Mikes Daily Rant 10/16/2012 Topic: The Stairs are fun

MikeDaMotivator

Hello My Fitness Pal. I have decided to journal things that frustrate me when it comes to anything related to health, fitness, nutrition and exercise. I started this 2 days ago and will continue to make it a daily occurence. I didnt think that todays rant would come so soon in the day, However it did come. Here it is. I have a coworker that has known me for about 3 years. She has known me as 381 pound Mike and she has known me as 180 pound Mike. Long story short, she is overweight and cries to me about not being able to lose weight and that she is proud of me but cant find motivation to do the same. We talk on the way to the building and she just runs out of energy to talk so I do most of the talking when this happens. So today I mentioned something rather touchy. I finally said to her stop crying about losing weight because I hate negativity. It makes me upset. She stopped crying abruptly. It was so funny! I just said it begins now. If you talk about not being able to lose the weight. I will walk away. Ill let you know that she has done this while eating chinese food, KFC, Burger King and more. I mentioned to her that the foods she eats are a part of the problem. She brushes it off and continues eating. Everyday we get to the building and she goes towards the elevator and I go towards the stairs. I tell her no elevator. She says, "What?" I said elevator is a part of the problem. These stairs are a part of the solution. She looks at me crazy and follows me to the stairs. I would beat her to the 3rd floor everyday and she would be on th elevator. She made it up the stairs but it took her about 5 minutes. This task after losing the weight takes me all of 15 seconds. she tells me that she cant do it because her knee hurts. I tell her that her knees hurt because of all the weight pressing down on them. I stress to her that I know all the feelings because I weighed 100 pounds more than her. She is still upset with me and I say effort=results. I will help if she wants it but will not listen to the constant excuses. Now she is sitting here not talking to me because I was "mean" to her. At this point I want to see how serious she is. Will she come back? Will she continue to complain? Will she stop making excuses? Either way I will be fine but I like for people to prove what they say they are about. If you cant, please dont waste my time. I could go on and on about how wrong her approach is but I wont. Im just a bit bothered why she hates the stairs. In all fairness I think the stairs are fun.

corn63

How about a blog?

MikeDaMotivator

How about a blog?

I have one but hate doing it. check it out its on my profile. I may start back.

agriffiths73

Preacher, continue your sermons!!!

All that coming from someone who has been there, tried it, fought it and won is worth much more than a chubby friend to provide mock sympathy.

I've just looked at how much you've lost - that's over a person! And while I've not lost, nor needed to lose that much, I'm with you...talk about it all you want, cry all you want, complain and make all the excuses you want, noone will do it for you, so if you're really sick of it, change!

Put that family bucket down, and use the damn stairs!

Looking forward to tomorrow's instalment Mike.

mrsvatitagain

HA! I have people in my life who do the same, they are proud of me and complain about not wanting to be this or that but do nothing to change it. Almost as if they expect me to say something magical for my results to fall on them. It's a tuff place, because I am sure that use to be me. I had every excuse in the book and seeing others do what I wanted to be doing was inspiring to watch, but I just WOUDLNT do the same. That is the key, I wouldnt do it, not that I couldnt, I just didnt want to. It took a while for that light bulb to pop on in my mind. It starts there first.....when she is ready she will come or not, the choice has always been on the individual just like it was for you and me. And yes the negativity must GO!!!!! I love your rants by the way!!!

MikeDaMotivator

Preacher, continue your sermons!!!

All that coming from someone who has been there, tried it, fought it and won is worth much more than a chubby friend to provide mock sympathy.

I've just looked at how much you've lost - that's over a person! And while I've not lost, nor needed to lose that much, I'm with you...talk about it all you want, cry all you want, complain and make all the excuses you want, noone will do it for you, so if you're really sick of it, change!

Put that family bucket down, and use the damn stairs!

Looking forward to tomorrow's instalment Mike.

Great! Thanks!

