Single... FOREVER

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  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    I think I just found all the redditors

    woah bro.

    I come on here to stay off of reddit at work. don't you bring that blackhole of everything I want to do besides work here. DON'T YOU DO IT
  • I feel that way sometimes too.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    so how many redditors added each other because of this thread or were too socially awkward to?

    also, there's a reddit group.
  • I think I just found all the redditors

    woah bro.

    I come on here to stay off of reddit at work. don't you bring that blackhole of everything I want to do besides work here. DON'T YOU DO IT

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  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Been single....4 times. I'm too much man for one woman.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    I've come to the realization that I'm going to be single forever. I've been married and engaged (not to the same person) but no one ever matches up to my awesomeness...

    Any others that will be "forever alone?"

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    Sucks being perfect doesn't it.

    *pout* It really does
  • Brandicaloriecountess
    Brandicaloriecountess Posts: 2,126 Member
    Pretty sure I will be. I don't think I'm meant for "forever". And I am okay with people coming into your life, fulfilling their purpose and moving one. (I say as I am taping together pieces of my broken heart).
  • adorability
    adorability Posts: 49 Member
    I'm kind of the opposite...it's like, put a baby in me or leave me alone hahaha

    ur adorable

    I didn't join MFP to be cute, I came to GET HOT! :D
    Thanks, though
  • harleydall76
    harleydall76 Posts: 586 Member
    I can handle being single, as in not married.

    But being alone, and not having anyone at all, THAT is what makes me sad.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    Found both my husbands when I wasn't looking for anything long term. Worked for me. 30 years married this week-for the last time.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
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  • vytamindi
    vytamindi Posts: 845 Member
    Anyone know if Sh!tty_watercolour is on MFP?
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    Why don't you ask him?
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    I have a *lot* of single friends..and I'm around their single friends a lot as well.
    Here is a list of why they are still single. The 1st 5 apply to ALL of them!

    They're looking in the wrong place to meet potential dates
    Their requirements of a date is completely unrealistic
    Their communication dating skills are poorly lacking. from the end of not able to talk much, to being an alpha conversationalist.
    They're looking TOO hard/ not hard enough.
    They go out with the wrong crowd and diminishes their chances of meeting other people.
    women, you go with 1 friend or more than 2 friends, you are killing your chances! 3 is the lady's night out magical number.
    Men! same with you! but you can get away with 4- 6 AND! Be careful who you are with. You don't want to hang with the chick who loudly condemns men. (or women) or are, in general negative people.

    They are egotistical, and brag about how AWESOME they are ALL. THE. TIME.
    The have a very low self-esteem and always beating up on themselves.
    They can't stfu about politics, religion and OS's when out with friends (You don't want this friend with you when you're out with the goal of meeting potential dates) EVER. or the older guy who obnoxiously/blatantly and obnoxiously flirts with every female who has a heart beat. even their 22 yr old waitress.
    They try a dating website and quit out after the second bad date.
    They don't try groups for single people to meet, such as meet-up. where they have parties/events for single people. From bowling to dinners. from large picnics at the lake to sand volleyball.

    Their scope of finding people is extremely limited. I know my butcher, seafood manager, the two people who regularly check me out at the grocery store. I say hi to my mailman when I see him at the mall. I know my pharmacists. I know many of the bartenders downtown, and I know the clerk at the gas station I go to. I say Hi to people. I don't just pass people and simply ignore them. On NYE 1999, I didn't have to buy myself one drink. Why? Because everyone knew and loved me. Not because I was awesome, because I listen to people, acknowledge their existence and make them feel important. It doesn't matter if it's the guy who comes in after yoga every day, or helping some random customer get the very last of our awesome soup. I got tickets to his gig that night. Of course, later I had to bail on him, but I met some great people. I met one boyfriend walking out of a store. he approached me, mistook me for someone else. I chided him that "Oh, you just wanted to talk to me! and I jokingly laughed at him. we dated 3 or 4 months. I met my ex husband when he was lost and was asking me for directions. We had a great thing for awhile, but our lives were just going a different path. I met my current husband at a bar. we were both dragged there that night by other friends. we were friends for quite awhile before he asked me out. My friend that dragged me there he said "But you ALWAYS talk to people..meet new people..I NEED you there!" he met his future wife that night, too.



