Being played by a guy?

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  • Bdde
    Bdde Posts: 133 Member
    Sorry for being a little old school but you need to do as little work as possible! you need to let him do most of the work. A guy loves a challenge and if he doesn't know what you're worth then BUH-BYE! Onto the next! If you think he's a great guy YOU'RE a great woman and another man will definitely see that!
  • SeaChele77
    SeaChele77 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Move on.

    Sounds like you want more and he's in it (currently) as an occassional friend - not much more. He may be interested but not to the same level.

    Don't waste your time "hoping" he'll come around.
  • lindsy721
    lindsy721 Posts: 350 Member
    I agree with the others. If you're important to him, he'll find time.
  • cutchro
    cutchro Posts: 396 Member
    "Don't let someone be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. "--Unknown
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    he sounds like a dingleberry.

    Lmao... This. X
  • RGO51
    RGO51 Posts: 2
    Not only should you delete his number, you should go on-line and block his number. That way there is no chance he will catch you at a lonely moment when you are more inclined to see him because you have nothing better on the horizon. Good luck.
  • slboling
    slboling Posts: 117 Member
    It looks like especially the guys are unanimous in saying that this guy should not be your focus. He may like you, but if he was really into you he would do anything to spend time with you. There are too many other options to torment yourself with this one.
  • Nikki143
    Nikki143 Posts: 491 Member
    I'm going thru the same thing.. He swears he loves me, we had a relationship before that was 100% dedication, but this time around he'll disapear for weeks, months, then pop in and say hey!
    I don't even give him the time of day..
  • _JR_
    _JR_ Posts: 830 Member
    It's called E-Maintenance... checking in just enough to keep you on the hook.

    Is he married?
  • GretchenReine
    GretchenReine Posts: 1,374 Member
    MOVE ON.

    You might want to save this as a macro because it's been a popular answer today!!!
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    MOVE ON.

    If a guy wants to see you, he will. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll make time. Unless he's running a small country or a member of the CIA, he has time. Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

    ^ This,

    If the guy wants to see you he will make an effort and even go out of his way to do so. Hell I'd jump on a plane and fly to a half way around the world or across the country to see the person I want to be with if I had too. If this guy makes no effort to see you, he is not worth waiting for
  • Derpina7
    Derpina7 Posts: 552 Member
    He's being a jerk because it has worked in the past. And in a way it's kind of working now since you have a mix of confusion and a tiny bit of intrigue which means you are interested in him.

    To hell with his crap. I grow tired of idiots like him screwing everything up for men who don't do that. I don't care how "fine" or how he has "arms" . Teach this nimrod a lesson and blank him.

    TY *hugs*.
    (And, well, for that matter I am tired of seeing women play games as well - it always happens on either side)
  • Nikki143
    Nikki143 Posts: 491 Member
    Not only should you delete his number, you should go on-line and block his number. That way there is no chance he will catch you at a lonely moment when you are more inclined to see him because you have nothing better on the horizon. Good luck.
    THIS ^^^^^^^^
  • jfinnivan
    jfinnivan Posts: 360 Member
    Like someone just said, maybe he's married.
  • superkel317
    superkel317 Posts: 78
    Definitely sounds like you're being played. If you are the one having to initiate pretty much all of the conversations, etc. then that is not a good sign. If he's really that into you, he'd be trying to spend time with you more & talking to you more. You deserve better than that, so I'd just move along, as much as it may hurt you. There's someone out there who will treat you like a princess. Wait for that someone. :)
  • delaney056
    delaney056 Posts: 475
    I'm going thru the same thing.. He swears he loves me, we had a relationship before that was 100% dedication, but this time around he'll disapear for weeks, months, then pop in and say hey!
    I don't even give him the time of day..

