Question for the guys - What do men look for in a woman?

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  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    Nobody approaches a girl at a bar because of her personality.


    Boobs help. Big ones.

    mine are small, but I was cute and crazy, which seemed to make up for my cleavage deficiency.
  • gameny
    gameny Posts: 5 Member
    For me? Humor, a nice personality, and the ability to carry a conversation...(Exterior appearances aren't as important)..The beauty on the outside might fade with the passing of years, it's the beauty on the inside that truly shows and remains..
  • glonigan
    glonigan Posts: 82
    Being comfortable with who you/they are and not taking oneself to seriously have to be my top two.
  • tonycstanton
    tonycstanton Posts: 1 Member
    Feminism basically. If you cover yourself up and dress like tomboys then you reduce your appeal to the male gender. By up to 75% I was reading somewhere.
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    I think the better question is "What drives men away?".

    Ever notice that unattractive girls have boyfriends too? Sure, cuties will get our attention - but then it's a quick list of traits that 'remove' them from the list. Among them are the "Princess" entitlement. I do not exist for her pleasure - I am not a slave. If I'm given the impression that I have to do ANYTHING in order to be blessed with a smile - see ya. If I am not important enough to her to do the little things for - without some massive repayment plan, see ya. If I'm expected to take her out to a fancy and expensive resturant so that I may enjoy the pleasure of her company - see ya.

    I want an equal - not a superior, nor an inferior. If she can't treat me in the same way as I treat her - see ya.

    I've seen many women freely and of their own accord treat others, in a way you could not pay me to do. To them, they are being "choosey" - to me they made my decision for me ... see ya.

    I couldn't agree with you more. If I wanted a doormat, I would go to Lowes.
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    Someone with a good sense of humor. and a good attitude.

    Looks are temporary and one day I'm going to need a blue pill to salute. When that happens, I hope that I have someone to sit next to me on the porch. And maybe pop out her dentures every once in a while.
  • Skinny_Jeans_Soon
    Skinny_Jeans_Soon Posts: 326 Member
    I will be in the dating world soon, I am taking notes...carry on!!
  • nbhobbes
    nbhobbes Posts: 284
    Here is what I look for..

    Sense of humor - Absolute must. Nothing worse then hanging out with a girl who can't see the funny side of things.
    Overall looks & Appearance - A lot of initial attraction is physical in nature.
    Intellignece - Sorry but women who are as dumb as dirt are just unattractive to me.
    Funloving and outgoiong - While we don't have to have 100% the same interests it's good when someone is up for going out to do something. Even if it's something they have never gone to or aren't sure they will enjoy.
    Good lover - Sorry but if being intimate is boring or not good then it's not gonna work out between us.
    Good person at heart - Just a quality that not enough peopel have in genearal.

    Other things that I really find attractive but aren't 100% required
    Little to no baggage - Phyiscal and emotional. (Pets don't count as baggage)
    Eclectic - I like artsy women.
    Likes/plays soccer - I'm a huge fan so ladies score bonus points for getting it.
    Good taste in music - It helps as I really enjoy concerts and checking out new music.

    Last but not least she has to have that "it" factor.

    Hard to describe but it's something that makes the diffeernce between a smart match and a good match. It's that somthing about a girl that sets her apart from the others. Women who have it are a lot more desireable then the ones who don't have it. Can't really say exactly what it is but I know when it's there or not.
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    Apart from physical attraction...

    Smart...intelligent, funny, career minded/goal driven.

    There is also the what I don't look for which trumps the above:

    Not clingy, not needy, not insecure, not JADED...it's hard to find someone who doesn't lug arround these kind of attributes.

    I've always wondered what constitutes as needy or clingy or insecure? Are we talking extreme cases or is any level of these equally unattractive?

    I think everyone feels insecure or needy at times (like when one is sick! HAHA!) but I don't think these things are inherently unattractive unless they are over the top and constant.

    Just sayin'. Haha.

    Insecurity/clinginess tends to manifest itself via jealousy...via constant texts/phone calls....especially when you're out with the boys, and even moreso when she is constantly needing to be told that she DOES look great.

    You are correct, everyone does feel needy at times, but that's more to do with a give/take relationship where you just feel the need to be pampered, spolied, or just loved.
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    I will be in the dating world soon, I am taking notes...carry on!!

    Let me know if you need someone to break you in....

    As you were.
  • phoenix_59
    phoenix_59 Posts: 1,123
    a fast sports car....money in the bank....hot friends and a lousy laywer....
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    I will be in the dating world soon, I am taking notes...carry on!!

    I have been in it for a few years now, it's not easy :(
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.

