Is 25 too old to be single?

malicent
malicent Posts: 127
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I just turned 25 in September and I feel like I should be in a relationship that is heading towards marriage by now. All of my friends that are 23-25 are either engaged or in a relationship and I feel like I'm behind socially....if that makes any sense. I got out of a relationship back in April and I feel like I'm still young and childish. But I like it.. I mean I'm pretty content with who I am and what I'm focusing on now (myself).

Part of it is esteem, you know, the whole overweight thing. But I see a lot of people here on MFP who I consider potential friends, but then I shy away from adding them or talking to them much because I find out they're married/have kids. Nothing against it at all but I see the posts and I feel less likely to form any kind of bond because we're at different stages, and that sort of thing isn't what I know and understand well.

I don't feel too lonely and don't have much interest in getting into a relationship right now, but I can't shake the feeling of being behind I guess.
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  • FirefitMike
    FirefitMike Posts: 85 Member
    I didn't get married until I was 29. You aren't behind at all...some people never get married, some get married at 60. Do what makes you happy, not what you think everyone expects.
  • SweetNSassee
    SweetNSassee Posts: 17
    I don't believe that there's anything wrong with it. I'll be 26 in a week and I am single, never been married but I do have kids. I do feel like I am behind compared to my friends who are married or in relationships that have lasted for years but I do not feel like everyone has to have that. I'm not lonely either and not really looking for a relationship because it's easier to be single and meet the weight loss goals first and then maybe date you know?
  • Arexxx
    Arexxx Posts: 486 Member
    God I hope not.
    I'm 18 and don't want to get married until I'm 30
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    yes, you've blown it in all those countries with a life expectancy of 32. sorry.
  • checof
    checof Posts: 114
    Oh mah god, I'm 27 and I don't want to even THINK about marriage for now! The thought of it makes me break into a cold sweat, lol.
  • 0somuchbetter0
    0somuchbetter0 Posts: 1,335 Member
    You should get married when you meet someone worthy of marrying. There's no right age for it. I didn't even want to think about getting married until I was 30. I actually met my husband when I was 35...we got married a year later. In my experience, people who get married very young have a greater chance of divorce. Don't rush things.
  • malicent
    malicent Posts: 127
    Thanks guys!

    Yeah, growing up I always said to myself that 30-33 would be when. But life happens differently than we plan right? Also, being single now provides me with all the time and focus I need to work on getting healthier, so yeah.. Cool! :D
  • LaurySch
    LaurySch Posts: 277 Member
    25 and single is a whole heluva lot better than being a 37 year old single divorcee with 2 kids who now have a deadbeat dad.

    Don't rush stuff that's not meant to be, learn to be your own best friend and hopefully the rest of it will fall into place for you!
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    I'm 27 and divorced. I should have waited until at least 25 before thinking about marrying. I have been single now for 2 years and I know there is no reason to rush into something.
  • suckerlove
    suckerlove Posts: 198
    I tell all my younger friends, don't get married before 30 because the amount a person changes between 20 and 30 it crazy. Most marriages of people I know who married young don't survive the changes.
  • xxxTiaxxx
    xxxTiaxxx Posts: 310 Member
    You're fine dude. I use to worry about that stuff when I was like 22. I've had many bfs (long term) that just never worked. Now I'm 25 and have been with someone for a year and a half and kind of feel like we should be getting engaged soon. I think the older you get the more you realize that it's not really that big of a deal and even if you're single at 25+ there's still a lot of other people who are in the same situation. I'd just enjoy it and you'll eventually meet and click with someone.

    I don't think those sort of ideals mean much these days with so many people waiting later or focusing on other things like.. living and working =)
  • jasonr1009
    jasonr1009 Posts: 342 Member
    lol im 33 tomorrow..... and single. i hope not!
  • LoveMyLife_NYC
    LoveMyLife_NYC Posts: 230 Member
    too old?! i'm 29 and single. i must be ancient...

    anyway, i refuse to settle. when people ask, i say no one is good enough for me :laugh:
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    You should get married when you meet someone worthy of marrying.

