Little Kids Telling You That You Are Fat
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My son has autism, and if you think that "normal" kids are honest, you should be around a kid on the spectrum. He's 9, and all we can do is try to teach him the right way, He has a twin sister who is so polite and tactful, but I have a red face a lot of the time we're out in public. I try to explain to folks about his disability. Some understand, and some tell me I'm just using that as an excuse for lazy parenting. It goes with the territory.
I would much rather be judged by my weight then my parenting. I'm so sorry that people would think that towards you!0 -
My 7 y/o old son said to me "Mom don't you want to be straight (moving his hand down his chest and tummy) like the rest of us?" That made me want to cry.
Recently he said. "Mom you don't look fat anymore." That's almost a compliment.0 -
My now 5-year-old likes to ask overweight women if they are pregnant. I've tired many times explaining that it isn't polite to ask that, and in general it isn't polite to point out to people that they are different. She also asked the older gentleman who checker our recent what the big "thing" on his face was. It was a mole. I think she's getting it.0
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Just this past weekend my 4 yr old daughter asked me why did I have wings and she didn't! Made me feel just great in my sleeveless shirt! :huh:0
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On a side note, my mom would have beat me if I said that to someone, even if I was a small child.0
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When my son was young, he had a friend with a little 3 year old brother. I was taking them all somewhere when the 3 year old looked at me and asked 'Do you eat a lot of butter?' All I could do was laugh.0
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Kids are the most pure and honest form of beings. They don't have filters and I love them for it. A friend's daughter once asked me if I was pregnant.. and it didn't make me feel ashamed or anything.. it made me realize that 1] the shirt I was wearing was not flattering at all, and 2] I am definitely making the right choice to get healthy. I thought her mom was going to DIE right then and there, but it just makes me LOL... because whatever... I kinda am fat.. a kid can be curious when they don't yet understand why it's 'rude' to mention weight!0
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Yeah so i don't like children least of all those who've not been taught manners so i'd tell the lil sot it was ugly and keep it pushing.
(im aware this is not an approved of viewpoint but as i stated i do not generally like the ovarian parasites anyway)
LOL! I love it. We used to be soul sisters and then I had my first parasite. Trust me there is a chemical need to love that parasite but it runs parallel to strong desire to drop them off and Grandma's house and run like hell. Your opinion is as valid as any other and no approval is necessary. I love your honesty!0 -
my son walks around his preschool telling his friends that "my mom doesn't have a baby in her belly ." They like patting it.
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You know what I think that is??? Insecure Mom's and Dads calling themselves fat and the kids hearing. How we talk about ourselves is what they take in. If we use the word fat, they use it. it's a freakin' cycle. I refuse to talk about dieting or losing weight with my kids. it's not a part of their world. They will never hear me say I am fat. Never.0
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Not sure what I would say if a kid said something to me. It hasn't happened with my niece and nephews yet. I'd like to think I'd try to get something along the lines of saying yep, I'm fat and your blond and he's short and people come in all shapes and sizes. And then attempt to explain that its considered rude to say these things, to bluntly comment on physical features in general, but particularly ones considered negative. However, well, I am fat. Seems silly to tell the kid they are wrong, just rude.
I don't think using healthy an unhealthy instead is a good alternative (to each their own though). Lots of fat people can be in fairly good health and lots of thin people are not, fat does not automatically equal healthy and thin unhealthy. For example, a whole lot of people on this site are putting a ton of effort into eating healthy and exercising, but it's not something that changes overnight, so while this is in progress, a person may still be "fat" but a whole lot healthier than a thin nacho eating, chain smoking couch potato for example. Yes, they exist.0 -
My daugter is 4 and extremely honest....she tells me i look like a boy because i have short brown hair...She asked me today why i have those "weird lines on your belly?" I said those are from you hun...my belly ripped because it need room for you to grow in there!0
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1) It s a 7 year old child
2) They, like myself, know nothing but speaking the blunt truth when it comes to mind.
If you are offended...bust your *kitten* and make the change!0 -
1) It s a 7 year old child
2) They, like myself, know nothing but speaking the blunt truth when it comes to mind.
If you are offended...bust your *kitten* and make the change!
great. thanks.0 -
Maybe I'm strange, but it doesn't really bother me when a child tells me I am fat or asks if I'm pregnant. I just don't get upset about it, because I AM fat and I look like I could be pregnant. The child is not being mean. There's no malice there. He or she is just being a child, curious about the world.
That said... one hilariously funny and embarrassing moment in my life occurred when I buckled my nephew into his car seat. I was leaning over him. My boyfriend at the time was standing right next to the two of us. My nephew got these big eyes, put his hand on my breast, and said "WHOA. You have really big.... what are these?" I turned bright red, of course, but then simply said "they're breasts and yes I do have big ones."
Kids are kids.
Edit to add: The connection between this thread and my story is fat often = well endowed. Sorry if it wasn't obvious.0 -
yup kids tell it like it is my son when he was 4 said wow daddy you bellys like a punkin i saaid what he said it agin then said to me is it gonna grow really big like at the fair lol it was time to change eating habits0
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My niece told me that a couple years ago when she was 7, and this kid thinks the world of me and is glad to tell it to whoever will listen (usually other kids).
You have to consider intention... adults will comment on weight either to be rude or health-conscious. A kid might have the former, but they won't have the latter. If the kid isn't otherwise being rude, they're probably just curious.
