Does it bother you that NOBODY NOTICES!
nxd10
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I'm sorry, I'm pouting. I lost 25 pounds this summer. I've lost 4" on my waist, 3 on my hips, and 2" on my bust. My clothes fit completely differently. My face looks thinner. My husband and my father and my mother all tell me I look great. I am now mid-range BMI for my height. I haven't been this weight for 20 years.
AND NOT ONE OF MY FRIENDS FROM WORK OR IN THE BAND I PLAY WITH HAS SAID A WORD! Okay, I don't need super congratulation. Yeah, you're not supposed to make personal comments about each other at work. But I didn't see them all summer and we've now been together 2 weeks and you'd think SOMEONE would notice!
Sorry. I'll stop venting. I know I'm not the center of the universe. But AGH!
AND NOT ONE OF MY FRIENDS FROM WORK OR IN THE BAND I PLAY WITH HAS SAID A WORD! Okay, I don't need super congratulation. Yeah, you're not supposed to make personal comments about each other at work. But I didn't see them all summer and we've now been together 2 weeks and you'd think SOMEONE would notice!
Sorry. I'll stop venting. I know I'm not the center of the universe. But AGH!
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I don't know what kind of relationships you have with your coworkers, but maybe they might think its awkward or embarassing for you to bring it up? But i completely understand where you're coming from. Ask them what they've been up to lately and then bring up your new health/fitness goals. That should start the ball rolling
Stay Positive & motivated!!!:smooched: 0 -
I'm sorry, I'm pouting. I lost 25 pounds this summer. I've lost 4" on my waist, 3 on my hips, and 2" on my bust. My clothes fit completely differently. My face looks thinner. My husband and my father and my mother all tell me I look great. I am now mid-range BMI for my height. I haven't been this weight for 20 years.
AND NOT ONE OF MY FRIENDS FROM WORK OR IN THE BAND I PLAY WITH HAS SAID A WORD! Okay, I don't need super congratulation. Yeah, you're not supposed to make personal comments about each other at work. But I didn't see them all summer and we've now been together 2 weeks and you'd think SOMEONE would notice!
Sorry. I'll stop venting. I know I'm not the center of the universe. But AGH!
Sounds like you're just fishing for compliments. I say AGH! to that.0 -
Have you bought some slimmer fitting clothes? I bet people would notice a difference then.0
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Hello:
I'm new here but remember when I lost 30 pounds once and the same thing happened to me. No one noticed and I wasn't that heavy at the time. I think people sometimes get so busy with their own lives that they just don't pay attention. Don't let it get to you. Try wearing smaller clothes and just be the best you can be for yourself. Good luck in your journey. :flowerforyou:0 -
25 pounds that is great! you should feel great about that! regardless if others make mention of it :happy:0
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haha one of my bosses who sees me everyday has failed to noticed I've lost 46lbs. She claims to watch her weight and walk everyday, but yet she brings in fast food for lunch everyday. I'm doing better than her. She doesn't want to admit that. I don't fish for compliments. I just know I'm eating/doing better than she is...so that is all I need. A compliment in itself.0
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25 pounds is a big deal and If you are fishing for compliments then go for it!! Here's one for you, YOU ARE FABULOUS. Fish away sweetheart!!
It took about 45-50 pounds of weight for anyone to say much to me. I think it might make other people uncomfortable to speak up about another persons weight, especially if they are close to you!0 -
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Sounds like you're just fishing for compliments. I say AGH! to that.
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That's an asinine response. The OP didn't even post a picture! Pretty lame way to fish. Though not as lame as calling this post fishing.
Anyway, I've also had folks not notice my 25-pound loss. I think people who don't have any body issues (yes, there are some out there!) just don't notice other people's bodies so much. Oh, and don't underestimate the ability of some people to be incapable of noticing anything outside their own personal realm of existence. Still, it's a drag when you work hard for something and no one realizes what you've done -- whether it's weight loss or anything else. I feel for ya.0 -
Just use it as fuel to keep up the hard work!0
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it sucks,but do you notice?that's all that matters0
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Just do what someone I know does. Walk around telling everyone how much you've lost and keep bringing up that your pants are falling off, even though they don't look loose in any way shape or form.0
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Well, I think its great you lost weight! BUT some people take offense If you talk about there weight (in a positive way and in negative). Maybe they don't want to say anything bc they feel that you might get offended.0
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Great job on the loss
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I have had only a few people notice or say anything after 60 gone. That's ok my heart is noticing yayy!0 -
hello I am a newbie. I have a question. I want to lose 20lbs and I am working hard at it with diet and exercise. I workout for 30 minutes and vigorously ride my bicycle for 3.5 miles a day. Anyhoo, the fitness diet is perplexing because it is so strict on sugar that it restricts eating fruits and vegetables and instead enourages bread and protein. I am going over on sugar just by eating wholesome fruits. I only eat half my calories and am way way under all the rest of the parts the diet.
What types of foods is this diet asking you to eat? How come it is so against fruit?0 -
It just shows you that when you start this process you have to do it for yourself and validation does not come from outside but from within.