    You will be single forever if you don't figure out the skills of meeting new people as well as people who can be potential dates. If you go around "acting like the c0ck of the walk, best lookin thing in town" no one is going to approach you, no one wants rejection! If you walk around with obvious low self-esteem and are cold to everyone around you, you won't be as approachable.

    You will be approached only when approachable. To do that, acknowledge other people's existence with a smile and a nod. People will usually watch you before they consider approaching you. If they feel like you will reject them, they'll move on. If it's just running into someone and you say 'whatever" and move on... you missed a possible chance of meeting new people. The more people you know, the higher the chance of meeting 'that person'

    Ladies, if you look high maintenance, you are less approachable. even if you're the friendliest person in the world. My friends always get annoyed with me "You always dress so plainly, but guys ALWAYS talk to you!!" uhm... jeans. t'shirt/ blouse smile on my face. You can't get lower maintenance than that! You will *never* catch me checking my make up or hair in public, or tugging at my jeans/blouse in public. baaaad!! learn to do it discretely or use the bathroom! Men ARE watching you, your body language, how your day might have gone, and the best way to approach you.

    Men! We want you to talk to us! Most of us don't bite, really. Even if you just say hi. come to our table, come up with something stupid even "you ladies look like you're having a great time!" as you walk by. introduce yourself, point out your buddies and say something silly. have some things ready in your head to say in various situations. Sure some might scoff at you, but don't give up. **Just please make sure your hand isn't sweaty. One guy did this to us at a bar.. I'm sure we would have talked to him a minute or two longer.
    A; his pants weren't ridiculously sagging
    B; his hand wasn't dripping grossly of sweat.
    Women are watching you. typically the moment when you walk into a bar. We size you up based on how you walk, interact with your friends and how you weave through the crowd. The 1st 3 minutes you walk into a bar/ event is actually critical!
    When you approach a woman, you have ONE minute to make her laugh. Women are picky creatures and we make up our minds fast because chances are, we have already assessed you. If you are at our table, other guys won't approach us. A second route is to run into us when we are not at our table for whatever reason.

    Men/women, if you go to a bar, chose one where you typically have to go to the bar to get your drink. This will give you better chances at meeting someone at a bar.

    If you chose the single group events for things like meet-in, don't go to events you have no interest in. When you get there, say hi to people. and figure out how to strike up a conversation. even if you're just commenting on the food you brought. and talk to people of both genders!

    If you say you'll be alone forever and resign to that idea. You probably will be. Yes, there will be @ssholes along the way... but if you don't sort through the @ssholes, you won't meet any good ones, either.

    I know this is long..I hope this benefits someone!
  • Personally, i would rather be single and happy than married or with someone and miserable. My first marriage ended in divorce, i left because he was psycho. lol. long story. I am married again... but to a man my age that acts like he is 18. He is totally immature, horrible with finances and lies alot. I will be married one year this october... and let me tell ya.. i just don't even know anymore.. sometimes single looks so much better these days!
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
    I love you madly....and have zero doubt that there is a man out there that can truly handle your awesomeness and bask in its glow :heart:

    I do believe in the saying that it will find you when you aren't looking...
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member
    I have a *lot* of single friends..and I'm around their single friends a lot as well.
    Here is a list of why they are still single. The 1st 5 apply to ALL of them!

    They're looking in the wrong place to meet potential dates
    Their requirements of a date is completely unrealistic
    Their communication dating skills are poorly lacking. from the end of not able to talk much, to being an alpha conversationalist.
    They're looking TOO hard/ not hard enough.
    They go out with the wrong crowd and diminishes their chances of meeting other people.
    women, you go with 1 friend or more than 2 friends, you are killing your chances! 3 is the lady's night out magical number.
    Men! same with you! but you can get away with 4- 6 AND! Be careful who you are with. You don't want to hang with the chick who loudly condemns men. (or women) or are, in general negative people.

    They are egotistical, and brag about how AWESOME they are ALL. THE. TIME.
    The have a very low self-esteem and always beating up on themselves.
    They can't stfu about politics, religion and OS's when out with friends (You don't want this friend with you when you're out with the goal of meeting potential dates) EVER. or the older guy who obnoxiously/blatantly and obnoxiously flirts with every female who has a heart beat. even their 22 yr old waitress.
    They try a dating website and quit out after the second bad date.
    They don't try groups for single people to meet, such as meet-up. where they have parties/events for single people. From bowling to dinners. from large picnics at the lake to sand volleyball.

