If your S.O. could fit your clothes...

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  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    I also find it odd that it is okay for women to completely refuse short men but if a man refused to date brunettes he'd be considered shallow.

    It's shallow for women too but it is what it is. I would never have dated a woman taller/more muscular than I was.......for the record. We are all shallow to varying degrees.
  • Erienneb
    Erienneb Posts: 592 Member
    I also find it odd that it is okay for women to completely refuse short men but if a man refused to date brunettes he'd be considered shallow.

    It's shallow for women too but it is what it is. I would never have dated a woman taller/more muscular than I was.......for the record. We are all shallow to varying degrees.


    I am almost six feet tall, and I have never dated anyone taller than me. The shortest I have dated was like 5'2'' (but a girl so different social stigma with that) and currently my bf is about 5'4''. I just like being taller. It doesn't work for everyone. You *have* to be attracted to the person you date on some level, so everyone in the world is just a little bit shallow. Let's face it, you wouldn't date someone you had NO interest in whatsoever just to prove a point? A little bit of shallowness is totally ok, what jacwhite said.
  • testease
    testease Posts: 220
    I don't think they're the same. There are MANY MEN who won't date women who are taller than them. That's comparable.

    Would not have a problem dating a taller girl, but so far i have yet to find one.

    Also if my S.O could fill out my clothes, i would probably not date her anymore.
  • katamus
    katamus Posts: 2,363 Member
    At one point, my fiance's jeans were too small in the waist for me. Yes, that bothered me.

    But he's 6' 5" so if he tried to wear my clothes he would be wearing capris and crop-tops (normal sizes).

    The circumstances of a a dude actually fitting into my clothes.. Would never happen. I like tall men. If it's a chick then I don't care. :smile:
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    If he could fit in my clothes that would be great! That would mean he's dropped some weight. :D
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I'm not trying to chastise women who won't date shorter smaller men, but I guess maybe open their minds a little. In all seriousness, if I weren't drunk when I met my husband I would have never consider him because he's a smaller guy. I would have completely missed out a really great guy (been together 10 years now) due to my own hang-ups. There are a lot of great guys out there short or tall. It's a shame to limit yourself.

    Now I'm 5'9" and so is my husband so really it's not that big of a deal, however I did work-in on bench with a dude who was 5'3" and benching 210. I totally would of hit that had I been single. :love:
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    I weighed almost as much as my husband at one point, but due to body composition, he still wouldn't have been able to fit into my clothes. Plus, I'm a shorty and he's tall.

    My best friend is around the same height as me and a little lighter, but he's a beanpole. I used to steal his jerseys whenever we'd play scary video games. One of my favorite memories. (Thankfully the shirts were already oversized, otherwise my boobs would have stretched those suckers out...)
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    Now I'm 5'9" and so is my husband so really it's not that big of a deal, however I did work-in on bench with a dude who was 5'3" and benching 210. I totally would of hit that had I been single. :love:

    edited.....because even though not offensive.....someone would find way to take offense.......
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    That's exactly how i feel. <3

    I'm confused. If you gain 100 pounds of flab and he stays the same -- should you dump him, or should he dump you? Are there exceptions for pregnancy?
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Now I'm 5'9" and so is my husband so really it's not that big of a deal, however I did work-in on bench with a dude who was 5'3" and benching 210. I totally would of hit that had I been single. :love:

    edited.....because even though not offensive.....someone would find way to take offense.......

    What did you say??

    I hear small-dog-syndrome makes them try harder in bed....
  • Z_I_L_L_A
    Z_I_L_L_A Posts: 2,399 Member
    Yeah it might bother me for her to wear my clothes. She would be a She Hulk or She Zilla,lol. She could wear my shirt as a nightie though.
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    That's exactly how i feel. <3

    I'm confused. If you gain 100 pounds of flab and he stays the same -- should you dump him, or should he dump you? Are there exceptions for pregnancy?

    well barring some health condition that just wouldn't happen. so IF it did happen I'd hope he'd nurse me back to health and support me.
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    deal breaker for me
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    could never happen. I have a tiny bird bone structure. He's much bigger and uhhh meatier?( I feel like that's a nasty word) in structure.
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    If he could fit in my clothes, he would be a teeny tiny man, indeed! :laugh:
  • jcstanton
    jcstanton Posts: 1,849 Member
    Firstly, I'd be thrilled at this point because it would mean that at least I actually HAVE a S.O. Secondly, if he fit my clothes, it wouldn't make me feel any worse (about my weight) than I already do everytime I look in the mirror.
  • BSchoberg
    BSchoberg Posts: 712 Member
    LOL - back when I thought I was fat, but was skinny, a boyfriend confused my jeans with his and tried to put them on. He was a pretty skinny guy and I was ecstatic when he couldn't get mine up over his hips!

