Unfriended for being too fat?

rompers16

I received a friend request a few days ago along with a message from the person..I'm not including the whole message, but this was part of it
They say you lose more weight if you have friends to help motivate you. I liked your post and maybe we can motivate each other. I don't have much to say to people who have to lose 100 pounds or so because I have enough of a fear of being fat so that between 20 and 25 pounds is the limit that happens to me before I start back down.

I had accepted the request and replied to her that I was one of "those" people who needed to lose close to 100 lbs and how that came about. I was nice about it and today I realize she's unfriended me...really? I guess I'm fortunate I've made it this far in life without dealing with discrimination...but from someone that also needs to lose weight? All I can say is..wow.

mirandamayhem

screw her. She obviously has her issues and anxieties, and it's probably just as well she has unfriended you so you don't have to feel judged or discriminated by her.
Some people are fattist. They don't intend to be, or think they are, but they assume that anyone overweight must be fat, lazy, bla bla bla, and they can't get past that way of thinking.

lbetancourt

mean people suck

33neenaj

Pretty shallow

Percyjs

Looks like you dodged a bullet on that one. I have a feeling that probably isn't her only character flaw. Pray for her and move on. xoxxo Percy

supahstar71

I agree. Screw her sorry *kitten*.

I'm proud to be your friend.

Jkc9059

that is ridiculous!! You can add me if you want!!

kjt2021

i am in continual disbelief of how some individuals think.........you don't need people like that in your life.

minkakross

I can kind of understand if you are just trying to lose vanity weight like your BMI is "normal" but you want to take off 15-20 pounds maybe you would have a different attitude about diet and exercise then say someone with 100 or more to lose, but I guess for me the reality is that even the person with 200 pounds to lose will be down to that last 20 someday and while that original "friend" may be long gone because they reached their goal they might have shared some little nugget of wisdome along that way that could be helpful? I don't know I'm just trying to assume the "friend" communicated poorly rather than had some malicious intent but I suppose in the end what matters is there are enough other MFP members who will send requests and who will be supportive that you probably won't remember this in a few weeks.

smilesalot1969

there are plenty of people here who will be happy to be your friend with no conditions. you dont need to subscribe to her issues

ItsMeRebekah

hmmmm well, better than being unfriended bc you suck right? lol you dont want somebody with that tude in your corner anyways! id be glad they said it so you can see true colors!

Puddles0308

The more I try to understand people and their actions, the more they confuse me.
Dont sweat it, you've got a bunch of support and friendship here.
Add me if you'd like

Jackieonappy

That is absurd. Her loss!

jennaworksout

thre are so weird people out there....screw her..you don't need a friend like that!! :drinker:

smartmom0818

I notice on MFP that there is a distinction between those who have 20lbs or less to lose, the people in between, and then the obese people who have 100lbs or more to lose. I don't really give a crap anymore. I'm on here to lose weight, plan on losing it, and if you can't support that, leave me the hell alone.

00Melyanna00

That's awful! But I agree with those who said that you dodged a bullet.

littlepinkhearts

Don't sweat it!!! You're better off without that type of "friend".

giftieetcetera

Some people just have different goals (or they suck, maybe :huh: ). There are groups you can join to get support from other people with big goals. :flowerforyou: Try the 50 or More To Loose group. A nice group of people.

tishad58

I think the loss is all hers!!

ramgi

Wow! She sounds like a "great" person. I think you're better off without her "freindship".

MamaBear57

WOW is all I can say to this...some people just are horrible. Good luck with your journey!

capnwo85

What a jerk, hopefully they relapse and binge on some Popeye's, extra spicy.

KatherineVictoria

People are awful! Don't let her bring you down at all because that is just plain ridiculous. Unfortunately we live in such a judgmental world. No one knows the story behind someone's extreme weight gain, extreme weightloss, and all the points in between. No one should be judging anyone, because sometime there is a bigger reason than just "I ate what I wanted" and "I just wanted to be skinny". You don't know the story until you ask! Ugh... that disgusts me. I'll be your friend! We are all on similar journeys, to better ourselves!

19kat55

There is no end to people's stupidity. People should be better, but they're not.

joybedford

People like that make me feel sick we have no right to judge anyone. We have no idea what has brought someone to the point that are at in their life. I recently became involved in a project for overweight pregnant women, we gave them nutritonal and exercise advice but most of all we were their to support them pregnancy and weightloss wise. I was the midwife involved in the project. The biggest thing that i took away from the project was that these women had been discriminated against their whole lifes even by healthcare professionals. The vast majority were clinically depressed, all had self esteem issues and all felt out of control with their eating and their lifes. The successes in the group were amazing we didn,t want them to lose weight whilst pregnant and they didn,t but after pregnancy they all lost on average about 14- 21 lbs. All of them were much happier with their lives and had made lasting friendships. the important factor was that they didn,t feel judged. I loved every minute of it (apart from the paper work) and love all my women so much.

Moxie42

Wooooow. I can understand wanting friends with similar goals, but to REFUSE people who are different or whose goals are different is ridiculous! People like that tend to have a "My way is the right way and the only way" attitude so I'm sure you're better off without her but I'm sorry that happened to you

Personally I like having friends with small goals, in-the-middle goals, AND large goals- we're all in different places with different perspectives, and can offer ideas based on our various experiences. If any of us were perfect and had all the right answers, we wouldn't be here.

Feel free to add me

NewChristina

:noway: Uh-- flabbergasted. I don't know what else to say. Maybe "totally ridiculous". I feel badly for her. It's probably a good thing she unfriended you.

Poorgirls_Diet

I had one delete me because i was fasting for my religion and she said that I wasn't taking this life style serious. I have more 170lbs to lose hun so feel free to add me I am here for the long haul

Reneefit135

Wow, as much support as we all need...maybe she just wanted someone with her same goals. I only unfriend if someone says something offenses or isn't supporting me. No worries, there are plenty here that will friend you. We all need support no matter how much weight we need to lose or gain.

Cathy_Daydreams

Humanity never ceases to amaze me 0.0

sazzyp1973

Their loss. They could probably have gained a lot of insight having a friend with your experience with weight loss.

Don't sweat it and move on and give you support to those who are grateful for it and who will offer it back.

All the best and well done on you achievements!