If your S.O. could fit your clothes...

love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
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1) would that bother you?

2) would it be a "deal breaker?"

3) WHAT would you FEEL about it exactly?

For me..I'd run...FAR FAR away (theoretically...assuming he's not yet a serious BF or something). Then again, I'm only 4'11 and I'd be seriously concerned about his well being.
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  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    It's not necessarily a big deal. I've ALWAYS been bigger than my boyfriends (until this one, in fact).

    However. "wearing my clothes" and "being able to fit into them" are two different scenarios.
  • n0ob
    n0ob Posts: 2,390 Member
    my SO and I have the same size feet. I once bought her some shoes as a present by trying them on myself to ensure they were the right size.

    I drove to Austin to buy them so nothing was weird or out of the ordinary...
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    It would mean that he had shrunk by nearly a foot and lost 100 lbs.
  • ellehcimyelhsa
    ellehcimyelhsa Posts: 110
    1. My hubby does fit my clothes, and it doesn't bother me.
    2. We're married, so nope, not a deal breaker.
    3. I don't really feel anything about it. I do get annoyed when he wears my black t-shirts under his kevlar vest for work...they get all sweaty and gross and then they sit in his car or at the station until he remembers them -_-

    I should add that I am 5'10 and my husband is 5'11. While, I'm not at my goal weight, I am not overweight, just jiggly from having a baby and gaining too much while pregnant.
  • Nix143
    Nix143 Posts: 522 Member
    My girlfriend weighs the same as me but is 3 inches taller so carries her weight better.


    Let me tell you, apart from the fact I'm quite femmey and she's andro so we don't have the same taste in clothes - I don't want us to be wearing the same size clothes, let alone the same ones! I am determined to be smaller than her.

    We weighed in this week and I was 0.6lbs heavier - it's just one more motivator to keep on going :laugh: She's ultra competitive and so even though we don't really talk about it there is deffo a competition going on.


    However, she's a cardio bunny and I have weights on my side - that smaller size is going to be mine MUUUUHAHAHAHAAAAAA!
  • RamberM
    RamberM Posts: 3
    I would be a little concerned. Not into skinny guys tho, so I don't see this happening. Hopefully.
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    I would be a little concerned. Not into skinny guys tho, so I don't see this happening. Hopefully.

    ditto!
  • Rachlmale
    Rachlmale Posts: 640 Member
    Me and my partner are doing this diet together - she gets my clothes as they get too big on me ... she's like the second child :P
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I'm not attracted to anyone my size or smaller. My husband is about 75 pounds heavier (though we sadly have close to the same waist size). I'd have issues if he could fit into my clothes. Though I'm not above snagging a sweatshirt of his if I'm chilly.
  • mitch16
    mitch16 Posts: 2,113 Member
    My husband is only an inch taller than I am, and I finally weigh less than him for the first time since my pregnancy 12 years ago.

    We can share almost all of our clothes (if we wanted).

    I have to admit, I have been 'sabotaging' him by feeding him bigger portions to maintain my edge. He's been working out and stuff, but I don't think he should weigh less than 150--he needs to get some more muscle bulk on him!
  • xcarbonix
    xcarbonix Posts: 39
    I shared a few pairs of pants with a close guy friend a few years ago and I'd have to say it really crossed him off my "I'd date you" list.
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
    He has a larger waist than me but smaller hips, by far. His butt is so small, it just looks silly in shorts.
    It wouldn't be a dealbreaker if he could fit in my clothes. As long as he wasn't wearing my underwear.

    We wear the same shoe size. That's embarrassing ;\
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I'm 5'9", 160lbs so this make a difference.

    1.) It used to when I was younger and insecure.

    2.) No, obviously not. My husband and I are pretty much the same size. He's about a half inch taller and varies between 160 and 170lbs. He wears a size 30 pants, I wear a size 8, which I think are pretty much the same.

    3.) It used to make me feel fat and big and unfeminine. Now 'eh, I'm a "big" woman, he's an average size man. I don't NEED to feel small to feel feminine. I've become much more confident and comfortable with myself. My femininity isn't defined by my size, my muscles or my hair.
  • logicman69
    logicman69 Posts: 1,034 Member
    Me and the wife always wore different sizes (she was a cheerleader, Me a Fat guy...). Since loosing weight I have been able to squeeze into some of her sweatpants. Found this out quite by accedent. I thought they were mine (they were just basic black) so I threw them on. That is when I noticed them riding a BIT too low... so I did what any normal jack-*kitten* of a husband would do. I started struting in front of her wearing them..

    She was not ammused. ;-)
  • embercakez
    embercakez Posts: 141
    If my SO could fit into my clothes I would laugh and leave.
  • SheilAnneSmith
    SheilAnneSmith Posts: 202 Member
    I've moved from my clothes being quite a bit bigger than my husbands, to us both wearing large shirts/jackets. So, it's worked out well because as winter is setting it I have felt like I can buy decent jackets, that are a little more spendy, like my new Carhartt jacket and know that when I shrink out of it, it will still fit him so I don't feel like I'm wasting as much money

    I've also been able to snag some of his t-shirts to fill the gap before I was able to get to the store and restock t-shirts that aren't baggy.
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    I'm 5'9", 160lbs so this make a difference.

    1.) It used to when I was younger and insecure.

    2.) No, obviously not. My husband and I are pretty much the same size. He's about a half inch taller and varies between 160 and 170lbs. He wears a size 30 pants, I wear a size 8, which I think are pretty much the same.