    Their scope of finding people is extremely limited. I know my butcher, seafood manager, the two people who regularly check me out at the grocery store. I say hi to my mailman when I see him at the mall. I know my pharmacists. I know many of the bartenders downtown, and I know the clerk at the gas station I go to. I say Hi to people. I don't just pass people and simply ignore them. On NYE 1999, I didn't have to buy myself one drink. Why? Because everyone knew and loved me. Not because I was awesome, because I listen to people, acknowledge their existence and make them feel important. It doesn't matter if it's the guy who comes in after yoga every day, or helping some random customer get the very last of our awesome soup. I got tickets to his gig that night. Of course, later I had to bail on him, but I met some great people. I met one boyfriend walking out of a store. he approached me, mistook me for someone else. I chided him that "Oh, you just wanted to talk to me! and I jokingly laughed at him. we dated 3 or 4 months. I met my ex husband when he was lost and was asking me for directions. We had a great thing for awhile, but our lives were just going a different path. I met my current husband at a bar. we were both dragged there that night by other friends. we were friends for quite awhile before he asked me out. My friend that dragged me there he said "But you ALWAYS talk to people..meet new people..I NEED you there!" he met his future wife that night, too.



    You will be single forever if you don't figure out the skills of meeting new people as well as people who can be potential dates. If you go around "acting like the c0ck of the walk, best lookin thing in town" no one is going to approach you, no one wants rejection! If you walk around with obvious low self-esteem and are cold to everyone around you, you won't be as approachable.

    You will be approached only when approachable. To do that, acknowledge other people's existence with a smile and a nod. People will usually watch you before they consider approaching you. If they feel like you will reject them, they'll move on. If it's just running into someone and you say 'whatever" and move on... you missed a possible chance of meeting new people. The more people you know, the higher the chance of meeting 'that person'

    Ladies, if you look high maintenance, you are less approachable. even if you're the friendliest person in the world. My friends always get annoyed with me "You always dress so plainly, but guys ALWAYS talk to you!!" uhm... jeans. t'shirt/ blouse smile on my face. You can't get lower maintenance than that! You will *never* catch me checking my make up or hair in public, or tugging at my jeans/blouse in public. baaaad!! learn to do it discretely or use the bathroom! Men ARE watching you, your body language, how your day might have gone, and the best way to approach you.

    Men! We want you to talk to us! Most of us don't bite, really. Even if you just say hi. come to our table, come up with something stupid even "you ladies look like you're having a great time!" as you walk by. introduce yourself, point out your buddies and say something silly. have some things ready in your head to say in various situations. Sure some might scoff at you, but don't give up. **Just please make sure your hand isn't sweaty. One guy did this to us at a bar.. I'm sure we would have talked to him a minute or two longer.
    A; his pants weren't ridiculously sagging
    B; his hand wasn't dripping grossly of sweat.
    Women are watching you. typically the moment when you walk into a bar. We size you up based on how you walk, interact with your friends and how you weave through the crowd. The 1st 3 minutes you walk into a bar/ event is actually critical!
    When you approach a woman, you have ONE minute to make her laugh. Women are picky creatures and we make up our minds fast because chances are, we have already assessed you. If you are at our table, other guys won't approach us. A second route is to run into us when we are not at our table for whatever reason.

    Men/women, if you go to a bar, chose one where you typically have to go to the bar to get your drink. This will give you better chances at meeting someone at a bar.

    If you chose the single group events for things like meet-in, don't go to events you have no interest in. When you get there, say hi to people. and figure out how to strike up a conversation. even if you're just commenting on the food you brought. and talk to people of both genders!

    If you say you'll be alone forever and resign to that idea. You probably will be. Yes, there will be @ssholes along the way... but if you don't sort through the @ssholes, you won't meet any good ones, either.

    I know this is long..I hope this benefits someone!


    Too many rules! I would leave my house more often if it wasn't always so people outside. *hides head firmly back in sand, whimpering* :(
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    If you go around "acting like the c0ck of the walk, best lookin thing in town" no one is going to approach you, no one wants rejection!

