Husband don't like skinny women
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You aren't going to get skinny on accident.0
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Hy husband is the same way. He likes me thick - not fat not skinny. In general my husband likes his woman to look like a woman, not a little girl. FYI we have 5 daughters.0
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What do you and your husband define as skinny? My husband likes women with some meat on their bones as well. He loves me no matter what my size. He loved me when I wore sizes 18 and 20 and he loves me just as much now in a size 10. If you are losing weight for your health, that is all the more reason for him to be supportive. Losing weight doesn't mean you have to get into a size 0 or 1 as your ultimate goal. I want and need to lose more weight, but I don't want to be super skinny. I still want some curves. Skinny does not equal healthy. A healthy lifestyle equals healthy.0
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Mmm, I am sure your husband is a lovely man and loves you very much. But we are all human with our irrational fears. Do you think there might be a bit of insecurity there? Does he maybe (subconsciously) fear that once you lose weight, you might become 'too' attractive?
I may be completely wrong and I am only suggesting this because my very good friend is overweight and in her case it also affects her health, but her husband really doesn't want her to lose weight and even jeopardizes it by bringing home all sorts of high-calorie goodies. He was honest enough to admit that he was afraid that once my friend loses weight, other men might become interested in her.
If you have a really good relationship you can share your fears and make sure that he feels comfortable about the healthy changes in your life. Your health is paramount here, especially as you have Type 2 Diabetes which is likely to become much more manageable once you lose weight.
And I agree, there is a big difference between skinny and in healthy weight.
Best of luck on your journey :flowerforyou:0 -
Hey there. You're husband is going to love your body along with the rest of you regardless of the shape of your body. My wife's body has changed over time, as we all do. At one point she was extremely thin and now she is definitely more curvy. I have always thought that whatever shape she was in at the moment, that was the hottest she has ever been. And even though she is not necessarily happy with her current shape, I think she is the absolute hottest woman on the planet! (And, no, she is not on this site! So I am not just putting that out there for her to see! LOL)0
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My boyfriend prefers meaty girls as well.. so we sat down and had a look at some celebs and discussed who was too thin, who was just right, and who I look like now. The build that I want to achieve is exactly where he said I should stop (it's a lot thinner than I am now, but more toned-looking as compared to 'starving'). We also agreed that while I want to lose weight and gain some muscle, it's not what he wants for his body so as long as he's not being forced to 'diet', he's fully supportive. Some of his apprehension was that he didn't want to be forced to count calories, exercise with me, or feel bad for eating 'normally'. It's turning out well so far - I'm slowly losing, he's maintaining. He checks with me if I have workout plans for the evening before organising anything. He encourages me without being pushy, and I sometimes ask if he wants to come for a walk, knowing full well that the answer will be no!
We've both agreed that if his health deteriorates I will force him to join me, but for now, this makes us both happy!0 -
My SO doesnt like thin women either
he even got me pregnant when I lost a bunch of weight so I would gain weight back...wouldnt change it for the world, I have a beautiful 4 week old, AND I am actually smaller than what I was pre-pregnancy....so his plan backfired..hehehe
He is afraid that I will leave him....so now we have to have better communication to let him realize this isnt the case.....plus he is a boob man...and generally bigger women have bigger boobs...lol0 -
this is the perfect answer!!! Tell him it will be like being with a new woman lolI think if you're hubby truly loves you, size won't matter!0 -
If my SO dared ever make me feel bad about losing weight I'd lose an immediate extra 180 lbs by kicking his hiney out.0
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So my Husband is the type of man that don't like skinny women. He likes his women with a little meat on them. He don't like them fat or anything but def. not skinny. I have gotta lose weight for my health, me, and our future baby (so I can have a healthy pregnancy). Its still in the back of my head that he won't like the new me. And I know I shouldn't worry about this but I don't wanna lose him. He says he will still love me but I don't want it to change things between us.
