Facebook and Relationship Problems!
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Oh.my.word. He's your BOYFRIEND. Not your husband. Why give him so much thought? Get rid of him.
I'm totally going to quote this back to you someday.
You love M. You'd never tell me that again.0 -
He won't like the creepy dirty PM i just sent you either!:flowerforyou:
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This is not a Facebook and Relationship issue ... you have a relationship issue. You are clearly not happy with him and have serious red flags, however I don't think you needed this forum to figure that out.
Talk to "him", not "us", if you want to salvage the relationship as it's far beyond a "tip" anyone can give you. If you do not want to take effort to salvage the relationship then discuss breaking it off and move on.0 -
weelllll i am not sure that defriending him was a great idea BUT there has been a few times i thought of doing it to my bf lol...honestly i think facebook is just a terrible thing to have when your in a relationship...my bf gets jealous too over the stupiest ****..and now he has a police test and refuses to delete his facebook bc then he cant look at mine...ridic i think but thats guys for ya...and then today i see on my page my boyfriend "likes" girls pics daily soooooooo lets just say i am not exactly happy i havent even said anything to him yet but i do understand where ur coming from....truthfully i think facebook BLOWS lol0
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This isn't a Facebook problem. This is a jealous boyfriend problem. I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I would do. I would dump him. I have done pin-up modeling for a few years now and my husband trusts me. He is not going to get mad because some guy liked or commented on my pictures. As long as they aren't disrespectful to me, then who cares?0
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Why is the judgement being passed on me because of my age? I am new to the "dating" world! I was married for over 11 years. This has nothing to do with immaturity. Avoidence of his immaturity people. Plain and simple. What grown man worries about facebook?0
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This isn't a Facebook problem. This is a jealous boyfriend problem. I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I would do. I would dump him. I have done pin-up modeling for a few years now and my husband trusts me. He is not going to get mad because some guy liked or commented on my pictures. As long as they aren't disrespectful to me, then who cares?
No man has commented, only hit the "like" button.0 -
What sort of pics are they? Normal pics, or sexy poses with minimal clothing?
If they are normal pics that you could send to grandma without embarrassment, then he is really insecure. Whether you want to sort that out with him is up to you.
If you are posting sexy things on Facebook to get attention, then he may have a point.
The issue isn't really with my pics, for he knows I'm attractive. The issue is with me being friends with men...period.
This didn't happen over night and if you delete him it show's you're hiding something. With the way your talking I would think you are hiding something as well or maybe it's how you are talking with these men. If you are sounding flirty than heck yeah he's going to be pissed and someone might know you're attractive but if you are in a committed relationship you shouldn't be posting half naked pictures on the internet. So if you fb pics are anything like these pics again he has every right to be pissed off. Plus act you age, 35 should know better. Have some respect for yourself0 -
has anyone else had relationship issues because of facebook?
Not really.
Then again I am not 12....0 -
If you are a 35 year old woman, and having relationship problmes becasue of facebook I have 2 responses -
1- delete your facebook
2 - find a more mature, secure man
^^^THIS!!!!!0 -
This isn't a Facebook problem. This is a jealous boyfriend problem. I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I would do. I would dump him. I have done pin-up modeling for a few years now and my husband trusts me. He is not going to get mad because some guy liked or commented on my pictures. As long as they aren't disrespectful to me, then who cares?
THIS.
I also do modeling and some of it is pin up style, some of it is implied nude. Photographers have seen me naked. Friends of both genders have seen the final photographs (everything covered up but nudity implied). My husband doesn't care because he trusts me. I am also very very good friends with my last two exes. They are both my friends on Facebook. Both my friends on MFP and both my friends offline. If my husband behaved the way that the OP's boyfriend is behaving, he would have been kicked to the curb long ago.
ETA: I am also 350 -
Which is why you need to leave him. He sounds like a nutter.Why is the judgement being passed on me because of my age? I am new to the "dating" world! I was married for over 11 years. This has nothing to do with immaturity. Avoidence of his immaturity people. Plain and simple. What grown man worries about facebook?
Is he your age? No man his age should care that much? I'm sorry.0 -
This isn't a Facebook problem. This is a jealous boyfriend problem. I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I would do. I would dump him. I have done pin-up modeling for a few years now and my husband trusts me. He is not going to get mad because some guy liked or commented on my pictures. As long as they aren't disrespectful to me, then who cares?
No man has commented, only hit the "like" button.
Well, you can end it now or when they find your body, be a headline.
This is not normal or appropriate behavior. He is insecure and jealous. It's a short walk over to Stalkerville.0 -
Having "Facebook" and "Relationship" in the title together made me feel the need that I had to look at this thread. Facebook kills everything social, and is an effective tool for slowly (or quickly) destroying your life.
