What are you supposed to call...

CJisinShape

Fat?

Since when did the word fat become a cuss word?

corn63

It's not a cuss word. it's something that's inflammatory and provokes emotion. For pity's sake.



You're pretty thick, lady.

rml_16

Your poor children. They don't stand a chance.

*sigh*

Aleluya17

I can't say I entirely understand OP's post, nor do I understand the comments thus far. Think i'll go back to lurking on this one.

corn63

I can't say I entirely understand OP's post, nor do I understand the comments thus far. Think i'll go back to lurking on this one.

She has another post on food rules for your child. That's where this is stemming from.

odusgolp

YOU ARE SO FAT!!!!!!












now how do you feel?

rml_16

I can't say I entirely understand OP's post, nor do I understand the comments thus far. Think i'll go back to lurking on this one.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/705137-food-rules-for-your-kids

terrappyn

Call it by it's medical name: Adipose Tissue.

drmerc

Call it by it's medical name: Adipose Tissue.

I have a glandular problem ok?

AsellusReborn

It isn't about the word you used - it's about how used it and the relationship you're helping your child form with food. If you connect your 3 year old's desire to eat with the fear of getting fat, rather than striving to be healthy, you're creating a negative association with food that will take a lot of time to undo.

Im_NotPerfect

When kids began using it as a derogatory term to hurt other kids. There are NUMEROUS synonyms you could use that are less harmful....

NoAdditives

In response to this, and your other post, teach your kids about being healthy. Leave weight and looks out of it completely.

When my kids either don't want to eat what I've cooked or are asking for snacks more than they should, I bring up being healthy. When they don't want to eat, I ask them if they want to grow up to be big and strong, and if they want to be able to do the various activities they enjoy. When they are asking for cookies, candy, marshmallows, chips, etc. I tell them that they are foods we can only eat sometimes because they aren't healthy for us. They are treats.

As far as your little one wanting peanut butter out of the jar goes, simply tell her that isn't the way we/you eat peanut butter. Tell her that it only goes in sandwiches. Don't make her feel bad about wanting foods, and don't make her feel like eating is a bad thing. As others have said, that will almost certainly guarantee that she will have issues with food later on.

MeliJean78

Fluffy

odusgolp

Juicy

AlsDonkBoxSquat

silly.

fat is connective tissue composed of adipocytes.

to talk to a 3 year old about becoming fat is promoting an eating disorder.

to talk to your family and friends about living a healthy lifestyle that includes being active and eating a balanced diet is stability.

You don't teach a 3 year old about weight, and you don't call your kids fat, and you don't get your kids paranoid about becoming fat . . . unless you want them to end up here.

Jules2Be

youre NOT supposed to warn your 3 year old they will get FAT if they eat too much PB


WE MUST ALL BE WRONG. you win.

Aleluya17

I will say this and this only. It is important to teach your children what a healthy relationship with food is. I was a fat kid, due to the diet my parents were providing, not getting enough exercise and medications to treat anxiety and depression that were started at a young age. If you read anything I say let it be this:

Your child is young now, chances are what you said will have no consequence. However My mom told me that I was fat a lot growing up. She told me that if I ate certain things I would get fat or fatter. She never meant to hurt me but it did. Making food the enemy is only going to cause trouble and low self esteem. how do i know this? I battled it for years. Until I reached adulthood that was all i could think about when I was eating is that what if it made me fatter. What if no one would love me as much if i got fatter?

My mum, who is a wonderful person just didn't know any better. Because of it i had a really negative relationship with food. What it boiled down to was my mom was very overweight for many years, and she had a really negative relationship with food. Maybe you need to check out for a second and think if you are putting your negative emotions towards food, and putting those on you daughter. Kids have enough pressure to be thin in this world, They need moms and dads to teach them that food isn't the enemy.

Sarauk2sf

Why do people always do this? - Post a topic that gets a lot of negative feeback and then post another topic complaining about the negative feedback. Do people think that it really makes the responses to the first post invalid?

