"you'd be pretty if you were skinny"
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unfortunately i did once get from a gas station clerk
"are you pregnant"
that was the only time i ever replied with a "f you."0 -
My response to that compliment would be "You'd be nice if you weren't such a *****!"0
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Response should be "You'd be smart if you weren't so stupid."
Oh yeah! You nailed it.0 -
As up-my-*kitten* as it may sound, I do think it about myself. It motivates me.
Turn that negative feeling into something positive and use it to motivate you!
I have a heart shaped face, a beautiful hourglass body and gorgeous legs. I'm only 1.5 dress sizes away from what I believe would be ideal in making my features look better: I too would look pretty if I were a little skinnier. It's the number one thing that gives me the drive to shed the remaining fat! =D0 -
What a horrible thing to say to someone.
All I can say is that I'm thankful for my husband who loved me even when I was obese. He said I was always his pretty wife. He is glad I lost weight because it makes ME happy, but he gets mad if I disparage myself in any way about when I was fat. He always reminds me that I was always his lovely wife. I think I'm lucky to have him.
Our husbands must be related!! Mine is always telling me how beautiful and sexy I am...even more so now that I am losing weight. I know he loves me...cause even at my worst he tells me I'm beautiful!
As for the "complimentors"....I would have come back with "I always thought I was pretty"...hmmm!0 -
There is a video on YouTube... I'll have to look it up for you. You'll laugh, I hope. Anyway, the girl in the video gets told something similar and she comes up with multiple comebacks. One of my favorites is when she gets this "wow" look on her face and says, "Oh my gosh, I was just going to say the same thing to you!"
I'm a huge fan of sarcasm.
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ohemgee. story of my life! lol- and it doesn't really matter- i think my face was prettier when i was a fatty anyways! fuk em! this IS an insult! who the fuk? baaah! this is amazing to me---pretty is pretty is pretty, fat or skinny! don't pay em no mind, they are both without manners or social skills!
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A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.
I don't eat cake
It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.
Dang, did you tell him he would be attractive to women if he could quit being a **** all the time! I don't even know what I would do if that happened to me.0 -
part of what kept me so fat for so long was friends who didn't want to hurt my feelings telling me that I wasn't fat, that I was solid, big boned and "still beautiful". It wasn't till I heard the truth from a guy I really liked that I finally got smacked in the face with it.....and was able to get motivated to lose the weight....
and now I AM beautiful, inside and out....
truth is truth.....don't cover it with chocolate to make it taste better.....if you are morbidly obese you WILL be more attractive when you lose the extra weight
don't be a hater
Yea, you will feel better, and more than likely look better when you lose the weight. (except in the rare case where some girls/guys actually DO look prettier with some extra meat) BUT that still does not make it any nicer to say to a total stranger something along the lines of "you're fat" or lose weight to be pretty.
I think friends should be a bit more honest. I won't lie, I honestly prolonged losing weight because of that! I'd say "I'm fat, I need to lose weight" and my friends would all jump in with the "no you're not! You're pretty" blah blah blah. But see, if THEY said I should lose weight, it's ok, because they're my friends. I've known them for a long time and chances are they are saying it for my well being. Not to be snarky. But if a stranger says it, it's mortifying and discouraging. It's almost as bad as the "when are you due?" when you're not pregnant!0 -
Nope. Regardless of my weight, skinny or otherwise, I don't get compliments about being pretty other than from my partner or my mum. C'est la vie.0
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My response would be 'You would be smarter if you didn't open your mouth.'Okay..
so this has happened on two different occasions where I was in a public bathroom doing my make up or whatever and a lady has told me.
"you would be beautiful if you were skinny"
......... i always take this as an insult though i'm not sure if it is.
today at work a lady came in and told me-
"if you lost weight you'd look so pretty"
HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE? for some reason it makes me feel so sad and ugly... I guess at the same time it's pushing me more to lose weight. I just don't know how to feel about it.0 -
Just curious, but the women who told you that...were they skinny?0
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Never happened to me and I think it's pretty rude... First of all "skinny" doesn't make people beautiful!!! That's the most important thing to realize. It took me a while to get that myself.
But don't get upset about it. If you can use it to your advantage - as motivation or as a thought when you do kickboxing ;-) - then do it. Otherwise, don't think about it anymore.
This is so true. Honestly I would tell those people that what they said is rude. Every single person has to deal with themselves and obviously these people are not by any means beautiful, I do not care what they look like. Skinny is not beautiful A person is beautiful. If you want to lose weight then that is a decision you make. If you don't so be it. People are beautiful and pretty big and small. And that is the real truth. Some people, not all, are very superficial and only see the outside. Obviously I love to look good but if that's all I'm worried about my life would be very unbalanced.
Who gave these people the right to talk to you like that.
You find your beauty within yourself, do not live your life according to anyone else.0 -
I've been told that by guys and my response is usually, 'yea but if that means guys like you would be attracted to me why bother!'
I will admit it gives me a complex but it also reminds me that ppl can be so shallow. I try to use it as motivation and move on. I can't help ppl's stupidity.0 -
Okay..
so this has happened on two different occasions where I was in a public bathroom doing my make up or whatever and a lady has told me.
