Rekindle the Romance??

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  • noirnatural
    noirnatural Posts: 310 Member
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    DOnt listen to most people on here. Most all they can think of is to break up with him. People dont know how to work things out anymore and then they wonder why one out of two divorces. I dont care what anyone says, relationships require work. People forget that yes, the grass might be greener on the other side at the moment but that grass has to be maintained too.

    Just communicate with him and find out whats going on. Try role playing or if he plays xbox, play with him nude, clean nude, cook nude, honestly you know what he likes and his turn ons more than us. Personally, in my opinion, women focus on themselfs too much and ignore what the guy wants.

    Women want romance, we get it but we like things too in the bedroom. ALot of women do them in the beginning but stop doing them over time but keep demanding us to be romantic. Its a two way street. Im not saying this is the case with you. You just have to relive those nights that were amazing and add new things like role playing, fav sports jearseys, toys (dont get a toy that is 2x bigger than him), rent a porno and watch it together (its actually funny to watch and fun to play), doiing it in public or his work, sexy texts and phone calls, themes, and things you normally dont want to do. Keep in mind, we do alot of things that we dont want to do to please women.

    I wish you luck and hope it gets better.
    Well Said!
  • Wpbarr
    Wpbarr Posts: 142 Member
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    Add kink ...
  • katmix
    katmix Posts: 296 Member
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    bump
  • taxidermist15
    taxidermist15 Posts: 677 Member
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    alright im going there...

    go down on hi with an ice cube in your mouth. works wonders.

    after that.. give him bacon
  • dorkusmalorkus
    dorkusmalorkus Posts: 61
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    spend a day and get lost together. try something different. read 50 shades of grey. LOTS of ideas. just sayin ;)!!
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
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    All right boys and girls. I've been with my hunnie for 10 months, we live together, and the spark seems to be flickering a little, ya know? So, I wanna hear some ideas for picking up that spark and turning it into a bonfire again!!! Lehhhhssss gooooo!!! ;)

    -Katie

    really at 10 months??? In what area are we talking about?? In our outside the bedroom?
  • recoiljpr
    recoiljpr Posts: 292
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    Been with my wife for 12 years and we have 4 kids; so keeping the fire burning is something we work on quite a bit. ;-)

    Play with each other all day, without going very far, get each other worked up, a touch here, a tickle there, etc. Make a rule no going further until later that night.

    Send texts to each other (even if yall are in the same room, etc) giving lurid details as to what your thinking of doing with them. Again, the rule is you have to wait.

    We have found what works for us the best is the anticipation, etc. So make up anything, and just keep it going for a while to make the anticipation keep building.
  • MeliJean78
    MeliJean78 Posts: 249
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    Threesome?
  • spoonful
    spoonful Posts: 200 Member
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    Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and go through all 64 of the positions.
  • MeliJean78
    MeliJean78 Posts: 249
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    Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and go through all 64 of the positions.

    In one night? That's my kind of swingers party, baby!
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
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    My husband is retired Army National Guard and was deployed on our first deployment for both in 2009-2010 but we always kept our marriage alive some way or another. Our 5 year wedding anniversary is in November :) My marriage never have been dull during the 6 years we have been together. Maybe cook a romantic dinner at home if you can't go out before he comes home. Role playing might work!!!! :happy:
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
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    Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and go through all 64 of the positions.

    In one night? That's my kind of swingers party, baby!
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    swingers give awesome advice just saying lool
  • ktwest2107
    ktwest2107 Posts: 124 Member
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    I think alot of people are taking that thread to mean I have a problem in my relationship, which I do not. John and I are very commited and loving, and he and I want to spend our lives together. However, I want some new ideas to keep things interesting in the bedroom department, since we are getting to a more serious time in our relationship. Both of us know that marriage is in the future, and I want us to still have that excitement even after we make that commitment. I think of it not as trying to "save" the relationship, like some think I am, and more as trying to find ways to make it even better :)

    I've been married before, and know perfectly well about the "stale" point. And for anyone out there saying it shouldn't be happening at 10 months, we haven't STOPPED having sex. It's just become more routine, and with both of us being young, I don't think it should be. So, that's why I'm asking for ideas. I want to keep him on his toes and interested, since my sponteneity is one of the things he loves about me, and I always want my man guessing :)

    And yes, I take care of him plenty. He still get's mouth hugs on the reg...haha ;)
  • IAMDDAY
    IAMDDAY Posts: 771
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    That sounds like some good advice right there!
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
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    You know so little on love....go make him a sandwich and bring him a cold beer
  • ktwest2107
    ktwest2107 Posts: 124 Member
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    You know so little on love....go make him a sandwich and bring him a cold beer

    Done and done. Daily, btw. But he doesn't do beer. So it's a sandwich (lite mayo, no cheese, turkey on stone ground wheat) and water haha :)

    He's got fitness goals, and I'm here to help him ;)
  • MissC787
    MissC787 Posts: 175 Member
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    DOnt listen to most people on here. Most all they can think of is to break up with him. People dont know how to work things out anymore and then they wonder why one out of two divorces. I dont care what anyone says, relationships require work. People forget that yes, the grass might be greener on the other side at the moment but that grass has to be maintained too.

    Just communicate with him and find out whats going on. Try role playing or if he plays xbox, play with him nude, clean nude, cook nude, honestly you know what he likes and his turn ons more than us. Personally, in my opinion, women focus on themselfs too much and ignore what the guy wants.

    Women want romance, we get it but we like things too in the bedroom. ALot of women do them in the beginning but stop doing them over time but keep demanding us to be romantic. Its a two way street. Im not saying this is the case with you. You just have to relive those nights that were amazing and add new things like role playing, fav sports jearseys, toys (dont get a toy that is 2x bigger than him), rent a porno and watch it together (its actually funny to watch and fun to play), doiing it in public or his work, sexy texts and phone calls, themes, and things you normally dont want to do. Keep in mind, we do alot of things that we dont want to do to please women.

    I wish you luck and hope it gets better.

    ^^^^This is exactly rite!^^^^
    Well said!
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
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    Okay, I suggest role playing then for something different in the bedroom :smile:
  • kayemme
    kayemme Posts: 1,782 Member
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    try paying attention to the different person he is today as opposed to the person he was yesterday.

    Now that is also great advise.

    thanks. yours is, too.

    OP:

    i've been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years. every day i fall (incredibly) more in love with him. we all have periods where things seem a little stale, but at the end of the day, i love him more and differently every day because he is a different person every day, the same as i am.

    sex often isn't really the problem with boredom, i mean, at 23 you should be able to get freaky enough, but that may not be what he wants. just ask him. i have found men appreciate a woman that can ask a direct question AND not freak out if the answer isn't immediately what they want to hear. so don't just ask him, listen to him. it may not (and probably doesn't) have anything to do with you.
  • Moviedust
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    Boudoir photos!

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