who has a daughter???
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Oooooh el creepo!!!! big difference between your situation and this young girl my God she is only 18, to me 18 and 28 would be no go,28-38 makes no difference,Go he would make you cringe!!!0
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Legs need to be broken. Tell your guy I have a pretty good golf swing, i'll give him a hand!!0
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^^^This^^^Legs need to be broken. Tell your guy I have a pretty good golf swing, i'll give him a hand!!0 -
There is a rule of thumb out there about age that says that the younger person must be at least the following: (age of the older person divided by two ) plus seven. So, the oldest person that an 18 year old girl should be dating is 22 years old. A 21 year old girl shouldn't talk to guys over 28 years old. A 30 year old shouldn't date someone over 46 years old.
Older men are attracted to younger women for obvious physical reasons. Young women are attracted to older men because they tend to appear confident and generally have more money than young men. They don't fumble around like dorks (well, as much) and they can afford to buy shiny baubles. That doesn't mean that it's a good idea for the two to date and it probably reflects poorly on the insecurities or issues that both are displaying if they try to date the other.
My sister-in-law has often dated older guys and it creeps me out to see some of the creepy old dudes who wanted to hang her off their arms. Ironically, the guy that she has finally settled on (for the most part...long story) is a great guy that I enjoy hanging out with more than her. He is a clear violation of the age rule by about 10 years but I've hoped that they would get married because he's a cool guy and she needs to end her destructive behavior. They've been together for years but never done more than talk.0 -
I have a daughter who will turn 20 this Friday and I am not entirely sure what I would do in this situation. I am a 52 year old woman who finds younger men attractive (like late 30's and up), though I haven't dated since my daughter was born and think I am just interested in this age group to make up the lost time! O_o She has conflicting ideas about me liking younger men, so maybe it is all in perspective of each person. Quite honestly, age is a number, but if the relationship is dis-tasteful, that is entirely different. Sounds like the girl isn't the least bit interested in the guy? In which case, that's a bad thing!0
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im 21 and im suuuuuuuuuuuuuuper attracted to older men ... super super super attracted to older men ...
om nom nom ...
what do we have in common... ummmm .... nothing
Well hello, gorgeous.... ;-)
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Haha! As soon as I read her post, I wondered how long it would take for some older dude to hit on her!!!
Yes, brilliant, you got me. I was hitting on her.
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i have gotten like 15 messages and friend requests lol ... just to be clear .. i like older guys NOT creepy old men hahah0 -
im 21 and im suuuuuuuuuuuuuuper attracted to older men ... super super super attracted to older men ...
om nom nom ...
what do we have in common... ummmm .... nothing
Well hello, gorgeous.... ;-)
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Haha! As soon as I read her post, I wondered how long it would take for some older dude to hit on her!!!
Yes, brilliant, you got me. I was hitting on her.
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i have gotten like 15 messages and friend requests lol ... just to be clear .. i like older guys NOT creepy old men hahah
But you - like - haven't gotten a friend request from me. Because - like - I seriously doubt you have the intellectual capacity to keep up with me. No offense. But let's face it, you're - like - 18 or something.
Not capitalizing the beginning of your sentences is a dead giveaway.
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*drums fingers* SOON...0
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Who said he needs anything in common? He just wants a shiny, new model fresh out of the showroom, without too many miles or issues on it :P
Lol! I guess you don't know young girls now days...They have plenty of miles and issues...I know they've outdone many older women by far..0 -
I have two daughters, if one of my friends did this I would beat them up with my bare hands and feet!! The fury I would unleash on them!! No one can get away with this under my nose!!0
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at least he waits til they are 18? even though 16 is legal in some states.
