"i love you..." empty or adequate expression?

aften_g

Whenever my husband and I get really snuggly and lovey, he always says, "Gah, why can't we just be one person?"

Because then it would be *kitten* and that isn't as fun.

Hahaha! I'll tell him that next time!

Serenstar75

My guy and I do not say "I love you" but we say "I like you" or "I like you very much" and have our sweet little expressions. He is an actor, so will do this French accent where he says I love you in French, which sounds like "Shoot the door" so in time that evolved into something as simple as "door" or "windows" in texts for us. We make it unique, and avoid the overused. I've had tons of "I love yous" from people who have treated me badly or cheated on me. I'll take this over that any day.

lilRicki

for me it means everything

nikilovesaxl

I think that people toss the word 'love' around way too much. When I tell someone I love them, they know I mean it. I don't hand it out like its nothing. Love is a very serious thing to me but its not like people don't know when I like them. People can tell when I'm affectionate and whatnot.

Typhanee83

Actions do speak louder than words. That's why always choose a new fun disguise... I mean costume and follow her around.

Also I find that she really knows I mean it when I leave notes on her care that read, "I'm watching you."

True love is when she looks at you and demands you put it in her pooper.

I attest to this! But, true love or not, sometimes she just wants it in her pooper.

sds76

I'm going to have to agree with most people that have posted. My husband and I have been married almost 16 years(together 19yrs) and we say we love each other multiple times a day. But we also show it in all the little things. Like every night before I go to bed(hubby works 3rds)...he will text me and tell me goodnight and that he loves me. He checks all the doors and windows before he leaves(which shows he truly cares about my well being). I pack his lunch and grab his work clothes out and have them ready just to make his life a little easier. We still hug and kiss throughout the day and dance in the kitchen when I'm cooking. Tons more, but the little things really mean a lot. Oh and ya know how sometimes you can love someone but not really like them(I think we all have family like that somwhere)....if we have a disagreement, afterward we say we love each other and that we like each other too.

warmachinejt

I can't say that... not even to my own family

CLynch309

adini749 is absolutely right -- it's all about action.

My guy doesn't say the words "I love you," because he never has to. He "says" it every single moment by being there when I need him, giving me space when I need to do something on my own. He says it by paying attention and remembering what he's asked me. He doesn't buy gifts for the sake of spending money or giving me gifts. For example, I really don't like flowers or candy and I'm not all that big on jewelry. He learned that early on and doesn't buy me that stuff. He gets that a gift isn't about the $$ spent, it's about making the other person happy, so he listens to what I talk about and when I express preferences, or wishes or hopes or dreams - he pays attention! He's secure enough to ask for and accept help from me if he needs it. He's willing to support me, and secure enough to not be offended if I don't need it. We've had one fight in all these years and that was early on, because hadn't yet figured out how to communicate very well. Now we do. We let the little bull**** things in life go. I've never once worried about toilet seat position or clothes that don't quite make it into the hamper. He doesn't freak out if my bras are hanging up to dry somewhere he has to dodge them or move them.

You want to show you care? Pay attention. If there's something you do that you KNOW gets on his nerves, think about it and don't do it! If there's something he likes to do that you don't understand - LEARN. ASK. If there's something he HATES to do and you can do it for him, do it! When you get annoyed by something he's done, stop and think - does this REALLY matter in the long run? On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is it? Learn to let the little stuff go.

Me and my guy LIVE "I love you" eery minute of every day. And while I hope nothing ever happens to end it, if anything bad does ever happen, I can honestly say that I don't regret one minute of the last 15 years we've been together. I'm proud of who both of us are as people, both as individuals and as a couple. If that ain't love - don't know what is. :-)

MissyBenj

I think its adequate. I normally do something cute like give my boyfriends tons of kisses while saying "I love you" about a million times. Or we basically scream out I love you while holding each others face followed by a huge kiss. You can play around with it and do cutesy actions while saying I love you.

It's more problematic when all I have is the phone--we're 3000 miles apart right now stupid law school!

Are you able to send him things to let him know you're thinking of him? How often do you see each other? I think you're feeling the emptiness of the word simply because you're missing him (I'm sorry if I'm wrong) - The words, when meant, are so extremely powerful. Just remind yourself that you mean them, with every last 'fiber of you', and thats all that matters. I 100% agree that the actions behind the words speak volumes, but if you aren't able to show him how much right this second, save it for when you can be together again and make sure to remind him, with your words, how much you love him while he's away.

