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What is considered 'cheating' (mature relationships)

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  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    If you look at anyone and think they are attractive you are cheating. If I ever catch my wife looking in a calvin klein catalog, its divorce time.

    :laugh: I didn't even realise, thanks for informing me!
  • paintlisapurple
    paintlisapurple Posts: 985 Member
    In my eyes cheating is anytime you turn to someone other than your spouse/SO for something you would normally get from them. Theres both physical and emotional cheating...both are hard to recover from.

    Definitely this.

    Anything that you wouldn't do with your s.o. present can be considered cheating. (IMO)
  • butterflyqueen1984
    butterflyqueen1984 Posts: 141 Member
    I don't understand why this topic needs to be justified?? Surely cheating is cheating! Everyone knows inside when they have done something wrong.
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    getting nasty, but mostly intamcy of any kind with somone other than SO
  • cindyhoney2
    cindyhoney2 Posts: 603 Member
    What do you consider cheating? For me, I have what I call 'the golden rule'. That is, I go where she goes, period. That pretty much rules out swapping / borrowing / lending and includes any expression of sexuality/emotional attachment between people regardless of gender. Maybe that sounds restrictive to some, but not necessarily, if you're creative about avoiding golden rule violations. What do you guys think?

    For clarification: the golden rule refers to sexy time practices, not like going to the mall or hanging with friends and whatnot.

    What you said fits us perfect. I believe cheating is wrong under any circumstances and you get what you deserve. There is always a way out of a relationship if you're not getting any or just not happy. Cheating is wrong and to me cheating is when you do something you don't want your SO to know about. Nothing wrong w/a little harmless flirting tho. And don't get me started on 'open' relationships, what a f*cking joke! Grow up!
  • EnchantedEvening
    EnchantedEvening Posts: 671 Member
    I don't understand why some people get upset when their partner admires a pretty woman (or a hot guy). I honestly feel that's a security issue. It doesn't mean they don't find you hot. It doesn't mean they're going to cheat. We are human, and we can appreciate something beautiful. Just because you are the most beautiful person in the world to them doesn't mean they can't find other people beautiful too. Remember, you are the MOST beautiful.

    Heck, sometimes I point out really cute girls to my boyfriend. It doesn't mean I want to sleep with a girl. It just means, "Hey, that lady is really pretty. I love her hair/eyes/outfit."
  • penelepurr
    penelepurr Posts: 204 Member
    I don't understand why some people get upset when their partner admires a pretty woman (or a hot guy). I honestly feel that's a security issue. It doesn't mean they don't find you hot. It doesn't mean they're going to cheat. We are human, and we can appreciate something beautiful. Just because you are the most beautiful person in the world to them doesn't mean they can't find other people beautiful too. Remember, you are the MOST beautiful.

    Heck, sometimes I point out really cute girls to my boyfriend. It doesn't mean I want to sleep with a girl. It just means, "Hey, that lady is really pretty. I love her hair/eyes/outfit."

    Agree. Looking is quite healthy, and my fiance and I have pointed out attractive people to each other. No big deal. I don't think porn is cheating either. I figure, we have the internet now- guys are going to use it lol.
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
    In my eyes cheating is anytime you turn to someone other than your spouse/SO for something you would normally get from them. Theres both physical and emotional cheating...both are hard to recover from.

    This.
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
    I don't understand why this topic needs to be justified?? Surely cheating is cheating! Everyone knows inside when they have done something wrong.
    Nobody is justifying anything. Read + Think, then post....
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    If you have to ask... it is cheating.
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
    LOL you said sexytime, i love it.
    that's what i refer to intimacy with when i'm with my partner hahaha.

    sorry, that was immature, anyway i agree. i do feel the same way. i don't think it's unreasonable for you to want to be involved if your SO is going to be seeing someone else sexually (and if they're emotionally involved, yeah.. uh.. it's time to move on and split up).

    Immature is my profession. I'm 37 going on 12 and proud.
  • AlotOfSweatAndPain
    AlotOfSweatAndPain Posts: 234 Member
    I agree with you OP. To be faithful not only includes physical actions, but emotional as well. The one you promise yourself to should not only be the only one getting your body, but your heart and soul as well.


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  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Every couple's definitian is different.
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
    If you can't do it in front of your spouse, wouldn't want your spouse to be there, or wouldn't want your spouse to know about it... its cheating. This includes sexual and emotional situations... That's our rule anyway. :wink:
  • SairahRose
    SairahRose Posts: 412 Member
    In an open relationship ( I have experience in this) cheating can be defined as anything that goes against you and your partner's pre established rules ( if you don't have any rules, you SHOULD NOT be in an open relationship).


    And lying=cheating. If you can't be honest and communicate with your partner, it is a betrayal of loyalty. Really, if you know it will hurt your partner, then it can't be good...

    This. Doesn't matter if you're doing something with your partner there, or without. If your partner doesn't know/hasn't agreed to it, then it's cheating.
    Cheating is simply taking an advantage over another without prior consent, and that applies to pretty much anything.
  • andie2013
    andie2013 Posts: 101
    If you are doing something (of any nature) with someone else and you wouldn't tell me because you're worried I would dump you, It's cheating
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