guys to drink their beers, whiskey and moon shine...or maybe it was just to the people I was exposed to....I'm a NY'er....I make my own observations with what is presented in front of me. I wasn't born and raised in the south....you can't hold that against me. Granted, I met some really wonderful people too....people that have their lives in order. I guess I was just tainted by one really bad apple.

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r1ghtpath

You have been introduced to a new type of man .. one you like .. I say more possibilities!! lol

I know after my exhusband who I DON'T WANT TO DATE .. lol. What qualities I will never have in a man again.

THIS!!! after my ex i know exactly what i DO NOT want in a guy!

that said, i am very much so attracted to country boys. always have been! LOVE men in uniform, and guys that loves the outdoors!!!

i think it's great that you are enjoying his differences :-)

NYChick84

My apologies if I offended anyone...It wasn't my intentions....I made an observation from what was presented to me. I didn't say ALL men from the south (or from any other part of the country) was bad...it's who he surrounded me with that became the norm...hindsight is 20/20......it was HIS life...not the life of ALL people.

So, my apologies go out to everyone if you feel offended by my post.

r1ghtpath

See, I'm sort of a country boy turned city boy, now that I gots me a real job. These days I'd just rather pay somebody else to change my oil, and I just assume stay in a hotel with a hot tub and a fireplace than go camping most of the time.

But I feel it's less about the type and more about the person. I never understood the whole "type" thing. If someone only goes for one type of person I feel bad for them because that's a little closed minded.

i have no problems with the hotel and hot tub, but not all the time. and i would prefer a guy that likes camping over the 5 star hotel. the reason being, because i want to have FUN while i'm camping!!! it's easy to have fun at a resort or spa or nice hotel. it's easy being waited on! it's not so easy living outside, building fires and cooking over them. you get sleep deprived and dirty.

when i was 18 i decided that if i could live in a tent, in the woods with a guy for a week or more then my bet was i could weather any marital storm. my ex and i didn't spend a week in a tent. we spent a week on a cruise ship........ in my young mind i assumed that since we survived a week on a Royal Caribbean ship we would be FINE dealing with the ups and downs of marriage..........

tent, cruise ship, totally NOT the same. i'm back to my "being able to live in a tent, in the woods, for a week" LOL!!!!!

r1ghtpath

My apologies if I offended anyone...It wasn't my intentions....I made an observation from what was presented to me. I didn't say ALL men from the south (or from any other part of the country) was bad...it's who he surrounded me with that became the norm...hindsight is 20/20......it was HIS life...not the life of ALL people.

So, my apologies go out to everyone if you feel offended by my post.

my favorite country boys, are from WI and IL. ;-)

MzRawkqueen

I've dated rich boys and poorer ones.
Guys who were 300lbs and those who even weighed less than me.
Preps and stoners; rockers and rollers.
Even a couple dads.

All the guys I have been interested in, weren't intersted in me and vice versa. Finding that special chemistry is really tough. (It eludes me, actually.)

Looking by 'type' will limit your chance to encounter that fabulous chemistry.

For instance, I never thought I'd date a red head - not generally attracted to them, but was engaged to him for a bit. We broke up eventually, but it sure as hell wasn't because of the colour of his hair!

PittShkr

I'll date anyone as long as he knows what to do ...If you know what I mean???

odusgolp

I'll date anyone as long as he knows what to do ...If you know what I mean???

You're talking about sex and wieners, aren't you.

pa_jorg

The moment you stop classifying men and define the characteristics of what you want, only then will you meet the individual. At that point, dont be afraid to jump

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