Adult movies vs Adult novels.

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  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
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    *shrugs* I have no idea why a woman would see adult movies as a bad thing. I guess it's jealousy, she's probably worried that he thinks the actress looks better than she does? In comparison, with a book you are using more of your mind to "see" what the person looks like. For all the girlfriend knows, he could be imagining a woman that looks the spitting image of her!

    For me, as long as he's not "replacing" me with the porn, go ahead, watch it! Whatever turns you on. I sure as hell wouldn't want to stop reading adult literature just because my partner is insecure!
  • 007bondage
    007bondage Posts: 631 Member
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    My partner and I watch "medium-core" porn together maybe once a month, we both enjoy it. We have even made a few home movies too (much more fun) :embarassed:
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
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    There is nothing wrong with watching porn and I do watch porn sometimes, but there are times where Erotic SHORT stories ( no patience for novels) totally do it for me.
  • Jani2416
    Jani2416 Posts: 275 Member
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    In the words of Sarah Jessica Parker "I don't judge others. I say if you feel good with what you're doing, let your freak flag fly"
    I personally love erotic novels and have watched porn.
  • fatty_to_fitty
    fatty_to_fitty Posts: 544 Member
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    This comes up all the time.

    Your preference to voyeurism is not related to your gender or sexuality.

    Sexual expression is different for everyone.

    I think boils down to personal tastes and also insecurity.

    In answer to the question. The books and videos are one and the same. an expression of your own sexual preference or desire that does not require or revolve around your partner.
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
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    Also some of the porn that is out there is very Made for Men. Even the lesbian porns are like " Gay for Pay." I can see why some people dont want their partners watching the bleach blonde "2 legged horses" movies.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    Also some of the porn that is out there is very Made for Men. Even the lesbian porns are like " Gay for Pay." I can see why some people dont want their partners watching the bleach blonde "2 legged horses" movies.

    While I agree that most porn is made for men, same goes for dirty novels which are mostly made for females. I mean... if a women feels less about herself after watching porn, a man feels the same after reading one of those novels. Most men instantly think that whats turning you on about that story line is the success of the man or how romantic he is and everything thats non-practical. Same can be argued about porn movies too
  • BVannillie
    BVannillie Posts: 140
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    It's insecurity. I think there is a belief that men who watch porn are secretly wishing their SO was like a porn star or something, which I don't believe is true. I'm sure there are some guys who try and get their partners to try stuff they saw in porn, and I can understand why people would have a problem with that aspect of it, but I feel most guys don't watch it for that reason and only want something visually stimulating to help them along.

    As for women, well, I see lots of women talking about how they wish their husbands were more like the main character from that 50 shades of *kitten* book then I see men talking about how they wish their wives were more like porn stars.
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
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    Its the same. Manipulative women will tell you theres a reason that is valid only in their mind.

    Its the same as those "feminists" claiming that men should pay for a date... hypocracy doesn't need a valid reason

    Note: Men are manipulative too, so don't try to twist my words around


    Soooooooooo agree
  • twinmama1987
    twinmama1987 Posts: 566 Member
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    Thats ridiculous. Same thing.
  • spicypepper
    spicypepper Posts: 1,016 Member
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    It's the same. I personally find it hypocritical to say one is okay and one is not. I don't see a problem with either one. For me, I don't really care where my man gets his appetite so long as he's coming home for dinner...and the same for me!

    Exactly, you can allow one and not the other; they're almost the same (some porn is a bit more than what I'd care to watch).
  • anels449
    anels449 Posts: 3,187 Member
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    I don't see the difference other than it being in a different format.

    There's a reason why they call it Mommy porn.
  • clydethecat
    clydethecat Posts: 1,094 Member
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    i'm glad most of the women on here are for porn. since the beginning of time men have been visual while women are cerebral. neither is wrong.

    i hate when women make their men watching porn some cut against them. if he wanted a porn star he would go get one. but hes with you, so you must have something he wants.
  • matchbox_girl
    matchbox_girl Posts: 535 Member
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    I don't care either way. In fact, I have nothing against my boyfriend watching porn. Sometimes it's even kinky to watch it together ;)
  • MIchelleH2027
    MIchelleH2027 Posts: 1,239 Member
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    Ok question, my buddy and his woman are fighting over this so now im curious. I hear alot of women talk about how bad adult movies are and they wont date guys who like them, personally for me, I dont watch it but here is the thing im wondering, whats the difference in watching adult movies than reading dirty novels? Its the same thing. I know alot of you read them cause they are among the best sellers. They both create adult fantasies in your mind and can cause problems in relationships due to them being addictive and other things. Keep it clean, this is just a common question.

    You are my new favorite!!!! :drinker:
  • CaptainAmerica1970
    CaptainAmerica1970 Posts: 435
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    I don't see the difference other than it being in a different format.

    There's a reason why they call it Mommy porn.


    This, this is spot on. WTG!
  • NeedANewFocus
    NeedANewFocus Posts: 898 Member
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    Bump. Curious
  • Nfairley
    Nfairley Posts: 84
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    I used to have an issue with my SO watching porn, but now that I'm in a stable relationship (with a good deal of trust) it's alright. To each his own and all that jazz.
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
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    I don't see the difference other than it being in a different format.

    There's a reason why they call it Mommy porn.

    Well said/
  • melbaby925
    melbaby925 Posts: 613
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    I have no idea why women are against their S.O. watching porn.
    I really don't care as long as I don't get REPLACED with porn

    ^^^This. Porn isn't all that bad & keeps things interesting. I love my erotica and wouldn't let it get in the way of my relationship - I think it's something to share.

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