"you'd be pretty if you were skinny"

demonlullaby
demonlullaby Posts: 499 Member
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Okay..
so this has happened on two different occasions where I was in a public bathroom doing my make up or whatever and a lady has told me.
"you would be beautiful if you were skinny"
......... i always take this as an insult though i'm not sure if it is.

today at work a lady came in and told me-
"if you lost weight you'd look so pretty"

HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE? for some reason it makes me feel so sad and ugly... I guess at the same time it's pushing me more to lose weight. I just don't know how to feel about it.
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  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Take it as a compliment and use it as motivation. Since more than one person has said it, you must have a pretty face or something.
  • KrayKira
    KrayKira Posts: 230
    I'd be pissed if it was me...
  • laurin2010
    laurin2010 Posts: 65
    -true beauty lies within
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    This happens a lot. Remember that people are stupid and insensitive.
  • tinad120
    tinad120 Posts: 267 Member
    I hate that "compliment." Since when was being skinny a requirement for being considered pretty?
  • LesleeBeAlive
    LesleeBeAlive Posts: 504
    -true beauty lies within

    ^^ What she said
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    Yep ..... and even after Ive lost weight people still occasionally tell me what a beautiful face I could have if my cheeks weren't so chunky
  • melissanne81
    melissanne81 Posts: 34
    Take it as a compliment and use it as motivation. Since more than one person has said it, you must have a pretty face or something.

    It's a ****ty, backhanded compliment.

    What is wrong with these people? I can't imagine saying that sort of thing to someone. Yeah I might think it but say it out loud? Never.
  • zoeluiisa
    zoeluiisa Posts: 392
    A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.

    I don't eat cake :angry:

    It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.
  • ncsjodi
    ncsjodi Posts: 102 Member
    Response should be "You'd be smart if you weren't so stupid."
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    Well at least it means you have a nice face!!! Better than, 'You could lose weight but you'd never be pretty'...Try and see the positive side of it and if you're overweight start shedding the pounds and you'll never hear it again :)
  • KaydeForce
    KaydeForce Posts: 96 Member
    Never happened to me and I think it's pretty rude... First of all "skinny" doesn't make people beautiful!!! That's the most important thing to realize. It took me a while to get that myself.

    But don't get upset about it. If you can use it to your advantage - as motivation or as a thought when you do kickboxing ;-) - then do it. Otherwise, don't think about it anymore.
  • booksavvybabe
    booksavvybabe Posts: 26 Member
    umm, i think if I heard that comment directly to my face, my hand would be itching to slap something... or someone.... I know that that comment is not MEANT to be mean, but it still is. I wish people would think before they speak...
  • bulbadoof
    bulbadoof Posts: 1,058 Member
    Could be worse. My sister tells me I'm always going to have a derpy eye and acne no matter how skinny I get. :laugh:

    It doesn't matter what people think of you, unless you let it matter.
  • Wonderwoman2677
    Wonderwoman2677 Posts: 428 Member
    A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.

    I don't eat cake :angry:

    It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.

    You should have done it.
  • hb817
    hb817 Posts: 53 Member
    I hate that "compliment." Since when was being skinny a requirement for being considered pretty?


    Seriously!!!!!!!!!!
  • 00Melyanna00
    00Melyanna00 Posts: 221 Member
    Response should be "You'd be smart if you weren't so stupid."

    THIS.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.

    I don't eat cake :angry:

    It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.

    Damn, I might have.
  • Seokie
    Seokie Posts: 197 Member
    I just got told that recently -_-
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    That is rude beyond words!! even if it was true.

    next time say something like "Yeah but the skinner I get, the ugy-er you are, so how does that work?":huh:
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    When I was fat I got told things like that, my personal favorite was the slightly more tactful "you have such a pretty face," although at least those people left the "too bad your fat" as an implicit rather than explicit message. However, it turns out that my moderately overweight face is a lot prettier than my healthy weight face (which actually looks kinda gaunt). You can't win. Some people are just jerks. Ignore them and do what you have to do.
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    D-A-M-N!!! That's BOLD!!! I don't think I'd be able to come up with a quick come back, but I'd proably look at them like they grew a 3rd eye or something. Who says that kind of thing???

    My blood boils just thinking about it.

    You are lovely. . .regardless of your weight or what some clods seem to be willing to say about it. Lord help them if they ever gain weight!!!
  • ErinBeth7
    ErinBeth7 Posts: 1,625 Member
    That's a direct insult, in my eyes.
  • frando
    frando Posts: 583 Member
    A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.

    I don't eat cake :angry:

    It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.

    Really should have poured your drink over his head!

    I get the 'oh, you'd be so pretty if you didn't eat chocolate', I only eat chocolate if it's a gym day!
  • SeaChele77
    SeaChele77 Posts: 1,103 Member
    I'd be hurt - pretty isnt only about the outside!!

    But....I'd also use it as fuel to keep me on my journey!!

    Sorry people have to be such jerks!! :(
  • KaydeForce
    KaydeForce Posts: 96 Member
    A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.

    I don't eat cake :angry:

    It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.

    You should have done it.
    Oh my god... you should have! Of course it's the sole purpose of all our lives to be attractive to every man we run into in pubs, right? I'm actually getting mad right now. People are so incredibly stupid!
  • cmpollard01
    cmpollard01 Posts: 246
    The last time someone said that to me it was an elderly lady that was new to our church. I decided to look her dead in the eye and say "Aww, thanks! But you know what? I'm already pretty-losing weight would just make me skinnier." Boy did I make that lady MAD! But the other ladies that were waiting were amused!
  • Ms_Steel
    Ms_Steel Posts: 125
    :flowerforyou:

    eff them!
    they are derps.
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    Yep ..... and even after Ive lost weight people still occasionally tell me what a beautiful face I could have if my cheeks weren't so chunky

    I :heart: your cheeks, Shan! They're adorable! You wouldn't be you without those cheeks. You are beautiful BECAUSE of them.
  • DeathKitty23
    DeathKitty23 Posts: 64 Member
    If someone said that to me i would be on a total downer
    It sounds like an insult disguised as a complement - I don't know if i could hold my tounge lol
    xx

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