Were you treated differently after losing alot of weight?

Menoetius1

For those of you that have lost a lot of weight tell me if people acted different towards you or if you noticed any other changes with yourself.

Did you get more stares?

Did you get negative or jealous reactions fromn friends/family?

Discuss

Erisad

Yes. I lost 57 pounds so far and people are nicer to me in general. Cashiers don't give me attitude as much and are more likely to go out of their way to help me. Before losing the weight, I went into Victoria's Secret and all I got were snotty attitudes and "we don't have THAT size here." Now I lost the weight, I still can't fit into their stuff but they're more willing to help me look and say, "are you sure? I'm sure you can fit into this."

Family have asked me about how I did it and how much I lost, how close I am getting to my goal. I do get the "are you sure you should be eating that? Is that on your diet?" I say, "Yup! I saved calories for it and will go to the gym tomorrow." :P

EvanKeel

I've lost 60+lbs so far and friends and family notice the difference, but I don't think I'm treated any differently by anyone (stranger or not). Well, I'll clarify. The process of losing the weight got me treated a little differently. People thought I was obsessing too much about my weight/exercise/nutrition, but I don't think I'm being treated differently after losing the weight.

Jeans are a little easier to shop for. I guess that's sort of an indirect treatment by mainstream stores in a general way.

taylor5877

all that.

I've always been somewhat overweight at least. In 2005 i went from 5'10" 280 to 5'10" 190 and about 10% bodyfat. During the next year I got up to 210 at about the same body fat %.

I absolutely got treated differently. Both male and female were more apt to stay engaged in conversations, and there's just smaller signs of people's respect/attractions.

I knew I was doing something right when I started to get hit on by men...which was a totally new experience for this sheltered youngster (was 25 at the time).

I'd sinced gained some of it back after life and my old habbits happened and it's changed back again to how I was treated before somewhat. Women still treat you differently if they see the ring though (seriously, it means I'm married, not please try to steal me), but that's for a different thread.

I'm getting close to being back to that level of fitness (and to the point where I look good clothed) and the treatment's returning.


I don't think most people realize they treat others so differently though.

bradphil87

I think most of it is because I act differently. I'm am more confident about myself and have no problem being assertive if I need to be. It's truly a mental change as well as phiscal for me. I walk a little taller, hold my head up and look like I am someone who is strong and confident!!!!

sheila569

Yes, definately.

Like a previous poster, I've always shopped at Victoria's Secret, but now the same women that were not so helpful are the ones telling me how great I look and helping me find what I'm looking for.

I go to the gym to sweat - no makeup, messy hair and soaked by the end. Guy told me yesterday that he works out at 7am every Saturday and Sunday morning just "to see the red headed goddess tear it up". If I wasn't sweaty I would have hugged him for that.

But the only negativity I get is from my cousin who's extremely overweight. I've offered countless times to take her to the gym with me when she's going off about being fat, but she never takes me up on it. Instead I get the "your starting to get too skinny" or "you know its in our family to be big after having a kid so don't expect to lose too much".

So yeah - treated differently in both negative and positive ways.

curiouskate

Lost 120 lb. I notice a huge difference in the way people treat me- especially strangers in retail. I used to feel invisible, couldn't find someone to help me to save my life. Now they fall all over themselves trying to help.

Honestly, I preferred when they ignored me.

I also got several opportunities at work I would not have otherwise gotten (public speaking mostly) and people definitely treat me differently. My job is all on the computer, so my size definitely did not affect how I performed.

I appreciate the positive changes in the way I am treated, while at the same size I'm sad that society is the way it is. Large people are still people and deserve the same respect and service as anyone else.

katkins3

I've gone from 230 to 164, but other than a few compliments, I haven't seen any change in the way people treat me.

obeserat

Last time I lost weight I also shaved my head , when I went to church people were asking if it was my first time there , I had been going 4 years and some of them knew me

cheerforsteelers

I was once in shape at a healthy weight and now I'm working to get back down to that weight. People definitely treated me differently when I was at a lower weight and also now that I'm at a higher weight. It was more positive treatment at the lower weight.

