Do you get along with your inlaws........
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In the beginning I made a great attempt to get on well with my mother-in-law. My husband tried to warn me to steer clear of her, but I thought he was just exaggerating. Turns out I should have listened. That woman is certifiably INSANE! I mean mental hospital material. Any day now I expect her to show up at our house swinging and axe. We are talkin' Lizzie Borden material here. Thank God we live far away and my hubby has set animal traps just in case she get's too close.0
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MIL is hard to deal with. Plus she beat the crap (broken noses/lacerations on backside) out of my BF and his sisters so I have a hard time liking her just for being an extremely abusive parent. Sadly, she is staying with us this weekend because she wants to visit my BF and son, FML.
Haven't met his dad and not sure if I will, they haven't spoken in years..0 -
I get along pretty well with my In-Laws. My father-in-law is a chatter box and sometimes I have to just let him talk...and my M.I.L. is a bit of a "my way is always right" and "I know all" but, they are GREAT to us for the most part. They watch my daughter during the week while we are at work and, while she doesnt always listen to what I tell her, she does a pretty good job for the msot part. OF COURSE I wish she would LISTEN to me since her last BABY is now 40 yrs old but, we get by! :-) They also cook dinner for us most nights since we come in together to pick up our daughter. they would do it 5 nights a week if we wanted them to! :-)
We wouldnt be where we are right know if it werent for them, quite frankly!!0 -
My mother-in-law is a very sweet and loving woman who, though sometimes overbearing and pushy, is truly a good woman. Sometimes she makes me uncomfortable and can be rude, but it's because she lacks tact - not because she is mean-spirited. I love her and am so lucky to have her for my MIL.
My father-in-law passed away two years ago. He was an incredible man, and I see so much of him in my husband. I miss him. He was the kind of person that I was proud to be related to, and considered a friend.
My 3 brothers-in-law and sister-in-law are all incredible people. The wives are, too, but family functions can be challenging sometimes! Lots of different personalities to navigate. Still, I love them all and recognize that I'm fortunate to be part of the circle!
I can relate to this one! Well said
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My inlaws r awesome. Thnk god could not imagine having a horrible inlaws0
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No, not at all. I caught my sister in law having a party drinking and taking drugs with a house full of guys while she was being paid to watch my kids. A few weeks later she stole my hubbies car, best thing we ever did was cut her out of our lives. Life is too short to surround yourself with people who make you miserable.0
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We co-exist well... does that count?
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My ex's family was ok. Got along best with his mom since she died before he and I met!
Boyfriend's family is...interesting. His mom invited daughters and daughters-in-law to dinner for her birthday. Guess who wasn't invited. Yup me. Now guess who was. Boyfriend's ex-wife!0 -
My mother in law is amazing! I get a long with just about the whole family but there is one or two sister in laws who have strong opinions about me *side eye*0
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My mother in law drives me nuts! She always has every since I started dating her son which is now my husband. She sticks her nose in everything. I can go weeks without hearing from her and then it starts! What pisses me off the most is when she tells everyone that she has my kids all the time when its not true and my kids havnt seen or spoken to her in weeks.
Someone told me years ago that she only expects for her children to be with people who are like a prince or princess. Yeah like she's a freakin queen!
God help me I have to go over there for supper tonight, say a prayer for me!0 -
Do I get along with them? Yes, most of the time. Do I like them? No, not really......0
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No, not at all. I caught my sister in law having a party drinking and taking drugs with a house full of guys while she was being paid to watch my kids. A few weeks later she stole my hubbies car, best thing we ever did was cut her out of our lives. Life is too short to surround yourself with people who make you miserable.
You are absolutely right. There should be no room in anyone's life for toxic people. Regardless of their relation to you.0 -
when my fil was meeting our daughter after she was born he wouldn't hold her cuz she wasn't a boy... ..AND he also thought that my husband should have stayed with his first wife.....the one who slept with the brother. cuz when she said " I DO" she followed it with all his guy friends AND his brother. Yeah 26 years of a rotten marriage later..he should have stayed with her. I haven't cheated on him and never will but I can see why she did.0
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Yes, but they are really easy to get along with. My husband is the youngest of 6 and it amazes me how well all of them get along, although it isn't a surprise because his parents are incredible people. His mother accepted me from the moment we met and has always been very sweet. Unfortunately, my FIL passed away about a year and a half ago, I was not prepared for how difficult it would be.0
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Thankfully, I don't have to see mine. My bf refuses to give his mother our address and won't even give her his cell because of how she acts. He just visits her o his own when he's in town.0
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I work for my inlaws. **** gets all ****ed up if we're not getting along.0
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No, not at all. I caught my sister in law having a party drinking and taking drugs with a house full of guys while she was being paid to watch my kids. A few weeks later she stole my hubbies car, best thing we ever did was cut her out of our lives. Life is too short to surround yourself with people who make you miserable.
You are absolutely right. There should be no room in anyone's life for toxic people. Regardless of their relation to you.
