Things A Chivalrous Man Shouldn't Let a Woman Do

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jennifer_417

Times have changed and women are different now. Many women are independent and do not need a man for things. Many women do like a Chivalrous man and have a list of things a man must be and do but keep in mind, it goes both ways. Then there are many won't even date a guy who is Chivalrous cause they find them boring or needy. I also know many guys who are Chivalrous in the beginning just to get in her pants. In my opinion, it's just better to be yourself, spontaneous, fun, honest, communicate, respectful, romantic when the time calls, consistent, genuine, and thoughtful and hope it is returned.

This. It's good to have good manners in general. But. I have found that at times, men adhere to a set of rules and call them "chivarly," when really, they are pandering to their own ego.

chelledawg14

Gee, my husband did all these things until we bought a house and moved in together. He REALLY WAS Prince Charming.
Ever since, it's my job to do all the dishes, all the laundry (he even complains about carrying HIS laundry basket to the basement & it will overflow until I ask him to carry it down - he won't empty it, though), I do all the dishes - won't even wash one thing even though I've finished them all & he decides to eat later, I gather 3 floors of garbage & take it out on garbage day, I do all the cooking and I even pack his lunches, and I do all the grocery shopping along with carrying all the bags in and unloading them. We both work full-time; I'm the one who does everything for the kids as well. He can remember to buy beer & drink 6 -7 days a week after work, & he remembers to buy tobacco, but I'm supposed to do EVERYTHING else. No exaggeration, either. Problem I have is that he is ungrateful and if I so much as don't have time to pack his lunch in a bag & just leave it on the shelf in the fridge, I get asked what the problem is! Thing is I ENJOY doing this stuff, but being unappreciated and not even getting an anniversary card for our sixth year back on 9/7, well, that changed me. Oh, by the way, I'm the one who makes all the car appointments & remembers the routine maintenance schedules as well. I handle all the bills & do our budget. Guess I shouldn't have married a guy who was 44 when we met & was only married 2 months back when he was 37. However, with all this being said, I do love him so I take it for what he is - lol (lazy sounds like a good word). I didn't sign up for the role of mother to a now 52 yr old! I thought older men were supposed to be better, not worse! Should have lived with him BEFORE we got married, I guess

Iceman1800

I let her use my pillow to kneel on.....

phoenix_59

pick her nose....a chivalrous man will always do that for her....

Kerri_is_so_very

Cut down a wasp nest and burn it

meggonkgonk

Well. Guess I'm f*cked in this department since I don't date men.:ohwell:

Yup. You can't go out in public, because you'll never be able to open a door. And if you somehow escape out the window, you can't drive anywhere since you wouldnt be able to pump your own gas :laugh:

yoyogirl68

Great list. Wonder where I can find a man like that...

meggonkgonk

Gee, my husband did all these things until we bought a house and moved in together. He REALLY WAS Prince Charming.
Ever since, it's my job to do all the dishes, all the laundry (he even complains about carrying HIS laundry basket to the basement & it will overflow until I ask him to carry it down - he won't empty it, though), I do all the dishes - won't even wash one thing even though I've finished them all & he decides to eat later, I gather 3 floors of garbage & take it out on garbage day, I do all the cooking and I even pack his lunches, and I do all the grocery shopping along with carrying all the bags in and unloading them. We both work full-time; I'm the one who does everything for the kids as well. He can remember to buy beer & drink 6 -7 days a week after work, & he remembers to buy tobacco, but I'm supposed to do EVERYTHING else. No exaggeration, either. Problem I have is that he is ungrateful and if I so much as don't have time to pack his lunch in a bag & just leave it on the shelf in the fridge, I get asked what the problem is! Thing is I ENJOY doing this stuff, but being unappreciated and not even getting an anniversary card for our sixth year back on 9/7, well, that changed me. Oh, by the way, I'm the one who makes all the car appointments & remembers the routine maintenance schedules as well. I handle all the bills & do our budget. Guess I shouldn't have married a guy who was 44 when we met & was only married 2 months back when he was 37. However, with all this being said, I do love him so I take it for what he is - lol (lazy sounds like a good word). I didn't sign up for the role of mother to a now 52 yr old! I thought older men were supposed to be better, not worse! Should have lived with him BEFORE we got married, I guess

I kind of gotta ask, *why* do you do these things? Just...i don't know... stop doing it. Buy and prep your food. Do your laundry. Let him pull his own weight.

jenbk2

I remember the first time a guy did the "walk on the outside of traffic". He freaked me out at first. When I asked him what he was doing he explained and I thought it was so romantic !

kellyallday

I love my husband, don't get me wrong...but one of the biggest pet peeves I have is the fact that the man never, and I mean never, pumps gas. I will get into the car and it is nearly always on "E". Yesterday, in a hurry to get to my hearing, I leapt into his car (because it was two hours away and his car gets better gas mileage). On "E." Never fails.

*Put the seat down--or wipe the seat, never happens. Thankfully we have three bathrooms and he usually uses the same one, so I just avoid that one.

*Open the car door? Not on your life. I'm lucky if he remembers to unlock the door after getting in.

In the grand scheme of things, though, he does so much, so well, that these are really minor issues. My first husband did all of the nice things, but it was all flash, no substance. When things got tough, he fell apart. Give me the real thing, not the veneer. In a crisis, my guy would be the first person I trusted, without any hesitation.