NomNomCupcakes

Not by anyone in particular but I think in general. I can remember comments people made about my weight before lol fortunately for me I separate myself from those jerks.

MrsCCWoods

I get more stares in a good way and then theres some people that say bad things like she still needs to lose more weight, but i am just happy to have went from 381 to 277 i know i have 107 more pounds to lose but i just taking my time cause i dont want a lot of saggy skin

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JoolieW68

I believe I have been treated differently, but as someone else stated, it could be because I feel a lot more confident. I've always been a very courteous person, but now it seems people go out of their way to help - especially men.

I have also had people at work (again, mostly men) who now say hello to me who in the past didn't give me the time of day. When people do that, it tells me a lot about them.

JulieRoselovesFreeze

I haven't lost "alot" of weight... but I am definately getting hit on more now :smokin:

marthathebear

Absolutely! When I am at a lower weight people are much more talkative and friendly. I hope I don't treat people like that.

gloriapiz55

Ditto! I lost 76lbs, I get more help and people are nicer towards me when I'm out shopping. I worked at a different location before I lost the weight and almost a yr out my office location was closed and I was moved to a different location. I notice the women look at every outfit I wear to the office, they look at me up and down, I get compliments.. but I know they are hating on me, well some of them. I even get private messages on facebook from friends asking for weigh loss advise.. it's sweet, I help them out by telling them how I did it and I recommend MFP all the way!

I also get, "oh be careful not to get too skinny" or "you should stop at where you are and not lose anymore".. oh well what can you do, before I was too fat and now I get told I'm too thin. I'm happy as I am at the moment and that's what counts!

dsjohndrow

I just get compliments.

SerenityGelsinger

I do find that when I lose weight (I tend to fluctuate) I do get more friendly response when I go into a clothing store. That being said perhaps I am giving off a more positive vibe when I feel better about myself.

mom2dms

Yep, I feel like I'm treated completely different. I was invisible when I went into stores..and couldn't even think of shopping at VS which I LOVE now...only now I have the opposite problem...I am too small around and the boobies are still "big" so trying to find the right support is always a challenge.

I am treated differently by my parents too...one is supportive and one is trying to be distractive, but to no avail. I also get the "you're not going to lose more are you?" or that I'm obsessed because I workout daily.

Those who need to work on their health journey also complain and say they could never do what I've done...but that's not true. The difference, however, is I've gotten to where I've committed to doing something about my weight and my health and they haven't reached that point yet. Until they do, I can talk until I'm blue in the face and it won't make a difference.

Stay on your path, and do what's best for you.

ReneeJ814

I definitely have been treated differently. One time I lost 50 pounds and people were a lot friendlier to me and suddenly wanted to hang out with me more. Also, once I started gaining the weight back, they didn't want to hang out with me as much. This was especially true with people from the church. Nobody has ever been mean to me or made fun of me for my weight; at least not to my face.

In my experience, I don't think that people treated me differently intentionally. I guess it was a subconscious thing. I think that many people assume that if you're overweight, you're lazy, and we all know that's not true.

This time around my friends and family have been very supportive. Hopefully the support continues.

LCFulmer

I've always been friendly towards people but I'm surprised that people that I didn't even know me "personally" realized I've lost weight... at work and at church. Many occassions people men and wome have come up and asked me how I did it and sought out my advice because they've seen the weight come off slow. At work some folks have called a friend of mine (who works in anoth building at least 20 min away) if I've had surgery. She assured them that I didn't and they should ask me themselves. One co-worker who is heavier use to speak to me all the time..but now she walks right by me. I still speak and smile regardless because that's just how I am. I've also notice that me shedding the pounds have encouraged other women who work directly with me to take their health more serious and almost all of us are working out and/or eating diffrently.

Jucinator

Well, I'm most definitely in the middle of my journey, but at school I'm known as "the crazy girl who doesn't eat" (which is obviously not true :-D).
Once I did a small presentation. I wore white T-shirts. I heard some guys talking afterwards that "did you see that girl? I could see her obliques, that is hardcore".

