Do you have THOSE friends...

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  • good2bthaking
    good2bthaking Posts: 325 Member
    I try to says something every day. If you are looking foe encouraging, honest friends, feel free to add me. My name is Norm and you can see my profile for more info. Good luck!!
  • misslindseylou
    misslindseylou Posts: 141 Member
    I have yet to start using the friends feature on here, but on most social media sites I try to keep my friends to a small people that I actually like learning about or talk to, or people that post interesting things. I think that if you feel like there's no connection or you're not getting anything from their journals or statuses...then go ahead and delete! MFP should primarily be about getting healthy and be a positive place, and if it's becoming a Debby Downer zone for you, well...do what you can to fix it!
  • JenMull44
    JenMull44 Posts: 226 Member
    I acually tried to keep up with everyone on my friend list but found out that its too much work with my schedule.
    I tend to gravitate towards the people that I find interesting or funny. I also like anyone who is a runner.

    This is not Facebook where everyone is on all the time.......I kind of like that about MFP.
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Maybe they think you're needy and whiny.
  • JenMull44
    JenMull44 Posts: 226 Member
    As long as they long in occasionally, post something funny or rude or entertaining, and send naked pictures, what else do you need?



    Where do I find the naked pictures?? lol


    Hahahaha......where are the naked pictures ?
    Thanks for the laugh.
  • DaBossLady24
    DaBossLady24 Posts: 556 Member
    I WILL BE YOUR AWESOME MOTIVATOR FRIEND :) Especially because you love the steelers just as much as I do haha :) I know it sucks but I just think that you need a new round of friends. There's plenty of us awesome people out here :)

    Exactly what she said ^^ :drinker:
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    That you always try and support every day but they never support you back? I have 20 friends on my list...and I always take a few minutes every time im on to say a good word on their diarys, exercise and posts...and I only have 2 who are supportive back! Its just irritating me, its like the take and take and dont give back. :angry: I understand if the working people cant comment every day...but at least a few times a week...but I get nothing from these other people ever. Does this irritate you?
    Nope it does not irrate me. I don't comment to receive them back but to celebrate with them their victories along the way.

    Some ppl are quiet and not going to be just like me, have a very busy household, are very limited on computer time etc. The fact that they log in to me is a reason to celebrate not be grumpy at them because "it's not all about me" today.

    I know you'll find plenty that feel like you do and there will be some that don't and then you'll have many that don't respond to this type of thread because they don't have time...and that's A OK with me.

    I'm here for ME and if I can help anyone along the path I'm eager to do that. But I don't rely on others comment to keep me going because once I turn off my computer the comments are gone anyway. Then we're on our own right?

    I don't expect anything in return for my comments or kindness in general in life so when it comes back around as Karma, it's a sweet surprise!:love:

    Cheers & Congrats for finding MFP and beginning a healthy new path!:drinker:
  • Angie_1991
    Angie_1991 Posts: 447 Member
    As long as they long in occasionally, post something funny or rude or entertaining, and send naked pictures, what else do you need?

    wait........I don't get naked pictures................ hmmm
  • jenluvsushi
    jenluvsushi Posts: 933 Member
    As long as they long in occasionally, post something funny or rude or entertaining, and send naked pictures, what else do you need?



    Where do I find the naked pictures?? lol

    This! ^^^^
  • littlebuddy84
    littlebuddy84 Posts: 995 Member
    I have to say no. All my friends are very supportive :-)
  • 1CALIJIBARO2
    1CALIJIBARO2 Posts: 132
    86 their a--. Keep those who return support. :drinker: :drinker: :smokin: :glasses:
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    Nope, because I removed those people from my friends list. There's just no point.
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
    I've got Vera and my cunning hat and that's all I need.
  • Debby0904
    Debby0904 Posts: 151 Member
    I think it's about giving where you feel like it... and receiving without expectations. I mean, sure... if you have people who never or rarely talk, then that can be a drag. But sometimes people are just really busy with work and life... and sometimes there are people I find worth following even though they can't comment often.

    But most importantly... give without expectations of receiving.

    Maybe you need to find more friends... and more compatible friends. There are lots of awesome people on here.

    I agree but I do believe we are all really busy with life. There are times I work 70 hours a week, still workout and manage my home plus comment on others profiles. I do not expect back but for me personally that wasn't my point. It's more the fact I do not have a lot of time to sit on the PC reading and commenting on so many others posts when there is nothing back from some. Or they do not workout and or log in daily so they are not dedicated. It's just my way of keeping my list personal.

    And YES! Lots of awesome people on here!
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    Cut the ones who don't support you. Work on keeping up with the ones who do and adding people you think you'll most get along with.
  • Sarah_Wins
    Sarah_Wins Posts: 936 Member
    Wildly inappropriate pics is all I ask for. Everyone else got deleted.
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    I'm quite sure people delete me if they realise we're not alike or don't have similar goals. I've done that, what's the big deal?! It's not like these people are real life friends, if they are tell them you need more support and they'll give it to you I'm sure.
  • melsmith612
    melsmith612 Posts: 727 Member
    I'd have to say... I don't really care. My friends have their own lives and I'm in no position to judge how/when they use MFP. If they post and I catch it, I comment appropriately. If I never hear from someone after becoming MFP "friends" I really don't notice - I'm too busy with day-to-day stuff to bother tracking who is a good "pal" and who isn't.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Maybe they think you're needy and whiny.