    I'm seriously done with it. Mind games are unnecessary. Don't tell me one thing and then act something totally different.
  • Polly758
    Polly758 Posts: 623 Member
    "He's just not that into you"
  • robkishere
    robkishere Posts: 12
    lose him indeed something or someone else is attracting his attention.
  • twentyjxthree
    twentyjxthree Posts: 12
    Babe.... DON'T CHASE.... REPLACE!

    Live by this.

    Always.
  • Elf_Princess1210
    Elf_Princess1210 Posts: 895 Member
    move on! you deserve better.
  • MrsDrk
    MrsDrk Posts: 153 Member
    Well. This guy sounds like he may be not so great so yea, move on.

    My husband was not the pursuing type. He was rather shy around women, and not sure how to act. He read signals all wrong, or just missed them entirely and it took me giving up, and just looking elsewhere for him to realize that this unforseen anger he was feeling was jealousy because he really did care.

    He wasn't mean, by the way- he was just not as present as I was, I guess. Even after we started dating, he sort of got "cold feet" and I said that I wasn't really going to play the I want you, I don't want you - game. He stopped having doubts and things have been amazing. We've been together 5 years, married 3. He's still terrible at picking up signals sometimes and still awkward with some situations but I find it endearing now.

    Just in the future- don't rule all men out because they just don't know how to act around a woman. Some men really aren't just after one thing- it can take a bit of time to make them comfortable :)
  • Bethie_B
    Bethie_B Posts: 292 Member
    You should totally call and text him every 5 seconds. And when he doesn't reply, ask him why he's mad at you. Do this over and over again. Dudes love that.
  • TraciStivers
    TraciStivers Posts: 116 Member
    MOVE ON.

    If a guy wants to see you, he will. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll make time. Unless he's running a small country or a member of the CIA, he has time. Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

    I agree, don't make him a priority in your life when you are only an option in his life.
  • HeavyLiftGirl
    HeavyLiftGirl Posts: 1,267 Member
    He's probably married and not telling you.
  • LauraJo08
    LauraJo08 Posts: 219 Member
    There is this guy I met, who I really like. He says he feels the same way.
    However, he goes from talking to me one day to acting like I don't exist the next. I initiate almost all of our conversations, and he will go from talking to me one day, to completely removing himself and not responding to any texts, calls, etc. Then he comes back and starts talking again, then disappears. He also says he wants to spend time with me, yet I am always the one making the effort. I told him I wanted to go to the fair that is in town, and he went (no problem), but didn't bother inviting me or even mentioning it at all. Yet he wants to spend time with me?
    I'm trying to figure out whether or not I'm being played, or if this guy is just fickle.

    I hate to say it, but I think that this is a classic "he's just not that into you" situation. He sounds immature as well, because a real guy who's not interested will be blunt and not play you along. Onto the next one girl!
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    MOVE ON.

    If a guy wants to see you, he will. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll make time. Unless he's running a small country or a member of the CIA, he has time. Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

    ^ This,

    If the guy wants to see you he will make an effort and even go out of his way to do so. Hell I'd jump on a plane and fly to a different country to see the person I want to be with if I had too. If this guy makes no effort to see you, he is not worth waiting for


    aw, this is sweet.
  • karynspeace
    karynspeace Posts: 132
    I'm not even bothering to read everyone before me's posts. Sweety, I have been married a long time and even I know that you have one of two things:
    1. An opportunity to move on and don't look back...
    2. Friends with benefits....
    Pick one and get on with it already. And stop being so naive...
  • futurestarz
    futurestarz Posts: 510
    Unless I was officially boyfriend/gf with a guy, I never called or texted them first. If they want to spend time with you, they will make the time. If a guy really likes a girl he is NOT going to ignore her. It kind of hurt a few times when the guy didn't call me, but you'll get over it.
  • drelan
    drelan Posts: 59 Member
    "When it comes to a man, don't listen to a word he SAYS, instead pay attention to everything he DOES."

    Best advice...ever.
  • angiemartin78
    angiemartin78 Posts: 475 Member
    Move on honey...Find someone that's going to treat you like a queen and never let him go.

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