Asking a guy out

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  • ShareeMorty
    ShareeMorty Posts: 324 Member
    Enquiring minds want to know.... did you call him?:wink:
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Can you guys stop arguing this man vs women **** and answer the damned question?
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    If you're too hesitant, shy, too traditional, whatever you want to call it...just make it painfully obvious that like him and that you want him to take you out...and I mean OBVIOUS. Something like, "Would you like to go out to the batting cages" is obvious.

    Showing some cleavage will instantly improve your chances :)
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    I love when girls ask me out, but generally if I'm hanging out with someone but haven't asked them out there's probably a reason. Some people are more shy than I am though, so I say go for it.
  • ssteinbring677
    ssteinbring677 Posts: 158 Member
    Been out of the dating game for a while... Guys, how do you feel about a woman asking you out? Do you like it, or do you prefer to do the asking? Wanting to ask someone out, but everyone is telling me to wait and let him ask.

    in order to get what you want, sometimes you have to be bold and take a risk. don't wait around! ask the guy out.
  • Daisy_Cutter
    Daisy_Cutter Posts: 774
    I'm surprised MFP doesn't have a Message Board dedicated to singles. I suppose they don't want this to turn into OKCupid or some other similar site. But my guess is that a lot of people here (not the majority, but still quite a few) chose to improve their health and appearance after a divorce, a break-up, etc. Or just never felt confident enough to get out there and meet someone, until now, thanks to MFP. With improved fitness comes increased confidence, etc., etc.

    But on the other hand, I definitely wouldn't want the boards overrun with strange people pretending to exercise just to try to pick up people here. So probably for the best they don't have this feature... Nevermind...

    On a completely unrelated note, if there are any attractive women here living in the Czech Republic, please feel free to message me... :-)

    --Prahasaurus

    LOL -- Single Peeps group.... Come join the madness!

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/forums/show/299-single-peeps-
  • lauralizzy829
    lauralizzy829 Posts: 215 Member
    I don't think there's anything wrong with asking the guy out. With that said, I am way too shy and self conscious (now, hopefully that will change) to do it myself. So if you got the courage, do it!!!!!!
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
    Been out of the dating game for a while... Guys, how do you feel about a woman asking you out? Do you like it, or do you prefer to do the asking? Wanting to ask someone out, but everyone is telling me to wait and let him ask.
    Every time I was pursued, it was a huge turn off.
    Maybe I am old fashioned. :ohwell:
  • msusol
    msusol Posts: 11
    i've been out of the dating game awhile too. i have no problem with a woman approaching me. i end up losing my nerver and the opportunity is lost. who knows it could have been the "one". its just hard in a loud place to walk up and yell in a woman's ear "HI MY NAME IS .."
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member

    I am assuming that you have incorrectly identified my contextual use of the word equal. The mere fact that we identify males and females with separate words indicated that there are differences.

    Really, the only defense you can come up with is semantic? Yes, men and women are DIFFERENT by their inherent physiology. Try avoiding distinctions of EQUALITY and maybe you won't offend every woman (and quite a few equality-respecting men) on this board.

    edit: typo

    I'm not offended by what he said. It's the truth. The differences between men and women are not just physiological. Refusal to acknowledge this very basic fact is the reason dating has become so dysfunctional and one out of every two couples to get married will end up getting divorced.

    If you want to ask a guy out, do it. But be prepared to catch a lot of lazy beta males and not many alphas.

    If a guy knows you are interested, he will ask you out if he's interested in you. If he doesn't ask you out, he's either not interested or he's missing a pair of testicles. In either case, he's not really someone you should waste any more energy on.
  • jcstanton
    jcstanton Posts: 1,849 Member
    Been out of the dating game for a while... Guys, how do you feel about a woman asking you out? Do you like it, or do you prefer to do the asking? Wanting to ask someone out, but everyone is telling me to wait and let him ask.

    Think of an upcoming event or activity already on your schedule that might make a fun first date, then you could call him and say, "This is (your name), we met on (day) at (place). So, I'm calling because I just wanted to know when you were going to ask me out. (insert light laughter) Kidding, I'm totally kidding. Actually, I'm planning to go (name event), and I thought you might want to go with me." If you have to leave a message you can add "If you're interested, give me a call. (give your phone number) Talk to ya later."
  • NYChick84
    NYChick84 Posts: 331 Member
    My whole perspective on life changed dramatically recently. I totally have the guts to ask a guy out on a date now!!! Take chances in life, you never know what may happen! :)
  • legnarevocrednu
    legnarevocrednu Posts: 467 Member
    Maybe it is old fashioned, but I definitely think the guy should do the asking. There are ways to get them to ask though! Eye contact, smiles, and the occasional arm touch! However, if you are interested in a shy guy, you may just have to bite the bullet.
  • legnarevocrednu
    legnarevocrednu Posts: 467 Member
    But be prepared to catch a lot of lazy beta males and not many alphas.

    If a guy knows you are interested, he will ask you out if he's interested in you. If he doesn't ask you out, he's either not interested or he's missing a pair of testicles. In either case, he's not really someone you should waste any more energy on.
    I agree 100%!!!
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
    But be prepared to catch a lot of lazy beta males and not many alphas.

