Any single girls feel like this ?

MichaelaAustin

I'm 24... with school, and moving all the time, and working towards a career, I've found single life is alot less complicated, and I'm better able to focus on me (maybe I'm selfish, but I still got alot of growing to do).

My bff is a relationship girl... and seems to always want to give up, but before you know it she's with someone new, maybe that's you? She really turns her life around for each one of these guys lol but I love her

In any case, my advice is to keep yourself busy and continue to build the life you want, so eventually you'll be able to see what guy fits into your life, not the other way around. Be the person you would want to date.

Myself, I want to continue to make my life interesting, my career successful, and all my friendships meaningful. I figure its a good place to start

Hope you feel better

FTIM2015

Also for some reason almost every guy that compliments me or flirts with me is at least 30. I don't mind older guys but when they are old enough to be my father or grandfather it's just too much.

Erm... my BF is 45... I'm 26...

All of the guys I've dated have been at least 7yrs older than me. I admit J is the biggest kid of them all, age is just a number.

MissyMissy18

Like attracts like. Make a list of qualities you're looking for. Affectionate, quick witted, confident, reliable, decisive, good humored, thoughtful, generous, etc. Work on those character traits within yourself. Don't focus so much on hunting for Mr. Right. Be Miss Right, be comfortable with yourself and pursue interests and goals. Men can smell needy a mile away. They can also detect a woman who is interesting. Everyone wants to be loved and wanted more than they are needed. We simply do not want to be responsible for another person's complete happiness and reason for living. It's too much for anyone to handle and it isn't fair to expect it from them.

well. said.

ChrisRS87

Seriously, just start using men and eventually one will try to hold you down and actually work for more of your attention. Just becareful not to turn around and smother him once he's there.

Relationship problems solved.

k900

I am 22 and i feel like giving up on guys. I have had four boyfriends only one of them was a serious relationship. I feel like i am too much for any guy to deal with because i can be moody and i want a lot of attention among other things. Also for some reason almost every guy that compliments me or flirts with me is at least 30. I don't mind older guys but when they are old enough to be my father or grandfather it's just too much. I have no idea what i am doing with guys honestly and i am starting to think i will end up alone.

Anybody else feel this way ?

So 30 is now grandparent age? You must be a dream date.

I meant I am fine with dating guys who are 30 or 35 but when they get to be 40 and up that's a bit much for me. 20 years difference is too much for me.

Using your words helps clarify things. Not that I am the PC police by any means but, there are more than a few people on this site who have large age spans b/w their significant others. I'm 36 and dating a guy who is 28. He's definitely not complaining...
LOVE is LOVE. Men are men and this is a fitness website for the most part...how has that been going lately? Are you feeling jaded b/c you aren't feeling good about yourself? 22 is awfully young for that kind of attitude.

Yeah if somebody else is with someone who is 20 years older than them and it works that's great. I have just never met a guy who was that much older than me that I liked in a romantic way. I know its not good that I feel this way but I do feel better if I am in a relationship and happy. At the same time though I won't just go out with anyone so I don't feel lonely.

loserbaby84

I feel like i am too much for any guy to deal with because i can be moody and i want a lot of attention among other things.

I have no idea what i am doing with guys

Sounds to me like you just don't know yourself yet, let alone know guys.


My advice: Date casually for the next few years until your upper 20s. Enjoy your 20s and your life. Spend the time getting to know who you are and being comfortable with yourself.

I agree! I'm 28. I spent the last 7 years in and out of a "relationship" that wasn't meant to be only because I didn't think I could do better! Give yourself time and lots of credit. Never settle! Enjoy your 20's - you have lots of time to find a guy that's perfect for you

RhonndaJ

Oh, don't be giving up on men already, there are so many more of them out there. ~smiles~

Just because the few you've known aren't ready to invest the time and energy you want, doesn't mean there aren't a lot who will.

As for why you're getting the attention of older guys? Sometimes it takes people until they're a bit older to really appreciate someone who takes some work.

