who is the oldest here to give birth?

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  • LadonnaFunk
    LadonnaFunk Posts: 15 Member
    I had my first at 30, second at 32, and am planning another for 34 or 35. I always said I wanted three, and wanted to be done by 35.
  • lbrown
    lbrown Posts: 14 Member
    We adopted our first child when I was 29, our second child when I was 35 and then SURPRISE---I gave birth to my 3rd child just before I turned 39 (was referred to as advanced maternal age at every appointment-ugh!). They are all miracles!
  • krnlcsf
    krnlcsf Posts: 310
    This is far more personal than I usually like to get on a public forum, but I have to interject my words of advice on this one. For all of you young ladies out there in your late 20s/early 30s who think you have plenty of time to have a child later, please consider the possibility that it may not be as easy for you to conceive as you think. Statistically, chances of conception begin to decrease after the age of 24.

    I thought I had all of the time in the world to do what I wanted and start a family later. I married at 33 (husband was 38), we decided to stop trying NOT to get pregnant at 34, and then actively started trying 2 years later. At 39 we began seeing a fertility specialist. I am 40 and still do not have any children. Possibilities are pretty bleak at this point.

    I just feel the need to impress this upon younger people who, like me, feel like they will be able to control their future and make things happen when they want. It's not always that easy. I have several friends in my same situation who would probably like to tell you the same thing.

    I keep trying to tell my bf this... "i'm not getting any younger!" but he does not budge. i'm almost 31, and would like to enjoy the kids instead of feeling wrecked from the sleep deprivation (as someone else pointed out is much worse as you get older). but the best I can do is wait until he feels ready... i would never break up with him over this because really, do i want to start over with someone else at this age and have to do all that dating and crap again!? heck no! so i wait... ever so impatiently!
  • majordlite
    majordlite Posts: 266 Member
    Anyone who gives birth over age 50 is selfish and doesnt care that they wont be in their childs life after they are in thier late 20s

    Seriously, why are you even trolling on this thread? I imagine any person who has loving parents up to ANY age will be happy and grateful to them for being selfless enough to have and raise them. Who's to know when a parent is going to leave one's life...you, Omniscient One?

    Why don't you crawl back under the rock you oozed out from under and spout your nonsense to the slugs you meet there?
  • jennaworksout
    jennaworksout Posts: 1,739 Member
    Anyone who gives birth over age 50 is selfish and doesnt care that they wont be in their childs life after they are in thier late 20s

    Seriously, why are you even trolling on this thread? I imagine any person who has loving parents up to ANY age will be happy and grateful to them for being selfless enough to have and raise them. Who's to know when a parent is going to leave one's life...you, Omniscient One?

    Why don't you crawl back under the rock you oozed out from under and spout your nonsense to the slugs you meet there?

    WELL SAID ^^^
  • jnite
    jnite Posts: 108 Member
    I'm 35 now and still unsure if i want any, but definately if we have any I want them before 40, good to know there is time still...
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    None of us are guaranteed to make it to our children's graduations, sadly. My best friend's children won't have their mother in their 20s, even though she started fairly young. :cry:
    And if I do get to see all my children graduate, my goal is to be full of energy and vibrant, no matter my age. That's why I'm here taking care of my health NOW.
    Edited to add...just look at Ernestine Shephard! :drinker:
  • harleydall76
    harleydall76 Posts: 586 Member
    None of us are guaranteed to make it to our children's graduations, sadly. My best friend's children won't have their mother in their 20s, even though she started fairly young. :cry:
    And if I do get to see all my children graduate, my goal is to be full of energy and vibrant, no matter my age. That's why I'm here taking care of my health NOW.
    Edited to add...just look at Ernestine Shephard! :drinker:

    This is very true.

    My father's cousin passed away in her 40's, leaving behind a teen and 7 y/o. Two of my friend's (sisters) lost their monther when they were in high school.

    One of the big reasons I don't want to start a family in my 40's+ is because I don't wanna be paying for college, or worrying about it, at a time that I should be thinking of retirement.
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member

    One of the big reasons I don't want to start a family in my 40's+ is because I don't wanna be paying for college, or worrying about it, at a time that I should be thinking of retirement.
    I paid for my own college. And it didn't kill me. :wink: I've told my children starting early that if they want to go to college, they are going to have to take their grades very seriously, look for scholarship opportunities, and save their money. If they don't have the brains or the gumption to work hard for it, then they don't deserve a free ride from me!
    (If I see them working hard for it, I'll do all I can to help.)

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