    3.) It used to make me feel fat and big and unfeminine. Now 'eh, I'm a "big" woman, he's an average size man. I don't NEED to feel small to feel feminine. I've become much more confident and comfortable with myself. My femininity isn't defined by my size, my muscles or my hair.

    good for you. your tone is rather condescending though--maybe not your intent. I am happy you derive confidence in embracing what you've been blessed with--hair, body, and muscles the way they are.
  • treetop57
    treetop57 Posts: 1,578 Member
    My husband is an inch taller and maybe 15 pounds heavier, so I can wear his clothes and he can squeeze into most of mine. It's not a big deal, but then the original poster was probably assuming a heteronormative world where all couples exhibit sexual dimorphism. Or not.
  • lamoursuffit
    lamoursuffit Posts: 267 Member
    Well if he could fit in my clothes, he would have gained a lot of weight! lol
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    I shared a few pairs of pants with a close guy friend a few years ago and I'd have to say it really crossed him off my "I'd date you" list.

    haha. love it!
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    He has a larger waist than me but smaller hips, by far. His butt is so small, it just looks silly in shorts.
    It wouldn't be a dealbreaker if he could fit in my clothes. As long as he wasn't wearing my underwear.

    We wear the same shoe size. That's embarrassing ;\

    My husband and I are also very close in shoes. He wears an 8.5 in mens, I wear a 9 in womens.
  • smiley245
    smiley245 Posts: 420 Member
    lol My bf spent a whole day wearing my jeans and wondering why the heck they were so tight.
    Seems He got dressed in the dark and assumed they were his....he came home talking about needing to go on a diet cause his pants were way past tight into uncomfortable. Low and behold I check him out and he's wearing MY jeans!

    The kids still make fun of him for it.:tongue:

    If he were willingly running around in my bra and panties I might have an issue. This slight mishap im ok with.
    I wear his shirts/hoodies all the time. :)


    Just to add, I'm 5'6 hes 6"3 hahahaha I still don't get how he didnt notice
  • determinedbutlazy
    determinedbutlazy Posts: 1,941 Member
    I wear his shirts, but they're loose on him and "girl-fit" on me, hah!
    I've been fat for years, so I'm normally the bigger one.
  • TrailRunner61
    TrailRunner61 Posts: 2,505 Member
    Yeah it would bother me, a lot. He's taller, bigger boned and has a terminal illness and if he could fit into my clothes, he'd be near death. :(

    I don't care how big we are in comparison to each other. I love him no matter what. :)
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I'm 5'9", 160lbs so this make a difference.

    1.) It used to when I was younger and insecure.

    2.) No, obviously not. My husband and I are pretty much the same size. He's about a half inch taller and varies between 160 and 170lbs. He wears a size 30 pants, I wear a size 8, which I think are pretty much the same.

    3.) It used to make me feel fat and big and unfeminine. Now 'eh, I'm a "big" woman, he's an average size man. I don't NEED to feel small to feel feminine. I've become much more confident and comfortable with myself. My femininity isn't defined by my size, my muscles or my hair.

    good for you. your tone is rather condescending though--maybe not your intent. I am happy you derive confidence in embracing what you've been blessed with--hair, body, and muscles the way they are.

    If I was condescending I was talking to my "old self" not anyone else.
  • kbubbles87
    kbubbles87 Posts: 28 Member
    My boyfriend is 40 lbs heavier than me and can fit my clothes. It doesnt bother me that much. He still looks bigger than me and feels like a teddy bear to me when we are cuddling so its okay to me! hehe
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    My husband is an inch taller and maybe 15 pounds heavier, so I can wear his clothes and he can squeeze into most of mine. It's not a big deal, but then the original poster was probably assuming a heteronormative world where all couples exhibit sexual dimorphism. Or not.

    no i wasn't ASSUMING anything about all couples. I was basically asking, in an indirect fashion, if sexual dimorphism is important for others. For me it is... realize that my preferences are not shared by all couples or all people.
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    I'm 5'9", 160lbs so this make a difference.

    1.) It used to when I was younger and insecure.

    2.) No, obviously not. My husband and I are pretty much the same size. He's about a half inch taller and varies between 160 and 170lbs. He wears a size 30 pants, I wear a size 8, which I think are pretty much the same.

    3.) It used to make me feel fat and big and unfeminine. Now 'eh, I'm a "big" woman, he's an average size man. I don't NEED to feel small to feel feminine. I've become much more confident and comfortable with myself. My femininity isn't defined by my size, my muscles or my hair.

    good for you. your tone is rather condescending though--maybe not your intent. I am happy you derive confidence in embracing what you've been blessed with--hair, body, and muscles the way they are.

    If I was condescending I was talking to my "old self" not anyone else.
    :flowerforyou:
  • Erienneb
    Erienneb Posts: 592 Member
    Dude when I get to a point where my bf could fit in my clothes I'd be happy. I'm seven inches taller and currently 107lbs heavier. I'm waring XL shirts and he wears a M....ugh haha. He's losing weight too, so he'll always be smaller. My clothes would look like a tent on him haha.
    However, his feet are bigger than mine. Occasionally I borrow running shoes from him. He has a pair that's smaller on him but about 1/2 a size big on me. I have small feet for my height.


    And if the OP is in fact referring to the fact that my bf would then be a cross-dresser and would that bother me, the answer is no. I don't love him because he's a man, I love him because he's Luca. If he told me he wanted to dress up like a woman on Saturday nights and could be borrow my mascara, I would probably help him put it on.
  • shortnerdy
    shortnerdy Posts: 131
    Would never happen as I'm 5'2. Unless its my hoddies I buy them XXXL on purprose because I love being cozy. I'm a M or an L at most

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