MikeDaMotivator

HA! I have people in my life who do the same, they are proud of me and complain about not wanting to be this or that but do nothing to change it. Almost as if they expect me to say something magical for my results to fall on them. It's a tuff place, because I am sure that use to be me. I had every excuse in the book and seeing others do what I wanted to be doing was inspiring to watch, but I just WOUDLNT do the same. That is the key, I wouldnt do it, not that I couldnt, I just didnt want to. It took a while for that light bulb to pop on in my mind. It starts there first.....when she is ready she will come or not, the choice has always been on the individual just like it was for you and me. And yes the negativity must GO!!!!! I love your rants by the way!!!

Thanks MrsVisatitagain!! You said some very true things.

2012asv

she might be mad at you for being tough, but IMO since you are her friend.... you are helping her. I wish I had a friend like you to straighten me out when I needed it.

marketdimlylit

da hellll

MikeDaMotivator

she might be mad at you for being tough, but IMO since you are her friend.... you are helping her. I wish I had a friend like you to straighten me out when I needed it.

We can be friends. :-)

ggcat

Amen!!!!

AMHouse85

You go Mike! The truth shall set you free, so kudos to telling her the truth. Maybe she is hurt but then maybe she will think what hurts worse. My sister is the same, she just wants the doctors to make a magic pill that fixes everything. SMH. The magic comes from inside yourself. Keep up the good work, you look terrific!

NoleGirl0918

i've had the same situation - people ask me what i've done to lose weight & when i tell them that it's exercising & eating right, some have even said, "well i don't want to do that." i want to say Duh! the only way that something is going to change for you in your eating habits & lifestyle is if YOU make a change! It's impossible to expect that you don't have to exercise or eat properly & still lose weight. Please add me as a friend if you'd like - i think it would be great to read the daily rants :happy:

heybales

Love it when folks like that have some misconception that you've done something extreme to lose the weight, and therefore no way could they do that.
But often won't ask enough to really find out what was required, usually nothing extreme at all. Mental adjustment was the most extreme thing.

And something as simple as parking far out all the time and always taking the stairs and eating smaller portions can have a hug effect.

Talk to her about something else though, emphasis the point that you just aren't going to hear about the complaining by fact other stuff is alright to talk about. And any time she slips up on that walk in, away you go!

zyxst

Some people can jump off the high dive and some people need to be pushed off.

It comes off as cold-hearted, but you're not being mean and cruel. She obviously can't start losing weight without someone to push her. She'll be back.

I'm enjoying the Daily Rants.

DanaDark

Wall. Of. Text.

SGRHO23

She made it up the stairs but it took her about 5 minutes. This task after losing the weight takes me all of 15 seconds. she tells me that she cant do it because her knee hurts. I tell her that her knees hurt because of all the weight pressing down on them. I stress to her that I know all the feelings because I weighed 100 pounds more than her. She is still upset with me and I say effort=results. I will help if she wants it but will not listen to the constant excuses. Now she is sitting here not talking to me because I was "mean" to her. At this point I want to see how serious she is. Will she come back? Will she continue to complain? Will she stop making excuses? Either way I will be fine but I like for people to prove what they say they are about. If you cant, please dont waste my time. I could go on and on about how wrong her approach is but I wont. Im just a bit bothered why she hates the stairs. In all fairness I think the stairs are fun.
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I think you should continue to push her to use the stairs. Even if she takes a long time at least she is moving. I do agree with you that it is frustrating to hear someone complain about something that is within their power to change.

samblanken

You gave her a dose of reality. too bad if she doesn't like it. I don't think you were mean.

bridgelene

She DOES need to take responsibility for her choices (good and bad) if she wants to see a difference ever, but I will say on the knees -- both as a fat chick (who has yoyo'ed a little, which is why I'm making gradual changes to get into habits that WILL stick rather than just a quick fix) and as a medical professional.....

if it's bothering her knees that badly (I get that......not sure how yours were, but mine literally feel like they're grinding bone on bone. But when I lost weight in the past, that DID resolve and I know it will again. That being said, I generally do no more than 2 flights of stairs at a time, and about 8 flights/day which is up from when I started MFP) I wouldn't say push the stairs too much at this point. Maybe 1 flight of stairs and 2 elevator and improve from there. Or even none, but she needs to find other ways to increase her activity that she can safely physically handle, and eventually add stuff like stairs.

krissielynn87

I have someone like that in my life. She complains so much, yet doesn't do anything about it. My favorite part about her, is that she naps constantly through out the day. -__-

Tallblondechick

Oh this is great.....Kudoo's to you...