    Now that I'm not skinny anymore, my husband definitely IS skinny and I would have trouble getting his jeans on. *sigh* Of course, they'd be about a foot too long, but they'd never make it up over my *kitten*...
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    I'm 5' 3" my husband is 6' 3". Something would have to be seriously wrong for us to wear each others pants. But I steal his shirts all the time to wear around the house. :happy:
  • TheMommyWifeLife
    TheMommyWifeLife Posts: 194 Member
    It's not necessarily a big deal. I've ALWAYS been bigger than my boyfriends (until this one, in fact).

    However. "wearing my clothes" and "being able to fit into them" are two different scenarios.

    this and it kind of made me laugh lol
  • holeshottdr
    holeshottdr Posts: 364 Member
    I try to get into my wife's pants any time I get the chance. Wait, wut??
  • spetermann190
    spetermann190 Posts: 289 Member
    I try to get into my wife's pants any time I get the chance. Wait, wut??

    The day I fit into (^^not get into) my wife's thong panties .... it's time we should "just break up" ... lol ... sometimes Size Does matter ;)
    The day I TRY to fit "into my wife's thong panties" .... it's time we should "just break up" .... ummm unless doing so *spillage* happens to turn her on :laugh: :blushing:
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    I'm 5'9", 160lbs so this make a difference.

    1.) It used to when I was younger and insecure.

    2.) No, obviously not. My husband and I are pretty much the same size. He's about a half inch taller and varies between 160 and 170lbs. He wears a size 30 pants, I wear a size 8, which I think are pretty much the same.

    3.) It used to make me feel fat and big and unfeminine. Now 'eh, I'm a "big" woman, he's an average size man. I don't NEED to feel small to feel feminine. I've become much more confident and comfortable with myself. My femininity isn't defined by my size, my muscles or my hair.

    :heart: this post!
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    I would not feel very safe and protected by him.
  • JohnMessmer
    JohnMessmer Posts: 536
    Well since my wife is 8 inches shorter and 130 pounds lighter, I guess she could fit into my clothes. I would say she would look mighty ridiculous but then again I see youngster all the time with baggy clothes falling off them, supposedly it's the style. I say either wear clothes that cover your body or don't wear clothes, stop half-assing things.
  • lamoursuffit
    lamoursuffit Posts: 267 Member
    Could one of you lovely ladies please explain why it is that you feel it would be a deal breaker if he and you were the same size? My inherent opinion is that you (a general you, not specific) are being shallow and won't date someone because of size. But, I realize that it's wrong of me to assume because I don't have all the facts. I would be interested to know what it is, if anyone could explain it :flowerforyou:
  • lamoursuffit
    lamoursuffit Posts: 267 Member
    Oh and not only would he have to have gained weight, he probably would have to shrink eight inches lol. My hips are HUGE lol
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    Could one of you lovely ladies please explain why it is that you feel it would be a deal breaker if he and you were the same size? My inherent opinion is that you (a general you, not specific) are being shallow and won't date someone because of size. But, I realize that it's wrong of me to assume because I don't have all the facts. I would be interested to know what it is, if anyone could explain it :flowerforyou:

    I mean it is kind of shallow but we all have things that we're shallow about--be it intellect, power, wealth, or a certain physical characteristic.
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Could one of you lovely ladies please explain why it is that you feel it would be a deal breaker if he and you were the same size? My inherent opinion is that you (a general you, not specific) are being shallow and won't date someone because of size. But, I realize that it's wrong of me to assume because I don't have all the facts. I would be interested to know what it is, if anyone could explain it :flowerforyou:

    Because most women are attracted to strong men, not scrawny ones and attraction is something you can't help. This dates back to the caveman days. There is nothing shallow about it.

    Also, some women like to be thrown around, if ya catch my drift. :wink:
  • Louisianababy93
    Louisianababy93 Posts: 1,709 Member
    idk, me being 5ft!
    every guy ive ever been with has been taller than me!
    so basically, there clothes has always swollowed me!
    but,there always comfortable!
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    fitting in your SO's clothes isn't normal? :noway: He borrows my plaid skirt and fishnets all the time!
    (now time to figure out of I'm joking or not....):bigsmile:

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