Feeling down, just sad and in need of virtual hugs..

bikinibeliever

Hope your day gets better soon.

GadgetGuy2

HUGS khadeejah1!

Your brave to lay it all out like you have. Your writing also seems to confirm your comment that some people think you're intelligent.

Everybody has a bad day now and then. This too will pass.

I understand your concern about appearance and attracting a partner. It is unfortunate that attraction depends so much "initially" on appearance. I suspect that if you are successful with your diet plan (and nutrition), that not only physical appearance will improve (yep.....I see excellent bone structure in one of your profile pics) as well as your aura (how you feel about yourself will improve too)!

My first wife was a real beauty. It lasted 5 years. My second/current wife has a heart of gold (and yes, I was physically attracted to her too). We've been together for 27 years, and I suspect we'll go through all those old age transitions together.

It can happen to you too.

Most importantly, what little I can see of your facial body language (involuntary muscles) leads me to believe you are also a good person.

Lemme' see now......good facial bone structure.......eyes that participate in smiles.......a glandular glisten in the eye .... intelligent...wanting babies implies loving nature.......

Seems to me you've got a lot going for you..........

So just that initial physical attraction issue to address via diet/exercise.....some "circulating" to increase the chances of contact with someone with "the right stuff" .... and life could turn 180 degrees in your favor.

Good luck! And HUGS.....we who are about to loose weight (or just lost weight) salute YOU!

Candicegay51

Hugs!!! Everything will work itself out

aconley24

you are beautiful!! OWN IT!! i am sorry that your having a crappy week. Sometimes it gets worse b4 it gets better! **HUGS**

katejkelley

Isn't it nice to have a place you can vent? We all need to do that once in a while. I hope your move goes well and tomorrow is a wonderful day!:drinker:

CarpeNoctemAng

hugs you are a beautiful person! chin up!

bigbangTKL

This is my first day, so maybe this will help since I can't tell you what works for me at losing, yadda, yadda, YET. Try this site if you need a hug. It's a virtual hug but after I was "hugged" for a minute or two I felt better. http://www.thenicestplaceontheinter.net/

I am sure I will be here with support needs in the future. You are never alone as you feel you are.

ceschwartz

And just to make sure one more BIG hug. This to shall pass.

kathleenp518

Everyone has their bad days, but tomorrow is a new day. I know for me when I work out I feel so much better about myself and energetic. If I work out I eat better too. You should find a program you love and try it. Once you start sweating I guarantee you'll feel better, and you'll feel great afterwards. I'm going to friend you. I love the motivation on these boards and feel that they've really helped me. :flowerforyou:

Perfectdiamonds1

:flowerforyou: I understand where you are coming from. Hope you feel better soon. You may need to take a few weeks off of work if you can and just have some me time. I'm doing that now. Took a month off. When it gets stressful like that, its time to back away for a bit. :flowerforyou:

Camden1987

I find u attractive... Ur not ugly at all

snix1024

(((hugs)))

Calif_Girl67

WOW...... You have a beautiful face and smile :flowerforyou:

Don't second guess yourself, if people don't see you for who you are inside then they are NOT worth the effort or friendship you give them!!!! Don't be so hard on yourself, you just need to focus on YOU and do something special for yourself...... Feel free to add me as a friend if you like, just leave me a note

curvymomo3

I am so sorry your feeling so down that breaks my heart.. I know how it feels to feel unsexy and I struggle with it myself. Its funny how some days I feel GREAT!!! a real hottie than BAM fat, ugly, blah.. Truth is I see you as very beautiful and intelligent and thoughtful like a prev. poster said " If a guy don't want you for your weight. Fu&#k em!!"

I like the saying : "Bones are for the Dogs, Meat is for a man!"

hope you feel uplifted very soon!!

huggles xoxox

fishbarn

& here some HUGS, HUGS, HUGS, HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!

Minner_Tinner

Bump

How are you feeling today?

