Little Kids Telling You That You Are Fat

a2902c

My 7-year-old niece grabbed my thighs, and said "These are bigger than my mom's and dad's combined. Your so fat." I've also had kids run up to me and grab my belly, with their parents looking horrified. Seriously, it's humiliating. Just wanted to get that off my chest.

Edit: Oh, I forgot to mention when my niece said, "You have the body of a fat man." Nice.

FatStoatLondon

You have my sympathy! There's not much you can do about it, kids are little savages until they have been socialised, bless them! Look at Lord of the Flies... If it happens again, maybe you could tease them for being so short in return.

LrdTwitchyMcChin

OMG!!! Do their parents not talk to them about this? My "step daughter" (boyfriend's daughter) is 5 and she called me fat once. We scolded her and explained why that is incredibly rude and mean to say to someone. She understood and hasn't done anything like that before. In fact, when her and I were talking about me eating differently and exercising more this last weekend, she caught herself before using the word "fat" and said something like "getting even smaller." Kids can be hurtful, but they don't know any better. It's the parents that should be taking responsibility for their actions and correcting them.

jr1985

Yep little kids are brutally honest... I've been called fat by more than one kid... I'm sorry I feel your pain... you can't get mad at them because they don't know any better (depending on how old they are). but still stinks.

NamibianRose

Wow, looking at your profile pic, you don't even look fat to me. I'd hate to hear what your niece would say to me LOL!

Namaste1983

EHHH... I GET IT. MY 4 YR OLD NEPHEW WALKED IN ON ME IN THE BATHROOM AND SAID "WHY ARE YOU SO FAT?" TO WHIC ISAID "WHY ARE YO USO SHORT. GET OUT" THEY ARE KIDS, THEY HAVE NO CENSOR

ClearNotCloudyMind

Proper sympathy. On the other hand just because they're kids doesn't mean they're right. My 3-year old told another mother at pre-school that she had fat legs. The lady was completely normal sized. I was horrified but she took it in apparent good humour. I do hope her feelings weren't hurt as her legs were perfectly fine. Tried to explain to my kid but hard to tell if it sunk in...

mi_lady

I can really relate - when my sister was expecting her second son her first said "gee, you're FAT!" and at another point he asked if I had a baby in my belly too. I think it's just how kids are - completely honest until they know better. I just said that yes, I am, but that it's not nice to say to people.

MizSaz

If you want brutal honesty, ask a child. I don't ask my boyfriend how I look before I go out, I ask my 5 year old niece. She's starting to grow a filter now, though, she's getting polite in her 'old age'.

ItsMeRebekah

the other day my kids were watching me do my kettlebells and said " why does your stomach bounce and move all around crazy like that "
kids, its who they are! i giggled

bcattoes

OUCH!! Kids can be brutally honest in their innocence.

skinnedknee101

But it does make it that more awesome when a kid says you look good. Gotta take the good with the bad. Best compliment ever was when my 3-year-old son, came into the room and on his own accord said, "Mommy, you're pretty."

JediSwan

My oldest daughter is 7. She was called fat by a girl in her class last year and she is one of the healthiest and fittest kids and by no means even close to having any fat on her body. It tore her to pieces! "Fat" is a bad word in our house. We use healthy or unhealthy. I wanted to punch that little girl for saying that. And I know the girl's mother and I can guarantee that the little girl learned to criticize others by her mother's actions. Its ridiculous!

My daughter is brutally honest about my clothes and size. She tells me that I'm doing good with my workouts and that I will be "healthy" in no time. Which is nice. She says she doesn't like me "unhealthy."

Its frustrating that kids say that and I'm sorry that your niece said that to you. Its a wonder sometimes what goes on inside their little heads.

a2902c

But it does make it that more awesome when a kid says you look good. Gotta take the good with the bad. Best compliment ever was when my 3-year-old son, came into the room and on his own accord said, "Mommy, you're pretty."

Never had the good. Only bad. She also has a tendency to tell me I'm ugly. Oh well.

But from your profile pic, you are gorgeous! Your son was right

Marll

Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like its been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

a2902c

Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like it's been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

Oh I can definitely relate. Once during a dinner party, my grandmother apologized to everyone on how fat I've gotten. In her own words, "I'm sorry that you have to see her like this. She's a blimp. She used to be so much prettier."

I've also gotten "At least, you have a cute face." from other relatives.

skinnedknee101

But it does make it that more awesome when a kid says you look good. Gotta take the good with the bad. Best compliment ever was when my 3-year-old son, came into the room and on his own accord said, "Mommy, you're pretty."

Never had the good. Only bad. She also has a tendency to tell me I'm ugly. Oh well.

