Baby fever...

HealthyBodySickMind

Mine was an instant switch on, followed three years later by an instant switch off. Suddenly, looking at other people's squishy babies and small humans running around didn't make me want to have one.

We are still considering it "in the future."

maab_connor

Nope. Never had baby fever. I can't see why anyone would want to be responsible for bring a life into this screwed up world.

Yikes. I guess to each her own.

Go ahead, have a baby and come back in ten years, or even 5, and tell me I'm wrong. You are responsible for a life. Every moment of that child's life you will worry about all the dangers they face. Unless your the type that doesn't concern herself with the whole raising a child bit and just wants a mini-me to play dress up with.

You are wrong, yes it's a screwed up world and yes whoever does bring a child into this world is a very selfish person, but I brought two and don't regret a moment of it. The love of that child fills you so completely that nothing else matters. You will miss out on the greatest thing life has to offer you. A part of you to love and nurture. Each and everyone of them born are your own personal miracle and your greatest achievement, EVER.

But yeah to each his own.

not everyone feels that way. i don't want kids. i don't get the hype. i'm child free by choice. not everyone HAS a biological clock.

and you know what? w/ 7 BILLION ppl on the planet, that's ok.

yoovie

not everyone feels that way. i don't want kids. i don't get the hype. i'm child free by choice. not everyone HAS a biological clock.

and you know what? w/ 7 BILLION ppl on the planet, that's ok.

yo_andi

not everyone feels that way. i don't want kids. i don't get the hype. i'm child free by choice. not everyone HAS a biological clock.

and you know what? w/ 7 BILLION ppl on the planet, that's ok.

Massive hugs!

ETA: the baby in my profile pic is my adorable niece :laugh:

3dogsrunning

Gradual, very very gradual.
For a long time it was firmly in the off position. When my husband and I got together we both did not want children, however, I did reserve the right to change my mind. A couple of years ago we had a discussion after a few drinks about having children, but he sort of left it up to me. I started thinking about it a lot. Serioiusly, for almost two years I thought about it constantly and teetered in the middle. I'd just get to the point where I would say I wanted kids, then I would change completely. I could never imagine getting to the point of actually making the decision to try.
Recently that changed. We both have decided that we do want children and discussed timeline. Now the switch is fully "on". I catch myself watching mothers interact with their children and get that feeling. I'm still scared to death though


ETA - I am totally with the people who decide not to have children. I agree its not for everyone. Oh how I hated those discussions with people trying to convince me to have children.

Oishii

I always wanted children, even when I was going through an 'I hate boys' stage as a kid. I suppose that's always there, at a safe, background level.

The baby fever has been worst when i feel ready but we haven't started trying yet. Once I'm trying it calms down a bit.

I find this thread fascinating for all the reasons people don't want children and how people think parenthood MUST be. I don't spend all my time worrying, or give my child all of my attention all of the time. He needs to take risks, make mistakes, learn and grow, and part of that is learning that he can't have 100% of anyone's attention all the time. In the past the drudgery of daily life and larger families (on average) would have meant no parent expected to devote all their attention to a child. Why should it be any different now?

trophywife24

Not angry. Just take the resposibility for a kid seriously. I am a mother. There are thousands of children available in every state for adoption. People are just too selfish to open there homes up to a child that has already been born.

It's kinda cute how much hate you have... Like a big ball of poop that walks around judging the size of other poop. Only you think your poop is pretty and scentless.

lol I like you.

And um... That's a very logical thought process about adoption, if adoption was free.

Also.............. ok.

DawnieB1977

I was never particularly maternal, and always career-orientated, then just before I got married in 2008 I started thinking I wanted a baby and we decided to try after our honeymoon. I was pregnant the first month trying, which was a massive shock, and it took me a while to get used to, but once I saw my baby on the scans I fell in love, and he's 3 now and I love him to pieces and couldn't imagine life without him. We decided to try for a 2nd when he turned 1, so we also have a gorgeous and cheeky 17 month old daughter.

