What weightloss does to people

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  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    if I lose weight am I going to become like this? Yes weightloss will make you healthier and more fit but does it really make you a better person?

    No, weight loss will not make you a better person, nor will it make you a worse person. If you don't want to be slutty then keep your panties on. If you don't want to be selfish, then don't. If someone else chooses to do the opposite, realize that it is none of your business and mostly just your perception. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being selfish once in a while. In fact, one could argue that it's healthy. You and your happiness are no less important than anyone elses.
  • opuntia
    opuntia Posts: 860 Member
    I know a few people who have lost weight. A couple of them have become extremely superficial and straight up selfish and slutty.

    They might have been bullied for being overweight and now feel the need to overcompensate, and maybe to exert their new power by bullying others. When people who were bullied are in a new position where they have more power, they can sometimes become like the people who bullied them, in order to feel powerful.

    I think it's a lot about self-perception too. I mean, if someone has always despised herself for being fat, and she sees thin people as superior and fat people as inferior, then when she becomes thin, it stands to reason that she will see herself as being superior and despise the fat people. The fat people will represent her despised former self that she has tried so hard to get away from, and she needs to prove herself by showing that she is not 'one of them'. I've seen this happen a lot with unpopular people who become popular, or shy people who become talkative. But it only happens if a person really despised themselves and felt inferior - the self-hatred gets transferred onto others. if you have a healthy self-esteem, and don't despise yourself for being a certain size, then you won't change once you lose weight.
  • JenMull44
    JenMull44 Posts: 226 Member
    Chances are those people were like that on the inside before. They were too ashamed to behave in that manner.
    I have found that it doesn't change you but, it reveals you.

    This ^^ or have you ever thought that maybe...juuuuuuust maybe they're not used to getting the attention they've craved for so long and they're finally getting it? That in itself can cause someone to go absolutely wild if they're not able to handle it.

    This is true !
  • JenMull44
    JenMull44 Posts: 226 Member
    You're a little young to be this bitter already, no?

    Ha !
  • thingal12
    thingal12 Posts: 302 Member
    Chances are those people were like that on the inside before. They were too ashamed to behave in that manner.
    I have found that it doesn't change you but, it reveals you.

    ^^ THIS --- 100%
  • leetha24
    leetha24 Posts: 2 Member
    Some people do become superficial. Perhaps they like the new attention because they never received it before. If they are talking down to you there is no reason to have them in your life or share your journey. Sourround yourself with people who are encouraging, build you up, and hold you up in tough times. Be sure to check yourself and make sure you aren't being overly sensative. Maybe their comments truly are coming from a place of help.
  • Chipmaniac
    Chipmaniac Posts: 642 Member
    Some people have no self-awareness. They achieve something and don't learn the lessons that come with the experience. You can see this often in the work world when someone builds themselves up to be a success then forgets what it feels like to be on the bottom. It's not inevitable. The more success I have, the more humble I am because I realize how much luck, and in-born talent is nothing but luck if you think about it, and help from other people play into it.
  • dawten
    dawten Posts: 61 Member
    Chances are those people were like that on the inside before. They were too ashamed to behave in that manner.
    I have found that it doesn't change you but, it reveals you.

    This ^^ or have you ever thought that maybe...juuuuuuust maybe they're not used to getting the attention they've craved for so long and they're finally getting it? That in itself can cause someone to go absolutely wild if they're not able to handle it.

    Agreed
  • nursenessa1
    nursenessa1 Posts: 182 Member
    They are just learning their new status. Making choices and learning. Live and let live. You choose what to be.
  • clbowman11
    clbowman11 Posts: 117
    I know a few people who have lost weight. A couple of them have become extremely superficial and straight up selfish and slutty. These people have changed so much that I actually get a little apprehensive about losing weight. Why are people like this? I would think that weightloss would make you humble and very into helping others that were once in your shoes. Any chance one of these people get they try making me feel bad because they were once as big as me and they try to show off and say little double meaning comments about me. I just don't get it and it makes me worry, if I lose weight am I going to become like this? Yes weightloss will make you healthier and more fit but does it really make you a better person?

    Or maybe your just overly sensitive and unperceptive. Maybe, they really are trying to help you, but it comes across insulting to you because they are already skinny. Think if a larger person said these things to you and say they've already lost 100 lbs but have another 100 to lose would you feel the same? Maybe, it's not them. Maybe, it's you.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    Nowt wrong with slutty.
  • goldfinger88
    goldfinger88 Posts: 686 Member
    There is no one as self-righteous as an "ex" something. An ex-smoker is unbearable because they can no longer stand being around smoke. They become allergic to it. I know. I am one. Ex fat folks are much the same. Ex poor folks who get rich are often that way too.

    I see a number of people here who were once fat or obese and now slim and trim and even athletic. They tend to talk very authoritatively about weight loss and health and sort of look down on those still in the struggle. Not all of them are that way, however. In life, there are people you're going to like being around and many others you will detest being around. Just choose not to have those people who annoy you or who feel superior to you in your group of friends and write them off wherever you see them post.
  • justal313
    justal313 Posts: 1,375 Member
    In my experience, some stay nice, some vindictive (want to shove it back in the face of people who dismissed them when they were fat), some inspirational, some obsessive, some more confident, some more vain, etc.
    Personally I believe the majority of people between the ages of 18 to 60 do it for vanity reasons. Over 60 and it's more about health.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    I'm 42. I have a nearly year old daughter and I'm hoping to stay healthy long enough to walk her down the aisle.

    The vanity is just a bonus :happy:
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
    Yes, I agree with the sentiment that it was always within them. Maybe the fat acted as a filter for that behavior?

    I think once I get rid of my "Fat Shield" with +5 awkwardness, I'll be the same person.

