Husband is skeptical

WendyTerry420
WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
in Motivation and Support
I need this site for motivation and support. My husband thinks I won't last long and will give up, but I can't do that! I have to change my lifestyle or I will have a heart attack before I reach 60!
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  • redscylla
    redscylla Posts: 211 Member
    Prove him wrong! You can stick with it and have a healthier life!
  • Ericaaa89
    Ericaaa89 Posts: 48 Member
    You can do this! Shame on him for not being supportive! You know, there's nothing I enjoy more than proving my boyfriend wrong ;)
  • 1960HikerDude
    1960HikerDude Posts: 215 Member
    Stick with it. This is the very best gift that you can give yourself. It won't be easy. Nothing truly worthwhile is. Hang in there and make effort every day. You CAN do this.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    Use his skepticism as motivation to PROVE HIM WRONG!
  • LovingLisa2012
    LovingLisa2012 Posts: 775 Member
    when I joined I promised myself to log in for 30 days ( i had a habit of only logging for 2 - 3 days and 1 week at most)
    well yesterday was day 130 ( yes I said one hundred and thirty) :bigsmile:

    it gets easier over time .. you can do this, BUT it must be done for you and no one else or you won't stick to it (experience) :drinker:
  • rugbyphreak
    rugbyphreak Posts: 509 Member
    my boyfriend was highly skeptical, but now that i've been here for almost a year and lost 50 pounds, he's actually getting on board as well! it's great to finally have his support, but i still rely on my MFP friends for the biggest dose of encouragement. You've come to the right place!
  • carriem73
    carriem73 Posts: 333 Member
    you must not be Italian- we accomplish so many things on spite alone! All I need is for someone to tell me I can't do somthing!!!

    You can do this- prove him wrong!
  • REMagness
    REMagness Posts: 4 Member
    I was skeptical too when my wife joined. . . after she lost ten pounds, I swallowed my pride and joined.

    As the others have said, stick with it!
  • Megatoine
    Megatoine Posts: 137 Member
    Wendy - remember - no person can put boundaries around you. You are the captain of your ship and the master of your fate. KEEP ON TRUCKIN'.
  • paul7799
    paul7799 Posts: 98 Member
    Isn't it great? We wait until we marry you to show what supportive cads we can be.

    Anyway, if this was a diet you would not stick to it because they don't work. This you'll stick with because it's a lifestyle change; it'll just take time.

    Diets don't work but this sort of thing does.
  • morgansmom02
    morgansmom02 Posts: 1,131 Member
    Show him how WRONG he is!! I sent you a friend request!
  • HausfrauB
    HausfrauB Posts: 104 Member
    Look at how far you've already come!!!

    I hope I'm not being too judgmental by saying that I think he needs to stuff a sock in it and be a supportive partner!

    If he doesn't change his tune, you just remember that YOU ARE ALREADY IMPROVING! We're all on MFP for the same reason...come to us and we'll help drown out his skepticism with our optimism!!! :bigsmile:
  • SpaceMarkus
    SpaceMarkus Posts: 651
    Thank him for his support and kick him in the junk :p
  • selig0730
    selig0730 Posts: 509 Member
    Prove him wrong and use that as motivation. you can do it. if you set your mind to it and do the work you can do anything. Good Luck and hope to hear your successful story down the road
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Wendy - remember - no person can put boundaries around you. You are the captain of your ship and the master of your fate. KEEP ON TRUCKIN'.

    This!
    Take each day one at a time, ask for help when you need it, and don't give up because you go over. :flowerforyou:
  • vestarocks
    vestarocks Posts: 420 Member
    There is nothing more motivating than the desire to prove someone wrong. Let that fire you up. This is a great site and you will do this. Add friends that will hold you accountable and they will support you all the way. You've got this.
  • HausfrauB
    HausfrauB Posts: 104 Member
    Thank him for his support and kick him in the junk :p

    LOL...I'm keeping this gem of a mental image for the next time someone is a jerk to me for no reason. :D
  • Ptyson4
    Ptyson4 Posts: 57 Member
    There is a book called The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz, and they are just simple statements to keep in mind as you live your life. One of the best is this: "Don't take anything personally." His comment to you says so much more about himself and how he feels about what he can do than what it says about you.

    Your biggest barrier is your own mind. Fill it with positive, forward motion! Take every day one day at a time, a seventh of a pound at a time. You can lose .14 lb a day easy enough. Stay strong!
  • AmyLRed
    AmyLRed Posts: 856 Member
    you can do it! When i started, my husband said "I will quit smoking when you lose 30lbs" i said DEAL! Then he said "no, when you have continued for 6 months"
    Both statements because i am sure he thought i would quit. Guess what? I didnt. I am still here and he is still a smoker.

    You can do it, and MFP can help!!
  • michelle2474
    michelle2474 Posts: 10
    you must not be Italian- we accomplish so many things on spite alone! All I need is for someone to tell me I can't do something!!!

    Love it!
  • Savemyshannon
    Savemyshannon Posts: 334 Member
    So him wrong! My boyfriend was the same way when I said I was going on a diet... granted, it was the 7th time I said it in the last 7 months, but still. When he went, "oh, really, again? Another diet?" I felt obligated to do it and prove him wrong!

    He's going to have to eat his words while you're eating your vegetables :)
  • annaebs
    annaebs Posts: 5
    PROVE HIM WRONG :) !
  • 2_young_2B_old
    2_young_2B_old Posts: 90 Member
    Amen all of the above! Kick *kitten* prove him wrong and tell him to stick it.
  • MrsFolk
    MrsFolk Posts: 205
    Stick to it and prove him wrong, you can do it!!
  • MSam1205
    MSam1205 Posts: 439 Member
    sometimes spouse sabotage efforts because they are afraid of the changes that occur or are jealous! He might be afraid of how well you will do and that he may lose you!! Prove him wrong on all accounts.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    When people believe you cant do something... thats when you HAVE TO.
  • RejoicingL
    RejoicingL Posts: 95 Member
    Sorry he is not being supportive. I think mine is a bit skeptical, too. Just give him time, the way I see it is we've probably given them plenty of reasons to be skeptical with previous false starts. Hang in there!
  • jmoralesx5
    jmoralesx5 Posts: 128 Member
    As you can tell, there are many people to encourage you here. You CAN do this. My family isn't doing my diet either and they try to jokingly offer me foods they know I can't eat, but they don't doubt me so I don't know what it must feel like. Be courageous and use his negative energy as your fuel to better YOURSELF!
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    Thank you, everyone! He says this because I am A.D.D. and sometimes I start projects and get gung-ho and don't finish them. But this isn't a project. This is my life.

    I like the comment about being Italian. hahaha.... I'm not Italian but I've had Italian friends, so I know what you mean. :wink:

    I do have strong willpower though. He does *want* me to succeed. I was 135 pounds when we got married, and I got up to 263, nearly doubling in size. He is just skeptical. He thinks I will give up.

    Thanks again! This is why I love this site. I am so glad I found it!
    :happy: :flowerforyou: :heart:
  • The_New_Christina
    The_New_Christina Posts: 818 Member
    I can understand where you're coming from as well. My sisternlaw always tells me, "you're so pretty" "why don't you try harder to lose the weight?" And my hubby says..."are you going to stay on this path or are you going to do it for a bit and quit again?". UGH! I wanna prove them all wrong, hence why I'm here!

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