Online dating??

LonLB

I met my husband 6 years ago on a dating site! I was a little sketched about it, too, and did not admit to a lot of people how we met. I feel most of the stigma has vanished, as it is a very common way for people to connect these days! I am sorry you had some creepers, but what are the chances you'd go on 4 dates with non-creepers? most guys are;)

Yep. I just made **** up about how we met till awhile back I admitted to my best buds how we met, and they didn't give me crap for it. I don't really care (anymore). It's not like I'm married to what other people think.

kimad

Then again...I tried signing up for eharmony and after taking their hours long survey thing it told me there were no compatible matches for me!

I signed up for eharmony as a last ditch after no success on POF, they prided theirselves on only finding perfect matches for you. After the long sign up I had about 300 matches, NO different than any other site AND in my experience it was the SAME GUYS!!

I was about to give up all together and my now boyfriend (of 6 months) messaged me on POF.

anberlingasm

I met my wife three and a half years ago on Okcupid. It was free and relatively creep-free as well. We're now married and planning a baby so it worked for us.

Meeting people online is no different and no more risky than dating anywhere else. A guy in a club is just as likely to be a creep than a guy online.

lelliebugh

I MET MY BOYFRIEND ONLINE AND I AM THE LUCKIEST LADY IN THE WORLD. HE LOVES ME FOR ME. HE ACTUALLY JUST BOUGHT MY ENGAGEMENT RING BUT HAS NOT OFFICALLY POPPED THE QUESTION YET. ONLINE DATING IS MORE MAINSTREAM. YOU JUST HAVE TO BE CAREFUL BECAUSE AS WE ALL KNOW THERE ARE MANY CRAZIES OUT THERE. AS LEAST NONE OF US REPLIED TO MR HOLMES AD

DannyMussels

I once met a girl in the city from POF, and she showed up dressed as a snake.

So serious.

mcedes02

Met my hubby online in a yahoo chat room.As we talked we realize. he went to school w my childhood best friend who had moved out of state when I was 12. 8yra and 2 kids later we r still going strong. There r some real weirdos out there to lok out for. Just be careful. But then their r creeps and weirdos everywhere.

Jfrerichs

Met my hubby on line before on-line dating was really a thing. It was actually an AOL chat room. We have been married 14 years (together for almost 17).

clarisane

Nothing wrong with online dating i did it for the first time going on a year ago and meet the man of my dreams....
Still with him......Go for it.!

jcstanton

I was just curious about people's thoughts on dating websites. Do you look down on couples that say that they met online? Have you used a dating website before? How was your experience? I'm not gonna lie, I was on a dating site for a couple weeks, went on 4 dates and then deleted my profile due to my strange experiences lol. I thought I had found a half way decent guy and he took me to a sex store after dinner hahaha. Ummm....NOT OK!!! I also met a guy who was a good foot shorter than what his profile said. NOT JOKING. He was shorter than me and I'm only 5'2!!! lol The third date went ok but the next day the guy texted me LITERALLY 20 times while I was at work and since I didn't answer he emailed me AND sent me a message on facebook asking what he did wrong. NEXT lol The final guy I met up with just wanted to sit in my car and talk. SERIOUSLY? That was the point where I decided that I needed to delete my profile lol Anyway, that was just my experience with online dating. Anyone have success with it? Is it completely hopeless or do I just have bad luck?

I won't go into detail, but I didn't have a very good experience with it either. I don't think it's worth the money. The only person I met, with whom I seemed to have anything in common, lives all the way on the other side of the country. I've deleted my account on the dating site, but he and I are still friends on FB. We seem to be so compatible that I'm often sad we are so far apart. We've never met in person, though, so I have no idea what our chemistry would be like. That being said, I don't think I'll ever try online dating again.

Quasita

I've only done online dating, really, because it's REALLY hard to find tall men in this area just walking around. I'm talking my height or taller, and I'm 6'1". Going online means you can find some of those guys that are taller and want someone more compatible than the shorties the meet all the time.