    Does she have to laugh if the jokes are not funny? :tongue:
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.


    ^^^You forgot about "a low tolerance of chloroform and a love of candy and vans."


    Fix'd.
  • nbhobbes
    nbhobbes Posts: 284
    a fast sports car....money in the bank....hot friends and a lousy laywer....

    You forgot extreme nyphomania and ownes her own liqurer store. LOL

    I wanna say that is from an Irish toast.. Am I wrong?
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.


    ^^^You forgot about "a low tolerance of chloroform and a love of candy and vans."


    Fix'd.

    And we have a winner, LOL! :)
  • Rinkermann
    Rinkermann Posts: 108 Member
    well it's true, nobody buys a nice personality a drink. physically i like a variety of body types and don't have a type. i think if you eat healthily and keep active, any body type has its assets. one of my bugbears with magazine covers is that the girls always seem to be one specific body type.

    anyway, beyond that, i think men and women probably want similar things. just someone you get along with and enjoy being with. i think we mystify these things far more than we need to.
  • Williamj
    Williamj Posts: 199 Member
    Awesomeness!
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Nobody approaches a girl at a bar because of her personality.


    Boobs help. Big ones.

    I'm sure that catches his attention, but what keeps it?

    Again, the answer is "Boobs. Big ones." They'll keep us busy for hours and hours...
  • nbhobbes
    nbhobbes Posts: 284
    I actually read an article in Glamour magazine where they interviewed a bunch of men and a lot of them said that we judge ourselves too harshly on what our bodies look like, that the majority of them think we look just fine and aren't into big fake boobs and skinny as a rail. Found that interesting, you always hear a guy say, "you look fine.." but you just think they are being nice, maybe they're really telling the truth, haha

    This is sooooo true.. You ladies are absolutely brutal on yourselves.

    When a guy says you look fine he actaully means you look good. We aren't just saying it to be nice. Especially me. If I see something is messed up I'll let ya know..
  • Mctree20
    Mctree20 Posts: 137
    A partner.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.


    ^^^You forgot about "a low tolerance of chloroform and a love of candy and vans."


    Fix'd.

    You know I'm on probation!!:angry:
    I was just trying to win their trust to get them close to the van.:grumble:
    Move along ladies nothing to see here.....:smokin:
  • PapaDunx
    PapaDunx Posts: 243
    Self absorbed, controlling, manipulative, woman wanted. Eating disorders, drug addictions, mental problems a definite plus. Must be possessive and extremely jealous of me but unfaithful... She must be emotionally distant and have little to no sex drive.

    I need a woman who will call me any time, 24/7, no matter what, or how small the problem might be. It doesn't matter to me if I am busy...her problems are so much more important...
  • nbhobbes
    nbhobbes Posts: 284
    I've always wondered what constitutes as needy or clingy or insecure? Are we talking extreme cases or is any level of these equally unattractive?

    I think everyone feels insecure or needy at times (like when one is sick! HAHA!) but I don't think these things are inherently unattractive unless they are over the top and constant.

    Just sayin'. Haha.

    Think along the lines of co-dependant. If they need constant reassurance of something for whatever reason it gets old quick.

    It's one thing to feel insecure at some point but if it's a constant thing that is just a turn off. Especially if it is over relationship things.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.

    Does she have to laugh if the jokes are not funny? :tongue:

    My eyes are up here dirty girl...:angry:
  • nikic50
    nikic50 Posts: 209
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.
    I love to laugh, but do you blame us for being self-conscious sometimes????....look at society & what we have to compare ourselves to...it's just not that easy! We are happy that some of you are "easy" to please though :D
    Thank you for that!
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    [/quote]
    I love to laugh, but do you blame us for being self-conscious sometimes????....look at society & what we have to compare ourselves to...it's just not that easy! We are happy that some of you are "easy" to please though :D
    Thank you for that!
    [/quote]

    'Splain please...
  • phoenix_59
    phoenix_59 Posts: 1,123
    Question for the guys - What do men look for in a woman?

    one of the first things that I look for is to make sure that she does not have a penis....so I grab her by the crotch!
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    That she laughs at my jokes....let me be me and she just be herself.
    Women are way too hard on themselves.
    I love to laugh, but do you blame us for being self-conscious sometimes????....look at society & what we have to compare ourselves to...it's just not that easy! We are happy that some of you are "easy" to please though :D
    Thank you for that!

    I don't hold myself to society's standards, they are unrealistic, and I just don't have that kind of time. I am who I am, I don't want anyone that wants to change me. If I'm not right for you, that's ok, I'm sure there is someone out there that is, go find them.

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