Part of me really wants to stop getting on here...
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i'm sorry you've been treated terrible by others on here. and i agree with you that people should leave sarcasm out of their replies. but what i find is that it is easier to be sarcastic when you can hide behind your computer. trust me, if you came face to face with these people, i'm sure they would talk to you that way.
so take it all with a grain of salt. people seem to think they can be all high and mighty on here when all they're really doing is hiding behind a computer facade. just ignore it and focus on the positive aspects of MFP.
Just watch the sodium in that grain of salt
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You should try saying you have had bariatric surgery......its like you have made a pact with the devil. When you stand up for yourself in a positive manner you often make new friends!!!0
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You can block the people who are rude to you. Just remember that you are doing this for you, not ANYONE else. I believe that you should be allowed to post about anything you darn well please, but as you have seen, be prepared for those who will be *kitten*. I have witnessed some people just jump on and comment to purposely be rude. They are just trying to get you riled up. Don't let them win!0
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I just ignore those people (and those posts). This should be all about positivity - we're all here for the same reason!0
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I'm sorry you have had a bad time on here. When I joined, I was on the site for about a month before I even looked at the forum bit, then another month before I even posted. Not because people were rude, I have encountered some rudeness. People forget that everyone starts somewhere and not everyone has done it as long as they have or know much about this stuff. I am still learning. I hate seeing people get cut down or made to feel stupid because they don't know things that might seem common since to others. Not everyone is good at everything, which is why I'm sure this place is here, to get answers we need from others who may know them. I wrote a blog post once on here about some of the hateful things I've seen on here. It sickens me. I've had my share of rude people on here, and it really hasn't happen till big changes. It don't matter thought, people need to get their panties out of a twist.
Don't let the haters and rude *kitten* stop you from what you want most. Hold your head up and find some people here who are not out to cut you down or belittle you to make you feel worse then you already do if you do. I know when I joined I hated myself enough I didn't need anyone else to hate me.0 -
I think a lot of it is people or are less than patient and have been on here a long time looking at the forums who keep seeing the same questions forget what it was like to be new. So they are rude unintentionally at times. Now, some are rude intentionally as well. they shoudlnt' be rude but they are. Also, some times the newer people will question something, and if someone else explains it they may ask more questions or challenge it, and the "older pro" people get sometimes irritated by that. not sure why, but they do. my advice is just listen to people and take advice that seems good, but if they are rude, who needs them.0
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I went and looked too; there wasn't anything even approaching rude in there. I'm always a bit baffled by these "everyone here is so mean" posts because I really don't see it. Yeah, the chit-chat area is chock-full of trolling, but I rarely notice anything out of line in the actual advice sections. I'm not sure if there's just something I don't get (and it could be seeing as I have a number of issues dealing with social situations).I read through the sodium in V8 thread and I honestly can't see what was the problem with it - you asked a question (and to be honest, the way you asked it might be seen by some as aggressive), people gave their thoughts, nobody suggested you were wrong or stupid.....was there a particular post that you felt was rude?
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There are a LOT of vane, mean-spirited *kitten* on this site for sure. Just like every other part of the internet. Have you noticed?
Keyboard warriors who can be as mean as they want from the safety of their bedrooms.
But there are many, many nice people here too who are only too happy to support and encourage you.
Ignore the a-holes and listen to the good peeps.
*I sooooo wish this site had an 'ignore' button - MFP Get on it!!!*0 -
It does! Just click the little arrow next to someone's username and select "Ignore user." :drinker:*I sooooo wish this site had an 'ignore' button - MFP Get on it!!!*0 -
There are a LOT of vane, mean-spirited *kitten* on this site for sure. Just like every other part of the internet. Have you noticed?
Keyboard warriors who can be as mean as they want from the safety of their bedrooms.
But there are many, many nice people here too who are only too happy to support and encourage you.
Ignore the a-holes and listen to the good peeps.
*I sooooo wish this site had an 'ignore' button - MFP Get on it!!!*
There is an ignore feature. click the arrow under the person's name on the forum you wanna ignore and ignore them that way
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i just ignore all of the people who are rude. don't let it get to you!0
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Fill your friends list up with NICE people...and then post all your questions/topics/ etc on your own status. Works great for me! 0
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Don't let the CRAPPY peeps outweigh the support of the GOOD peeps. I struggle with this too, but once you get the really nice ones on your app, you really dont need the website much. At least that's my way of thinking.
Be Blessed,
TatorB0 -
I agree with many of the other commenters. I am very positive and love encouraging others so feel free to add me!
Just remember that it doesn't matter how sarcastic or "rude" someone else is. Don't let the opinions and BS of others hinder your journey to health! Ya gotta decide what you let bother you and what you don't. That's not only a lesson on dealing with MFP jerks, but also dealing with life.0 -
most of my not wanting to be on here is embarrassment about how I am doing w/ food/fitness, so if I was treated badly at ALL it would just be accentuated. I am looking for a way out of doing this lol...
sorry about your phone being mean too! and hope that you are able to get away from the people who are taking THEIR frustration out on you! Gee if it is about what you don't know, why don't they nicely educate you instead of talking down to you!
