What's YOUR Deal-Breaker
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dont work out
*****y
to much make up
age
maturity0 -
-Not a Christian (and, within the rather enormous spectrum of Christianity, we have to have a reasonably similar view of things). It covers a lot of the deal breakers in one- drugs, drinking to excess, partying, cussing, etc.
-Obsession with politics, trains, or the military. It becomes grating.
-Has a useless or easy degree/major. I need someone smart, but more than that, I need someone who applies that intelligence in the right way and works hard. We don't need to be able to discuss the frontiers of neuroscience over dinner (though that'd be fantastic, since I love brains), but he needs to be able to follow and have something he's brilliant at.
-Doesn't love Doctor Who. It's okay if I have to introduce him, as long as the love is there. I'm only kidding a little bit.0 -
Smoker, lazy, arrogance, no manners.0
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Needs his Mom's opinion before he can make a decision, needs his Mom to pick up deodorant and toothpaste for him, needs his Mom to book appointments for him....and the list goes on
Has no hobbies or friends of his own
Talks incessantly and has no regard for personal space
Insecure
Puts people down to make himself feel better
*Newly single and slightly bitter
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Smokes or drinks excessively
Sloppy
Under 5'11
Lives for money
Bad hygiene
One track minded0 -
No sense of humor
Not well educated
Lies/Cheats
Poor hygiene
Bad grammar!!!
The list goes on lol.0 -
Smoking
Lack of intelligence
No sense of humor
Inability to comprehend sarcasm
This! Besides smoking.. not that big of a deal breaker for me. But if he is religious.. that is a deal breaker for me.0 -
If I were to ever become single again (I have no intention to and neither does my husband thankfully... LOL), deal breakers would be:
abusive (physically, sexually, emotionally... been there, done that. learned my lesson the hard way)
my children. I will not be with someone who can't love my children as their own. My son is from a previous relationship. My husband loves him and claims him as his own. He doesn't introduce him as his "stepchild" ever. Most people don't realize they are not biologically related until it is said. This was a huge deal "maker" for me with my husband. I knew I wanted to be with him and I loved him, but seeing him with my son (when I finally allowed him to meet my son because I didn't want people in and out of his life) made me love him even more.0 -
My main deal breakers are stupidity and laziness.
And if a guy uses more hair products than me!0 -
Arrogance
No sense of humor
Too much make-up0 -
Arrogance
No sense of humor
Too much make-up
It makes me smile to see men who don't care for a lot of make up.
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First three are:
1. Not higher educated
2. Not professional
3. Not ready for pre-nauptials
Later ones are standard- fit, beauty etc0 -
1. full of themselves
2. Extremely obese (no im not superficial I just don't want to go out with someone who could care less about their body and taking care of themselves)
3. smoker
4. rude
5. doesn't have ANYTHING in common with me0 -
Jealousy is very transparent.
:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:I had a ton of deal breakers...
Most never made the cut.
1. She must be in peak condition and attractive in the face - 20% body fat
2. College educated w/advance degree - Lawyer, MBA, Doctor, CPA
3. Strong and independent - not needy or clingy
4. Wealthy - women with their own money won't be nickel and diming me
5. Family and marriage oriented....
GOT HER!:drinker:
Married - 5 kids - very happy!
Go out and get EXACTLY what you want.
Don't "settle" for anything less.
Good Luck!
Every freaking post
No need to snivel over it.
Go get what YOU want. Set your goals high; what is wrong with this?
Is that your wife with you in your photos?
God I do hope you're not referring to me! I only asked if that was your wife! I'm certainly not jealous of you, not in the least.0 -
Liberal
Male0 -
Dislikes kids and animals
Poor hygiene
Takes longer to get ready than I do.
Boastful
Shallow0 -
AGREED!!:noway:has male genetalia0 -
Arrogance
Poor hygiene
Not able to have fun or even laugh at themselves....I'm constantly sticking my foot in my mouth and saying stupid stuff, I laugh it off because it's who I am....I love to have fun....take me as I am or leave me....your choice!!0 -
someone that does drugs, bad teeth/bad breath if you don't clean the front porch it makes you wonder about other hygene habits.0
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I'm married...but these are some of the things I looked at as deal breakers:
Bad teeth.
Not into sports (they are a big part of my life)
Smokes
Lazy - not ambitious in any part of life.
Doesn't love God.