    If a guy knows you are interested, he will ask you out if he's interested in you. If he doesn't ask you out, he's either not interested or he's missing a pair of testicles. In either case, he's not really someone you should waste any more energy on.
    ^^^^^^^^^^
    Wow - THIS!
  • buffybabe
    buffybabe Posts: 180 Member
    Ask him! My first TWO dates with my man I asked him out....We are getting married in September :-)
  • shaynak112
    shaynak112 Posts: 751 Member
    Ask him out! Lots of guys are shy. If you want him, go for it!!!
  • gec1266
    gec1266 Posts: 201 Member
    Just show him that you are interested. A smile is always a good start. If you already know him, then why not just strike up a conversation and by some of his answers,you will know if there is mutual interest and if he will ever step up to the plate...but a flirty smile always breaks the ice,if he's interested....
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    Ask him out for sure. If he the type of guy that is freaked out by this then he is someone who you don't want to date....just my opinion.
  • kerricolby
    kerricolby Posts: 232 Member
    If I hadn't asked my husband out, we never would have gotten married. He thought he was too old for me, so he wouldn't ask me out.
  • Altarian
    Altarian Posts: 230 Member
    But be prepared to catch a lot of lazy beta males and not many alphas.

    If a guy knows you are interested, he will ask you out if he's interested in you. If he doesn't ask you out, he's either not interested or he's missing a pair of testicles. In either case, he's not really someone you should waste any more energy on.

    Not all of us who don't ask woman out are beta males. Some of us get so into other things, such as work, that we don't notice things like woman being interested in them. I for one am not a beta male who also has social anxiety and doesn't like being around large groups of people and have a hard time talking to strangers unless i'm at work where i have to talk to people.

    But i digress, Ask him out and see what happens. If he say's no then either keep working him down until he realizes what the right answer is or leave him in the dust and find mr. right and not mr. right now.

    But this is just the two cents of some random internet stranger
  • DixiedoesMFP
    DixiedoesMFP Posts: 935 Member
    Can you guys stop arguing this man vs women **** and answer the damned question?

    Ha ha ha! Yes! Just ask him! The worse that happens is he says no, and life goes on. The best? He says yes, and then life might get better? I haved asked a guy out. He was so shy and worried that I'd say no that I'm not sure we would have ever gone out if I hadn't asked him....so go for it!
  • AsrarHussain
    AsrarHussain Posts: 1,424 Member
    it would be nice if a women asks out a guy for once Imto shy LOL i have asked 3 girls out and both rejected me so im not to confident now i dont even try it may seem negative but iv given up sorry to say dont hate me if a girl was to ask me i would change my mind.
  • shammxo
    shammxo Posts: 1,432 Member
    Do it! I've asked out a guy before, and have been told that men rarely say "No". Men get rejected more often than women... We can step up to the plate every so often!
  • amandager
    amandager Posts: 49 Member
    Im going to give him a call later on today, and I will keep everyone posted! Thanks again!!!
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member



    I'm not offended by what he said. It's the truth. The differences between men and women are not just physiological. Refusal to acknowledge this very basic fact is the reason dating has become so dysfunctional and one out of every two couples to get married will end up getting divorced.

    If you want to ask a guy out, do it. But be prepared to catch a lot of lazy beta males and not many alphas.

    If a guy knows you are interested, he will ask you out if he's interested in you. If he doesn't ask you out, he's either not interested or he's missing a pair of testicles. In either case, he's not really someone you should waste any more energy on.

    I couldn't disagree more. Firstly, I prefer beta males. Alpha males are in general not very interested in actually being friends with women, which IMO is the most important step in a relationship. Mostly, they are douchbags. Beta males may be less charismatic, but they make much better husbands, laziness has nothing to do with it. It's not lazy to be too shy to ask a girl out. And why should we put it all on the men anyway? Are we so weak and pathetic as a sex we can't just ask for what we want? One of the most common complaints men have about women is that we sulk and make them guess what is wrong, why is the dating scene any different? Why should we make them have to guess whether we are interested or not? We need more honesty in the world. If you like someone, tell them and save you both the hassle of farting around and second guessing?
  • blittle2
    blittle2 Posts: 94 Member
    I'd say ask away. I'd love it if someone asked me out
  • Sunny_Sunflower
    Sunny_Sunflower Posts: 136 Member
    I did that and got turned down in so many words, he said hes not sure where we are going and what he wants. Because of that he doesn't want to hurt me or jump into anything so I have decided to distance myself from him and keep it casual. We were spending almost every together, that won't be happening anymore. It just all sucks and I am really down about the situation it has been a month of 'seeing' each other and we aren't moving anywhere he's happy where we are just spending time together. Idk I care about him a lot all I can say to you is be careful.
  • dusheck
    dusheck Posts: 2 Member
    Find a real man. Personally it makes me very suspicious when a girl asks me out, and in general it turns me off.

    I'm interested to know what about it turns you off. That is, what does it make you think or feel, specifically?
  • omlax24
    omlax24 Posts: 31
    i understand old fashion views but sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns if you feel ready to ask someone out by all means do it the worst that is going to happen is they say no so if that happens move on and go for someone you find worthy of your greatness

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