SouthernSweetie74

meh... dont believe in love anymore. lol

I do for others.

Just not for me.

MissyBenj

adini749 is absolutely right -- it's all about action.

My guy doesn't say the words "I love you," because he never has to. He "says" it every single moment by being there when I need him, giving me space when I need to do something on my own. He says it by paying attention and remembering what he's asked me. He doesn't buy gifts for the sake of spending money or giving me gifts. For example, I really don't like flowers or candy and I'm not all that big on jewelry. He learned that early on and doesn't buy me that stuff. He gets that a gift isn't about the $$ spent, it's about making the other person happy, so he listens to what I talk about and when I express preferences, or wishes or hopes or dreams - he pays attention! He's secure enough to ask for and accept help from me if he needs it. He's willing to support me, and secure enough to not be offended if I don't need it. We've had one fight in all these years and that was early on, because hadn't yet figured out how to communicate very well. Now we do. We let the little bull**** things in life go. I've never once worried about toilet seat position or clothes that don't quite make it into the hamper. He doesn't freak out if my bras are hanging up to dry somewhere he has to dodge them or move them.

You want to show you care? Pay attention. If there's something you do that you KNOW gets on his nerves, think about it and don't do it! If there's something he likes to do that you don't understand - LEARN. ASK. If there's something he HATES to do and you can do it for him, do it! When you get annoyed by something he's done, stop and think - does this REALLY matter in the long run? On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is it? Learn to let the little stuff go.

Me and my guy LIVE "I love you" eery minute of every day. And while I hope nothing ever happens to end it, if anything bad does ever happen, I can honestly say that I don't regret one minute of the last 15 years we've been together. I'm proud of who both of us are as people, both as individuals and as a couple. If that ain't love - don't know what is. :-)

Whew, nailed it! You put that into words very well.

HiKaren

Heres a few ideas I just looked up for you..... Maybe you could pick a different one everyday... Until you said them all...

Have fun... Hopefully this response wont take up an entire page.....

English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumem
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bengali - Ami tomake bhalobashi (pronounced: Amee toe-ma-kee bhalo-bashee)
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Catalan - T'estimo
Cherokee - Tsi ge yu i
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Chinese
Cantonese - Ngo oiy ney a
Mandarin - Wo ai ni
Comanche - U kamakutu nu
(pronounced oo----ka-ma-koo-too

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Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Cree - Kisakihitin
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Elvish - Amin mela lle (from The Lord of The Rings, by J.R.R. Tolkien)
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Frisian - Ik hald fan dy
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha Au Ia`oe
Hebrew
To female - "ani ohev otach" (said by male) "ohevet Otach" (said by female)
To male - "ani ohev otcha" (said by male) "Ohevet ot'cha" (said by female)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Ai****eru or Anata ga daisuki desu
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo or Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Luxembourgeois - Ech hun dech gaer
Macedonian - Te Sakam
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Maltese - Inhobbok
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Ndebele - Niyakutanda
Norwegian
Bokmaal - Jeg elsker deg
Nyonrsk - Eg elskar deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing 'I Love You')
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Surinam - Mi lobi joe
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai
To female - Phom rak khun
To male - Chan rak khun
Informal - Rak te
Tunisian - Ha eh bak
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese
To female - Anh ye^u em
To male - Em ye^u anh
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe
Zazi - Ezhele hezdege
Zulu - Mena tanda wena or Ngiyakuthanda Thanks Marty!
Zuni - Tom ho' ichema

LovingLisa2012

I love you little
I love you big
I love you like a little pig ..

ok maybe not good for a weightloss/fitness site
but this was taught to hubby as a child and some times we say it to each other (each saying a line, then hubby oinks at the end) its a cute lil thing we do

Dudagarcia

Depends on the person. If I say it, I mean it and it's not empty. And as long as the person I'm saying it to knows I mean it, that's all I care about.

Sweet!!

Dudagarcia

I love you little
I love you big
I love you like a little pig ..

ok maybe not good for a weightloss/fitness site
but this was taught to hubby as a child and some times we say it to each other (each saying a line, then hubby oinks at the end) its a cute lil thing we do

Love it!!

IronmanPanda

Actions do speak louder than words. That's why always choose a new fun disguise... I mean costume and follow her around.

Also I find that she really knows I mean it when I leave notes on her care that read, "I'm watching you."

True love is when she looks at you and demands you put it in her pooper.

I attest to this! But, true love or not, sometimes she just wants it in her pooper.

She always wants it in the pooper... she just doesn't know she wants it in the pooper.