    THIS. PLEASE do not rush marriage! Work on enjoying yourself and forming good solid friendships. Be the woman you want to be.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    25 and single is a whole heluva lot better than being a 37 year old single divorcee with 2 kids who now have a deadbeat dad.

    Don't rush stuff that's not meant to be, learn to be your own best friend and hopefully the rest of it will fall into place for you!

    I'm a 27 year old single divorcee of 2 kids who have a deadbeat dad. You act like that's the end of the world. We're doing just fine and I wouldn't trade these boys for anything.
  • ChristineEaton7210
    ChristineEaton7210 Posts: 52 Member
    I didn't get married until I was 39........ I kissed A LOT of frogs before I found my prince!!
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    I'm going to say no, not too old...because I'm 42 and single. Not always happy about it, but it is what it is.

    I always wanted to get married and have children, that apparently was not in the cards for me...I'd like to think my life is not a total wash because I'm single, though. I just have to figure out where else to focus my energy.

    Life doesn't happen the way you want it to. There's no "right" time table for things to happen.
  • cessnaholly
    cessnaholly Posts: 780 Member
    I waited until I was 27. No rush for you. All in good time. Choose wisely.
  • ejohndrow
    ejohndrow Posts: 1,399 Member
    If it is, then at 31 I'm in trouble.
  • NextChapter60
    NextChapter60 Posts: 78 Member
    I'm 52, divorced 9 years. There's no age limit on being true to yourself.
  • OkieinMinny
    OkieinMinny Posts: 834 Member
    NO!! Its young go out enjoy life - you will meet the person when its right...let it happen organically!

    25 is SOOO young - trust me I know!
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    I'm 32 and have no plans to get married for at least another 100 years. The majority of my friends are not married, and when they do get married I replace them with someone who isn't a sell out.

    I think you'll be fine.
  • gentlebreeze2
    gentlebreeze2 Posts: 450 Member
    It makes you smarter. My kids were 24, 31, & 33 when they got married. I think you're better equiped to make a good choice for a lifetime when you are 25+. You need to go at your own pace... I got married at 22, and wish I hadn't. The married lasted almost 20 years, but only because I felt like I had made a vow before God,and had to keep it no matter how bad it got.
  • malicent
    malicent Posts: 127
    @CtnJason Nice! Happy birthday! :D Eat lots of cake lol!
  • PhotogNerd
    PhotogNerd Posts: 420 Member
    Hell to the Yes.....



    Just kidding.... no it's not too old to be single. Live it up!
  • chinatbag
    chinatbag Posts: 249 Member
    30 and single, feels great, sometimes it gets lonely, but, whatever. I'm hopeful :)
  • millions0fpeaches
    millions0fpeaches Posts: 195 Member
    25 and still single is better than 25 and divorced with a kid. Don't rush it.
  • mvatrail
    mvatrail Posts: 45
    38 here . . Guess I am doomed ?
  • LaurySch
    LaurySch Posts: 277 Member
    25 and single is a whole heluva lot better than being a 37 year old single divorcee with 2 kids who now have a deadbeat dad.

    Don't rush stuff that's not meant to be, learn to be your own best friend and hopefully the rest of it will fall into place for you!

    I'm a 27 year old single divorcee of 2 kids who have a deadbeat dad. You act like that's the end of the world. We're doing just fine and I wouldn't trade these boys for anything.

    Absolutely! I'd never say that my kids are a negative thing EVER! I love them and that's the part that sucks - they have to deal with the fact that their dad is an arsehole I picked when I was 21 and afraid of being alone for the rest of my life! I always give props to the single parents who are doing it by themselves (without child support and/or alimony) because it's the hardest. I've had an amazing 11 years being the only parent to my kids and as rough as it's been they are the most amazing people on this earth!
  • mollz007
    mollz007 Posts: 168 Member
    I think that society sometimes puts too much pressure on us to be married by X age, and I think that leads to many people settling or saying yes to the first person that asks because they are afraid no one else will want to marry them. I think that there is no right age to be married, and that you certainly shouldnt settle just because you are afraid you wont find anyone.

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