NeedANewFocus

I am 22 and i feel like giving up on guys. I have had four boyfriends only one of them was a serious relationship. I feel like i am too much for any guy to deal with because i can be moody and i want a lot of attention among other things. Also for some reason almost every guy that compliments me or flirts with me is at least 30. I don't mind older guys but when they are old enough to be my father or grandfather it's just too much. I have no idea what i am doing with guys honestly and i am starting to think i will end up alone.

Anybody else feel this way ?

you're feelings are shared by many or have been experienced by others at some point in their life. i had the same thoughts about girls at one point.

so....30 is old enough to be your dad or grandpa huh. too funny....

Bentley2718

Enjoy your life, and work towards achieving things that are important to you (career, travel, whatever). Eventually you may find someone to be with (in all likelihood), but if you don't, you've still had a rich, enjoyable life.

I will say, from back in my dating days, nothing was a turn-off like someone who seemed desperate to find "the one."

swisspea

Don't stress! I was in the same situation as you, and was really frustrated by only having interested guys who were around 30! Just took me moving to a new continent at 23 to find the right man for me You're 22, it'll all be ok. Enjoy this time, and try not to let it get you down.

DonniesGirl69

I'm 39, single (again) and I'll never give up on men. I like them WAY too much.

I hear Adam Levine is single now....hmmm

Seriously, don't rush it. You're still VERY young. Take it from someone who got married young (twice). Enjoy your youth.

cohophysh

men are just the desserts, life is the main course...you don't NEED a man to be happy.

Beana21

1. 22 year old boys don't have the brain capacity yet to be involved in a serious relationship. seriously. it takes until AT LEAST 27.
2. who wants a serious relationship at 22 anyway?
3. for heaven's sake just enjoy being YOUNG AND SINGLE because it's AWESOME. go have fun and get a dog to snuggle with!

So, so true...

Enjoy life, enjoy yourself. Don't appear desperate or needy because that will scare the guys away. Just be yourself and somebody will come along for you.

isntbaconhealthy

I am 22 and i feel like giving up on guys. I have had four boyfriends only one of them was a serious relationship. I feel like i am too much for any guy to deal with because i can be moody and i want a lot of attention among other things. Also for some reason almost every guy that compliments me or flirts with me is at least 30. I don't mind older guys but when they are old enough to be my father or grandfather it's just too much. I have no idea what i am doing with guys honestly and i am starting to think i will end up alone.

Anybody else feel this way ?

you could always go for chicks - that way you can double your wardrobe too!!

cheerforsteelers

I don't even know why I'm laughing, but that is hilarious!

hahahah good laugh!

deejaycee114

you are only 22 years old! a baby in my eyes! don't give up. i didn't find "the one" until i was 29. for the moment, enjoy your life. enjoy being a single you. everything else will fall into place in due time.

MarieAnneN

Kind of but I'm not yet 100% ready to give up on guys. I'm 18, I think I can find someone before I'm 100. :P

That's the spirit.

18 & 22 is really to young to think like that!

JSheehy1965

I'm 47 now and when I look back at me at 22, I am so changed. I got married at 36 and glad I waited. I knew myself so much better, had guy friends, but no serious boyfriend. Don't give up on guys. Work on yourself and what you have to bring to a relationship. Relationships aren't 50/50 they're 100/100. If you want 100% from your other half, then you make sure you're giving 100% to the relationship too. They're hard work, and I'm still learning stuff about myself that I need to work on. But I'm glad I waited a while. (you don't have to wait until you're in your mid-30s by the way!! lol)

PantalaNagaPampa

I am 22 and i feel like giving up on guys. I have had four boyfriends only one of them was a serious relationship. I feel like i am too much for any guy to deal with because i can be moody and i want a lot of attention among other things. Also for some reason almost every guy that compliments me or flirts with me is at least 30. I don't mind older guys but when they are old enough to be my father or grandfather it's just too much. I have no idea what i am doing with guys honestly and i am starting to think i will end up alone.

Anybody else feel this way ?

So 30 is now grandparent age? You must be a dream date.

I meant I am fine with dating guys who are 30 or 35 but when they get to be 40 and up that's a bit much for me. 20 years difference is too much for me.

