What gives with the nasty comments about my weight loss?

girlykate143

one of my all-time favorite replies: Close your mouth, your ignorance is showing!

ninerbuff

Kinda ironic that some women don't want to be the "fat" one at a wedding and would rather someone else be called that.

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EricMurano

One of the many reasons I like to live with blinders on. I don't like training with people and I don't like sharing details about my weight loss strategy (any more).

People are annoying and offensive but they don't mean to be. We can't make them stop but we can choose how to take things.

I should take my own advice

firstsip

One of my best friends has actually said that same thing quite a bit... but about my sister. My weight loss is very much vanity, but my sister had been very overweight and dropped TONS of weight once she was medicated for PCOS and started actively walking. Now my friend is constantly whining about, "being the fat bridesmaid" to the point of making my sister feel bad. Plus, my friend has become very sedentary, has horrible eating habits, etc. Being so health conscious since being active on MFP, it makes me mad that she'd rather make others feel bad than try to actively change herself.

And on the "family note": family is the worst with comments. Hands down. No one can make you feel bad like a mother or sister commenting on your body

jenluvsushi

My sister said to me just the other day, "You need to lose more weight if you want to be in my wedding."

I'm assuming this is a wedding where you are expected to flip the bill by buying your dress, shoes, accesories, pay to have hair/makeup, etc. I would save myself a few hundred bucks and tell her to kiss my fat *kitten*. What a b!tch she is to say that to you. She should have never asked you to be in her wedding if she cared about your appearance. I would not even attend her wedding much less be in it at this point.....but that's just me. Sorry she is such a brat!

Vx3_

I have one friend who has always been very heavy--she's 5'1'' and weighs 280. I'm 5'3'' and weigh 145. I still want to lose another 10 pounds or so, but I'm happy with the way I look and get a lot of compliments.

Three times since I have lost weight, she has pinched my stomach and says "you still have to get rid of this!!". (there really isn't even THAT much to pinch; my figure is hourglass and I don't typically gain weight there..). Usually I ignore her, but the last time she said it was at a party last week in front of about 10 of our friends. This time after she did it , instead of ignoring her I grabbed her SIZABLE stomach and said "what about this, what are you going to do about ALLLLL this?" and embarassed the crap out of her. Sorry, but she deserved it. Don't belittle me so that you can feel better about yourself.

(the sad part is--she's getting married in December and I am a bridesmaid. two out of the four of us in her bridal party have gained so much weight that there dresses don't even fit anymore--and no, I'm not kidding.)

I'm sorry but good for her, she had it coming. She should've kept that as a private joke. I would never do such thing to my friend in front of a crowd, even if I know them.

marycmeadows

haters.

and those are just plain rude people.... I wouldn't want to be in the wedding of someone who would say something like that to me.

BrazenHarpy

I have one friend who has always been very heavy--she's 5'1'' and weighs 280. I'm 5'3'' and weigh 145. I still want to lose another 10 pounds or so, but I'm happy with the way I look and get a lot of compliments.

Three times since I have lost weight, she has pinched my stomach and says "you still have to get rid of this!!". (there really isn't even THAT much to pinch; my figure is hourglass and I don't typically gain weight there..). Usually I ignore her, but the last time she said it was at a party last week in front of about 10 of our friends. This time after she did it , instead of ignoring her I grabbed her SIZABLE stomach and said "what about this, what are you going to do about ALLLLL this?" and embarassed the crap out of her. Sorry, but she deserved it. Don't belittle me so that you can feel better about yourself.

(the sad part is--she's getting married in December and I am a bridesmaid. two out of the four of us in her bridal party have gained so much weight that there dresses don't even fit anymore--and no, I'm not kidding.)

My mom used to grab my stomach like that when I was a teenager if she caught me snacking in the kitchen. It didn't stop until I moved out of the house several years later.

So maybe I'm biased, but if a friend EVER did that to me, in public or private, there would be no public humiliation or turning of tables. I would tell that person that it is NEVER okay to touch me like that, ever. And then the friendship would probably end.

Nukkers

You are a much better person than me! I have a mouth on me. And as for the wedding thing, I was recently kicked out of a wedding because I wouldn't have the money to buy it for another 4 days. She got real ugly with me over it and regardless we aren't frienda anymore. I honestly count myself as way better off!

likemeinvisible

People don't know that it hurts. I used to make comments like that in humor until someone told me how hurtful that is. I simply had no idea. Just tell them being called fat hurts, even when in jest.

MisterGoodBar

Well, your sister just sounds like a bridezilla.

As for your friend, she obviously thinks you're looking good and losing weight. Let her use your weight loss as motivation for her own. Why is it a bad thing? You can do it together.

this seems spot on

Wreak_Havoc

I usually come back with my favorite.... I may be fat, but you're ugly and NO diet will help that....

Trechechus

We call those people "haters."

Smack them from here to Mars. Curiosity needs some company.

Some people just suck. You are doing whats right by you and that is what matters. It's hard, but NEVER let them bring you down. You are strong! Strong enough to get where you want because you want it and smart enough to do it in a healthy manner.

Trechechus

I usully come back with my favorite.... I may be fat, but you're stupid and NO diet will help that....

I edited it.

FlamingJune67

I don't think either of these people were trying to be rude or bridezilla. We have no way of knowing the tone of voice, but I imagine the sister was just acknowledging your weight loss and trying to be funny - the same with the friend. the problem is that both of these comments were rather backhanded compliments. Kind of: "Wow, you used to be so fat!" I've experienced a bit of this myself (like my dad telling me after I lost 35 lbs. that he was so glad he could be proud of me now.) But I've just learned to take the intended compliment and throw out the unintended rudeness. Sometimes people who love you DO say stupid things

Wreak_Havoc

I usually come back with my favorite.... I may be fat, but you're stupid and NO diet will help that....

I edited it.

I like the edit!

Katahna

Haha, someone at work said "Wow so to lose that much weight did you pretty much starve yourself? doesn't sound healthy to me." So I replied, "Well, no, but with how fat you're going to be with eating all that crap, perhaps you might need to"

It felt gooooooood =]

SassyCalyGirl

kick em in the shins-hard

Katahna

kick em in the shins-hard

I love you.

Shin kicks are boss.

DisneyAddictRW

My mother in law (she's over weight herself apx 5'3" and weighs 290lbs) told my hubby last week he's getting fat. He's working on it (5'10" weighs 238lbs) but also runs marathons. He was really hurt by her comment.