Am I the only one that feels this way? Has anyone else has this problem?
You are gonna have to have a little faith in him. He says he will still love you, give him a chance to still love you, before you freak out.0 -
If my SO dared ever make me feel bad about losing weight I'd lose an immediate extra 180 lbs by kicking his hiney out.
PMPL!!!!!! I LOVE that answer!0 -
First and foremost, the one person who should be happy with your body is yourself.
That being said, I understand how being attractive to your husband would be important to you, in fact getting to be attractive for my wife is definitely one of the reasons I decided to lose weight and get fit. So I can relate. I know I have to do this for myself, but I see nothing wrong in wanting to good look for her.
Speaking from a guys perspective, I think you might be worrying too much about too little. Just as your husband, I too prefer a curvy figure than a skinny one, but that doesn't mean I would like my wife any less if she were thinner or in better shape. I know a lot of who say they prefer "fat" to "skinny", but none that say the prefer "fat" to "fit".0 -
My husband PREFERS big girls. Not just girls "with some meat" but big. He also watches BBW p....well you know. I have always been big. I was 200 and 5'2 when I met him, but I ballooned to 282 at my heaviest (I was also 9 1/2m pregnant with an 11lb baby boy) but still normally range between 255-265. I am down to 229 and I asked him what weight he would like to see me at. He says, "200"...Pfttt I want to be smaller than that. He told me if I lost too much weight it would bother him. Why can't more men feel like that?
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My SO doesnt like thin women either he even got me pregnant when I lost a bunch of weight so I would gain weight back...wouldnt change it for the world, I have a beautiful 4 week old, AND I am actually smaller than what I was pre-pregnancy....so his plan backfired..hehehe
That's absolutely one of the most disturbing things I've read all day and I've read through a 50 shades of gray thread.
And you're okay with this?? I realize two to tango but...0 -
My SO doesnt like thin women either he even got me pregnant when I lost a bunch of weight so I would gain weight back...wouldnt change it for the world, I have a beautiful 4 week old, AND I am actually smaller than what I was pre-pregnancy....so his plan backfired..hehehe
That's absolutely one of the most disturbing things I've read all day and I've read through a 50 shades of gray thread.
And you're okay with this?? I realize two to tango but...
I am so glad I wasn't the only one disturbed by this. I actually got up and walked away from my computer.0 -
I might violate my mancard when I say this, but some guys just say that so they're heavier wives don't feel unattractive to them. Take my word for it - whatever your body type is what your husband is into.
LMAO! I knew it! I had a sneaking suspicion this was true...:laugh:0 -
After extensive scientific research...:
Men who say that just don't want you to lose the tits and *kitten*. They're not necessarily "big girl" lovers but curve swervers (new scientific term I just came up with...)0 -
She's afraid is all and is just voiceing the fear. She knows he loves her, she knows he knows she needs to get healthy for her.
Honey you can get healthy and not be skinny. Take the higher end of the healthy scale and you'll be just fine, and so will he : )0 -
This!! I never met a guy who was only into larger women!! If a guy will leave you because you try to lose weight or get healthy than you are with the wrong guy!!I might violate my mancard when I say this, but some guys just say that so they're heavier wives don't feel unattractive to them. Take my word for it - whatever your body type is what your husband is into.0 -
My SO doesnt like thin women either he even got me pregnant when I lost a bunch of weight so I would gain weight back...wouldnt change it for the world, I have a beautiful 4 week old, AND I am actually smaller than what I was pre-pregnancy....so his plan backfired..hehehe
My husband PREFERS big girls. Not just girls "with some meat" but big. He also watches BBW p....well you know. I have always been big. I was 200 and 5'2 when I met him, but I ballooned to 282 at my heaviest (I was also 9 1/2m pregnant with an 11lb baby boy) but still normally range between 255-265. I am down to 229 and I asked him what weight he would like to see me at. He says, "200"...Pfttt I want to be smaller than that. He told me if I lost too much weight it would bother him. Why can't more men feel like that?