Well, said... WE DO appreciate chivalry, but at the end of the day we want someone that is consistent for the long haul... still waiting on my "real thing"!

fit4lifeUcan2

kill the bug!!! Wish my husband wouldn't freak out like a little girl when he sees a bug. Instead I have to deal with the critters. yuck! Other than that I can't complain. He does the dishes, sometimes the laundry, puts the seat down and after 20 years he still holds my hand when we go for walks. :flowerforyou: Oh and he sleeps on the wet spot lol :blushing:

ravengirl1611

Chivalry is not dead, at least I hope not. I continue to believe there are things a man should do for a woman. While I can think of many I'm only going to list 5 random in no particular order:

*Pump her gas/ keep car serviced
*Walk on the outside on the street (keep her inside from street)
*Open doors and always let her enter first (including opening/ closing car door)
*Pick up tab for first date (can't stand a cheap ninja)
*Fail to get off (no explanation needed. handle ya biz fellas or someone else will.)

I hope chivalry isnt dead - but there is a time and a place for it - as an independent and fully capable woman who probably knows more about cars than any of the last few guys I dated I am very adept at taking care of things myself. However
If we're out somewhere in my car at least offer to pump the gas - I'll probably let you
Getting the car service - I'll let you do this one too - too many mechanics still assume that as a female I dont know anything about cars and I find the patronizing attitude from them more annoying than sucking it up and letting my non-car knowing guy deal with them.
Walk on the outside - I prefer you be on my right side and if thats the outside ok - if not - that's ok too
Opening doors - if we're 'dressed up' yep - I expect you to open the doors and hold the chair (if you've been taught how - it hurts having a chair rammed into the back of your knees) etc. If its just a normal day - I'll get my own doors / chairs but thanks. And I'll even open the doors for you too if I'm there first
Picking up the tab - whoever issued the invitation gets the cheque - first date or otherwise
Failing to get off - not a requirement but doing it will earn you points

and I will add as the guy you get to
Kill the bugs - I'll do it if I have to but if you're there it's your job
Help around the house - dont wait for me to ask you / tell you something needs to be done
Toilet seat - dont really care if you leave it up or down - as a mom of 2 boys I always check first - but do tidy up any messes you've left behind
Do not leave your hair in the sink when you shave - that's just gross

Basically - if you want me to be ladylike - you best be gentlemanly - or I will stop being ladylike and kick your sorry *kitten* to the curb!

AngryDiet

Eat *all* of the pancakes.

12skipafew99100

I just LOVE mem. Men have always been good to me. My dad was the first. I saw him treat my mother like gold. And she treated him well too. I married a man just the same. I think we get what we expect to get in life. It dosnt always work out that way, unfortunately but mostly, I think.

Men and women have different things to offer in life. We are like apples and oranges and should not be compared. We should love and care for each other so that we can reep the rewards of all the wonderful things the other brings to our life. :flowerforyou:

karynspeace

I AM A STRONG, INDEPENDENT, FREE THINKING WOMAN... and chivalry makes me melt! Maybe it was my southern upbringing, who knows. Opening doors for me, saying bless you darlin when I sneeze, taking my hand to escort me through a crowded room, and yes, the daily grind items like oil changes and car inspections. I CAN do these things all by my little ole self, but having that firm hand of guidance in my life is just pretty nice too. I was raised to believe that your man will always make sure you are provided for first, therefore you will be more ready, willing, and able to return that favor.

I can be a spitfire and melt over chivalry too, can't I?

LosinItAll2012

A man should always be gentle when putting the cuffs on.

And rub my wrists once he takes them off.....

ShellyKay67

If it's not already added-

-When she says "nothing is wrong" that means everything is wrong and you better not pester her to figure it out because if you can't you're only going to annoy her more. Best to ask, "do we need to talk or should I keep my mouth shut?" If she tells you to keep it shut... do what she says.

^^
Ah....I think he has "figured out" the "nothing is wrong" thing! lol
nice!

Mel1509

Chivalry is not dead, at least I hope not. I continue to believe there are things a man should do for a woman. While I can think of many I'm only going to list my top 5 in no particular order:

*Pump her gas/ keep car serviced
*Walk on the outside on the street (keep her inside from street)
*Open doors and always let her enter first (including opening/ closing car door)
*Pick up tab for first date (can't stand a cheap ninja)
*Fail to get off (no explanation needed. handle ya biz fellas)

^^Perfect description of my husband! I'll add: Push the shopping cart and carry the bulk of the groceries

Sounds like my hubby too... I know we are lucky women

GTOgirl1969

I AM A STRONG, INDEPENDENT, FREE THINKING WOMAN... and chivalry makes me melt! Maybe it was my southern upbringing, who knows. Opening doors for me, saying bless you darlin when I sneeze, taking my hand to escort me through a crowded room, and yes, the daily grind items like oil changes and car inspections. I CAN do these things all by my little ole self, but having that firm hand of guidance in my life is just pretty nice too. I was raised to believe that your man will always make sure you are provided for first, therefore you will be more ready, willing, and able to return that favor.

I can be a spitfire and melt over chivalry too, can't I?

^^This.

I was raised in the South, but my mama taught me from a very early age to be self sufficient. I grew up watching her do it ALL- from working 2-3 jobs, to doing the yardwork, some housework (I was washing dishes when I was 5!) and home repair. She didn't really have a choice; she and my dad divorced when I was 9. I learned from her what being strong and independent was all about.

I then got into a relationship with a guy that (among other things) refused to do ANY of the above because he was of the belief that his day ENDED when he came home, and that his only responsibility outside of bringing home a paycheck was to flop down on the couch and make sure it didn't go anywhere. He and I are ancient history, but the sense of independence and strength I gained is still there.

That doesn't mean that I don't swoon a little when a guy opens the car door for me on a date, or that I don't appreciate it when I'm having car trouble and a guy stops to help. I'm strong, I'm powerful, but I'm still a woman- and a little chivalry now and then serves to remind me of that fact.