    This. The #1 thing men think when approaching a woman is "is she going to reject me?" A lot of things factor into equation:

    1. Body language and attitude. By far, act & look like you want someone to approach you.
    2. How attractive you are. If you're too good-looking, and we just assume you are taken, or, we have no chance. You likely have this problem.
    3. Having more than 1 friend with you. MAX 1. Trying to peel a woman away from a group is a disaster waiting to happen. If you hide in a herd of women, expect only *kitten* to approach, because they don't give a ****.

    In short, do everything you can to signal "I won't cut your balls off".
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
    If you go around "acting like the c0ck of the walk, best lookin thing in town" no one is going to approach you, no one wants rejection!

    This. The #1 thing men think when approaching a woman is "is she going to reject me?" A lot of things factor into equation:

    In short, do everything you can to signal "I won't cut your balls off".

    WOW....I completely disagree...unless I'm misunderstanding. But, being confident is one of the sexiest things there is. To me, people mistake women with confidence for women who think they are God's gift to everything.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    WOW....I completely disagree...unless I'm misunderstanding. But, being confident is one of the sexiest things there is. To me, people mistake women with confidence for women who think they are God's gift to everything.

    Well, you're not a man, my dear friend! :) Men mostly don't want to be rejected.

    While a *lack* of confidence is unattractive, and confidence is always good thing... too much, to the point of appearing arrogant or cocky a key predictor of being totally shut down. Perhaps men do make this mistake, I'm just describing what goes through our mind when we decide to approach or not.

    Now, if you're a man, a bit of fun cockiness can go a long way. Very different.
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
    WOW....I completely disagree...unless I'm misunderstanding. But, being confident is one of the sexiest things there is. To me, people mistake women with confidence for women who think they are God's gift to everything.

    Well, you're not a man, my dear friend! :) Men mostly don't want to be rejected.

    While a *lack* of confidence is unattractive, and confidence is always good thing... too much, to the point of appearing arrogant or cocky a key predictor of being totally shut down. Perhaps men do make this mistake, I'm just describing what goes through our mind when we decide to approach or not.

    Now, if you're a man, a bit of fun cockiness can go a long way. Very different.

    Oh how I do LOVE the double standards. :tongue:
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member


    Too many rules! I would leave my house more often if it wasn't always so people outside. *hides head firmly back in sand, whimpering* :(

    cliff notes.
    smile, acknowledge people and be friendly. Respond if someone says something to you.
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    Wish I would have been single for more of my life. Enjoy it.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    If you go around "acting like the c0ck of the walk, best lookin thing in town" no one is going to approach you, no one wants rejection!

    This. The #1 thing men think when approaching a woman is "is she going to reject me?" A lot of things factor into equation:

    In short, do everything you can to signal "I won't cut your balls off".

    WOW....I completely disagree...unless I'm misunderstanding. But, being confident is one of the sexiest things there is. To me, people mistake women with confidence for women who think they are God's gift to everything.

    There is confidence, and then there is this superior attitude that your body language can easily give away.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    There is confidence, and then there is this superior attitude that your body language can easily give away.

    When I was in early college, people would remark that I was "stand-offish" at parties, even though I was very shy and mostly afraid to talk to people. I definitely inadvertently gave off that vibe, to my own detriment. It doesn't matter what you intend, it matters how people read you.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    There is confidence, and then there is this superior attitude that your body language can easily give away.

    When I was in early college, people would remark that I was "stand-offish" at parties, even though I was very shy and mostly afraid to talk to people. I definitely inadvertently gave off that vibe, to my own detriment. It doesn't matter what you intend, it matters how people read you.

    Standing on the fringe smiling is acceptable for awhile. just try and smile most of the time and don't cross your arms.
  • CaseyP1207
    CaseyP1207 Posts: 148 Member
    I hear ya Amber...and when I did meet someone, she's on the other side of the ****ing country!!!!
  • S1NN3R
    S1NN3R Posts: 452 Member
    I've come to the realization that I'm going to be single forever. I've been married and engaged (not to the same person) but no one ever matches up to my awesomeness...

    Any others that will be "forever alone?"

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    If you ever need anyone to fool around with...I'm your girl! =P
  • Hendrix7
    Hendrix7 Posts: 1,903 Member
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  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    I hope not.