KittyMarie13

I gotta agree with some of the others. You should focus on her achieving a goal of being healthy, not avoiding a punishment of "being fat". While I understand you want your child to know the consequences, you're setting up a perfect stage for a child that views overweight people as "bad". How is she going to react later on when she has an overweight classmate? How is it going to sound to other parents/kids/teachers when your daughter goes up to the overweight child at lunch and tells them to stop eating because they're fat? Or that her mommy said it's bad to be fat? Did you actually say that? No. But you've got to remember that a child's mind can take what you say a little differently.

My parents told me all the time that me wanting to go with my friends or do this or that was selfish because there were chores to be done (I lived on a farm). Now I have a really hard time saying no to people or doing anything for myself (including things important to my well being) because thinking of myself and doing things for me is selfish and that's bad. Did they ever actually say that? No. But my young mind interpreted it that way and it stuck.

beernpizza

My daughter is 3, and I would never tell her that.

pastryari

You might just want to admit defeat on this one.

Cliffslosinit

:explode:

You were WRONG in the previous thread and you are STILL WRONG!!!!
Your ignorance is amazing!!

CJisinShape

Your poor children. They don't stand a chance.

*sigh*

What's interesting about your comment is that it's not true. My mother was visiting the other day and she commented, your children are so rich in love. I've made a lot of sacrifices and took a lot of heat in order to go against culture and give my children a better chance. My harshest critics have all come around, because they see the results. God has shown me. I can't take any credit. I'm not a perfect parent, and Ive struggled like any other mother does with the huge job of training a child to become adults that will be a positive influence and positive impact on others. I believe in training children for adulthood, cuddling, not coddling. I don't insult them, but rather encourage them to do right and discipline them when they do wrong. And tell them the truth.

tismyhardbody

Your poor children. They don't stand a chance.

*sigh*

What's interesting about your comment is that it's not true. My mother was visiting the other day and she commented, your children are so rich in love. I've made a lot of sacrifices and took a lot of heat in order to go against culture and give my children a better chance. My harshest critics have all come around, because they see the results. God has shown me. I can't take any credit. I'm not a perfect parent, and Ive struggled like any other mother does with the huge job of training a child to become adults that will be a positive influence and positive impact on others. I believe in training children for adulthood, cuddling, not coddling. I don't insult them, but rather encourage them to do right and discipline them when they do wrong. And tell them the truth.

lol

corn63

You are a lost cause. Good luck to you and your children.

pkw58

You know, I remember my Grandma telling me to have an apple instead of a cookie because it would "last longer".. meaning my mid afternoon snack would last till dinner.. she always said .."Sweets burn out quicker and then you will be hungry"... I guess it was her way of not letting me eat too many sweets on non holiday days. Some one once told me it is impossible to be a perfect parent, but to try and always show a positve rather than negatives to kids.

Im_NotPerfect

Obviously you feel you're right. Fine. Great. Why do you keep posting then?? For attention? Do you really want THIS kind of attention? These days, nothing we do as parents tends to be right anymore....we're ALL ruining our children. Fine...we'll have a generation in constant therapy. When you daughter is in therapy or has an ED or ends up here because of being told she's fat, then who is she going to blame? Her parent. Bully for you.

Move on with your life....

DontStopB_Leakin

Your poor children. They don't stand a chance.

*sigh*

What's interesting about your comment is that it's not true. My mother was visiting the other day and she commented, your children are so rich in love. I've made a lot of sacrifices and took a lot of heat in order to go against culture and give my children a better chance. My harshest critics have all come around, because they see the results. God has shown me. I can't take any credit. I'm not a perfect parent, and Ive struggled like any other mother does with the huge job of training a child to become adults that will be a positive influence and positive impact on others. I believe in training children for adulthood, cuddling, not coddling. I don't insult them, but rather encourage them to do right and discipline them when they do wrong. And tell them the truth.

The fact that you feel the need to defend your parenting skills to complete strangers pretty much proves the fact that your children are effed.

TavistockToad

:explode:

You were WRONG in the previous thread and you are STILL WRONG!!!!
Your ignorance is amazing!!

But at least she's not fat!!!

CJisinShape

YOU ARE SO FAT!!!!!!












now how do you feel?

No emotional reaction in particular. I wasn't talking about using the word fat in insults - just in general. As in, too much candy will make you fat. I don't see why that would be offensive, except in the case of hypersensitivity.

jackpotclown

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