    They KNOW it now! :cry: :sad: :cry:
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    Yes I do, and I'm probably one myself. I tend to interact with those who interact with me. So, the few friends I have that don't interact with me, I'm not worried about it. I like reading the forums and using the tools. It's all good.
  • birdieaz
    birdieaz Posts: 448 Member
    when i work 12hr shifts I don't respond or comment to anyone. However on off days I sit with my morning coffee and do the good jobs and way to go's on almost every wall post. I've found that only 10 or so people consistently respond and have another 2 or 3 I message regularly. That's fine with me, anymore and it would be hard to keep up.
  • LoosingMyLast15
    LoosingMyLast15 Posts: 1,457 Member
    I have those in real life. Lol

    for a minute that's who i thought the OP was talking about! HA!! i have those friends.
  • PibblesRun
    PibblesRun Posts: 236 Member
    Maybe they think you're needy and whiny.

    They KNOW it now! :cry: :sad: :cry:

    Uh, no...that im not. I have never complained about comments or lack there of. I very rarley even post statuses that are not my exercise or diary.

    Ive been cleaning all day and just got back on here, suprised at the response! Ive never made a post before...my first one! And thanks for the abundance of friend requests from people needing/wanting support! I have accepted everyone and will probably be deleting the inactive unsupportive ones!

    And to clear up one thing that a few people mentioned, I know people are busy and have lives, if you would read my post properly I said I dont expect comments all the time but at least one a week or something! Yes I come here for support...if I didnt want support I can just log my cals on my own without being on a diet site. I dont need this site to log cals, i got on it for support and encouragment because i havent been able to loose my baby weight since giving birth and I thought friends might keep me motivated!
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Wildly inappropriate pics is all I ask for. Everyone else got deleted.

    Me too. That's why she's on my FL. :wink:
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    Maybe they think you're needy and whiny.

    They KNOW it now! :cry: :sad: :cry:

    Uh, no...that im not. I have never complained about comments or lack there of. I very rarley even post statuses that are not my exercise or diary.

    Ive been cleaning all day and just got back on here, suprised at the response! Ive never made a post before...my first one! And thanks for the abundance of friend requests from people needing/wanting support! I have accepted everyone and will probably be deleting the inactive unsupportive ones!

    And to clear up one thing that a few people mentioned, I know people are busy and have lives, if you would read my post properly I said I dont expect comments all the time but at least one a week or something! Yes I come here for support...if I didnt want support I can just log my cals on my own without being on a diet site. I dont need this site to log cals, i got on it for support and encouragment because i havent been able to loose my baby weight since giving birth and I thought friends might keep me motivated!

    There might be a group here for women specifically trying to lose baby weight??! Might be worth looking into!
  • RedHeadDevotchka
    RedHeadDevotchka Posts: 1,394 Member

    I very rarley even post statuses that are not my exercise or diary.

    Maybe it's this.
    I usually interact with people who do more than just post about exercise or diet. What if you just tried posting some fun stuff too? Sometimes ppl on here need to 'get to know you' a bit more.
  • nikinonsense
    nikinonsense Posts: 14
    I only get mad if they aren't supportive in real life. I think sometimes people just miss stuff on MFP.
  • fitQueenbeast
    fitQueenbeast Posts: 298
    This is why I'm kind of indifferent to the "friends" feature on this site. This isn't Facebook. I'm not here to make friends, I'm here to lose weight. I track my food, get advice and encouragement when needed from the message boards, and go on my merry way. I don't really need someone checking my food diary or patting me on the back because I made it to the gym.

    Encouragement from others is great, but I've learned I'm much more happier with myself and my progress when I motivate MYSELF. Because my opinion of who I am and what I'm doing is really all that matters.

    ^^^ THIS RIGHT HERE!!!!!! *where is that doggone LOVE button at?*
  • Booksandbeaches
    Booksandbeaches Posts: 1,791 Member
    Delete them. Honestly if they don't post any comments to you, they probably won't even notice you deleted them.
  • skinnybitchbarbie27
    skinnybitchbarbie27 Posts: 306 Member
    Some of these replies are kinda harsh and that's ok but something some of you need to realize, when people are mothers, students, workaholics, or just plain introverts because of a weight issue it is hard to have friends. I manage a business with two other employees, I do not go to school, and most of my clients are older ladies whom I wouldn't get a great relationship from. When it comes to really close friend I have one female and a few guys. I was NEVER compatible having girl friends, they drove me insane with their whiny high school bullsh*t. Now that I am 23 years old I realize holy cow, I have no friends. I have no one to brag to about how I am doing and although I am not doing this for anyone else it feels good to scream it to the world. I have met so many wonderful people on this site that give me encouragement, even in the hard times. Anyone who has had any weight loss, especially as big as mine, would know that this isn't an easy journey and without a wall of support behind you it is tempting to give up.

    It especially bothers me when someone who was quite small to begin with, and only has to lost 10-15 pounds to be in "perfect bikini condition" can have an opinion about a woman who needs to lose more than that and needs the support. You don't know what it is like to be on a huge journey like this and what it feels like to need that support.

    Boom, this is my word.

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