I meet 3-5 people a year, from various online venues. My last serious relationship was from OK Cupid, and he was an amazing man.

I don't get weirded out though. I have a set of steps I have developed over the last 12 years that usually work out the "baddies". If a man makes it through all the stages, he's usually at least good for a fun hang out. I haven't had a BAD experience in several years now.

The #1 thing I remember is that people that are on online dating sites are usually there for a reason. Some because they are really shy... Others, because they don't want to be judged on their body... Others still because they make horrible first impressions, or are really nerdy, or any number of other things that can create hurdles when meeting in a public place as strangers.

Me, I use it for the height thing and to encourage my partners to decide my attractiveness based on the content of my character, not the content of my clothes so to speak.

becoming_a_new_me

Every single crazy-stalker-psychopath that I have ever had the displeasure of spending more than 5 minutes with, I met on a dating site. One guy that I "thought" might be okay because we clicked was the worst. First of all, when I saw him, I then knew why he always had on a hat in his pictures...he had a growth the size of a golfball sticking out of his head. I didn't want to be a vain, shallow, b!tch, so I still went out on a date. We both liked karaoke, so went to the bar where he sipped on diet coke....except for when he went to the bathroom (I thought he had an itty-bitty bladder at first). Turned out that every time he went to go tinkle, he'd swing by the bar and kick back a couple of shots....liquid courage, right? Well, unbenownst to me, I got into the car with a drunk driver who then proceeded to hit a parked car because he wasn't paying attention. I ended up in the ER with whiplash, and from the airbag a black eye and split lip and he went to jail. Took me three months and a restraining order to get rid of him because he just knew that we were "soulmates". uuuuuhhh....no buddy....we are not.

marissa4354

I was just curious about people's thoughts on dating websites. Do you look down on couples that say that they met online? Have you used a dating website before? How was your experience? I'm not gonna lie, I was on a dating site for a couple weeks, went on 4 dates and then deleted my profile due to my strange experiences lol. I thought I had found a half way decent guy and he took me to a sex store after dinner hahaha. Ummm....NOT OK!!! I also met a guy who was a good foot shorter than what his profile said. NOT JOKING. He was shorter than me and I'm only 5'2!!! lol The third date went ok but the next day the guy texted me LITERALLY 20 times while I was at work and since I didn't answer he emailed me AND sent me a message on facebook asking what he did wrong. NEXT lol The final guy I met up with just wanted to sit in my car and talk. SERIOUSLY? That was the point where I decided that I needed to delete my profile lol Anyway, that was just my experience with online dating. Anyone have success with it? Is it completely hopeless or do I just have bad luck?

I met my husband online.
Although I've been told I was lucky. He was the first person I spoke with and the only one I went out with. It was nice because we knew we were compatible based on the test we took.

Missy0224

Met my fiance (getting married in November) on Singlesnet.com almost 4 years ago. When I met him I felt like I'd known him for years.

lisag2007

Met my hubby online - had our 5 yr anniv this year. Had ALOT of icky creeps to weed through though. Like others have said....meet in a public place, don't take them back to your place for a while, talk on the phone first. I didn't always do this and it didn't always turn out great. Nuff said. Better to be overly cautious than regretful later on.

LovingLisa2012

I met my hubby online, but not on a dating site, we both had webtv (back in April 1999) . we met in a chat room,eventually started talking on the phone and letters (written and sent in the mail..lol) .. fast forward October 2, 1999 we met in person, October 3rd, he asked me to move in with him, and October 7th 1999 I moved from Louisiana to Florida ( we married April 14,2001) . I couldn't be happier ..

neither 1 was looking and when we met, it was as friends, but feelings developed, so when we met face to face, something was just there that I never felt b4 (though I have had crushes/puppy love) ...

chocolateandpb

Bump to read through this later because I'm considering giving online dating a try (again)...it's just so hard to meet single guys when every one of your friends is married and has kids! I did match.com about 8 years ago and it was just one one-night stand after the next (don't judge). Not what I'm looking for now.