Krizzo87

Depends on the person. If I say it, I mean it and it's not empty. And as long as the person I'm saying it to knows I mean it, that's all I care about.

^this

juliecat1

Actions speak louder than words.

That.

CaseyP1207

Actions speak louder than words.

True dat!

MustBeTheRows

I say it to her all the time and I mean it. I don't think words can adequately and truly express the actual emotion that I feel for her. I hope that my actions reflect the way that I feel, and I hope that I can continue to show her, because I just can't see my life being any other way.

CaseyP1207

Actions do speak louder than words. That's why always choose a new fun disguise... I mean costume and follow her around.

Also I find that she really knows I mean it when I leave notes on her care that read, "I'm watching you."

True love is when she looks at you and demands you put it in her pooper.

I attest to this! But, true love or not, sometimes she just wants it in her pooper.

You had me at pooper

karylee44

i have given up on Love..
i am in a loveless marrage.
I feel like i will never find anyone that will truly love me for me.. and not use me as a toy.


sorry.. cranky, in pain and on meds.. makes me a bit of a downer..

beach_please

I think it depends a lot on when it's said. If you say it at the end of every phone call, it seems more like a requirement or a simple habit. If you say it unexpectedly, just in the moment and without the expectation of hearing it in return, I think it seems more authentic and maybe carries more meaning.... to me anyway.

love4fitnesslove4food_wechange

I think its adequate. I normally do something cute like give my boyfriends tons of kisses while saying "I love you" about a million times. Or we basically scream out I love you while holding each others face followed by a huge kiss. You can play around with it and do cutesy actions while saying I love you.

It's more problematic when all I have is the phone--we're 3000 miles apart right now stupid law school!

Are you able to send him things to let him know you're thinking of him? How often do you see each other? I think you're feeling the emptiness of the word simply because you're missing him (I'm sorry if I'm wrong) - The words, when meant, are so extremely powerful. Just remind yourself that you mean them, with every last 'fiber of you', and thats all that matters. I 100% agree that the actions behind the words speak volumes, but if you aren't able to show him how much right this second, save it for when you can be together again and make sure to remind him, with your words, how much you love him while he's away.

kind of--i do still mean them but i miss him so much that i say it so much and i don't it to EVER lose it's meaning. ya know?

Lambeze

Ok some guys may not be wired to think like I do. If I were truly in love with someone a simple "I love you" would never do.

You have to bring in the most important thing and that is eye contact. Then it is a great idea to bring in some touch. Even if its just a light touch on her cheek before you make contact or rub your hand in her hair, unless its fixed up.

So guys don't be afraid to get close brush her hair to the side if needed or lightly touch her cheek. Look into her eyes and tell her you love her and seal it with a not so long but no to short of a kiss. Then when you release look back into her eyes before you move on so its not a hit a run. It shows that you really do love her and you are just not speaking the words.

MissyBenj

i have given up on Love..
i am in a loveless marrage.
I feel like i will never find anyone that will truly love me for me.. and not use me as a toy.


sorry.. cranky, in pain and on meds.. makes me a bit of a downer..

Remove yourself from the loveless marriage, find your happiness, and re-learn how to love yourself before you begin thinking about loving another.

_Wits_

I agree to a certain point. I say it to my friends and some family because I truly love them.

Couples and such...relationships...it can be abused...and it sucks.

sandrinamsilva

Actions speak louder than words.

This, You can tell me 1000 times you love me BUT if what you do contradicts it then it's empty.

MNchick

Ok some guys may not be wired to think like I do. If I were truly in love with someone a simple "I love you" would never do.

You have to bring in the most important thing and that is eye contact. Then it is a great idea to bring in some touch. Even if its just a light touch on her cheek before you make contact or rub your hand in her hair, unless its fixed up.

So guys don't be afraid to get close brush her hair to the side if needed or lightly touch her cheek. Look into her eyes and tell her you love her and seal it with a not so long but no to short of a kiss. Then when you release look back into her eyes before you move on so its not a hit a run. It shows that you really do love her and you are just not speaking the words.

THIS!

Typhanee83

Actions do speak louder than words. That's why always choose a new fun disguise... I mean costume and follow her around.

Also I find that she really knows I mean it when I leave notes on her care that read, "I'm watching you."

True love is when she looks at you and demands you put it in her pooper.

I attest to this! But, true love or not, sometimes she just wants it in her pooper.

She always wants it in the pooper... she just doesn't know she wants it in the pooper.

Not true. I always know I want it in the pooper.