Thank for for giving me another reason to justify deleting my account. It's been 9 months now and I've been so much better off without it!0 -
How on earth did un-friending him seem like the best option? Of course that's only going to fuel his insecurities!
I think you are mistaken. He is constantly checking in on me because of his jealousy and insecurity issues.
I think you're mistaken. You thought deleting him would delete your issues? Wrong.
How about deleting your facebook account. Or, your boyfriend.
Well, obviously it will create a new one, but this shall pass...I hope, lol
I'm not a fan of deleting my account to appease another and actually, deleting my account was my first action and then I though "what the hell are you doing, there's no need to delete your account"
really not trying to be rude, but how exactly will this pass? If he is that insecure when he COULD see things going on, won't that make his mind fester making those miniscule nothing comments into grandiose affairs in his head?0 -
Seems to me that you crave the attention. Otherwise you wouldn't be on here seeking more of it. Your man is probably right to be insecure with his 35 year old girlfriend acting like a college freshman. Good luck!
That is uncalled for!0 -
sounds like its over to me0
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Why is the judgement being passed on me because of my age? I am new to the "dating" world! I was married for over 11 years. This has nothing to do with immaturity. Avoidence of his immaturity people. Plain and simple. What grown man worries about facebook?
I think the comments on your age came because you chose to deal with the problem by defriending him, which will only fan the flames and escalate the argument.0 -
Why is the judgement being passed on me because of my age? I am new to the "dating" world! I was married for over 11 years. This has nothing to do with immaturity. Avoidence of his immaturity people. Plain and simple. What grown man worries about facebook?
I think it's because you are asking strangers for advice after already deciding to unfriend your boyfriend and stir up more drama.0 -
^this^How on earth did un-friending him seem like the best option? Of course that's only going to fuel his insecurities!
I think you are mistaken. He is constantly checking in on me because of his jealousy and insecurity issues.
I think you need to "unfriend" him in real life.0 -
quit facebook.0
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Why is the judgement being passed on me because of my age? I am new to the "dating" world! I was married for over 11 years. This has nothing to do with immaturity. Avoidence of his immaturity people. Plain and simple. What grown man worries about facebook?
I think the comments on your age came because you chose to deal with the problem by defriending him, which will only fan the flames and escalate the argument.
You're acting like a child. You essentially are telling him you don't care about his feelings or his thoughts, you're going to do what you want to do and him -- be damned. That's not fair to him. You're dragging him along. He may be a psycho, but you shouldn't drag him around either. You're not doing either one of you any favors.0 -
Why is the judgement being passed on me because of my age? I am new to the "dating" world! I was married for over 11 years. This has nothing to do with immaturity. Avoidence of his immaturity people. Plain and simple. What grown man worries about facebook?
What grown woman settles a relationship issue by deleting her partner from her facebook friends list?
Starting to think this is a troll thread TBH.0 -
personally I think if something you are doing seriously bothers your SO, whether you agree or not it's time to put on your big girl panties and decide what's more important to you - and I guess you did that, no wonder he's pissed.0
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Those who can't trust others can't trust themselves...or so I have heard.
And it all sounds like childish games to me.
If you deleted him off FB then you should delete him out of your life. You've chosen these random guys on your FB friend's list over your boyfriend...that action speaks louder than words.0 -
ya unfriending him definitely not the right decision, now he knows your on there talking to other guys and has no way of even seeing what your chatting about....that will make him way more insecure. You need to take his feelings into consideration...how would you feel if the roles were reversed?
^^^ this and in my opinion facebook is more of a problem for most people then anything.0 -
How on earth did un-friending him seem like the best option? Of course that's only going to fuel his insecurities!
I think you are mistaken. He is constantly checking in on me because of his jealousy and insecurity issues.
Then you and he need to sit down and have a serious face-to-face conversation about your relationship, your concerns, his concerns, etc. Maybe consider couples counseling, if this is a long-term relationship. Not play emotional games on an online social media site.
That's great advice. He has tried to be controlling.
I don't know either of you or your relationship situation, but I've been in a relationship with someone who was very insecure and jealous. It's not healthy and it can sometimes escalate to aggressive or controlling behavior. Please use common sense and get out of the relationship if it goes in that direction.0 -
If Facebook is affecting your personal life, you need to take a good, long, hard look at your choice of friends and significant others.0
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Why is the judgement being passed on me because of my age? I am new to the "dating" world! I was married for over 11 years. This has nothing to do with immaturity. Avoidence of his immaturity people. Plain and simple. What grown man worries about facebook?
What grown woman settles a relationship issue by deleting her partner from her facebook friends list?
Starting to think this is a troll thread TBH.
When you put it that way...0 -
If Facebook is affecting your personal life, you need to take a good, long, hard look at your choice of friends and significant others.
Exactly. I've been on FB for years and years and have had no real drama from it. A few "friends" showed their rear ends and I deleted them and that was the end of it. It hasn't affected any important relationships.0
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