I'm sold on this whole online dating thing now. I'm signing up for Match.com tonight!

How YOU doin'? :laugh:

MegdKel

I met my husband on eHarmony in March of 2010, we were married April 16th, 2011 and he has been the biggest blessing of my life - love that man! I had a couple weird experiences before him - you just have to keep your eyes open, and be cautious!

chocolateandpb

I'd imagine dating sites have to have a higher concentration of the socially awkward. If they weren't they would have had more success meeting someone day to day. Though I can also imagine those that just don't have the time to meet someone, but I believe these to be the minority, and in pictures taken from the right angles, indistinguishable from the creeps.

I disagree.

I work with a lot of people that are older than me. By decades. And I'm 31. I'm not going to meet someone at a bar, and I had no single friends with single friends of their own for me to meet.

Exactly the same situation I'm in.

PatByrne82

Met my Fiance on a dating site. Everyone around us knows that.
If someone asks where we met i tell them
I've no shame in it at all.

gemmalouise85

I met my OH on a normal chat site,
I didnt have any condifence and so i spoke to various guys never met them just liked the banter and talking really male attention etc, Then started speaking to 'Ben' and we spoke alot online anyway I was shopping in town and walked past the shop he said he worked and poked my head in to see if I could see him ( we exchanged pics) and didnt want to get caught but he seen me i went shy and walked out LOL... I got home to an email I still have saved that said 'hey I thought you said you look worse in person than your pics - unless that wasnt you you lied to me'
and yea he gavee me all my confidence - now i just need body to go with it.

sexikc

have you tried myfitnesspal.com?

LOL OMG this is sooo funny.....no one has tried to get at me like that on here so for, maybe after my weightloss or if I post more pics or something perhaps....id love to date a fitness fanatic or someone who is trying to be healthly.....

But I use online dating becasue I really dont get out much unless it is work or the gym these days.....Im actually kind of tired of it because of the creeps....so I have deleted accounts on 2 sites and just keeping it to one....I have been advised that the ones you pay for are better I just am afraid Im going to pay and still get the same bull...its like maybe I should have tried to paid ones first.....

I do understand that becasue it is free....you have to weed out a lot....the thing that helps me is that I set my standards and stick to them Im meeting less and less in person but Im in no rush....

JuneyJo

I used PlentyofFish and eHarmony and then got talked into Zoosk and OKCupid. They all have ups and downs. I met a few guys who have become good friends, a few who were just crazy and a few pervs. I got sick of not finding anyone I'd truly like to have a real relationship with and started deactivating everything.
I logged onto eHarmony to delete my account after a year (for which I paid) because I only got matched with people out of state or locals with nothing in common. I hadn't been online in a while, so there were a lot of new matches. Figuring I'd get a good chuckle, I checked them out. Lo and behold, there was an actual candidate there. He seemed too good to be true so I sent him a message, figuring nothing would come of it. He replied, we started talking, he asked me out and we've been dating for 4 months.

My advice would just be to be VERY careful with what personal information you share, especially before you meet them. I always met them somewhere well lit and crowded - there was no way they were picking me up and knowing where I lived or getting me alone in their car.

Good luck!!!

ki4yxo

I met my wife online using PIRCH, (chat room)
back in 1997. We were married in 1998, have
an 8 year old, and another due in September.

We got married on top of a swimming pool covered
in plexi-glass, by a DJ that became an ordained
minister named Omelette. I think Toast was there
as well.

14 years later, she's my rock!

sbernardy

Met my husband winter of 2010 on POF.. After our first date we were inseparable... We dated for 8 months he proposed I said YES.. 8 months later we married.. and now we have been married almost three months were still in love!