I told my niece that I was working on losing weight and she asked how that worked, so I briefly explained calories, how you get them from food and burn them through exercise (and play), and if you consume more than you burn, you gain, while if you burn more than you consume, you lose. She thought that was cool. Kids will ask about anything that is different. If you explain it, they won't think of it as wrong.0 -
People young and old are mean. But who cares what they think. Your beautiful so screw em.
My Nephew called me fat not too long ago, I've had countless children call me fat all through out my life as I did alot of babysitting (maybe thats why the thought of children kinda makes me wanna vomit)
My grandma used to great me with " Oh honey your face is so pretty, why are you so fat, let your self go, too bad your so big, etc"
My mom sent me with her sister for the summer, my aunt told me I was too fat, and told everyone else we encountered - put me on a diet at 10yo of nothing but cherios for 2 weeks I lost 16 lbs, but semi traumatized
Severly bullied on the bus by my peers for my weight even though the girls who sat in front of me had 200lbs on me.
The list goes on. People are cruel and so are kids. I agree, under 3-4 they are just making observations, after that they are mean, kids are just mean, testing their boundries, teenagers and adults are jerks too.
I know the feeling when my nephew said auntie your fat and smiled (he new he was saying something wrong) I felt sick and humiliated - especially when they do it infront of other people.
Anyhow your beautiful - no ones perfect not even little kids.
Edit: I left this one out but it's the one that motivated me to lose all the weight. A family friend announced at a company Christmas party that I was the biggest person in the room and I should be ashamed, and that Im not even as pretty anymore. - that humiliation was probably the worst but also the biggest eye opener.0 -
my cousins daughter will be 3 next week and she always tells me she likes my "wiptick and eyes" (lipstick and eyemake up- she's extrememly girly) and she will always tell me that i'm "gawww--jus" (gorgeous) but one rough morning after drinking when i was about to leave the house- after i already got ready for work, she asked me "chewwsey, are you gonna put on any makeup?!" meanwhile, i had makeup on.. at that point i knew how brutal i truly did look hahaha0
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Middle-schoolers are the worst. They used to throw candy at me on the bus, expecting me to pick them off the floor and eat them because I was such a fatty.0
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This is why I hate kids.0
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Kids never told me i was fat but one time during the winter in ikea my little 7 year old cousin wanted me to get on a scale...well i did after a while and it said 150. her eyes got big and she went to her mom (my cousin) and whispered, "mommy, stephanie's 150 pounds!" i was mortified!!! but i was wearing a coat and boots and everything though!! i wanna show her my number now!!! 127 thank you very much :drinker:0
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This is why I hate kids.
Agreed. Never having any of my own.0 -
That's why spanking should be a thing (not abuse, spanking)
When I was growing up I would've got my *kitten* kicked for disrespecting someone like that (and most of my aunts were heavier women).
Kids are mean, that's understandable. But if you let them stay mean, they become mean adults and that's not better...0 -
"How old are you and Sheila?" (Sheila being the other preschool teacher I worked with)
"We're both 20 years old"
"But she's tall, and you're... FAT."
Said a 4 year old with a big grin in my preschool class. I'm 26 now and I still remember this conversation word for word, and it still stings. He knew he was being mean. Not that I think kids can't change, but I'd have a hard time not punching that kid if I saw him these days. Ouch. I lost weight after that happened, had a baby and gained back even more. I'm looking forward to being the size I was when that kid made me feel so fat.
Oh, and Sheila is shorter than me!0 -
That's horrible. Thankfully, my kids don't know about fat, thin, or anything like that. My husband and I don't talk about that kind of thing with them or in front of them.
My 2 year old son did say something about me being big, and then he started patting my butt. I'm not sure what he meant, but it did make me a little sad. It was pretty funny though.
I can't imagine how horrified I'd be if one of them did comment on someone else's weight though. I felt bad enough when my 2 and 3 1/2 year olds were commenting on a girls blue hair while we were at a restaurant recently. The girl and her family thought my kids were adorable, and my kids were just stating the fact that her hair was blue, so there was nothing to be offended about. But, it did make me think about how to handle these types of situations. They asked why she had blue hair and I just said that some people like to color their hair. So they immediately asked for blue and purple hair.0 -
Kids are far too honest sometimes, haha. I'm the chubbiest of the 5 counselors in my camp group normally, so I'm always worried a camper is going to point it out.
When I saw my cousin in March she said to me "I haven't seen you since you got skinny." This child has never said anything about my weight before, so I know it has something to do with my aunt talking about it. Haha.0 -
Little kids are honest. There have been times in stores, parks etc where a toddler has made a comment about my huge arms or me being so fat. Their parents looked mortified every time. I work with kids and when a kid ask me why I am so fat I just say because I eat to much and shrug it off. However, if the child is old enough to know better that is different.0
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I teach first graders. I love children and the elderly because they are so honest. Children accidently hurt your feelings because they don't think about how they would feel if someone said the same thing to them. The elderly on the other hand feel they have earned the right not to hold back anymore. As I read the various comments made by your niece I wondered if she might be angry with you. Perhaps you disappointed her and she has not forgiven you, so she is hurting you back. She does have to be taught not to hurt others, but if she were my niece I would reach out to her. Good luck.0
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While playing with her Mrs. Potato Head doll, my niece looked at it and then at me and said, "Auntie Susan you look just like Mrs. potato head." You are what you eat I guess, and carbs are my weakness. Still harsh to be likened to a round, dense starch. Ouch.0
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