Rekindle the Romance??

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  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    Tantric Sex? don't know what it is, look it up. works for me and my wife when we get stale since we have 2 kids with one on the way.

    This is a good one. Nothing like it in the world. The closeness you feel and becoming one . simply amazing.

    I have no idea what that is...lol. Looking it up tho :)

    http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/sexuality/tantric-sex-dictionary.htm

    I want to look it up too but I am working at a prison and might get in trouble googling that... haha... some of this stuff is interesting... I've been married 20 years... but I keep an open mind!!
  • AmberCHM
    AmberCHM Posts: 425 Member
    Read the 50 Shades series. There are better "romance novels" out there, but it's a popular fun read. Just read it....you'll see...
  • ashlinmarie
    ashlinmarie Posts: 1,263 Member
    I was going to suggest joining the military...buuuuutttttttt....obviously that's been done =/


    My husband just left for basic 4 weeks ago. He was never the romantic type and we were starting to flicker after 2 1/2 years together. BUT I believe we are really starting to appreciate what we have. His letters are so romantic that if they weren't in his handwriting, I would think someone else was writing them for him. Definitely don't sound like the man I married but I LOVE it!


    So that might be something...write him a love letter. Tell him all the things you feel but might not tell him on a daily basis.
  • kmuree
    kmuree Posts: 283 Member
    Read the 50 Shades series. There are better "romance novels" out there, but it's a popular fun read. Just read it....you'll see...

    If you want to learn how NOT to safely practice bondage and S&M, read those books. Otherwise, do some research. :laugh: :tongue:
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    Watch a dirty movie together.
  • futuremalestripper
    futuremalestripper Posts: 467 Member
    Get separate beds and put them in separate rooms.
    That kept my parents together for another 10 years.

    Note: If you stab a couch with a steak knife and then point at him, it may cause him to lock his door at night.
  • ktwest2107
    ktwest2107 Posts: 124 Member
    I was going to suggest joining the military...buuuuutttttttt....obviously that's been done =/


    My husband just left for basic 4 weeks ago. He was never the romantic type and we were starting to flicker after 2 1/2 years together. BUT I believe we are really starting to appreciate what we have. His letters are so romantic that if they weren't in his handwriting, I would think someone else was writing them for him. Definitely don't sound like the man I married but I LOVE it!


    So that might be something...write him a love letter. Tell him all the things you feel but might not tell him on a daily basis.

    Speaking from experience, basic training will make you realize everything you have. It's a time where you feel very isolated, but at the same time gain new brothers from your flight members. Congratulations to both of you on making this choice for your lives. It's not for everyone, but I've found my service to be very rewarding. Just remember that it is what you make it :)

    And I will definitely write him a BMT type letter ;)
  • CassieReannan
    CassieReannan Posts: 1,479 Member
    Keep it simple... Go on "dates" and cook dinner for eachother. Food is way to a mans heart! Always make time for eachother, have long talks and laugh a little. Maybe even try some romantic messages or phone calls while hes out to keep him thinking about you.

    If the weight loss aint doing something in the bedroom it will soon, trust me!
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    Take a trip together if you can find the time. If all you've got is a weekend, book a nice hotel in town somewhere and treat your city like a tourist would enjoying the sites together.
  • AzhureSnow
    AzhureSnow Posts: 289 Member
    Send him flirtatious text messages, or leave him post-it notes in his car or whatever. Little stuff to get him "primed" for some action. Do something random that you never do - catch a baseball game, go water rafting, take a day trip to a different city a few hours away just for fun. Oh, and go to the gym with him! It most definitely gets the hormones and pheromones going!
  • gatecityradio
    gatecityradio Posts: 401
    Role play

    Try new things in bed, like watch some naughty flicks together and try some of the positions. Have an experiment day.

    Go out of town on a romantic get away.

