So, are you seeing anyone?

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  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    At least we've told EVERYBODY we are never having children, so hopefully that one will never come up.

    Yeah that question will always come up. People used to tell me all the time that I'm young and I'll change my mind. If I said I didn't like them they'd come back with "But when it's yours it's different!" When I said I don't want to change my lifestyle I'd get the "Oh but you can still vacation they're just . . . . DIFFERENT!" Sorry but Disney is NOT my idea of a 'vacation' and if they knew what kind of vacations we go on they'd wish they didn't have kids too.

    I now just shut it down by saying I am deathly allergic to children. :)
  • RiverMelSong
    RiverMelSong Posts: 456 Member
    It used to annoy me a bit when I was single (i was single for 6 years!). But now that I'm actually in a relationship I want to tell the whole wide world!! :blushing:
  • LesleeBeAlive
    LesleeBeAlive Posts: 504
    I always get "when are you going to have MY baby?" :grumble:

    Fixed that for you. :wink:

    Cheater! :grumble:
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    No, nobody asks me that question.
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
    No, nobody asks me that question.

    so are you seeing anyone :happy:
  • lukeevans85
    lukeevans85 Posts: 108 Member
    "I see a lot of people....I was with my momma and coach Klein last night..."
  • EmiVReyes
    EmiVReyes Posts: 118 Member


    But now I'm getting the "When are you guys going to have another baby" questions. Um. Uh. What. The. F**k are you talking about? This baby making factory is closed. My new MIL still hasn't accepted that. I have to tell her to stay out of my uterus. And that's how I answer THAT question:" Stay out of my uterus. It's a hot mess up there." Then I wiggle my eyebrows. It's the right mix of defensiveness, hostility, and creepy. You guys should try it.

    omg i love that! that just made my day
  • NJSunshine13
    NJSunshine13 Posts: 116
    I just recently became single and so many people have said .... oh we have to get you back out there or I can fix you up with so and so. Whoa ..... I am not ready to even think about that. Why are people so concerned with everyone else's relationships. If someone asks me the question of are you dating, I just answer, I'm fine how have you been.
  • juicy_cat
    juicy_cat Posts: 145 Member
    You aren't seeing anyone...are you?

    Ha ha ha....funny....
  • ILoveTheBrowns
    ILoveTheBrowns Posts: 661 Member
    better then askin "so you screwin anyone"
  • kathim429
    kathim429 Posts: 379 Member
    I get the complete opposite from my family. They have actually told me that I have absolutely NO business dating right now. I need to focus on my kids (says my step mom who left her husband and kids for my dad....nice).
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    I find that only single-and-looking people take issue with this question....
  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
    Is that a touchy subject for you?
    When I was single I got asked that a lot, specially by my married friends who wanted details. :wink:

    Married 15 years. Please.... Please send details.
  • GamerGurl729
    GamerGurl729 Posts: 286 Member
    I always get "when are you going to have a baby?" :grumble:

    I get this too... especially from the MIL :grumble:
  • LilacDaffodil
    LilacDaffodil Posts: 148 Member
    I don't mind being asked if I'm in a relationship, but it really gets my goat when they follow up with 'why not?'. Um, what do they expect me to say???? If I reply with 'because no-one has shown the slightest interest in me for the past 12 years' (the honest answer), they get cross with me for making THEM feel awkward!!! :frown:
  • chauncyrenayCHANGED
    chauncyrenayCHANGED Posts: 788 Member
    I find that only single-and-looking people take issue with this question....

    You didn't answer my question...

    And what you have "found" is inconsistent with me. The question has ALWAYS rubbed me the wrong way regardless of what my relationship status is. That's kinda why I posted the topic, Silly.
  • chauncyrenayCHANGED
    chauncyrenayCHANGED Posts: 788 Member
    It used to annoy me a bit when I was single (i was single for 6 years!). But now that I'm actually in a relationship I want to tell the whole wide world!! :blushing:

    Awww!!!! Cute!
  • rayasunshine81
    rayasunshine81 Posts: 12
    I hate that question, too! The asker never seems to want to hear about grad school, my new home, or new activities. I don't know about you, but I'm from a small midwestern town, and marriage and babies is of paramount importance. A woman could be a cancer-curing saint, but in my town, if she's single, her life can't possibly be complete, and she must be looking for a man. I think the question typically comes from a place of geniuine affection, but it doesn't make ity any less infuriating. Feminism has a long way to go-hopefully the next generation of women will be encouraged to be excited about personal acheivements, and not just about finding a romantic partner.
  • kmhenry84
    kmhenry84 Posts: 96 Member
    I, too, think you are perceiving it in a way that people aren't intending.

    So, to answer your question: no it doesn't bother me.

