Am I the only one that doesn't want friends??

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  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
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    The people that have friended me here are almost all 'random' people, and I've got to say they're a great bunch. Some are talkers, some aren't. It doesn't bother me if they're there just to be voyeuristic, in fact the silent watching makes sense to me since I swing between being talkative to being dead quiet.

    The one thing I haven't had is someone giving me a hard time over what I'm doing or not doing. I do get suggestions now and again, which I appreciate, even if don't always agree with them.

    As for people who don't want friends? I don't think there's anything strange about it. Everyone has different ways of doing things and if it works for you that way, great.
  • KodAkuraMacKyen
    KodAkuraMacKyen Posts: 737 Member
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    So...you want to reach out and connect with others who also don't want friends?

    *confused*

    This
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
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    Oh boy...
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
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    I didn't really want to just add strangers, myself, but going through forums or groups, you read something witty or helpful, and just think, yeah, I'd like to hear more of what they have to say. Now I pretty much accept anyone. If they weird me out, I'll delete them. Haven't had to do that, yet.
  • MemphisKitten
    MemphisKitten Posts: 878 Member
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    No, you're not the only one. My bf uses MFP and won't even add ME as a friend bc he hates seeing all of MY friends comments on everything! So he has NO friends on here!
  • AGGUK73
    AGGUK73 Posts: 91 Member
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    No It's not weird. Mfp is a tool for you to use for your health and wellness. How you utilize the rest of the site is your business really. I see nothing wrong with it either way.

    A reasonable perspective. Right up until the point where you post a thread about it... :)

    It's an open forum, have you seen how many pointless threads are on here. If it offends you sorry, but your opinion is still welcome. That's what public forum's are for, with acception to the trolls that even find there way on here!! (not meaning you)
  • Elf_Princess1210
    Elf_Princess1210 Posts: 895 Member
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    Before you all slate me, I totally get what this site is designed for......help & support, BUT, I can't be the only person who doesn't want to add random people I don't know?? Yeh, I know.......don't then......so I don't. But how many do you reckon are just into 'vouyeurism' & just want to 'gawp' at what your eating, & then slag you off or give you a load of advice based on what?? Don't get me wrong I like the community forums, but that's because I can pick & choose what I participate in. Oh, maybe I'm just miserable & un-sociable............actually I like people that I know in real life :wink: :laugh:

    Nah I don't think so. Some people don't like random people know their business.
  • GhostPack
    GhostPack Posts: 197 Member
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    so
  • seed_of_wonder
    seed_of_wonder Posts: 202 Member
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    ha me tooo! i had quite a few friends on here but then ended up deleting them all because id rather be kept to myself
  • CaWaterBug8
    CaWaterBug8 Posts: 1,040 Member
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    So...you want to reach out and connect with others who also don't want friends?

    *confused*

    No I was bored so created a post :smile:

    To talk to voyeurs on t'interweb... ?

    I'm banking on them not all being voyeurs, & besides my profile is closed (I hope) :wink:
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    I don't even know where to start, but I'll tell you this: it's not closed.

    ETA: You wouldn't be bored if you had the awesome friends I have on here.
  • gibsy
    gibsy Posts: 112
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    I didn't add friends for a long time either, but then I realized that I could add people from the forums who seemed actually pretty cool, and interact with them in a space that wasn't full of thousands of other yahoos. Since I've begun adding friends, I'm happier with MFP. Not one single person on my friends list has ever gawked at my diary or been rude to me in any way (and if they were, delete! ignore!) I find having a handful of good people on my friends list is more helpful and enjoyable than the forums, and it keeps me logging in to have people to interact with.

    Nothing weird about not wanting to add strangers though.
  • AnneC77
    AnneC77 Posts: 284
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    Each to their own I suppose, but I love my friends on here. Some are funny and keep me motivated, some are truly inspirational and help me to believe that I can do what they have achieved and some offer great fitness tips. I don't know what I would be without my friends on here.