    When you go out on dates, try new places, new foods, and new activities.

    pick up a new hobby together, in the spirit of this being a health site, try hiking or mountain biking
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    Leather.
    Candles.
    Handcuffs.
    Blindfold.
    Whip.

    You forgot feathers and ball-gag!
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
    DOnt listen to most people on here. Most all they can think of is to break up with him. People dont know how to work things out anymore and then they wonder why one out of two divorces. I dont care what anyone says, relationships require work. People forget that yes, the grass might be greener on the other side at the moment but that grass has to be maintained too.

    Just communicate with him and find out whats going on. Try role playing or if he plays xbox, play with him nude, clean nude, cook nude, honestly you know what he likes and his turn ons more than us. Personally, in my opinion, women focus on themselfs too much and ignore what the guy wants.

    Women want romance, we get it but we like things too in the bedroom. ALot of women do them in the beginning but stop doing them over time but keep demanding us to be romantic. Its a two way street. Im not saying this is the case with you. You just have to relive those nights that were amazing and add new things like role playing, fav sports jearseys, toys (dont get a toy that is 2x bigger than him), rent a porno and watch it together (its actually funny to watch and fun to play), doiing it in public or his work, sexy texts and phone calls, themes, and things you normally dont want to do. Keep in mind, we do alot of things that we dont want to do to please women.

    I wish you luck and hope it gets better.
  • kayemme
    kayemme Posts: 1,782 Member
    try paying attention to the different person he is today as opposed to the person he was yesterday.
  • 10acity
    10acity Posts: 798 Member
    23? Break up with him.

    Shouldn't be happening after 10 months!

    ^^ this
    Totally... if your relationship is less than perfect after only 10 months, quit it! Love shouldn't be work! /bullcrap

    Ahem.
    I'm going to second the suggestion that you focus on real intimacy. Something to consider: men crave respect. I'm sure you already respect your honeypie, but try putting a little extra elbow grease into making that known to him. It tends to work the same way "I love you, I need you" usually works for us. :wink: (And I'm sorry, but don't waste your time reading fanfic tripe...)

    And good for you for realizing that relationships require effort!
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
    try paying attention to the different person he is today as opposed to the person he was yesterday.

    Now that is also great advise.
  • AmberCHM
    AmberCHM Posts: 425 Member
    Read the 50 Shades series. There are better "romance novels" out there, but it's a popular fun read. Just read it....you'll see...

    If you want to learn how NOT to safely practice bondage and S&M, read those books. Otherwise, do some research. :laugh: :tongue:

    Oh goodness no. I wasn't suggesting she try anything in there haha! It never hurts the libido to read about it though :)
  • ashlinmarie
    ashlinmarie Posts: 1,263 Member
    Read the 50 Shades series. There are better "romance novels" out there, but it's a popular fun read. Just read it....you'll see...

    If you want to learn how NOT to safely practice bondage and S&M, read those books. Otherwise, do some research. :laugh: :tongue:

    Oh goodness no. I wasn't suggesting she try anything in there haha! It never hurts the libido to read about it though :)

    Very true! I wouldn't do most of what is in there, but when I read those books, I would read a couple chapters then go seduce my husband. He didn't know what I was reading, but I'm sure he loved it!
  • love22step
    love22step Posts: 1,103 Member
    Thank you for your military service! My husband and I both retired from the Air Force. Some of the ideas you received are good; however, I suggest staying away from the porn. Too many men are easily addicted to porn, and it distorts their views and expectations of healthy intimate relationships. Both of you can use your imaginations and come up with your own sexy scenarios. That said, I'm old and old-fashioned, and I still believe in the sanctity of marriage. Hey! I've lived long enough to experience and learn a lot of things. God bless you.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    Buy him his favorite NFL team Jersey, wear it naked underneath, make him a sammich, then pretend to be the center while he pretends to be the QB.


    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
    Leather.
    Candles.
    Handcuffs.
    Blindfold.
    Whip.