I had a boss who wouldn't buy me lunch because he said I wouldn't eat his money's worth!. Well I ate my salad and chicken breast and they went to the buffet daily...I was despised in my office for looking good. Yes it was my fault I looked good. I ate right and exercised daily.

Fast forward a few years....I quit smoking and gained a few pounds...ok 20....now he liiterally tells me how fat I am. Not hardly fat...Just need to lose 20 pounds... He btw is surely over 300 pounds....When he comes to my office now...I just avoid him...

I only pray that his daughter doesn't get bullied the way he is bullying me....

Rant over...

dogacreek

I wish I could say something to two of my girlfiriends, like you did to your co-worker. One girlfriend tries every gimmick diet and moans when the twenty pounds she lost, returns along with 10 more. The other girlfriend is always saying "but I only ate a little bit". Yes you did, but of items you could have avoided - chips, dip, soda, candy & etc.. Then both of them look at me and say that they can't lose weight like I did. :sad: I've lost 90 pounds and count my calories every day, without fail. I try to exercise everyday, but it depends on my schedule. I haven't been perfect, but I damn sure try a lot harder than they ever have. :sigh: now I feel better, saying all that! :happy:

_binary_jester_

tl;dr

If it's daily, a blog is more ideal. I have an inflated self importance and even I don't do this.

KatKisses

I don't care what other people do.......or say

mhotch

. Everyday we get to the building and she goes towards the elevator and I go towards the stairs. I tell her no elevator. She says, "What?" I said elevator is a part of the problem. These stairs are a part of the solution. She looks at me crazy and follows me to the stairs. I would beat her to the 3rd floor everyday and she would be on the elevator. She made it up the stairs but it took her about 5 minutes. This task after losing the weight takes me all of 15 seconds. she tells me that she cant do it because her knee hurts. I tell her that her knees hurt because of all the weight pressing down on them.

Here is something I learned at work. {it shook my brother up when I told him. He is now 30lbs lighter}

For every extra pound of weight we carry, it adds 4 extra lbs of pressure on weight bearing joints, such as knee, ankle, feet, and hips.
So for 100 extra lbs of weight = 400 extra lbs of pressure on joints.

For every extra pound of abdominal fat carried, is 10 extra pounds of pressure on the spinal column.

HMToomey

I've been enjoying your posts, just thought I'd let you know!

UsedToBeHusky

Dude! You're an HR nightmare! Just stop talking to people!

MikeDaMotivator

You go Mike! The truth shall set you free, so kudos to telling her the truth. Maybe she is hurt but then maybe she will think what hurts worse. My sister is the same, she just wants the doctors to make a magic pill that fixes everything. SMH. The magic comes from inside yourself. Keep up the good work, you look terrific!

Thank You!!

felice03

"I'm just a bit bothered why she hates the stairs. In all fairness I think the stairs are fun."


I hated stairs too...because my hip hurt and I wasn't THAT overweight. Guess what? That pain was a medical condition that required surgery four weeks ago. I pushed through the pain and made it worse.

I also dislike running, some of my biggest supporters are runners...they think it is fun. Glad they don't ridicule me because I don't see it.

I think someone has gotten an inflated view of self importance and needs to learn some tact.

DamnImASexyBitch

Why don't you start a blog instead of ranting on a message board?

UsedToBeHusky

Why don't you start a blog instead of ranting on a message board?

Because he gets more attention this way!

Where's that attention-*kitten* jpg when I need it??