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Hang in there. There are people who like to make jokes (me) and then there are people who like to treat others like crap or that they are better than others. Just try to distinguish between the two and avoid the jerks.0
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It takes maturity, respect, and self respect to be fully and unselfishly supportive of others. Keep that in mind.:flowerforyou: 0
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Fill your friends list up with NICE people...and then post all your questions/topics/ etc on your own status. Works great for me!
^^THIS^^
The forums are pretty much trolls so I wouldn't expect a TON of support from there. Stick with specific groups and build your friends list. When you go on the forums look for the people who tend to be supportive and then ask to add them. I did that and have found AMAZING support!! Good luck and please don't let faceless and nameless avatars defeat your weight loss endeavors!0 -
Life in general is full of nice people and not so nice people. I used to sell vacuum cleaners door to door (12 years) and you get to see some really ugly stuff, but what I learned is that most people are really nice in some way. Pick you battles. You'll find that the less energy you waste on the ones you try to get you to bite, the easier life on the forum will be.
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Hang in there. There are people who like to make jokes (me) and then there are people who like to treat others like crap or that they are better than others. Just try to distinguish between the two and avoid the jerks.
+1
SKR you are awesome!0 -
People have a tendency to be really rude over the internet. It's the anonymity factor I think.
But I also think it's a bit passive for you to ask folks to try to change your opinion, and also a bit judgmental that you have developed an opinion about the majority of the people on here. Maybe the majority of the people who wrote on your threads, but the whole of MFP is not a bunch of rude weirdos. I know you probably didn't mean what you wrote exactly, but to judge MFP so quickly seems silly to me - it is a great site.
There are thousands upon thousands of really helpful threads - start searching in those and look for helpful folks. You may also want to try groups - there's usually less random, anonymous internet bashing in there than on the forums.0 -
From being on here a while, I would say this:
Chances are you are asking something that has been asked a million times. You might not realize it. People on here expect you to search before asking. Which is time consuming and is hard to sort through at times but, expected.
If you lurk around for a bit, you will see what I mean.
Also, some people are just mean. Often, they forget that there are people on the other end of the computer and they say things they would NEVER say in person.
Hang in there and don't let a few jerks keep you from becoming the best you can be.0 -
There is an ignore feature. click the arrow under the person's name on the forum you wanna ignore and ignore them that way
WOW.... thank you sooooo much. I had NO idea (I'm relatively new too) :drinker:0 -
Life is not fair, number one lesson in life, there are motivators and negators, the ying/yang. Take what you need and dismiss the rest. We never know what is going on in someone else's life and how they project it on to others.0
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Hang in there.....
Take it all with a grain of salt.
Some like to joke around, laugh and move on.
Some believe they wrote the book here.
These are the one's that make it fun for us that have a sense of humor.
Good luck girl!0 -
You've lost 8 pounds so that in itself means you're awesome. Don't pay attention to the trolls in the forum a) sometimes hard to convey male humor in short sentances or b) low carbing causes them to go into testosterone overload, kind of like PMS. Kind of like life, hold the nice people close and ignore the others.0
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There are jerks here, yes, but there are also some very supportive people. Sorta like real life, huh?
Just take what you can use and ignore the rest.0 -
This is why it is best to stick with MFP for your hand picked friendslist - instead of posting int he forums, post in your statuses and have all those preferred personality types that you friended- discussing your topics with you there. Its how a vast majority of MFPers use this site since the forums are clogged with so much BS.
Good luck!0 -
PS congrats on using 5 lb weights instead of 3 lbs when you did the shred!0
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I went and looked too; there wasn't anything even approaching rude in there. I'm always a bit baffled by these "everyone here is so mean" posts because I really don't see it. Yeah, the chit-chat area is chock-full of trolling, but I rarely notice anything out of line in the actual advice sections. I'm not sure if there's just something I don't get (and it could be seeing as I have a number of issues dealing with social situations).I read through the sodium in V8 thread and I honestly can't see what was the problem with it - you asked a question (and to be honest, the way you asked it might be seen by some as aggressive), people gave their thoughts, nobody suggested you were wrong or stupid.....was there a particular post that you felt was rude?
ditto!!
Agreed....also people do not want to be critisized in any way...like what restaurants they frequent. If you can't handle difference of opinions (and yes opinions include negative things sometimes) than think before posting. More often than not, no one is being rude or attacking, they just don't agree. Hard sometimes to realize the difference on the internet.
OP...keep doing what you're doing...stick to the forums that you get the most out of and realize...there are just gonna be people you don't like on here. It's ok, ignore them!0
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