    I'd have to get very brave lol

    This is brave>??? I must be a f**king super hero...
  • ktwest2107
    ktwest2107 Posts: 124 Member
    DOnt listen to most people on here. Most all they can think of is to break up with him. People dont know how to work things out anymore and then they wonder why one out of two divorces. I dont care what anyone says, relationships require work. People forget that yes, the grass might be greener on the other side at the moment but that grass has to be maintained too.

    Just communicate with him and find out whats going on. Try role playing or if he plays xbox, play with him nude, clean nude, cook nude, honestly you know what he likes and his turn ons more than us. Personally, in my opinion, women focus on themselfs too much and ignore what the guy wants.

    Women want romance, we get it but we like things too in the bedroom. ALot of women do them in the beginning but stop doing them over time but keep demanding us to be romantic. Its a two way street. Im not saying this is the case with you. You just have to relive those nights that were amazing and add new things like role playing, toys (dont get a toy that is 2x bigger than him), rent a porno and watch it together (its actually funny to watch and fun to play), doiing it in public or his work, sexy texts and phone calls, themes, and things you normally dont want to do. Keep in mind, we do alot of things that we dont want to do to please women.

    I wish you luck and hope it gets better.

    I couldn't agree with you more on people trying to call it quits.

    I think I need to clarify for everone tho: My relationship IS NOT in trouble. He and I are very loving and commited, and we're getting to the point where marriage is real possibility. I am only looking for ideas to make things BETTER, which is really something I think should be strived for in every relationship, regardless of how long the two of you have been together. Thanks everyone for your helpful "relationship" advice, but it's about the sex, honestly lol. I just want to make sure he's still excited by me :)
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
    Remember why you feel in love with him in the first place
    Think about how your life would be without him
    Make sure you touch him every time he comes close to you
    Make sure you kiss him first thing in the morning and when he comes home from work before you go to bed

    in short build on your intimacy, that will rekindle and keep the romance burning bright.

    Yes... and have sex every single day, if your not already. After our little one was born we had a dry spell and our relationship was rocky, but once i made it a point to do something sexual everyday... we got back to who we were. Getting close physically helps big time emotionally.
  • ktwest2107
    ktwest2107 Posts: 124 Member
    Buy him his favorite NFL team Jersey, wear it naked underneath, make him a sammich, then pretend to be the center while he pretends to be the QB.


    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    This would totally work if our relationship roles were reversed. I'm the crazed football fan, and he's my mellow bar tag-a-long :)
  • ImKindOfABigDeal40
    ImKindOfABigDeal40 Posts: 807 Member
    For him, dress like Princess Leia from Star Wars or whatever he's into. For you, tell him to cook, clean, wash dishes and run the vacuum cleaner while dressed in a Thor costume and speaking in an Australian accent.
  • OSC_ESD
    OSC_ESD Posts: 752 Member
    ~ I forgot one really important thing .... Never, ever ... go to bed angry ! Always talk things out ... agree to disagree, but be honest and truthful ... it's the only way to a successful relationship.

    Best of luck ! :flowerforyou:
  • annahiven
    annahiven Posts: 177 Member
    Get a corset. When you got it on, you will know what to do. Case closed.
  • ktwest2107
    ktwest2107 Posts: 124 Member
    For him, dress like Princess Leia from Star Wars or whatever he's into. For you, tell him to cook, clean, wash dishes and run the vacuum cleaner while dressed in a Thor costume and speaking in an Australian accent.

    Now that could work...lol.
  • ktwest2107
    ktwest2107 Posts: 124 Member
    Get a corset. When you got it on, you will know what to do. Case closed.

    Got one, and forgot about it till you posted this. I know what I'll be cooking in tomorrow morning ;)
  • noirnatural
    noirnatural Posts: 310 Member
    Tantric Sex? don't know what it is, look it up. works for me and my wife when we get stale since we have 2 kids with one on the way.

    This is a good one. Nothing like it in the world. The closeness you feel and becoming one . simply amazing.
    :blushing: the best!

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