Your doing great...keep up the great work. Its hard losing weight and you deserve the kudos from everyone, but in the end it the opinion of yourself that counts the most.0 -
nobody said a thing to me till I hit 30# = ) after that everyone under the sun will want you to tell them how you did it then, they will not listen to a word you say because they want you to tell them where to get the magic pill that will do everything for them over night0
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I'd lost nearly 50 pounds before people started making comments. It was disappointing. I then felt it was worth it to buy a few fitting clothing items to get me through the summer. I got some really cute things and then the compliments really started coming. I was wearing fitted clothing and styles I've never worn.0
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I have the opposite problem. My family and friends are always saying "oh it looks like you've lost weight, you look great" when I know I haven't lost a single lb. So when I do lose weight, I'm not sure if they're serious or just being nice like they usually are0
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I don't let it bother me, because my loss isn't all that much - yet. That said, I actually HAVE asked my friends, "can you see any difference yet?" and then they'll say something.
YOU can feel the difference in your clothes, and how your body is functioning now.
Give yourself a compliment, sweetie!!0 -
With 25 lbs and a whole summer, it could be the whole "there's something different about her but I can't put my finger on it" deal. Keep losing, and I'm sure they'll catch on!0
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Have you bought some slimmer fitting clothes? I bet people would notice a difference then.
I agree. I feel you though girl...But, You know, You can't expect nothing from anyone..Or you'll neva be happy!0 -
I think that some people just don't notice until about 20-30 pounds. REALLY!.. I also believe the ones that do notice aren't sure how to say it, worried how you might take it. I had that a lot until one person got the nerve to ask and I was brutally honest with what i had done and then, like one of the other posters said, everyone gathered around to hear about the magic weight loss wand....
I also bought better fitting clothes and the real eye opener was when I went from wearing loose fitting clothes at the gym to sleeveless tanks and form fitting bottoms... Everyone came over and asked, as if it magically happened overnight, "did you loose weight.". Of course parts of me wanted to be a smart *kitten* and be like, "ah, yeah for the past X months now, thanks for noticing" but the other part really just wanted to stay positive and be an inspiration to others that seemed interested in how to make it happen in their lives.
One more idea, some people feel that if they acknowledge your weight loss they will ave to acknowledge their own need to loose weight or develop a healthier lifestyle. Many of them may not want to acknowledge that in their life so they won't in ours. It may be because fear of failure, they aren't ready to change or maybe even jealous that ou could change and thief past attempts landed in failure.
Don't worry about others. The compliments will come and accept them graciously when they do. Until then continue to tell yourself how wonderful you look!
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First off, awesome job on the weight loss! That is a lot of work and it should be noticed and congratulated! I think people are uncomfortable talking about weight at work. If they mention you look great now, does it mean you didn't before? Only a handful of people have mentioned my weight loss and it perplexes me as well, especially after not seeing anyone over the summer. My solution for you? Post your pics and let us see the difference! You got a whole heck of a lot of people here who would appreciate your success and congratulate you on it. 0
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Some people just don't say anything because they don't want to somehow offend you by pointing out that you've lost a lot of weight. I know it sounds weird, its the one time you want people to notice your weight, lol!
I've lost 17 lbs, gone down a full dress/pant size and there is a noticeable difference in my face, stomach, waist and hips. The only person whose said anything is my boyfriend and he said he started to notice because I started wearing shirts I haven't worn in over a year. Heck at least he notices my shirts, lol!0 -
Personally, I'd rather have some people say nothing than to obsess over it and find it impossible to talk to me about anything else as if that's the only thing going on in my life right now or even the most important thing or that I am in anyway defined as a human being in the essentials of who I am only or even largely by my weight. I find that incredible shallowness EXTREMELY ANNOYING. The people who matter to me give me a compliment or kudos or cheer me on, which I try to take graciously without camping on it, and then move on to more important topics and care about who I really am, not my body size. That's just me though maybe...0
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Just do what someone I know does. Walk around telling everyone how much you've lost and keep bringing up that your pants are falling off, even though they don't look loose in any way shape or form.
This is so funny!!!! Thanks for making me laugh!:laugh: :laugh:0 -
I have lost 20 lbs and only one person has said something about (last Saturday) and it was great that she noticed but at the same time I feel kind of bummed when I see this huge difference and nobody else seems to see anything at all. As long as you know that you look better, feel healthier and are in better shape then you are good. Just remember that you don't need their comments to validate the work that you have done!0
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It's understandable that you want your success to be recognized - 25 pounds is a huge achievement. But not everyone feels it's appropriate to compliment someone on a weight loss. It can be taken the wrong way by some people. "You've lost a lot of weight" can be heard as "You used to be really fat." And some people are embarrassed about the way they used to look, and hope that others won't remember how plump they used to be.
I've lost 90 pounds and it's really noticeable. Some friends can't stop talking about it. It felt nice at first, but now it's annoying (but I'm gracious.) Some friends have never said a word, and it makes me feel as though my previous weight was never an issue to them, and that's really nice.
On the flip side, one of those friends who always praises me for my weight loss, actually lost weight herself over the summer - 25 pounds. I was just so glad to see her again and hear all her news, that I didn't notice she looked slimmer. I think she felt like you're feeling now. I'm really sorry I didn't notice, but the truth is, she always looked really good to me.
So to sum up, maybe your office friends:
A. Didn't want to risk insulting you or embarrassing you
B. Just love you for who you are, and weight is a non issue for them
C. Think you always look fabulous!
For what it's worth, *I* think it's fantastic you lost 25 pounds!! WTG!!0 -
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jealously is an ugly thing!! When ur pretty, ppl want you to not suceseed they are mad at their life! I'm so happy for ya!! Keep on and the ppl that truly matter will notice!! Haters will hate and when they do, you know ur doing well!! Otherwise, they have nothing to hate and they'd move on!! Sad but true!!0
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