    Motives for people to ask you:
    -they want to set you up with someone
    -they are in a commited relationship and want to hear from someone who is "single and exciting"
    -they are curious to see what's changed in your life, and want you happy

    Reasons for the follow up 'why' question:
    -They think you're awesome and can't see why someone wouldn't see that about you as well (hey can't blame your friends for that)
    -they have someone in mind for you and want to know if you are in seek mode

    So here's how to answer:
    Single/looking - No, I'm sure not! Do you know anyone that's not crazy or have a third eye? (or fill in whatever qualities you see fit)
    Single/not looking - no, still living the single life! Not even in my radar at the moment because I'm concentrating on my health (or whatever reason you want, I like that one)
    Single and complicatedly 'talking' to someone - I got my eye on someone, not sure where its going to head, but I'll keep ya posted!
    In a relationship but don't want to talk about it - Yes, I'm seeing someone, but it's still new, so not wanting to call CNN news just yet.

    Short, sweet to the point. Don't be offended that people want to be involved in your life =D
  • chauncyrenayCHANGED
    chauncyrenayCHANGED Posts: 788 Member
    I, too, think you are perceiving it in a way that people aren't intending...
    Don't be offended that people want to be involved in your life =D

    Yo! I know that these people who ask me mean well. What I'm saying is, the question is ANNOYING.
    I also never said I was offended. I said I was ANNOYED!
    (It's funny how people read into these posts. )
    I posted this topic to see if anyone else was annoyed by the question or if I'm the only one.
    Be that as it may, I very much appreciate your possible responses and might use a few! :D
  • JosephVitte
    JosephVitte Posts: 2,039
    I, too, think you are perceiving it in a way that people aren't intending...
    Don't be offended that people want to be involved in your life =D

    Yo! I know that these people who ask me mean well. What I'm saying is, the question is ANNOYING.
    I also never said I was offended. I said I was ANNOYED!
    (It's funny how people read into these posts. )
    I posted this topic to see if anyone else was annoyed by the question or if I'm the only one.
    Be that as it may, I very much appreciate your possible responses and might use a few! :D


    I hear you.................I get annoyed when they don't take the time you comprehend the question. Or when people try to dictate how your suppose to feel...............according to them. wowwwwwwwwwwww
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I don't get that question much. Maybe because I'm young. I'll only get it from old friends, with whom I've talked about guys with, so it's expected, and I often ask them the same thing! But with a relative or a coworker, not so cool.
  • chauncyrenayCHANGED
    chauncyrenayCHANGED Posts: 788 Member
    Feminism has a long way to go-hopefully the next generation of women will be encouraged to be excited about personal acheivements, and not just about finding a romantic partner.

    Wow! Yes!! I have found that especially the times when I am in a relationship and they ask me questions, I'd really rather talk about my studies or things I enjoy doing since I've moved away. I feel like these things are more about "me" than some expectation they (and society) have placed on me. My friends have always told me I'm a feminist at heart. :D Thanks for your insight!
  • JosephVitte
    JosephVitte Posts: 2,039
    I'm a menist at heart..........
  • chauncyrenayCHANGED
    chauncyrenayCHANGED Posts: 788 Member
    I'm a menist at heart..........

    haha!!!
    I believe it.
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    I don't get asked that question a lot but when I do the person is usually trying to "talk" to me.

    When I'm not feeling the person I just have six words:" That is none of your concern."
  • JosephVitte
    JosephVitte Posts: 2,039
    I don't get asked that question a lot but when I do the person is usually trying to "talk" to me.

    When I'm not feeling the person I just have six words:" That is none of your concern."


    I can see you saying that too!
  • FeebRyan
    FeebRyan Posts: 738 Member
    The wonders of facebook prevent me from having to answer this very much.

    I also wear a wedding ring x
  • Effpcos
    Effpcos Posts: 350 Member
    I sometimes get asked that, usually by much older men, my answer is "yes, my husband".

    When we had our son, he was literally out for a few hours before I started getting "are you having anymore?", then once we had our daughter we got "oh one of each, I guess you're finished now".
    Then when we had our third child, a girl, we got either "you're not having anymore are you?" or "are you going to try for another boy to even things out?" (wtf?).
    THEN when I did get pregnant again with our fourth (another girl) we got "oh" and "Haven't you figured out how to stop making babies yet?".
    Now that we have five children (one boy, four girls) we either get "so when are you having another" or "are you trying again for another boy" (we never cared about gender to start with, we had such a hard time having children we were just over the moon it was a live baby).
    And now that our youngest is two (next month) I get "so when are you going back to work?".

    Strangers/friends/family are full of inappropriate questions. I was in my OB's waiting room, pregnant with my fifth, and a woman also waiting asked "is this your first?", I replied "no, this will be my fifth child", and she says "oh wow, are they all the same father?" WTF?! "Um yes, they are all my husband's". I was very tempted to throw in a "I think so" "The third might be from the milkman" or "do you know who the father of your baby is?".
  • gym_king_carlie
    gym_king_carlie Posts: 528 Member
    for me it depends on the person and the way it is said, I find it more concerning when some one adds a ''yet'' to the end of the question, like I cant get a girlfriend (which is half true lol) but I sometimes find it abit unsensative, but thats just me

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