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My SO doesnt like thin women either he even got me pregnant when I lost a bunch of weight so I would gain weight back...wouldnt change it for the world, I have a beautiful 4 week old, AND I am actually smaller than what I was pre-pregnancy....so his plan backfired..hehehe
My husband PREFERS big girls. Not just girls "with some meat" but big. He also watches BBW p....well you know. I have always been big. I was 200 and 5'2 when I met him, but I ballooned to 282 at my heaviest (I was also 9 1/2m pregnant with an 11lb baby boy) but still normally range between 255-265. I am down to 229 and I asked him what weight he would like to see me at. He says, "200"...Pfttt I want to be smaller than that. He told me if I lost too much weight it would bother him. Why can't more men feel like that?
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I have a goal in my mind of how I want to look. My husbands expectations of that are not taken into consideration. I dont take requests.
FTR he loves me in all the sizes I have been . He loved "first dating" me, then "pregnant" me, then "post partum " me, then "slim from nursing" me, then "stick thin from IBD flare" me, then "chubby from remission" me, and he is really digging "fit and healthy" me. I have been about 6 different women since we started dating, and he has loved my body through out all of it.0 -
this is why im not with a man right now... men thin they get to decide how their gf/wife appears but of course we have to just deal with it when they get out of shape!0
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If my SO dared ever make me feel bad about losing weight I'd lose an immediate extra 180 lbs by kicking his hiney out.
My god - that is the best answer I have ever heard.0 -
my husband to be met me here. He has told me that no matter which way I go (cause we intend to have children after we're married) he will love me as I am.
A mature man who loves his woman, loves her as she is and accepts changes she makes as long as they don't break their vows (marriage - cause he's not yours if you're not married). 0 -
So my Husband is the type of man that don't like skinny women. He likes his women with a little meat on them. He don't like them fat or anything but def. not skinny. I have gotta lose weight for my health, me, and our future baby (so I can have a healthy pregnancy). Its still in the back of my head that he won't like the new me. And I know I shouldn't worry about this but I don't wanna lose him. He says he will still love me but I don't want it to change things between us.
Am I the only one that feels this way? Has anyone else has this problem?
Sorry, off subject... you aren't pregnant right now, right? Because if you are, you should definitely not be losing weight.
With that said, you don't have to be skinny to be healthy. I know lots of healthy women that have a little meat still on them. They aren't obese or unhealthily over weight. Just softer So you might be pleasantly surprised- your husband might appreciate the meat a little more when it has nice curve to it! Good luck! 0 -
My boyfriend is the same way he loves the curves. He does, however, understand that I need and want to be healthy. I have started dragging him along on my weight loss/good health journey and we have long discussions about where we will be when we are older. Do we want to be sedentary and loaded with health problems or do we want to be that old couple still hiking well into their 70s? We wanna be those hikers!0
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this is why im not with a man right now... men thin they get to decide how their gf/wife appears but of course we have to just deal with it when they get out of shape!
Ok, I have to kind of agree with this! My husband never gave me a hard time when I was heavier, but he did say that he would prefer a more slender me, So I took that and went with it. But he is steadily gaining weight, knows that it bothers me (I am sorry, but the way he carries it isn't exactly attractive to me... I hope that isn't mean to say), but refuses to do anything about it. I guess women just... care!0 -
DIABETES is a very dangerous disease. If getting into batter shape and losing a few pounds can help you reverse or manage it...DO IT. I work in the medical field and see the diabetics whom have had amputations later in life. I would say I like women with full bodies, not skinny women on covers of fashion mags (some that are not healthy).
Healthy weight is the key. I think any husband would agree to that.0 -
I have been type one diabetic for 27 years and my weight has me on cholesterol and blood pressure medication and my husband tells me not to get to 130, where I want to be and I'm still on the meds so I told him I will at least diet until I'm not on medication.....0
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