What's YOUR Deal-Breaker
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a) view on religion, politics and children wildly different from mine ( i can run a wide spectrum, but has caused problems in the past)
b) smoker
c) Cat owner (sorry I am allergic and I have yet to meet anyone worth the lifetime of taking shots ... I have tried)
d) people who get stabby with me.
f) people who lie about wanting to get stabby with me.0 -
kids, she's gotta love kids0
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Name-callers.
Liars.
Bad taste in music/movies.
Abusive.
Lazy.
Controlling.
*Oh and MUST love dogs. (not in the creepy dress them as people way)0 -
Born a man0
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she has to be independent, clingy is gone.0
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:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:I had a ton of deal breakers...
Most never made the cut.
1. She must be in peak condition and attractive in the face - 20% body fat
2. College educated w/advance degree - Lawyer, MBA, Doctor, CPA
3. Strong and independent - not needy or clingy
4. Wealthy - women with their own money won't be nickel and diming me
5. Family and marriage oriented....
GOT HER!:drinker:
Married - 5 kids - very happy!
Go out and get EXACTLY what you want.
Don't "settle" for anything less.
Good Luck!
Every freaking post
No need to snivel over it.
Go get what YOU want. Set your goals high; what is wrong with this?0 -
:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:I had a ton of deal breakers...
Most never made the cut.
1. She must be in peak condition and attractive in the face - 20% body fat
2. College educated w/advance degree - Lawyer, MBA, Doctor, CPA
3. Strong and independent - not needy or clingy
4. Wealthy - women with their own money won't be nickel and diming me
5. Family and marriage oriented....
GOT HER!:drinker:
Married - 5 kids - very happy!
Go out and get EXACTLY what you want.
Don't "settle" for anything less.
Good Luck!
Every freaking post
No need to snivel over it.
Go get what YOU want. Set your goals high; what is wrong with this?
Is that your wife with you in your photos?0 -
I have a very comfortable list of deal-breakers. I believe every one of them is reasonable and realistic with explanations in parenthesis.
My deal-breakers are:
reckless irresponsibility with their own health and the health of others
zealously religious/preachy (believe in anything you want, provided it does not infringe upon my freedoms, finances, and safety)
Prioritizes animals/pets over spouse/child/family (my ex seriously declared he would save the dog over me or a child. What?!)
Doesn't like or want children
Intolerance of others and their opinions (any isms and phobias which harm other people)
Lack of life goals (pick a goal and live it to the fullest. If the person truly wants to be a garbage truck triver, then be the very best you can be and be proud of it)
Unintelligent (degree education is not required, but the ability to converse with me intelligently is)
Acts like a victim
Demands for ME to change to suit the idea of a perfect woman0 -
Breath that smells like the inside of a nursing home, toe nails that could be featured in an anti-fungal infomercial.0
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It just made me sad that having faith is considered a deal break
I thought things like being an addict, physically abusive, metally abusive, a cheater, a compulsive liar were deal breakers.
Agree, and it often seems to be linked to a negative connotation here. As if ONLY people of faith or conservatives could be closed minded, arrogant, or whatever. I'm all for preferences and deal breakers - I have my own.
But I don't assume a non-religious person is worse than anyone else.. just not ideally matched for me. I don't have to lump all kinds of negative adjectives by that term to get the point across that I would like someone who is a Christian (me personally).0 -
Smoker
Ignorant
Not polite
Clingy
Makes up pet names0 -
Deal Breakers:
*Loves Auburn Football
^ yes! add that to my list. ROLL TIDE0 -
It just made me sad that having faith is considered a deal break I thought things like being an addict, physically abusive, metally abusive, a cheater, a compulsive liar were deal breakers.
Agree, and it often seems to be linked to a negative connotation here. As if ONLY people of faith or conservatives could be closed minded, arrogant, or whatever. I'm all for preferences and deal breakers - I have my own.
But I don't assume a non-religious person is worse than anyone else.. just not ideally matched for me. I don't have to lump all kinds of negative adjectives by that term to get the point across that I would like someone who is a Christian (me personally).
"Religious" is a deal breaker for me because I am not religious. It is better to know yourself and have realistic expectations. Why should I "waste" someone's time if we do not see eye to eye on something as important as religion? It's not a negative in my mind, just a fact. It is the same ideal as someone wanting a Christian partner for themselves.
*Edit to correct spelling.0 -
It just made me sad that having faith is considered a deal break I thought things like being an addict, physically abusive, metally abusive, a cheater, a compulsive liar were deal breakers.
Agree, and it often seems to be linked to a negative connotation here. As if ONLY people of faith or conservatives could be closed minded, arrogant, or whatever. I'm all for preferences and deal breakers - I have my own.
But I don't assume a non-religious person is worse than anyone else.. just not ideally matched for me. I don't have to lump all kinds of negative adjectives by that term to get the point across that I would like someone who is a Christian (me personally).
"Religious" is a deal breaker for me because I am not religious. It is better to know yourself and have realistic expectations. Why should I "waste" someone's time if we do not see eye to eye on something as important as religion? It's not a negative in my mind, just a fact. It is the same ideal as someone wanting a Christian partner for themselves.
*Edit to correct spelling.
