Unsupportive Spouse

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  • marywanoKC
    marywanoKC Posts: 176
    Shoot him.

    or throat punch... killing is illegal, but from experience some men like it rough. ;) LOL
    Can I just hijack for a sec to say how beautiful you are? And that waist, girlie, whew!
  • marie_cressman
    marie_cressman Posts: 980 Member
    Shoot him.

    or throat punch... killing is illegal, but from experience some men like it rough. ;) LOL
    Can I just hijack for a sec to say how beautiful you are? And that waist, girlie, whew!

    you are too kind, but thanks for making me smile! you, my dear, are beautiful as well! i was being a total creeper on your page and you look fantastic! keep it up!
  • reisingmel
    reisingmel Posts: 50 Member
    Honestly, your health (physical and mental, one isn't more important than the other) is the most important, even over a spouse. My hubby and I don't have kids either, and you and I are the same age. When I began, he flat out told me that he's an indoors, unathletic person, and the gym is the last place he belonged. Now, granted, he took what I asked of him into consideration when it come down to buying food, but at the end of the day?

    1. You have the option to say no. ALWAYS. Ice cream is fun, but who gives a **** if it hurts his feelings because you don't eat something to placate him? Ask him to buy your flowers the next time he wants to be sweet!

    2. You don't need him to hold your hand! Set a good example for him, show him that you have the willpower, and let the unhealthy food sit in the fridge until it's covered with ice an inch thick...lol. Go to the gym when it's convenient for YOU, and then maximize your time and be efficient when you're there. There's no need to spend three hours at the gym!

    Remember what I said about my hubby? Yeah... he's now working out with me four times a week, and he's dropped two inches from his waist, lost a significant amount of stomach fat, his arms are toned, and his stamina is improving. I'm so proud of him! And he says regularly that his improvement is all due to me sticking with it. I try to be humble when he says that I was right. :laugh:

    I think this just made my chest puff up in determination, so thank you! He really does need a good example and I'm sure my starting and stopping has done nothing but prove to him that it won't work. I need to be strong and just stick to my guns and HONEST too. I truly believe that is the most important thing in a marriage and in my fear of confronting him I forgot about that. Thank you to those who reminded me :)

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