"you would be beautiful if you were skinny"
......... i always take this as an insult though i'm not sure if it is.
today at work a lady came in and told me-
"if you lost weight you'd look so pretty"
HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE? for some reason it makes me feel so sad and ugly... I guess at the same time it's pushing me more to lose weight. I just don't know how to feel about it.
OMG - Yes it is very insulting if you ask me. Somebody told me this at a meeting earlier this year, when I was all dressed up and thought I looked pretty good. It was very upsetting to me. People are stupid sometimes.0 -
I've heard that one before.... my personal fav was an older, wealthy woman who was a member at a private club I worked for... she said, 'Honey, you're so pretty, just don't get any bigger' - How does one respond to that (while not getting fired?!) - I was like, oh, um...thanks. Will do, Mrs. A! Thanks for the tip! People can be so ignorant
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Okay..
so this has happened on two different occasions where I was in a public bathroom doing my make up or whatever and a lady has told me.
"you would be beautiful if you were skinny"
......... i always take this as an insult though i'm not sure if it is.
today at work a lady came in and told me-
"if you lost weight you'd look so pretty"
HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE? for some reason it makes me feel so sad and ugly... I guess at the same time it's pushing me more to lose weight. I just don't know how to feel about it.
Just reply with, "Do you just tell others, or would you ever dare to practice what you preach?"0 -
Yep, that's a good one. LOL. People are dumb, you just got to shrug it off. If you were skinny, they'd give you plenty of backhanded compliments about that too. You're doing what you're doing for you and nobody else.
I love the earlier person's response, "You'd be smart if you weren't so dumb." Hahahaa...0 -
One can't win.
I've been told I'd be "pretty if I gained some weight"...and I'm a hard and lean muscley 112lbs. I mean...wtf do they want?0 -
Response should be "You'd be smart if you weren't so stupid."
Haha! This. I'll have to remember that.0 -
Yep, I've heard this many a time. It depends on the day and my mood whether I take it as an insult or a compliment. I try to be of the mindset that this means I have the potential to be hot and I try to use it as motivation. But it's kind of a stupid back-handed way to compliment someone. It's like saying "Well, you COULD be pretty, but right now you're just fat." It's just a dumb thing to say to someone, even if you don't mean it as an insult. I know that I'll look (and more importantly feel) much better if I lose weight, and I am thankful that I have a decent face. But that doesn't make it OK for complete strangers to say stuff like that. People suck. Try to ignore them at all costs.0
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I had a friend tell me this once. A friend who was very overweight for most of her life, and then lost a lot of weight in college (which was when I gained all of mine). She's one of those who looks down on all overweight people now.
She also said things like "I used to be so jealous of you" (in highschool, because I wasn't overweight)... maybe I'm over sensitive, but these comments always rubbed me the wrong way. They are backhanded and insensitive...especially coming from a friend
Anyway... I'm now thinner than her again, and as petty as it may be, that gives me a little bit of satisfaction
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YES! Some friends tell me I would be hot if I was fit. I have boobs and a butt, but also a gut :blushing: Ugh! Its motivation for me, but then again it is embarrassing and fustraiting.0
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Response should be "You'd be smart if you weren't so stupid."
This! Enough said!!0 -
I hate that "compliment." Since when was being skinny a requirement for being considered pretty?
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A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.
I don't eat cake
It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.
I'm sorry to say that I might not have had the same self restraint that you did!0 -
It's a backhanded compliment. I have recieved that my entire life but in a different way. Man, you have a pretty face. Not just that i am pretty but basically narrowing it down to my face. Or i dated a guy who says...i normally don't date chunky or big girls....LIKE WTF? That is not a compliment but people who have never had a weight problem look at it as if it is a compliment. Ignorance is bliss.0
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What a horrible thing to say to someone.
All I can say is that I'm thankful for my husband who loved me even when I was obese. He said I was always his pretty wife. He is glad I lost weight because it makes ME happy, but he gets mad if I disparage myself in any way about when I was fat. He always reminds me that I was always his lovely wife. I think I'm lucky to have him.
Our husbands must be related!! Mine is always telling me how beautiful and sexy I am...even more so now that I am losing weight. I know he loves me...cause even at my worst he tells me I'm beautiful!
As for the "complimentors"....I would have come back with "I always thought I was pretty"...hmmm!
i am a jerk- so i am always trying to trick my husband into saying he thinks i'm prettier now (over 300 lbs to 175ish!) and he is unwavering! not once has he said he prefers me one way or the other--just that i have always been beautiful, sexy, etc to him! lol--and honestly? he probably found me sexier as a fatty bc my body is a sagging mess now! lol but, it's nice to know there are other sweet men out there:)<3N- 0 -
when I was sick with an ED women would tell me I'd be pretty if I gained weight..one of my friends and her hubby still say I need to "go eat a cheeseburger"..pisses me off.. I wanna bench press their ignorant *kitten* ..also when I was that thin my boyfriend said he didn't think I was attractive anymore ..made fun of my razor sharp cheekbones 0
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next time someone says that to you catch them off guard and ask them.."So basically you're saying I'm ugly???" I agree with you saying that its insulting... regardless of your weight I'm sure you are beautiful inside and out! :flowerforyou:0
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