But from your profile pic, you are gorgeous! Your son was right

Well take it from someone who still has the thought filter of a 5 year old, though perhaps a better vocabulary...you are a very pretty girl!

stellaskies

Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like it's been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

Oh I can definitely relate. Once during a dinner party, my grandmother apologized to everyone on how fat I've gotten. In her own words, "I'm sorry that you have to see her like this. She's a blimp. She used to be so much prettier."

I've also gotten "At least, you have a cute face." from other relatives.

I don't want to step on any toes, but your family sounds kinda mean, like meaner than most family ribbing. I'm sorry they aren't more sensitive.

Marll

Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like it's been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

Oh I can definitely relate. Once during a dinner party, my grandmother apologized to everyone on how fat I've gotten. In her own words, "I'm sorry that you have to see her like this. She's a blimp. She used to be so much prettier."

I've also gotten "At least, you have a cute face." from other relatives.

I don't want to step on any toes, but your family sounds kinda mean, like meaner than most family ribbing. I'm sorry they aren't more sensitive.

Lots of families are like that. While not as insulting as hers appears to be, my Dad's side of the family is brutally honest on pretty much any topic.

puttingmyselfoutthere

My niece once said "Auntie don't lose your Jiggly Bigglies cuz if you do you wont be soft like a pillow any more" and another time she was playing a pretend game & said "I'm going to pretend to be Auntie..she grabbed a blanket and sat on the couch." That was one of those days that really made me realize that I need to get healthy and set a good example for her.

Medeabacktothestart

When I was about 8 my step-mother's family nic-named me sumo and as I enjoyed ballet so much they also called me the sugar plump fairy.
I may have been stocky as I'm not delicately built, but I was never overweight as a child. As an adult it actually shocks me that somebody would call a child that

BAMFMeredith

Once we were at the store and my 5 year old son asked VERY loudly if a woman walking by (she was an obese woman, but was clearly not pregnant) had "a baby in her tummy because it's really big." I was mortified, so I quickly moved to another part of the store and explained to him that we don't ask things like that and that we don't point at people etc because we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, etc...

Kids can be SO embarrassing. When they're that young, they don't know what they're saying is hurtful, but it's the parents' job to let them know that those kinds of things aren't okay to say.

crzyone

Yep...had it from kids......from adult, especially little old ladies at church, they are as blunt as children....even had it from the family doctor......went to him for the first time, my parents had been to him for years, and the first thing out of his mouth was "So, you're the fat one in the family."

jcamby

That is awful that it happened toyou....but unfortunately kids don't have a filter. My DS told me that I had fat arms....so I sat down with him and told him how that hurt my feelings...so hopefully I'll teach him to be considerate about others feelings (he's 5)

caraiselite

kids call it like they see it. i love that they don't lie.
it's a nice wakeup call to kickstart weight loss!

LindaCWy

My 7-year-old niece grabbed my thighs, and said "These are bigger than my mom's and dad's combined. Your so fat." I've also had kids run up to me and grab my belly, with their parents looking horrified. Seriously, it's humiliating. Just wanted to get that off my chest.

Edit: Oh, I forgot to mention when my niece said, "You have the body of a fat man." Nice.

Look em dead in the eye and tell them they were adopted

Bobby_Clerici

Kids are way too honest but innocent.
They don't get that grown ups have feelings. Just know this.
Whatever kids ever said about me being fat?
Everybody else was thinking it. What's the difference?

That's why we're all here.
God luck to you - All Is Possible:flowerforyou:

winninga

My son has autism, and if you think that "normal" kids are honest, you should be around a kid on the spectrum. He's 9, and all we can do is try to teach him the right way, He has a twin sister who is so polite and tactful, but I have a red face a lot of the time we're out in public. I try to explain to folks about his disability. Some understand, and some tell me I'm just using that as an excuse for lazy parenting. It goes with the territory.

blair_bear

I haven't been insulted by children...yet...but I know if I EVER spoke to anyone in that manner, at that age, my mom would have kicked my butt and then actually punished me. Then she probably would have given me a lesson/lecture on bullying everyday until I was 30. It would have been the first and last time I was ever rude.

LuckyLeprechaun

4th grade student......"Does it keep you warm at night when you sleep, like a polar bear?" (She was referring to my round fat stomach)

Kids don't know, until someone tells them, that we only talk that way BEHIND people's backs. So they learn all the lingo, they learn that fat=bad, but they don't get the finer points of *not* saying it to someone's face. Unil they stumble across it, and someone scolds them, as if that's not how we talk about other people.

Kids must be so confused all the time. I was. My mom would hit me for hitting my sister...while saying "We Don't Hit". She would yell at me for being loud. "BE QUIET", she'd holler. :huh:

cubizzle

Parents should be more responsible and teach their kids that they only way to be accepted in society is to lie to people and tell them only what they want to hear.