ChrisRS87

I'd imagine dating sites have to have a higher concentration of the socially awkward. If they weren't they would have had more success meeting someone day to day. Though I can also imagine those that just don't have the time to meet someone, but I believe these to be the minority, and in pictures taken from the right angles, indistinguishable from the creeps.

I disagree.

I work with a lot of people that are older than me. By decades. And I'm 31. I'm not going to meet someone at a bar, and I had no single friends with single friends of their own for me to meet.

Exactly the same situation I'm in.

Coffee shop that has free internet and plenty of seating. Place by me is like this and I spent all of my time studying there, I actually met a few girls there. Sit near a guy you like and ask his opinion on something.

Bookstore- Cliche, but if you're looking in a particular genre just ask a guy if he has any suggestions if he likes the same genre as you.

The gym - Yes, you can meet people at the gym, I respect women dedicated to getting a workout in, I may not talk to them right away, but I might eventually if they are there for themselves and no one else.

Easiest 3 places I can think of to meet someone of more substance than at a bar. Though I prefer going to the bar personally.

TheRoadDog

I was married long before the first on-line dating site popped up.

Personally, I would rather meet someone during the normal course of my day. At least I would know that our lives really did intersect at some level. But...whatever works for others is all right by me.

I do think, however, if a person looked up from their phone, while sexting, texting, tweeting and checking their on-line matchmaker messages, they might meet someone that has been right the on the periphery of their lives all along.

I'm a dinosaur.

Yieya

I have had good and bad experiences with online dating but I think it's definitely worth a try. About 10 yrs ago when I was doing the online dating, I met a few weirdo's and got a few marriage proposals from men in other countries...lol but I also met some really nice guys who were fun to hang out with but nothing serious. Then on christiancafe.com I met my husband we have been together 8 1/2 yrs and he is the love of my life :happy: He moved from VA to NJ to marry me My advice is to be careful, move slow and get to know the person regardless of where you meet them.

dlwyatt82

I have had good and bad experiences with online dating but I think it's definitely worth a try. About 10 yrs ago when I was doing the online dating, I met a few weirdo's and got a few marriage proposals from men in other countries...lol but I also met some really nice guys who were fun to hang out with but nothing serious. Then on christiancafe.com I met my husband we have been together 8 1/2 yrs and he is the love of my life :happy: He moved from VA to NJ to marry me My advice is to be careful, move slow and get to know the person regardless of where you meet them.

He moved TO New Jersey? That is some serious love, right there!

jeffwagstaff

Thumbs UP for online dating.. Peple are the same wherever you meet them.. Some lack good manners, some are broken souls, some show signs of prior relationship damage, and SOME are just who you might be looking for.

I say go for it, just let your intellect and intuition be your guide. Expect Respect, and treat potential date interests fairly and HONESTLY. Thats means use only CURRENT pictures, and be absolutely honest in writing your profile.

Guys, its your job to arrange a comfortable date experience with some thoughtful planning.. By all means, show a girl some respect and dont be so "handsy" with someone you just met. If all goes well, over time, a lady will let you know whether your affection is welcome and wanted..

Ladies, its your place to set the pace of how "familiar" you'd allow a guy to be around you. Also.. Dont be TOO Coy.. Its OKAY to initiate contact with the guy you like.. I know its a popular perception that a lady likes the guy to demonstrate his true interest in you by keeping in touch based on your "expectations".. The truth is that rarely works out! If you expect the guy to always be the one who calls, texts or writes, he may not really know where he stands with you!. Give your guy some help.. When communication is a 2 way street between honest adults, everyone feels more "wanted" and welcome..

For the Guys and the Ladies.. Dont become a "ghost", when a first date does'nt inspire you. Its smart to let your date know that you did'nt feel the chemistry.. Do it in some way thats polite and without insult..

mrsmerrithew

Oh man, I could write a book about online dating.

I have had so many good dates and so many bad dates. I have met crazies and I have been the crazy - hey it happens!!

But in the end, I would do it ALL over again. I met my husband on plentyoffish.com and after our first date we were inseparable.