Now I really want to try for a 3rd, but will wait until next year to try as my son starts school next Sept, so don't want to take my attention away from him then with a newborn. I'd rather he was settled first.

PRMinx

I'm 33 and childless. My switch has been on since my early 20s. Over the last few years it's gone from being on to flashing incessantly and emitting a deafening alarm that keeps me up at night. I fear I will never satisfy that switch and that I'll never willingly turn it off.

I totally get where you are coming from. I'm in the same boat. My switch flipped in my late 20's. I spent my 20s focusing on my career and I don't regret it. But, being newly single at 30, I just don't know if it's going to happen for me. It's a sad realization.

anneerick

On On On!! Plus we'll have to replace the fuse soon cause its gonna blow.... lol. So, yes, I gots some baby fever!!

dawnemjh

Nope. Never had baby fever. I can't see why anyone would want to be responsible for bring a life into this screwed up world.

Yikes. I guess to each her own.

Go ahead, have a baby and come back in ten years, or even 5, and tell me I'm wrong. You are responsible for a life. Every moment of that child's life you will worry about all the dangers they face. Unless your the type that doesn't concern herself with the whole raising a child bit and just wants a mini-me to play dress up with.

Wow. Someone has major issues....I have never heard anything so ridiculous. You are probably doing the world a favor by not reproducing. Thanks!!

Turtlehurdle

My switch never turned "ON". Ever.
When I was in my 20's all I thought about was my career and traveling. I didn't want to get married or have children until I was at least 30. So when I turned 30, I decided to try the whole "family" deal. Got married and had my daughter at 31. I am so happy I waited. Kids basically hijack your life and I mean it in a good way but yeah, they really do. I do love my daughter more than anything in this world but that being said I am not sure if I want another child. 1 child is a lot of work already. My switch is still not on "ON", never has been probably never will be.

86rollyb

My switch went on when my bff got prego on my wedding night... We waited another year to start trying and by then my baby fever was INSANE but when we got pg I kinda freaked. When ds was born I wanted to have another like that day... But we only just added #2 3 months ago. Most days I stillwant more... Good thing i have DH to reel me in b/c I'd probably have half a dozen by now, lol

MinMin97

I was satisfied when I got one of each sex.
I did not have a dad (he was killed when I was young), and no brothers....so I really wanted a boy.
I had 4 girls first!
My children all love each other very much.
I love my "big" family. I want to go play with them, do really physical things, so leaving the baby stage behind now is my preference.
I would welcome another baby, but, I think I am ready to be done now:)

MinMin97

emotionally its always on...

logically the 2 year old i do have drives me nuts adding an infant to the mix, plus not sleeping or getting a break would just about do me in.

Take heart:) Believe it or not, you totally do survive all of that.
LOL although it may not feel like it at the time!

crystelnicole

Fever here...

Troll

Mine is off, duct taped down in a hidden basement room behind a padlocked, reinforced steel door.
Guarded by hungry, rabid wolves.....with flamethrowers.

i hate the idea of pregnancy and children that i block and delete.preggo friends from my facebook. "congratulations! youre growing a parasite!" just never caught on.

pawoodhull

Noticed that the folks responding are all within their reproductive years. I'm not, been through menopause and out the other side. I'm actually 56, but my switch is on, always is. I have 5 grandkids, so do I really want the responsibility of another baby? We are empty nesters and enjoy it. But there are days...and then I come to my senses, go play with the grandkids and get it out of my system for awhile. Crazy aren't I? :laugh:

JustJennie1

Oh HELL no!

My biological clock is digital and there's no alarm set.

I am never ever EV-ER going to have children.

EVER.

kekevela

I have baby fever, too. I love my two sons ages 9 and 5, but in the years since my little one was born my brother and his gf have had two daughters and are prego again. Part of me would love to have a baby girl, but I don't know...maybe there would be too much time between the younger two.