pretty creepy, but the girls are the stupid ones for doing it.0 -
Exactly! Big time CREEPER!! My husband would kick the s4*t out of any guy friend who made the moves on our daughter once she turned 18yo. And this dude knew her since she was a baby?!? How gross!!0
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Ugh he's a loser that can't be man enough for a woman his age so he has to prey on little girls. Gross, the two are in obviously different stages in their lives so it's obvious she's too naive to realize what a perv he is and he will only take advantage of her. But she is an "adult" so oh well not much anyone can do0
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She's 18 so she's certainly old enough to tell him to leave her alone if that's what she wants. But as far as age difference goes, I'm 13 years younger than my husband and we've been together 22 years. We grew up in two defferent generations, he in the 60's me in the 80's so we don't have much in common in our past. It's more about finding things you can have in common now. I'm sure my parents thought this was creepy at the time, but now they love him as much as any of their other son-in-laws.0
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I'm 42 and the prospect of dating an 18 year old girl is just wrong on all levels. The guy needs a little "education" and I'd happily beat the living sh1t out of him until he changed his outlook.0
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The fact that he would try to sleep with a friend's kid pretty much makes him a horrible friend IMO. If he wants to date 18 year old girls, I really could care less. But, he should pretty much expect a punch in the face from this girl he's known for so long AND her father.
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Yea, I have a daughter and this creeper would be seeing my eotech glowing on his chest; and off his forehead in the event that he wears body armor...just sayn:)0
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im 21 and im suuuuuuuuuuuuuuper attracted to older men ... super super super attracted to older men ...
om nom nom ...
what do we have in common... ummmm .... nothing
Well hello, gorgeous.... ;-)
--P
Haha! As soon as I read her post, I wondered how long it would take for some older dude to hit on her!!!
Yes, brilliant, you got me. I was hitting on her.
--P
i have gotten like 15 messages and friend requests lol ... just to be clear .. i like older guys NOT creepy old men hahah
But you - like - haven't gotten a friend request from me. Because - like - I seriously doubt you have the intellectual capacity to keep up with me. No offense. But let's face it, you're - like - 18 or something.
Not capitalizing the beginning of your sentences is a dead giveaway.
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im 21... thanks daddy0 -
I have a 9 year old daughter so I would.... kick him straight in the balls and slap him while he is squirming on the floor. Nasty creeper!!!0
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i feel like this thread could have been a much better conversation if it had a different tittle .. like .. “creepers” or “to creep or not to creep” or “guys who hit on younger women” “how old is to old” “danger with out the stranger” “baby sitter to boyfriend?” ... i could go on lol...
bahahahaahahah where were you when I was naming this LOL0 -
I'm 42, and I have a daughter that is 14 years old, I coach her Soccer team, which is about eighteen 14/15 year old girls. Some of the girls are very flirtatious, I don't even think they realize they are.
But, I see them all as little girls, like my daughter, or better yet, I see them all as my daughters...I am very protective of all of them.
This guy, is a Perv, he is chasing young inmature girls because it is "easy" to show then a few gifts drive them around in a nice car, etc.
Quite sad if you ask me, he is not much of a man, matter of fact he is less then a man, just a mere boy.
Your man should drop this guy and keep him away from his daughter, actually surprised he did not kick his *kitten*. I would have.0 -
I have a 5 year old daughter and if anything like that were to happen when she turns 18 I think I would want to hunt the creep down and, well do something!!! That age gap is simply wrong, wrong, wrong!! Personally I think once women reach their mid twenties then the age gap issue is less of an issue as generally their level of maturity has developed to be able to deal with "real world" issues and experiences. Just my thoughts though....0
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When I was 34 I fell in love with a 17 year old.
I left my home in the Middle East, started a new job in the UK just to see if it would work. We dated for a year and then moved in together & got engaged. We lived very happily for over six years until our business went bust and we split up.
Age is nothing but a number. In some countries (UK incl) its legal to get married at 16.
There are some places in the Western world, where getting married at 14 occurs.
On the converse side, I have a daughter also. She will be educated to make choices that need to be evaluated before committing to them. When she hits 18 (legal age in Holland, where she lives) I will have no right to tell her what can and cannot happen in her life. But I trust she will make the right decisions based on her education.