I totally agree hun. A christian is best with a christian, a gnostic best with a gnostic and an atheist with an atheist etc. It depends on what a person wants and needs. I'm just saying that in a lot of these responses, you'd think that christians are bad people... and that makes me sad. Most people think I'm a pretty nice person, and although I don't see eye to eye with many people, I am still able to be a good friend to many types of people.
just to be clear, I totally get having a list of things that you know does and does not work with you... I just felt a little squashed that some people act like conservatives or religious people are repugnant. I guess I understand, I was just surprised I guess.0 -
When it comes to being with or dating someone - what is YOUR deal breaker - the personality trait or quirk or habit (whatever) that you just can't stand enough to stay in it?
For me:
* Listens to Country Music
* Smokers
GO!
OMG WE are twins ! Those are mine too !0 -
It just made me sad that having faith is considered a deal break I thought things like being an addict, physically abusive, metally abusive, a cheater, a compulsive liar were deal breakers.
Agree, and it often seems to be linked to a negative connotation here. As if ONLY people of faith or conservatives could be closed minded, arrogant, or whatever. I'm all for preferences and deal breakers - I have my own.
But I don't assume a non-religious person is worse than anyone else.. just not ideally matched for me. I don't have to lump all kinds of negative adjectives by that term to get the point across that I would like someone who is a Christian (me personally).
Exactly
"Religious" is a deal breaker for me because I am not religious. It is better to know yourself and have realistic expectations. Why should I "waste" someone's time if we do not see eye to eye on something as important as religion? It's not a negative in my mind, just a fact. It is the same ideal as someone wanting a Christian partner for themselves.
*Edit to correct spelling.0 -
my deal breaker was not having a good job.
before anyone gets all weird about it as being shallow, I knew well enough that in every relationship, people inevitably end up talking (a lot) about their jobs, every day (am I wrong?). I didn't want to be stuck with someone who talked about mundane silly crap, I wanted at the very least, GOOD STORIES!
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She's on parole or is wearing an electronic monitoring ankle bracelet.
HAHAHAHA.....
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Drug or alcohol addiction, anger issues, absolutely no sense of humor, no job and not looking for a job, any history of violence towards women, children or animals!!!0
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SMOKING
Burp/Fart
Those are the main ones0 -
My deal breakers:
- Propensity to lie or justify deception
- An uncharitable attitude
- Doesn't enjoy, appreciate life!
- Doesn't see/take advantage of worthy opportunities
- unable to love me for life, monogamously because he wants to/principles
- not a believer in Christ as Savior
-not able to learn from others and their own mistakes, points of view
-needs to be fairly optimistic, encouraging, loving, and enjoys good times
-inappropriate priorities for age/place in life/ or conflicts strongly with mine.
I guess that is a true list I don't know if it is complete!
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Smoker
Drugs and Alchol
Lies0 -
Abuser of any kind
Intolerant/judgemental
Addict (to anything)
Dishonest
Unhygienic
Emotionally cold/distant
Intellectually lazy
I don't care if people are any of these things, but I won't be bringing anyone with those traits home with me.
pretty much this. 0 -
1. Rednecks
2. Trying to be the perfect mate for monetary gain
3. Abusive
4. Dramatic types
5. Uneducated
6. No direction in life
7. Drug use/ alcoholism ( those in treatment for these problems, however is fine, as long as they are really committed to kicking the habit)
8. Smokers
9. Arrogance
10. Stds
11. Doesn't want or like kids
12. Shaved heads
13. Not allowing me to be independent or to better myself
14. Manipulative and / or controlling
15. Shorter than me ( I'm 5'3 so the majority of men are taller!)0 -
Jealousy is very transparent.
:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:I had a ton of deal breakers...
Most never made the cut.
1. She must be in peak condition and attractive in the face - 20% body fat
2. College educated w/advance degree - Lawyer, MBA, Doctor, CPA
3. Strong and independent - not needy or clingy
4. Wealthy - women with their own money won't be nickel and diming me
5. Family and marriage oriented....
GOT HER!:drinker:
Married - 5 kids - very happy!
Go out and get EXACTLY what you want.
Don't "settle" for anything less.
Good Luck!
Every freaking post
No need to snivel over it.
Go get what YOU want. Set your goals high; what is wrong with this?
Is that your wife with you in your photos?0 -
my deal breaker was not having a good job.
before anyone gets all weird about it as being shallow, I knew well enough that in every relationship, people inevitably end up talking (a lot) about their jobs, every day (am I wrong?). I didn't want to be stuck with someone who talked about mundane silly crap, I wanted at the very least, GOOD STORIES!
Date an ER nurse, doctor, or tech.......never a dull story from these people!0 -
If I were ever to become single again, my deal breakers are:
Sh*tsburgh Steelers fan
Ohio State Suckeyes fan
Kensucky Wildcats fan
NOT liking sports at all
Country Non-Music
Cowboy boots
Being "skinnier" than me0 -
This is a funny thread :-)
Mine would be:
Depression
Anxiety
Anger problem
Insecure
Alcoholism
Any drug addiction
Thinks silent treatment is productive
Needs constant attention/affection/admiration/affirmation
Those are my main ones :-)0 -
Lazy/Selfish0
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Nasty Teeth
Lives with Mom (without really good extenuating circumstances)
Arrogance0
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