So, are you seeing anyone?

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I have been toying with the idea of writing this as a more extensive blog, but wanted to get some feedback from the general public.

Whenever I go back home or visit someone I haven’t seen in a while, the question most often asked is, “So, are you seeing anyone?” It makes me cringe. The question is annoying for a number of reasons, but the main one is – how is my relationship status anyone’s business? If I wanted that person to know, wouldn’t I have told them?

If someone really wanted to get a brief synopsis of the quality of my life, wouldn’t a more appropriate question be, “What are you doing for fun these days?,” or “How is school coming along?,” or “What’s new?.”

Singles, swingers, serial daters & the committed, how do you feel about this question?

Thx!
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  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    You aren't seeing anyone...are you?
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    It doesn't bother me. People are just making conversation.
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    Is that a touchy subject for you?
    When I was single I got asked that a lot, specially by my married friends who wanted details. :wink:
  • Ruger2506
    Ruger2506 Posts: 309 Member
    Maybe they are just asking cause they want to stick it in.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    You are single....we should hook up! :love: :flowerforyou:
  • supahstar71
    supahstar71 Posts: 926 Member
    I always get "when are you going to have a baby?" :grumble:
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
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  • _JR_
    _JR_ Posts: 830 Member
    I always get "when are you going to have MY baby?" :grumble:

    Fixed that for you. :wink:
  • Sasssy69
    Sasssy69 Posts: 547 Member
    Just say, "I'm seeing a LOT of someones." And then wink.

    I did this when my ex husband said very accusingly after he left me (for another woman), "I KNOW you have a boyfriend."

    I said, "Oh honey, I don't have a boyfriend. I have a LOT of boyfriends."

    Leaves them speechless. :drinker:
  • NoMoreFlubbering
    NoMoreFlubbering Posts: 95 Member
    It's just people curious about how your life is moving forward. Now that I'm married, I always get asked when we're going to have kids. It drives me batty too, but I grin and bear it because I know they're just wondering how life is going.
  • Growtinymusclesgrow
    Growtinymusclesgrow Posts: 152 Member
    I tell everyone that I don't have time to see anyone since most of my time is already spent feeding my midget porn and meth addiction..

    That tends to get them quite pretty quick!
  • totallydevious
    totallydevious Posts: 309 Member
    I always get "when are you going to have a baby?" :grumble:

    I get this too! So frustrating considering I'm only 23 but I don't get that question a lot but what I do get is, "when are you going to find a man" like really? Dx
  • supahstar71
    supahstar71 Posts: 926 Member
    I always get "when are you going to have MY baby?" :grumble:

    Fixed that for you. :wink:


    Next week work for you? :wink:






    TotallyDevious...try I'm 41 and I've gotten the question since my mid20s. :grumble:
  • xxloveiswarr
    xxloveiswarr Posts: 124
    I always get "when are you going to have a baby?" :grumble:

    i'll second this!!!
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    I always get "when are you going to have a baby?" :grumble:

    I used to get that a lot too & now I have 2 it's like "oh, you aren't having anymore, are you?"
  • Growtinymusclesgrow
    Growtinymusclesgrow Posts: 152 Member
    I always get "when are you going to have a baby?" :grumble:

    nice legs supa...
  • microwoman999
    microwoman999 Posts: 545 Member
    Yea sometimes that can really bug me only because I don't like the when are you having a baby question! All I know is I don't want people to know when I am having a baby until I decide to have a baby. Not that they need to know that we are trying and then they really know you are getting down in the bedroom LOL. Then again that could put some disturbing images in their minds :devil: HEHEHEHE!
  • BigBrewski
    BigBrewski Posts: 922 Member
    Just say, "I'm seeing a LOT of someones." And then wink.

    I did this when my ex husband said very accusingly after he left me (for another woman), "I KNOW you have a boyfriend."

    I said, "Oh honey, I don't have a boyfriend. I have a LOT of boyfriends."

    Leaves them speechless. :drinker:

    Can I be one of the many?
  • strawberrytoast
    strawberrytoast Posts: 711 Member
    Usually people in relationships ask this question. I think its cos they are bored and its exciting to hear of someone going out with someone new or dating people. People in relationships sometimes miss this.
  • Litlbeast
    Litlbeast Posts: 340 Member
    It's just the opposite for me; I seriously think my folks wish I'd become a lonely cat-lady and never date again. (3 kids, never been married, boyfriend's 15 yrs younger than me). They'll ask about anything except my relationship. ANYTHING.

    "So how's your jade plant doing any new sprouts yet?" +_+

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