I agree, I am married to a 21 year old, I am 35. I do not levitate to younger people, nor do I find that I am attracted to them, I just fell in love and she happened to be a lot younger than me. What do we have in common? Quite a lot actually, she is mega mature for her age and I can be immature for mine. I do agree that age is just a number as long as it is legal of course. I also have a 15 year old daughter and I hope that I am educating her to make the right choices. My wife's family hated me at first, but now we have been married for 3 years, I think they realise that our love is real. Love is love, people cannot help who they fall in love with, but I must admit OP, if this guy knew this girl when she was a baby, that does seem a bit weird to me. *shudders*0 -
Guys who like such younger girls def have issues - sorry but at 18 a person has got a lot to learn - still young and naive. My SIL used to love the way older guys. She was dating 30 year olds when she was 15 and then even married a 46 year old when she was 25. She stopped going after the older guys after she become a widow a few years ago. He walked all over her, he didn't even work and she had to take care of his kids. When he died (heart attack) she had to deal with a lot of crap from his family on top of what she put up with while married to him. For the girls out there looking for way older guys, be very very careful.0
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I think sometimes an age difference that big can work, rarely... but more often than not, someone who has only closed out about two decades is going to have very different priorities and experiences in life, versus someone who has three or four decades under their belt. The younger person is liable to get really hurt. I had a friend who was a bit of a dog, quite frankly, lots of notches on the bedpost, and he'd chase anything that was "legal". I'd caution him that just because they are "legal" doesn't mean it's in their best interest to get sexually involved with a much older guy. Even if they know from the start that it's only casual, those crazy bonding hormones kick in once you've been physical with someone, and it all goes out the window. He shrugged it off. Would much rather be in a state of denial, chasing young girls half his age.
That said, your guy's "buddy" making a play for his barely legal daughter, or his daughter at any age, frankly, is another issue altogether. Even as a female, I'm pretty darn sure that is a serious violation of the bro code, right there. Your guy needs to know what happened, and his daughter needs to be given a chance to tell her dad, herself. If it helps, maybe she could write down the events and words as she remembers them, instead of trying to recount it to her dad's face. If she still has a hard time, maybe you can act as her spokesperson and recount what she told you had happened. Either way, back her up in this by letting your guy know how genuinely freaked out his daughter was when she came to you, and how (I imagine, most likely) she didn't know how to go directly to her dad about it. From there, I hope your guy delivers his then [/i]ex-buddy a swift kick to the balls, because that's exactly what he deserves.0 -
That "friend" needs a short conversation with a stick.
I have 4 daughters, I expect my friends, especially those of long date to have a value set that includes parental responsibility towards my children. A forty year old trying to date an 18 year old daughter of a friend is most likely in a situation of abusing a dominant position - not something I want for my daughters. This has zero to do with the age of consent and the girl's choice.
Lina has the rest.0 -
I have a 17 year old daughter. She is currently dating someone her own age. But if a man in his 30's came anywhere near her he'd find himself on the wrong end of my stilletos, limping all the way home and physically unable to "bother" a member of the opposite sex ever again.
Yes I am a very scary woman.
When she reaches 18 anmd leaves home to go to uni then its up to her but I hope that I have raised her with enough self-respect to make sure thay any man she chooses is worthy of her company.0 -
I "dated" a guy much older than myself. Let's put it this way...with age comes experience. I don't want to have to train a new puppy0
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I think some people are missing the point. This is a much older man that had known this girl since she was a baby because he was friends with her parents. Then the minute she turned 18 he came onto her and it upset her and creeped her out. This is not about love or two people of different ages meeting and hitting it off. This scenario is creepy. And yes, I would be pissed if a friend of mine hit on my daughters the minute they became "adults". At least he waited till she was an adult and backed off when she said no, but still I would not keep a creep like that in my life or in my children's life. He crossed a line. Friendship over!0
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If my good friend was trying to hook up with my 18 year old daughter?
because he is my friend, we would go fishing and talk about it.
Unfortunitally (and because I forgot), my friend happens to have mental problems and, there is a VERY good chance that he would throw himself off of the boat while half way to the Bahamas.
I am sure I would do everything I could to save him but alas, he sank to the bottom.0
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