Using your words helps clarify things. Not that I am the PC police by any means but, there are more than a few people on this site who have large age spans b/w their significant others. I'm 36 and dating a guy who is 28. He's definitely not complaining...
LOVE is LOVE. Men are men and this is a fitness website for the most part...how has that been going lately? Are you feeling jaded b/c you aren't feeling good about yourself? 22 is awfully young for that kind of attitude.

^This^
I met my wife at a wedding, she was one of the brides maid, me a groomsmen. My wife is 13 years younger than me. She was just getting ready to turn 24 when we met, I was 37. I will be honest, I only planned to hit it and quit it, but love is love, and we fell in love with each other. Our age Diff, is nothing to us now.

goforkissy

I am 37 and just found my "one". I am glad I waited. More mature and stable to maintain a grown up relationship. He is 8 years older than me and the most wonderful man ever. Or I guess he is old enough to be my grandpa! :noway:

ShandiH

I'm pretty sure a 30-year-old isn't old enough to be your dad.

Yep, was going to comment on that math but you beat me to it. OP, don't give up . . . it takes time and patience to find the right one. And as others have said, find yourself first before you stress about finding Mr. Right. I personally didn't find myself until I was 25/26, it was soon thereafter that I met my husband.

shmiracles

I am 26, and the idea of "dying" alone is actually starting to appeal to me, and not in a depressing way. I want to get a dog.

you are awesome.

depressing things often appeal to me not in a depressing way.

tberend

men are just the desserts, life is the main course...you don't NEED a man to be happy.

Love this. Well said.

munchlaxx

~Good things come to those who wait~

AprilRenewed

I am 37 and just found my "one". I am glad I waited. More mature and stable to maintain a grown up relationship. He is 8 years older than me and the most wonderful man ever. Or I guess he is old enough to be my grandpa! :noway:

Awesome! I met my second and FINAL husband at 28. He was 35. We'd both made mistakes with our first marriages.

Don't rush it. Don't look. Live your life, and it'll work out. Believe me. When you look too hard, you end up making poor decisions and trying to make something work that just doesn't. I did that with the same *kitten* for over 8 years.

Then I finally stopped living for love or for finding and maintaining it and just lived for myself.

And I found my husband.

takingnameskickingbutt

As many have said, you are super young to be worrying about meeting Mr. Right. I would concentrate on having fun and developing your own self.

Until then, learn to please yourself ... literally.

Maude_Lewbowski

I'm 47 now and when I look back at me at 22, I am so changed. I got married at 36 and glad I waited. I knew myself so much better, had guy friends, but no serious boyfriend. Don't give up on guys. Work on yourself and what you have to bring to a relationship. Relationships aren't 50/50 they're 100/100. If you want 100% from your other half, then you make sure you're giving 100% to the relationship too. They're hard work, and I'm still learning stuff about myself that I need to work on. But I'm glad I waited a while. (you don't have to wait until you're in your mid-30s by the way!! lol)

I love this post and your attitude!

sallywilson06

Feel fortunate that you are young and not tied down to a relationship right now. You need to find yourself before you can truly give into a relationship. Take this time to improve yourself, work on you and be all that you can be for yourself. When you aren't looking the right guy will come along when you least expect it. Just don't give up on yourself.

hbrittingham

I was 23 when I started dating my now husband who was 30 at the time. 22 years later and we're still together. Don't count out the older guys, many times they are on the same maturity level as you. Actually, I'm not positive my husband has matured much in those 22 years. He still gets a kick out of the Three Stooges and fart jokes. Good thing I love him.

Sharyn913

1. 22 year old boys don't have the brain capacity yet to be involved in a serious relationship. seriously. it takes until AT LEAST 27.

Half true. My husband and I are 26 now, and it wasn't until this past year or two he actually got his crap together, so to say. We've been together seven years now.

2. who wants a serious relationship at 22 anyway?

He asked my dad if he could marry me when we were 19/20 LOL!

3. for heaven's sake just enjoy being YOUNG AND SINGLE because it's AWESOME. go have fun and get a dog to snuggle with!

i'm head over heels crazy about my beau, but I seriously miss being single sometimes. being able to go out with my girls ANYTIME.. not worrying about needing to make anyone else happy but me... there's something to be said for that!

Moral of this story, every relationship is different. Men settle down at different ages depending what their maturity level is and who they are with.