What do you do when people keep staring?

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  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    Just smile! :smile:
  • RitaSantoss
    RitaSantoss Posts: 986 Member
    Yes! I sometimes feel violated, people have to understand when it's too much.

    oh noes!

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    better?

    Much, thank you.
  • SonoraflowerKim
    SonoraflowerKim Posts: 61
    You take it with honor and be thankful you are easy on the eyes!:love:

    I don't have before pics that show what I started at, I was around 195 pushing 200 and certainly didn't want anyone to be looking my way. Now I am breezy, slowly into the 150 mark and yes, I get the looking...not that I noticed it first off, it was my husband who brought it to my attention.

    We were walking after dinner one night and he started saying, "you are gonna have to stop this or some guys are gonna die." I was like, "wth are you talking about? Stop what?" He said, "this working out and looking in shape thing (with a laugh)." Then I started to see what he meant and I just smiled. I told him, "Well you can look at this way, at least you are with someone that looks good enough for others to look at and should be proud that you have a wife that wants to look good for you." So with anything, you can always find a positive way to handle it. I then told him, "just so we have this straight, if I have to pick between not working out and working out, well working out is gonna win, so you might want to get used to that and maybe carry a bigger stick!" lol

    People are all gonna look when you start a transformation that changes your body...I say embrace it and love every minute of it. You know they are looking because you are doing something that makes a difference in the perceived views of our society :flowerforyou:
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    Well, I went to your profile and you just stared at me without blinking for at least a minute. I am not sure what to think. Maybe I should put some clothes on.

    Yeah, that's probably a good idea... :noway:

    Do you like my tutu?
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I've found that a lot of different people (men and women) keep staring at me when I walk by. Don't know if it's good or a bad thing and sometimes I just want to turn around and tell them what the hell are they staring at.
    So what do YOU do?

    Do you maybe have toilet paper coming out of your shoe???
  • RitaSantoss
    RitaSantoss Posts: 986 Member
    I've found that a lot of different people (men and women) keep staring at me when I walk by. Don't know if it's good or a bad thing and sometimes I just want to turn around and tell them what the hell are they staring at.
    So what do YOU do?

    Do you maybe have toilet paper coming out of your shoe???

    Lol no. I made sure to check all possible awkward situations.
  • pittskaa
    pittskaa Posts: 319 Member
    i wave at people and smile. usuallythey turn bright red and look away haha
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    I don;t think they do, i think that you might be a little selfconcious

    Just remember, everyone is someone elses freak/weirdo and ignore it
  • shesapear
    shesapear Posts: 77 Member
    I smile or ignore...I don't wink because I don't anyone to think I am hitting on them esp when they are the ones being creepy!!
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    I start dancing and singing loud! They always turn away.... and sometimes run!
  • ErinBeth7
    ErinBeth7 Posts: 1,625 Member
    i ask them if they need my phone number.

    classic.
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    Give a smile, wink, and wave. That's what I do :wink:
  • yo_andi
    yo_andi Posts: 2,178 Member
    I am a statuesque woman with an athletic build. I turn heads. I know this. So I build a little swagger into every step. Work it girl!
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I think you should just start shouting at them "I told you to **** off the last time, you can **** off this time too." I hear people like that.
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    That's life so unless you're going to take to the hills like a hermit just learn not to let it effect you. There are a million reasons people could be looking at you, maybe you remind them of someone etc, best not to let it get to your head one way or the other!
  • RitaSantoss
    RitaSantoss Posts: 986 Member
    I am a statuesque woman with an athletic build. I turn heads. I know this. So I build a little swagger into every step. Work it girl!

    YOU GO GURL :happy:
  • SyntonicGarden
    SyntonicGarden Posts: 944 Member
    Smile and say "hi", or "good morning".

    This... Sometimes people stare and zone instead of staring to be creepy. Sometimes people just like looking at attractive people. Maybe you look like someone's sister. Unless someone starts following you, tries to touch you, or starts smack talking, ignore it or engage it by saying hello. That'll call attention it and hopefully make it stop.

    If you're new in your thin skin, it's possible that you're just not used to the attention. That's perfectly ok. :)

    You can take Jennieb's suggestion, put a little more swing in your step, be flattered, and go on with your day. :)
  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
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    Total Stare-er
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    I don't know what it is but before we had kids my hubby and I were stared at alot, now they still stare, they have more to look at with 3 kids in tow lol!! My eldest has now noticed the looks, he asked us "Why is everyone staring at us?" Hubby and I just laughed and said maybe we look interesting!!!
  • maspicantexfa
    maspicantexfa Posts: 73 Member
    I assume it's with approval. If I'm inclined, I'll smile at them. Otherwise I continue doing what I was doing. "Take a picture, it'll last longer" was left behind in school
  • bleacheblonde
    bleacheblonde Posts: 333
    I usually just ignore it. I'm quite tall and have a unique sense of style (see the hair color, for example), so people often stare at me, especially old people. If I feel like they are are "glaring" I glare back at them, and sometimes they get embarrassed. If I feel like it is a stare of admiration, I'll smile at them. But usually I just go on my merry way and remain confident :)
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    I smile, or wave, or crank my tunes, stand straighter and add a liiiiiitttle bit of strut to my walk.
  • MrDangerSass
    MrDangerSass Posts: 99
    You could politely suggest they take a picture and let them know it'll last longer.
  • jen_bd6
    jen_bd6 Posts: 501 Member
    I would just smile and say "hi" to them... Take it as a compliment and just move along... as long as they aren't following you.. I say it's ok...
  • Articeluvsmemphis
    Articeluvsmemphis Posts: 1,987 Member
    um, nothing. they own their eyes. be confident enough not to care.
  • Rdahl2
    Rdahl2 Posts: 90
    I notice sometimes when people stare but I usually smile and give them a nod and keep it moving.
  • Mr_Cape219
    Mr_Cape219 Posts: 1,345 Member
    Keep staring. Dont break eye contact. It shows weakness. Stare back until they cant stand it and then look away. Then smack your chest with your fist and walk away, you win.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    My boyfriend has 1 1/4 inch plugs in his ears and pretty much anywhere we go people stare. He doesn't pay attention to it but it really bothers me. I usually just stare right back at the person, though I've decided to start saying, "didn't your mother teach you that staring is rude?"
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    flip em the bird
  • rob1976
    rob1976 Posts: 1,328 Member
    I follow them...conspicuously.

    If I have somewhere I need to be, I politely turn around, get their attention, and ask them just what in the *kitten* they're staring at.

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