Doesn't value his family/doesn't want kids
My man has a beautiful smile, loves sports (we are junkies), doesn't smoke, not a lazy bone in his body, loves God, and cherishes his family, and we now have an awesome kid.0 -
Eccentricity or quirk: 1. Constantly agreeing with what everyone says instead of having an opinion 2. Wearing mismatched, weird outfits to nice or formal events on purpose 3. Wearing too much jewelry
The others are character traits or bad habits, which are different than quirks
Dishonesty
Mean nature
Overly protective
Violent
Smoking, alcoholic etc.
Ultimate dealbreaker: A man who doesn't love the Lord!!!0 -
It just made me sad that having faith is considered a deal break
I thought things like being an addict, physically abusive, metally abusive, a cheater, a compulsive liar were deal breakers.
Agree, and it often seems to be linked to a negative connotation here. As if ONLY people of faith or conservatives could be closed minded, arrogant, or whatever. I'm all for preferences and deal breakers - I have my own.
But I don't assume a non-religious person is worse than anyone else.. just not ideally matched for me. I don't have to lump all kinds of negative adjectives by that term to get the point across that I would like someone who is a Christian (me personally).
I don't think I've noticed anyone lumping those qualities. I've seen plenty of posts saying religious or non-religious with other negative qualities following. Those are simply the other qualities that they also won't accept. You're the one making the assumption that the other items on the list are somehow related to not wanting to be with a religious person. The items are unrelated as far as I can see, in both cases.
Also, I imagine for most (as it would be for me) that's a romantic relationship stipulation that doesn't apply to friends, etc. I do not think I could be married to a republican or a religious person, because their life/world views would be so drastically different than mine, and in choosing a life partner it was very important to me that I be with someone who shares my views in the broad sense (not agrees with every thought I have mind you), because it very much impacts how we live our lives. However, one of my absolute favorite people on earth (a person I consider one of my absolute closest friends) is a religious, conservative republican. We couldn't be more polar opposite (I'm a progressive liberal, democrat, and atheist), and we couldn't possibly be better friends. I love chatting with him, and debating issues and am always open minded to his views. But do I think I could be married to him? No. And I have many other friends from a wide variety of backgrounds, and with a wide variety of life views and personalities. But it's different when you're committing to spend your life with a person.
As for my others - I could not be married to a smoker, or to someone financially irresponsible (which isn't to say they have to be wealthy - just not a moron about money). I think most other things would definitely be person specific. Lot's of things you don't think you'd like suddenly become tolerable when you're in love. Luckily I already found my husband and he's perfect for me.
Edited to add: Also wouldn't be with someone who is racist or homophobic.0 -
Don't live life in an echo chamber. Enjoy the richness of personal development gained by challenges to your beliefs.
I very much like the way you worded that. And I find that's true in my day-to-day life. I enjoy having friends and family who challenge me, because with strangers it's often too easy to dismiss a person as crazy or unintelligent or some other nonsense when they have differing views. When you surround yourself with people who you know are thoughtful, intelligent and good people it makes it easier to consider the other side because it's coming from someone you already value. Doesn't mean you'll change your mind, but it often will at least make you think.
But, while I want someone who challenges me in my personal relationships, when it comes to my marriage, I very much wanted someone who shared my ideals. He challenges me for sure, makes me want to be a better person, but at the end of the day, we hold the same basic principles close and that matters to me a lot.0 -
No teeth0
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* Rude to people. Like, if we go out to eat, and they treat the waiter/waitress like crap or leave their stuff all over the table - bye bye.0
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no thanksglorys in being a redneck. (a guy told me this once)
Listens to country music
hunts
has a pitbull
Weeeeelllllll,I don't have a pitt bull. Wanna dance?0 -
Poor personal hygiene
Racist
Can't/won't cook
Laziness0 -
Smoker
Bad Teeth (as in not cared for)
Intolerance (racism, judgmental, closed minded)0 -
Abuser of any kind
Intolerant/judgemental
Addict (to anything)
Dishonest
Unhygienic
Emotionally cold/distant
Intellectually lazy
I don't care if people are any of these things, but I won't be bringing anyone with those traits home with me.
pretty much this.
*I'm adding another.. :P
Not passionate. Even if it differs from what I enjoy or believe in, it's nice to know someone else feels strongly about something. 0 -
rude behavior:interrupting
bad tipper
gossipy
arrogant
self-centered
makes asumptions
predjudiced: not tolerant of other's differences: political, religious, sexual...
oh, and racial profilng!
pretty much describes my whole family!0
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