Disturbing Relationship Revelation...

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  • ScarredVampiress
    ScarredVampiress Posts: 76
    And oh ur not big at all!!!! And guys don't really like stick girls if u know wat I mean. 130 that's like a perfect weight right there

    I'm just losing/toning until this stomach is gone. It's hideous and I just cannot get rid of it! So frustrating.
  • ScarredVampiress
    ScarredVampiress Posts: 76
    And I mean, I'm not TERRIBLY big. I do think my waist is rather huge, since I'm 5'8"(172) and 130lbs(59kg).

    Wait, you're 5'8" and you think having a 27 inch waist is huge for a woman your height? Hmmm, k.

    It's not actually huge, it just seems big than a lot of people's. Especially since I am small-framed, it looks bigger than it should. I just wish to be a couple in. smaller in that area. Everyone wants improvement and is the hardest on themselves. :(

    Yeah very true, that we can be harder on ourselves than others. I wish you well on reaching your goals. I tend to like slim guys, so if a guy is smaller than me (as long as he's taller than me) then it's a turn on for me, but I understand other women prefer to be slimmer than their mates.

    I don't think it's so bad, as long as I look good..but right now I don't. And I'm afraid of...crushing them.
  • AlexanderK1994
    AlexanderK1994 Posts: 243 Member
    I'm about 10kg (22lbs) heavier than my gf :/ I'm hoping to become at least her weight...

    (you're also female right? not some guy pretending to be? XD) Yeah, I think that's really hard as well. It's like a never-ending battle, since every girl wants to be smaller than their significant other! So, they may lose weight when you do. XP It's super tricky that way. Well, more of a measurements war than anything else, I think.

    Heh, yeah, sure, I'm female :) Well, let's just stay strong here!
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    I think health should be more important than this intense focus on looks. All I'm reading is how you and your bf "look".... maybe I missed something?
  • astuderus
    astuderus Posts: 31 Member

    MY BOYFRIEND HAS THE SAME WAIST SAME AS ME!!! How depressing...it's really demotivating.. :(


    Dont let it get you down. I am engaged to someone who is smaller than me. And thats not what matters. What matters is that they love you for you regardless of who is bigger/smaller.
  • fitbum19
    fitbum19 Posts: 198 Member
    he sounds like a freak of nature to me! don't feel bad. Hubby and I are both very fit people and his waist is only 1 inch bigger than mine
  • zaithyr
    zaithyr Posts: 482 Member
    My brother in law is tall and skinny like that. He eats plenty- just the way he's built though. Some guys are just naturally like that!
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
    MY BOYFRIEND HAS THE SAME WAIST SAME AS ME!!! How depressing...it's really demotivating.. :(
    Try having the same cup size as your wife. :cry:
  • ScarredVampiress
    ScarredVampiress Posts: 76
    Lauren- He's underweight and isn't eating enough. It's like being anorexic without knowing, and he's been losing weight. I mentioned in the in-between pages. So, i'm working on getting him to eat healthy and gain at the same time, of course, which can be a challenge. It's just surprising how small he's gotten. >O

    Gasmaster- I can't lie, but that made me a giggle a little bit. It'll be gone after you lose weight. :) Then you can get enormous MAN PECS! :O

    I'll just try feeding him bunches of carbs and lots of food high in calories. I feel like I care more about his health than he does..oh wait, yeah, I do!
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    In all seriousness, have you asked him to see a doctor? If he's that underweight and has no appetite, he may be sick. It's worth checking out. My ex husband was a bean pole and ate like a polar bear.....and even now in his 40's he's still stick thin. Just his metabolism, we should all be so lucky, lol.
  • zeala
    zeala Posts: 119 Member
    You're comparing apples to oranges. Yes I have gone through that and then I realized that he's a guy. he doesn't have thighs and boobs like a woman does. We're just built completely differently.
    It's also much harder to gain a pound of muscle than lose a pound of fat.
    I have also known some guys who are just genetically skinny. Really, you'll just psyche yourself out. It's a pointless comparison.
  • ScarredVampiress
    ScarredVampiress Posts: 76
    In all seriousness, have you asked him to see a doctor? If he's that underweight and has no appetite, he may be sick. It's worth checking out. My ex husband was a bean pole and ate like a polar bear.....and even now in his 40's he's still stick thin. Just his metabolism, we should all be so lucky, lol.

    I'm not sure if it's no appetitite, or he's so busy that he doesn't know when he's hungry. I'll see how it goes next week, since he's working on two projects right now and he said he'd finish one of them by monday to free up some of his time.
  • Misiaxcore
    Misiaxcore Posts: 659 Member
    I have the exact same problem with my boyfriend lol. Sometimes it hurts, but he's pretty motivational.
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    been there before. but i was more like 160 at 5'6 and he was like 130 at 6'3. ate constantly tho.

    I'll tell ya the sex was weirdooo

    now dating a 230-40 lb muscle man.

    also the waist dosnt surprise me at all, woman are shaped differently to have babies. or something like that.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Ummm, you're really tiny!!!! I am 5'7 and 178 lbs (My goal is 160 lbs). My husband is 6 feet and 210 lbs :) Women are shaped differently cause they have the stuff to have babies which men don't :)
  • ashlinmarie
    ashlinmarie Posts: 1,263 Member
    My husband is smaller than me and is now at basic military training so even if I lose my realistic 15lbs, he will still be WAY smaller.

    But I know your pain in the sense that my brother was 130lbs sopping wet and had to wear 28x34 jeans and they still fell off his waist. He gained some weight after joining the military but his new belly makes him look more emaciated than anything.
  • TheLakeBeast
    TheLakeBeast Posts: 77
    6'2 285..... Trying to gain muscle and cut fat but still weigh at least 280

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