    If you didn't want people looking at what you eat, you can close your diary so people can't see, you can delete those that annoy you etc and keep those that help you. It is all in your control, so I don't really understand your reasoning, but meh we are all different lol
  • snowdrop_diva
    snowdrop_diva Posts: 142 Member
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    If you didn't want people looking at what you eat, you can close your diary so people can't see, you can delete those that annoy you etc and keep those that help you. It is all in your control, so I don't really understand your reasoning, but meh we are all different lol

    ^ THIS :drinker: :flowerforyou:
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
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    Haha I was like that at first. Then I started accepting friends and OMG *THAT* is when this party starrrrrrted! So much fun.
  • littlelady62
    littlelady62 Posts: 84
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    I almost feel the same way you do. It makes me feel like I'm bothering other people with my weight problem, but yet I know they offer their support . I've tried to find friends that are close where I live in order to find a walking friend.:smile:
  • meerkat70
    meerkat70 Posts: 4,616 Member
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    No It's not weird. Mfp is a tool for you to use for your health and wellness. How you utilize the rest of the site is your business really. I see nothing wrong with it either way.

    A reasonable perspective. Right up until the point where you post a thread about it... :)

    It's an open forum, have you seen how many pointless threads are on here. If it offends you sorry, but your opinion is still welcome. That's what public forum's are for, with acception to the trolls that even find there way on here!! (not meaning you)

    Which bit of my post suggested 'offence' to you?

    In the post I quoted, the view that you don't *need* friends is entirely reasonable. There's a logical incoherence in the OP's stance. 'I don't want friends, because I don't want random interweb people commenting on my stuff, but I've started a thread on the interweb, inviting random interweb to comment on my choice not to add friends'.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
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    Do you walk into a party or bar or club or even your job and decide, I'm not talking to anyone here, I have enough friends already? Why limit yourself to only what you already know? I have 140+ people on my friends list and only about a half dozen of them do I know outside of MFP. And I have gained so much in friendship (YES real friendship) from the all of those people and am very grateful to have them in my life.

    Open your mind, broaden your horizons...you might like it.

    Being in a 'real' social situation cannot be compared to cyber relationships. It's not like for like, & never will be. In real life you wouldn't be in public & decide you didn't want to 'socialise'. Your face to face & having a verbal conversation with body language etc. which helps you make an informed choice whether this person is 'friend' material. I have exactly the same opinion with facebook, although that has no point to it, where as MFP does. I'm not knocking the people who add random people. I just don't 'get' it & it's not for me. I prefer to actually 'know' my mates in person, just my feeble opinion.


    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    We would not get along. Here OR in person. :wink:
  • AJ_Pete
    AJ_Pete Posts: 863 Member
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    And yet, you socialized with strangers in the forums to state how you would rather not socialize with strangers.... hm, well that's interesting.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
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    Do you walk into a party or bar or club or even your job and decide, I'm not talking to anyone here, I have enough friends already? Why limit yourself to only what you already know? I have 140+ people on my friends list and only about a half dozen of them do I know outside of MFP. And I have gained so much in friendship (YES real friendship) from the all of those people and am very grateful to have them in my life.

    Open your mind, broaden your horizons...you might like it.

    Being in a 'real' social situation cannot be compared to cyber relationships. It's not like for like, & never will be. In real life you wouldn't be in public & decide you didn't want to 'socialise'. Your face to face & having a verbal conversation with body language etc. which helps you make an informed choice whether this person is 'friend' material. I have exactly the same opinion with facebook, although that has no point to it, where as MFP does. I'm not knocking the people who add random people. I just don't 'get' it & it's not for me. I prefer to actually 'know' my mates in person, just my feeble opinion.


    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    We would not get along. Here OR in person. :wink:

    Which is really too bad. I treat my friends here VERY well. ;)
  • rhonniema
    rhonniema Posts: 522 Member
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    Random people are fun.
    If they do turn out to be creepy or judgmental it's 2 clicks to delete.

    The first go around I tried doing this without friends & it didn't work.

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