    I hope my fat isn't filtering a honey boo boo child.

    This is the best thing I've read all morning. :laugh:
  • ErinBeth7
    ErinBeth7 Posts: 1,625 Member
    I have found that it doesn't change you but, it reveals you.
    Absolutely correct.
  • Xstitcher74
    Xstitcher74 Posts: 124 Member
    I know a few people who have lost weight. A couple of them have become extremely superficial and straight up selfish and slutty. These people have changed so much that I actually get a little apprehensive about losing weight. Why are people like this? I would think that weightloss would make you humble and very into helping others that were once in your shoes. Any chance one of these people get they try making me feel bad because they were once as big as me and they try to show off and say little double meaning comments about me. I just don't get it and it makes me worry, if I lose weight am I going to become like this? Yes weightloss will make you healthier and more fit but does it really make you a better person?

    I think your concern about changing into this kind of person is enough to show that you WILL NOT behave that way. :wink:
  • zombiesama
    zombiesama Posts: 755 Member
    Yes, it makes men become sluts.
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    What's wrong with being slutty?
  • mirandamayhem
    mirandamayhem Posts: 772
    What's wrong with being slutty?

    nothing so long as your on the right side of 30?
  • waldo56
    waldo56 Posts: 1,861 Member
    I would think that weightloss would make you humble and very into helping others that were once in your shoes.

    It does (the helping others part at least).

    However ex-fat people can see right through the excuses, half truths, and weaknesses of fat people. For many fat people their lives are built on them. People who haven't been fat are often lacking in this vision, because they haven't been there.

    A lot of fat people aren't ready to hear the truth. Being humble also means being an enabler of the excuses, half truths, and weaknesses that are keeping you fat. The ex-fat have learned how to be harsh and unweilding with ourselves, to not accept excuses and weakness.

    The ex fat can only show you the door. If you don't want to see the door, you certainly aren't willing to step through it.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    What's wrong with being slutty?

    nothing so long as your on the right side of 30?

    WTF??
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    Anyone know what a honey boo boo child is? I desperately need to know this now.
  • mirandamayhem
    mirandamayhem Posts: 772
    What's wrong with being slutty?

    nothing so long as your on the right side of 30?

    WTF??

    I jest!
  • newhabit
    newhabit Posts: 426 Member
    i think sometimes a person is faced with the fact that they look good and for once in their life they can show it off. maybe that is the reason for the "slutty"... the "selfish" may be just wanting to maintain looking good or wear things that flatter them... the "superficial" maybe along the same lines, happy how they look so want to focus on it... it is a mind change too and i think for some people they have the "i'll show them" attitude about how good they look. it's not always a bad thing but depends on the person. i do know a few people who have lost weight and they dont' seem that way (superficial, selfish, slutty) so i'm not sure. probably depends on one's outlook.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    What's wrong with being slutty?

    Nothing, my friend. Absolutely nothing. Consenting adults playing safe? Sounds like fun.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    What's wrong with being slutty?

    nothing so long as your on the right side of 30?

    WTF??

    I jest!

    Phew!
  • jen_bd6
    jen_bd6 Posts: 501 Member
    Chances are they were that before they lost weight... just gave them more confidence and more "personal right" to be outspoken about it... Not everyone is like that. I think everyone should have confidence, but I definitely get what you are saying (I know plenty of them) Don't let that discourage you about meeting your own goals though. If you want to lose weight, then do it. Just because they are asshats, doesn't mean you will be too... :flowerforyou:
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    When I lost a few pounds last year I was all happy and cheerful and then when I stalled I became cranky and angry all the time. :(
  • hazelovesfood
    hazelovesfood Posts: 454 Member
    I know several people like this. It is really sad to see actually. I have several clients who have lost weight and ended up in divorce court as well which to me is crazy. My husband loves me for me not for my weight.
    This is what i said on another thread, Ive saw a few people i know slit up about weight, losing it and gaining it and its a real shame, my hubby is alot heavier than when we first got together, but hes losing it very slowely, and i like watching it go away, reaveling the him underneath. But I will say the people I have watched spit up after weight loss, already had a chip on there shoulders and thought they we fabulous fat never mind slim, so it all goes hand in hand, the weight lose just makes there inner person come out more, abit like booze really. I cant stand people with chips on the shoulder and show off with big heads so nothing for me. Nice people with nice attutides are the way to go.
  • head_in_rainbows
    head_in_rainbows Posts: 290 Member
    I think it can be several things.

    They are simply happy and proud of themselves and brag about it and how they did it. It is an achievement and reason to brag a bit. I hate how people expect others to be humble when they achieve something. Loosing weight is not a reason to be humble. It is a reason to celebrate.

    Another thing, overweight and obese people tend to have low self easteam. not all but many do. They want to be liked and agree to things and try to be nice. With loosing weight they gain confidence and stop leting others push them around and others don't like it. Maybe they just finally do what they always wanted but didn't dare instead of agreeing with everybody so they like them. Ask yourself, what exactly do they do that piss you off. Maybe they are not as helpfull and supportative and go out of their way to help you but finally live their lifes.

    Third thing. You say they shoudl be supportative. I guess they already completed the journey others are on. Maybe they hear them make all the excuses they made themselves and instead of nodding "Yes loosing weight is hard. Ofcourse cheating a bit is understandable." they simply tell how the things really are, That the only way to do it is to stop complaining, stop making excuses and start getting seriosu about it. But peoiple don't like hearing this. They prefere being patted on the head and if tehy are not tehy believe they are not getting support.

    You didn't state what do they exactly do that annoy you so it is hard to say and saying "I'm afraid of becoming *kitten* when I loose weight" just sounds like an excuse.

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