Prahasaurus

I just looked at your profile pics and you're quite attractive. I'm sure you'll find someone soon enough. Not feeling that you're always having to face things alone will help a lot, I believe.

In any case, good luck with everything!

--Prahasaurus

Jesea

I hope you're feeling much better this morning! I moved around a lot when I was single, and although the packing and moving part was very stressful, I always enjoyed the unpacking, as it was a chance to "get my house in order". As for being single, enjoy it! Sleep in, lounge around in your pajamas with coffee in the morning, exercise if you want to, read a great book. I didn't get married until I was 32 (most of my friends married young) and had my sons at 33 and 38, very few relaxing mornings now! Sending hugs, I know exactly how you feel....

spoonful

It sounds like you're having a very tough time with a lot of stuff going on. In scuba diving there's a thing we do when it feels like things are out of control... or might get that way. It's "STOP, breathe, think, act." It works on land too.

Anyone who judges you based on your weight is not worth being around anyway. Losing weight is relatively easy compared to growing a brain and developing a personality.

You won an award. Okay the *kitten* gave your prize away but you still won an award. That's a great thing.

Hidden inside every problem there is a solution and you seem smart enough to find them.

You've decided to get in shape. Now a little patience is required while you do it.

In the meantime... BIG hugs.

BlackLabLover

hugs to you... I hope you're feeling better today!

Do a little something for yourself... make a sugar scrub and make your hands really soft... or put a facial mask on to make your skin feel smooth... or soak your feet in the tub and give yourself a pedicure - paint your toenails... pamper yourself because you're worth it! Don't binge - that's self-defeating - find something else to do - be good to yourself! Or... (sometimes what I do)... bake a bunch of dessert and then give it away!

Oh... and watch this (I do when I need a pick-me-up!) http://www.xfit.org/motivational-speech-by-rocky-balboa/

Yeah, I understand it might be hard to accept right now, but being single is a gift. You will never have more time to do what you want to do. I remember feeling like you do about getting older and being alone... I didn't meet my husband until I was 36... here is what my favorite aunt used to tell me when I got down and lonely, "Don't worry about meeting a guy... work on yourself and get yourself where you want to be. Don't worry about finding a guy... work on yourself." and baking goods for others also helps... gives you practice without the calories! Take care sweetie, everything has a season... this is is just one of them and it won't last... it WILL get BETTER!!! <hugs>

YoYo1951

hugs to you. Remember, this too shall pass. You are a strong woman, just keep your head up and don't sink to their level... Good luck on your move, I am sure it will be a better fit for you. Hugs, hugs, hugs

kleed41

:flowerforyou:
<<hugs>>

lynheff

You are so very smart for taking the step to PERMANENTLY get out of the bad situation at the apartment. There are unavoidable problems in life but being bullied isn't one of them!
A bad situation like that can color your whole world so I hope that ditching those losers will make everything else much better! So big HUGS from your MFP in alabama

fit4lyfeLisa

Sending lots of hugs. love and prayers your way.:flowerforyou:

lakota1307

we have all felt that way one time or another ... HUGS !!!!

Sox90716

Big hug! :flowerforyou:

ShrinkingShawna

((hugs)) You are so beautiful! It's more likely that someone likes you and might be too shy to say it. Chin up :flowerforyou:

Lize11e

Honey, I swear, not long ago I could have written that. It sounded so much like me I even read it in my voice. I've never had the apartment bully problem but the guy buddies who talk about how hot other girls are and find me invisible or just one of the guys, story of my life. I've always fit in better with the guys. I think I've always been too big to really fit in with the girls. I've always been the fat friend. It sucks. And what crappy luck on the tablet!!! UGH! Insult to injury :frown: I hope so much today is better for you. Maybe when you get out of that apartment and into your new place you can make a whole new beginning for yourself. Someone else commented on how beautiful you are, I went and looked and you really are. Chin up, girlfriend. You sound like a wonderful person. Wonderful things are bound to come your way soon. :flowerforyou:

kornmaiden

hugs hugs hugs

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