I'm from a small village where everyone knows everyone, and the old ladies commented that "don't get too skinny" and "you're very pretty now, stop losing weight". That was kinda funny.

belgerian

I think I am treated differently in general but of course some of that may be becouse I feel better about myself overall and I carry myself differently. Some women seem to take 2nd looks at me, I am happily married but still gives me a nice feeling. My sex life with my wife has definently gotten different for the good I might add due to me being more physically fit, I dont think anyone was actually rude to me not in my face anyways but yes generally speaking I am treated differently people seem to be friendlier to me. Is it right? but it is what it is.

Jeeenjohnson19

Yup definitely!
I was unemployed the whole time I was overweight, once I had lost 50 pounds I somehow managed to get a job? Not sure if I had gained confidence, or sometimes getting a job is based on looks!
I have also been "hit on"...alot! I never used to get hit on...EVER. Me and my boyfriend (who i've been with almost 6 years now, so he has seen me at my biggest and now at my smallest ) met as friends first and our relationship built from there, so he didn't even technically hit on me lol!

One negative thing is I may have lost one of my close friends, she came in to where I work a few months ago saying she'd call but never has. She didn't say anything about my weight loss when she saw me (I hadn't seen her that much while I was losing weight but we kept in contact through texting etc) but I saw a "startled" expression, and since then she hasnt bothered to even text! Deffo think a bit of jelousy? (her weight has always been very up and down)

Just my experience anyway.

TimeWillTell2

I so agree with you. Everyone should get respect and treated fairly until they demonstrate they do not deserve it.

backwoodsbama

Being a southern boy and a geek at heart combined with being heavy has always given me negative attention the last decade. I was 6'4" at 250lbs with probably no muscle weight at one point about 5 years ago. Let's just say it was very hard to attract female attention and I didn't get much respect from others either.

Now I am running at 220 lbs as of today. I also have a lot more muscle weight. However my stomach is still a bit ignorant so my pooch is till around though it is getting smaller at a snail's pace. At this point in my life, I am starting to receive a lot more feminine attention now which is still relatively new to me so I do not know how to take it sometimes. I also generally get a lot more respect from others. I attribute this to my fitness as well as the fact that being a geek at heart is starting to gain popularity with the modern world becoming so into technology.

Funny how the world works....

PepperRocks

Totally treated differently. I have never seen so many guyz drooling over me. Life has never been so rocking

MsTanya77

I lost 62lbs and I do believe you attract a different type of man after you lose weight. And yes definetly many more stares. My family was always supportive. I had friends that were jealous and it motivated them to start their own healthy lifestyle, but overall my experience has been great.

misscristie

Absolutely. I think I am just more approachable in general. People are more likely to talk to me everywhere - in line at the grocery store, pumping gas, etc. No one ever talked to me before. Now, they do all the time. It's kind of strange for me though since I got used to being ignored. I don't really know how to talk to strangers.

Brandicaloriecountess

For those of you that have lost a lot of weight tell me if people acted different towards you or if you noticed any other changes with yourself.

Did you get more stares?

Did you get negative or jealous reactions fromn friends/family?

Discuss

Yes, a lot more stares, strangers talking to me, and some men making crude comments.

I have been lucky, my friends and family are all supportive. Though now people don't understand when I say I want to lose about 5 more pounds, and make "obsessed" comments.

I have said before that this is like a social experiment BIG time. People in the general public treat me very differently and I don't always know how to react.

BlisterLamb

After I lost over 100 pounds, people quit looking through me. Men started looking AT me. Once, when I was 48, I had a kid who couldn't be more than 22 hit on me. I was chatting with him..he started the conversation, while I was waiting for my husband to bring the car around after an evening of dancing. When I got up to go, and said my husband was probably waiting, he said, "Awww..that makes me really sad. I was trying to pick you up. You tell your husband you've still got it." I kissed him on the cheek and told him he had probably had too much to drink, but thank you for making my day. Heck, I think it probably made my year!