How tacky is this? Vow Renewal / Giant Party

tessgolden

I think it is a great Idea. Go for it and have a wonderful party for friends and family.

ReinasWrath

NOT TACKY!! Sounds like a nice idea!! Do it and enjoy it :flowerforyou:

Kirabelly

Not tacky at all. I think it's fabulous and you go ahead and do it up however you want, girl! You deserve to celebrate your marriage with friends and family, even five years later. God bless.

Stutz77

I don't think it's tacky at all. In fact me and my hubby are going to be doing something similar. We were planing on getting married in October of 2003 when he found out that he was getting deployed. So we got married a year earlier in October 2002 and did the same thing as you and our hubby. Then I found I was getting deployed and the next thing we new almost 10 years have gone by. We are looking at doing a small renewal at a beach and then having a party with our family and closest friends. Same as you not asking for anything, just to finaly share with everyone. Plus I feel you had a very valid point and your life was going through so much at that time. Who gives a crap what others think! Party on!!!

WestCoastRed

There's nothing tacky about what you're doing. People who have suggested it would be tacky - don't have to come. It's beautiful when people share their love with family and friends and celebrate the longevity of a relationship. Good on you!

FlaxMilk

I think it's a beautiful idea, one that celebrates you, gives you what other people get when they are getting married, and hopefully symbolizes your daughter's improved health (I didn't read the whole thread.)

I also think what would be tacky is people NOT giving you gifts. Do whatever makes you happy, including sending out engraved wedding invitations and bridal party if you'd like those things.

Altarian

I say those who say this is tacky need to be kicked in the face with a steel toed stiletto heel. If i would have had my way with my second marriage, after all the bs that was my first marriage, it would have been this way. But because it was her first marriage we did it her way so that it made her happy.

sawebber

That's not tacky at all. Whoever said that is a straight b word or just plain jealous! Have the wedding you never had the time for.It's never tacky to renew your vows or show the world how much you love one another. People will probably bring gifts anyway,hehe.

SPNLuver83

I don't see how that is tacky. A lot of people do that. Hell we were planning on doing the same for our 5 year next year.

engodwin

DO IT! Doesn't sound tacky or cheap or stupid or any other negative thing people might say - People are mean - do what your heart desires. Me, personally, I love the idea!

Neahpata

My wedding gift to you:

Step 1: Stop giving a *kitten* what people think.
Step 2: Repeat Step 1.

Now go party.

Laura_Suzie

Definitely not tacky at all. Especially since you are not asking for gifts. I think though if you do get gifts from people you should graciously accept instead of arguing.

I actually think it sounds like a great idea. Go for it and have fun! :drinker:

gingerveg

Quick Background :

Hubby and I were supposed to get married in February 2007. Three weeks beffore the wedding, our daughter needed emergency heart surgery. We canceled the wedding with just 2 weeks to go. We didn't want to get married if she was dead, dying, or in the hospital. A few weeks later, we had a quickie no-guests-legal marriage. No one sent gifts or checks. We didn't register anywhere. We told everyone we'd have the reception during the summer.

Almost five years have gone by - for a long time, our daughter was too sick for us to think about throwing a party. People are STILL asking us when we get to have our " wedding ". Now that our anniversary is approaching, we have been thinking about doing a vow renewal / giant party.... basically a night of dinner and dancing.

No wedding dress. No wedding party. No gifts. Just a 10 minute " ceremony " where we exchange public vows, then a fancy, formal dinner & dancing, degenerating into drunken splendor.

Someone told me that it's tacky to have any sort of anniversary party, reception, vow renewal, etc. We aren't doing this as a re-do. We aren't asking for gifts. All we are asking is that our friends / family get to celebrate with us.

Thoughts?

My wedding gift to you:

Step 1: Stop giving a *kitten* what people think.
Step 2: Repeat Step 1.

Now go party.

Lol! Yes^ +1

fitterpam

We did a 10 year anniversary vow renewal in December. I think in your situation it is completely acceptable - we did it, not for the party and not for any other reason than our marriage has had a lot of struggle together - and we wanted to draw a line in the sand and say publicly, we've done the "worst" now lets move on to the best (we've struggled with infertility and were hoping that that portion of our life was behind us....it's not unfortunately).

For you guys - the last 5 years have represented a lot of struggle too. You didn't have an opportunity to allow your friends and families to properly celebrate your marriage and I think it's really nice that you want to renew your vows and invite them to celebrate with you the love and strength that have gotten you this far. It's not a re-do, but a long overdue reception.

I think you're on the right track about the celebration - no big white wedding dress (although some people do). I found the website idotaketwo.com (http://www.idotaketwo.com/vow_renewal_etiquette.html) a big help in terms of helping me come to an understanding of what I was going to want. Just before dinner, we stood up front, had a family member go through our vows with us again (no need for an officiant, since it's not legally binding) and then had the dinner. We said no gifts, but most people brought one, friends and family helped with the decorations and the cake. We had a ceramic plate done and all the guests signed it and it's now hanging in my home office and I remember the fun every time I look at it.

PinkEarthMama

I looked at idotaketwo.com and I am horrified that the moderators are so nasty. Pretty much everything is : It's not a wedding. No one will bring gifts. Do a private celebration.

Mel2626

Tacky?!? Some people are clueless!! Celebrating your lives together! What's tacky about that? Nothing!! Have fun and don't give a crap what anyone else thinks!!! Congrats!!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

keenercam

I don't think there's anything wrong with doing that, and I'd bet your family and friends would love the opportunity to celebrate your marriage and happiness. Of course, this is coming from a woman who did a full-blown vow renewal in our 25th year, complete with an extravagant, gorgeous wedding gown, tuxes for the men, our son (15) as best man, our daughter (20) as maid of honor, and a huge party. All of this was through Disney Fairy Tale Weddings at Walt Disney World, so there was even more for criticism if anyone was going to complain. Fortunately, all of our friends and family loved that we finally had the wedding of our dreams, and we were so excited to have an excuse to spoil our guests rotten and have a huge party in such a beautiful setting.

Spice_4_Life

don't listen to anyone!!! Do what you guys want! I think it's a great idea )))

saxmaniac

Tacky? It sounds wonderful, especially since your kids was in the hospital. I watched my son nearly die at age 4 due to autoimmune disease, it's terrible.

If anyone *****es about sending gifts, send me a message and I'll chip in.

ItsMeRebekah

ther person who said that is an idiot.
thats my thoughts