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I love my MIL and FIL and I like one of my BIL and one of my SIL ... Now the other 2 other BILs and 2 other SILs..... I just laugh at their drama and stupidity most days. It is never-ending entertainment!!!0
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Not married yet, but my SIL and MIL used to hate me and we had a really rough relationship - finally BF spoke to them about it and everything has been great for the last year or so. I'm really relieved because it was so tense before and really awkward whenever I saw them! Now I feel much more like part of the family and I see myself with DBF longer term.. I am very family oriented so I wouldn't feel comfortable spending my life with someone if I couldn't get along with their family.0
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my FIL is awesome and that side is great
MIL is crazy!! literally!! She lived with us during our first year of marriage (Yeah during the "fun" times, it soo sucked) because she wouldn't get a job and leave her dumb abusive boyfriend. We thought she could live with us for a couple months to save up.. Well it took her three months to "find" a job (yeah right, I found somethihng in two weeks) then it took her two weeks to not like it and quit. When we got pregnant with our second child she HAD to move out. She ended up just moving in with his sister.... SMH0 -
No, but you kinda have to right? We are just completely different people...luckily I only see mine once or twice a year...
but I ADORE the rest of his family, aunts, grandparents, siblings- I really do enjoy them. I dont know what went wrong with his mom?0 -
Love my in-laws now...HATED my MIL from my first marriage...needed glasses and glasses of wine to cope when we visited them or they visited us. She would literally throw out the coffee I made in the morning, and remake it...who DOES that????0
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I actually like my in laws. They tend to be louder than my family, but most families are louder than mine, so that's not a big deal. They have bold personalities that can wear me out after a while, but they are fun, intelligent and caring. I don't see them every other week though... maybe once a month? I don't always agree with them, but I do enjoy them. I'm really good at staying out of trouble and not expressing some opinions... like when FIL and MIL are disagreeing over whether or not a rug/lamp/whatever looks good or whether or not so-and-so was called, etc.
I especially stay out of the issues that are tense within their own family. My youngest brother-in-law has a disability and when questions about his future (care, residence, responsibility, or finances) come up, I stay out. Hubby knows my opinions, but his family don't. All opinions of mine on that matter are noted in private as a couple and routed through as hubby's own (as we're very much on the same page).
Sometimes I feel guilty because I find my MIL easier to get along with then my mom, but I'm a daddy's girl through and through, so no guilt on that front. FIL is great and all but he's not my daddy.
Hubby says his family looks forward to his visits because he brings me, rather than because they are excited to see him. LOL. I didn't believe him at first, but it's true. Guess it's because they had all boys so I'm the "only daughter." He's the oldest of their sons as well, so I'm their best shot at grand kids.
Hubby's relationship with my folks was a bit more tense... probably something to do with me being an only child, a daughter, and him being a different religion and a having strong personality. (Let's just say that when my folks met his for the 1st time, they realized he's the quiet one in the family. :P ) But they've grown on each other, especially as they've gotten more and more opportunities to see how much he cares for me and how great of a person he is in general. He and my father actually get along quite well, especially if the subject is me or tech gadgets. Mom, not as much, but then again even she and I sometimes have trouble (we were like cats and dogs when I was younger), so nothing too extraordinary about that. I think they were just worried about him dominating the relationship at first. Now they see the reality is that yes, he takes the lead, but he always checks with me before making big decisions, listens to my requests and concerns, and takes me serious. He doesn't run me over. Rather, we often confer behind the scenes and he drives a pre-negotiated path. His strong personality compliments mine and mine compliments his.
I think my in-laws may have thought I was a bit passive and quiet when we first met. And that's true, especially compared to them. But they are apparently mesmerized by my ability to get my stubborn hubby to do things he doesn't always want to do... and *gasp* the fact that I'm the only person he's every been seen being physically affectionate with in public. I think my MIL about died of a heart attack when she first saw us cuddled up on the sofa; let alone when I get away with playing with his hair. (I'm told getting him to hug grandparents when he was a kid was like pulling teeth... Boy was too independent to want to cuddle, etc.)
My parents and his have similar politics and hobbies, and both are transplants from out of state, but his are from a very big north eastern city and mine are from the middle of nowhere, mid western, small towns--plus they are different religions. All things considered, they get along remarkably well. At the wedding, we let them channel the differences through some friendly games/competition, add in some great food and lots of time to chat, and all was fine.
Holidays are relatively easy because the only holidays we question who to visit are the civic ones like Independence day or Thanksgiving. When we get moved into our 1st house and have kids, those will be easier because, well, I'll just host and that will be the end of that debate. I've already called dibbs. :P
Hubby also really likes my grandparents, especially G-ma. Oddly enough she was the coolest one of all about the faith differences. Hubby and I could both chat with her for hours. Dad adores her too (G-ma is dad's MIL).0 -
Nope. My MIL is bi-polar, so I never know if I'm going to get happy, fun MIL or "I don't think you like me very much" whiny MIL or "Everything you say offends me and I'm going to stop speaking to you for 6 months" angry MIL. Therefore, I dread talking to her.
Gosh, sounds like we have the same MIL0 -
Yep. Along with most of his family. :happy:0
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Haha, NOPE. My monster in law talked *kitten* about me for the longest time to my friends [we worked together] and still to this day owes me money for falling for a dumb scam. We still see her on holidays but it's kinda weird since we're clearly managing better with our lives since we basically cut ties with his family. Sad, but true.0
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I love my in-laws so much! Me and my mother-in-law are very much alike both in beliefs and temperament. His family is a little socially awkward but once you get past that it's okay. I love my father-in-law too but more than once he makes nasty fat person comments which is a little rough.0
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Hi...with my first hubby I weighed 133 lbs on our wedding day...went to to visit his parents, who I had just met for the first time, and I heard his mother whisper to him 'why did you marry such a fat girl'....broke my heart...then his dad politely pinched my butt at our reception they had for us....sad folks...lol..the second I didn't get to know at all...he was from Australia and wanted to move to Canada...so I got to see her for about a day before we left...lol...I think it was for the best...she made comments about me to my sister inlaw...not nice...she didn't even know me...lol!!0
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I love my MIL and FIL more than my own mother. They are warm, loving, understanding and wise. They are the best!!!:flowerforyou:0
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Yes! Because she lives in another state and rarely visits! :bigsmile:0
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